第一篇：订婚和结婚的习俗 来源： 杨劲松的日志
订婚和结婚的习俗 来源： 杨劲松的日志
双方家长、媒人、准新郎新娘、重要的亲朋好友在上档次点的饭馆吃喝一顿即可（切记是男方请客啊，并且地点要照顾女方）
男方需要准备礼金10007元（万里挑妻)或礼金10001元(万里挑一)3金（金戒指 金耳环 金项链）或三钻（钻石戒指，耳环，项链）或者是5金（多个金手镯，和耳钉）5钻也是 由准婆婆给准儿媳。然后就是改口费，一般市区这块父母最低是1000（主要是看心意了，越喜欢越多嘛）祖父母比父母少些，剩下的男方的姑姑叔叔大爷啊什么的也是要意思一下的。再就是给女方买两身衣服，从头换到脚，包括包包腰带和袜子，一套化妆品（一般都是折成现钱，小两口自己去买，看消费水平了）。除了这些 男方应该准备点东西 不用很多 也不用很贵重 在散席的时候让女方家亲戚带走 一家一份就行
主要还是两家商量着来，对了，别忘记要找几个好友帮忙，拍拍照片啊什么的，还有要定个不错的蛋糕，最好是搞个订婚仪式，主要是表现出男方家对女方的重视程度 吃饱喝足后各回各家。
市区普通家庭标准一般这些下来也要3万多4万的吧
个人认为，订婚主要是看男方的诚意和对准新娘的喜欢重视程度，如果男方家庭条件尚可，还是尽量表示最大的诚意吧。
当然，以上这些基本上是聊城市区的男方女方的订婚要求，条件好的那就没办法说了，这只是很一般的标准了，好像聊城人很重视婚丧嫁娶的。像农村，周边镇县的，也没这么多要求了。
结婚 婚礼筹备计划 2.制定婚礼预算书 4.召集好朋友讨论婚礼计划 6.确定主婚人、证婚人 8制定婚礼项目计划书 1估计来宾人数 3选择婚宴地点 5确认婚宴现场的音响效果-通知： 2电话通知外地亲友 4及时反馈亲友受邀信息-采购：-2购买结婚戒指首饰 4购买烟、酒、饮料 6购买录像带、胶卷 8预定蛋糕 10购买父母以及伴郎伴娘、小花童服装 1挑选婚纱影楼 3预约拍摄日期 5选片 7取婚纱相本 9制作婚纱音乐片 1新郎新娘形象准备 3新郎剪头发 1与婚礼的所有项目干系人沟通 3再次确认主、证婚人 1确定礼仪公司以及婚礼主持人 3与婚礼公司人员现场实地勘察 5调整节目策划书 7确定当日化妆地点及到达时间 9确认婚礼当日化妆用花 11婚礼车辆预约（接送嘉宾用）13预约扎彩车时间地点 15确认捧花彩车式样 17婚庆摄像摄影预约到达时间以及拍摄前准备事项婚前时间安排
1、准备协助人员名单 你们需要很多人的帮忙，快点想想你们死党吧！动员人员：长辈和统计学系毕业的朋友-
3、拍摄婚纱照-婚礼前三周-动员人员：饭店人员和出租公司
2、仪容整理 新娘要修剪头发，并试妆。还要为结婚时的衣服鞋子逛街。
1、召集大会-动员人员：美容院 动员人员:新郎新娘
1、布置会堂 布置喜庆会堂，写好各席名单。动员人员：花店 动员人员:礼服店-婚礼前一天 确定万事俱备！动员人员：新郎新娘
第二篇：青岛订婚和结婚习俗
青岛结婚和订婚的习俗
一：概况
订婚的日子是由双方的家长协商决定。
根据个人经济条件的不同，礼金通常有31800元100000元不等，具体数额由双方家长在订婚前商量好。
订婚当天，新郎要带的聘礼有订婚戒指、礼金、两个红包袱、两条红腰带、衣服至少两套、小六样(六斤肉、六条带麟的鱼、六瓶酒、六斤糖、六扎粉丝、六斤点心)，女方家要给男方准备一双新鞋。
订婚的日子到了，新郎和父母带着聘礼到新娘家，新娘家应准备茶、点心、水果或干果来招待。订婚当天最好找一位第三者来主持，最好是有经验的善于表达的人来调节气氛。
一般在中午以前男方家要到达女方家，大家聊聊天，这时新娘和新郎就要改口叫爸妈了，给对方父母敬茶、改口，这时家长把准备好了的红包分别送给新郎、新娘，视经济情况，一般从2000元-5000元不等。
新娘家事前应该去一家档次和环境比较好的酒店定下酒席，请男方家吃饭。饭后男方家的人应该在日落前返回自己的家。
男方在离开女方家时，女方应该将男方送来的小六样，每样回给男方2份。还要给男方回一定的定金。这就是所谓的回礼。
二：婚礼筹备计划
1决定婚礼日期、地点、仪式及婚宴方式2.制定婚礼预算书
3.草拟客人名单4.召集好朋友讨论婚礼计划
5.确定伴郎、伴娘、小花童人选6.确定主婚人、证婚人
7.成立婚礼筹备组8制定婚礼项目计划书
三：婚前时间安排
婚礼前一月
1、准备协助人员名单
2、统计来宾名单
3、拍摄婚纱照
婚礼前三周1、订车订蛋糕订酒席
2、仪容整理
婚礼前一周1、召集大会
2、美容全身护理
3、整理行装
婚礼前三天
1、布置会堂
2、订花
3、取礼服
婚礼前一天
1、所有工作再确认
2、休息
第三篇：南阳订婚及结婚习俗
南阳婚嫁习俗
（城市婚嫁礼仪）
“十里不同风，百里不同俗”，对于南阳各地人来说，婚俗程式中有“说亲、定亲、下聘、送好、迎娶”等几大步骤。现实中，男方送见面礼、送订婚礼、挑选吉日等项目仍然“流行”，只是一些细节有了新的解释。
现在南阳的青年人，已经融入了整个社会中，婚事新办蔚然成风，已经不拘泥于旧的繁缛礼节之中了。城镇青年男女在自由恋爱中，大多会从多方面进行考虑，如身高长相、人品修养、家庭状况、经济地位、文凭学历等，结合自身条件，征得双方父母同意，各方面较满意后方可订婚，男方需要买些贵重的订婚礼物。
结婚一般选在五一、五
四、国庆节、元旦等法定假日，结婚前几日要发请帖，敬告亲朋好友举办婚宴的时间和地点等，结婚时还要举行结婚典礼仪式，内容多为向亲朋致敬等。
如今，城镇青年越来越崇尚旅游结婚、集体结婚等形式，这些结婚形式已成一种时尚，被越来越多的恋人所采用。
“传统习俗在今日婚礼中更多是象征意义。年轻人算日子算仪式时间，赶着吉日吉时结婚，为的是一个„好兆头‟，早一天或晚一天，10点仪式与11点仪式并不重要，维系这段婚姻的，不是数字和时间，而是两个人的感情。现在的婚礼都讲究个性，场景、服装、请柬，客户能想到的，婚庆公司都能做到，婚礼一般花费在5万元左右，其中包含婚宴、首饰、车队等。豪华的婚礼声光电效果齐全，花费能达到十五六万元。撇开形式，婚礼的两大主题是不变的，那就是“情”和“孝”。从古至今，万变不离其宗。
一位民俗专家曾说过：“俗”这东西，本来也不过就是尘世中的小情趣，它让我们可以有个幸福生活的模板，给我们描绘了一个美妙的未来蓝图。就像姑娘出嫁，要找一个帮新人缝新被子的“好命阿姨”。我们看不见自己婚姻的未来，但从这位阿姨身上，我们可以看到希望，看到一个鲜活的尘世幸福模型。
婚俗让我们“有俗可依”，但却未必需要“有俗必依”。在南阳民间婚嫁柬帖中多数使用的“雁”字和大雁图案，象征夫唱妇随，永结同心，但事实上，它只代表祝愿，只是开端。现实生活中，通往幸福的道路各有不同，俗礼之后，幸福还需要靠自己的努力。
（一）农村婚嫁礼仪
在农村，自由恋爱也较为常见，即便是自由恋爱，也需要找个“媒人”作为证婚人，当面将房子、债务偿还、赡养老人等商量妥当，以免婚后生出不必要的麻烦。经人介绍一般要认识一段时间，少数要看属相有无冲犯，待一切完善后，便可举行订婚仪式。
订婚仪式中男方要置办礼物、定婚金、酒宴等，陪女方订婚者一般为女方母亲、姑姑、姨、嫂子等亲属，结婚时间可待商议后定。订婚以后的重要节气，男方需要备礼请女方去过节。订婚期间，若男方提出退婚，所付见面礼、定婚金、衣物等不再索取，如女方提出则如数退还。
农村结婚过程大致如下：结婚的前一晚，需要请一小孩睡在新床上，寓意“压床”；还要请结过婚的嫂子，将花生、枣、筷子等物撒放在床头，蕴含“早生贵子”之意。花生必须是生的，预示新娘会生，而且是一男一女。结婚当天需要布置新房，贴喜联，请鼓乐，邀请亲朋。亲朋要送上数目不等的贺礼。
结婚当天早上男方派出娶亲队伍到女方家，女方礼仪性接待之后，将陪嫁物品抬上娶亲车辆，女方送亲队伍少则几人，多达几十人，随着娶亲车辆一起到男方家；当队伍行至男方家附近时，男方再另派一些人迎接，并燃放鞭炮，搬卸嫁妆，以便送亲的“娘家人”早入席以避讳；待新娘到门口时，由新郎背、或抱下车，至“天地桌”前。“天地桌”是一张桌子铺上红布或红纸，放上花等装饰物，上方贴一婚礼仪程，包括鸣炮、奏乐、拜天地、拜长辈、向来宾鞠躬、夫妻交拜、夫妇交换礼品、证婚人发言、介绍恋爱经过、亲友致贺词10项内容；婚宴仪式上，新郎要向新娘引介各自亲朋，并倒酒示敬。
新婚夫妻拜完后入洞房，饮交杯酒，弟弟、表兄弟、小孩等则拥入洞房向新娘讨要压箱钱、喜糖等；然后招待送亲人，宴请宾客，至黄昏席散。
（三）“闹房”习俗
这种习俗多见于农村，城镇亦有，但内容视具体情况而简繁不一。闹洞房是婚礼的最后程序，也是任何婚礼都不可少的内容，它是婚礼的高潮，也是最热闹最有趣的节目，闹的方式各种各样，各地有同有异。
闹洞房时，平辈的、晚辈的、亲戚友人，同学同事都可拥入新房，特别是新郎的朋友，他们极尽所能，想出各种方式，让新娘当众表演，以逗乐欢闹气氛，俗话说“三日没大小”，除了爹妈都可以闹。这期间，人们之间随随便便的关系是礼俗所允许的，很多禁忌都被解除，颇似西方文化中的狂欢节。所以，无论如何戏闹，或者难以接受，新娘是不能反目生气的，如若气走了闹洞房的人，将会被视为是新娘任性，人缘不好。闹洞房是对新婚夫妻的一种祝贺方式，大多数的新婚之家，都存在着既苦于众亲友之闹，又乐于让其闹的双重心理。
闹房可以使双方的亲友们熟悉起来，显示家庭宾朋满座，兴旺发达，增进亲友之间的沟通和感情，及邻里之间的和睦。
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第四篇：关外国和中国结婚习俗的英语文章
关外国和中国结婚习俗的英语文章
Wedding Ring
The wedding ring has been in evidence.Some believe the wedding ring was the first element of wedding traditions.The circular shape of the wedding ring symbolizes never-ending love.Third finger, left hand It is believed that the vein in the third finger of the left hand runs directly to the heart.Wedding Flowers
Historically, flowers & herbs have played a significant role in the attraction of “good” and/or the warding off of “evil”.Greeks used ivy for the sign of lasting love.Today, pretty wedding flowers convey a message of fertility and enduring love and romance.The minister will speak
To Groom:_ Do you take this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together after God's ordinance, in the holy estate of marriage _ Will you love her, comfort her, honor, and keep her, in sickness and in health;and, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her, so long as you both shall live _(Groom: “I do.”)
To Bride: Do you take this man to be your wedded husband, to live together after God's ordinance, in the holy estate of marriage _ Will you obey him and serve him, love, honor, and keep him, in sickness and in health;_ and, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him, so long as you both shall live _(Bride:_ “I do.”)
(Minister takes the bride by the right hand & taking the groom by the right hand, brings the hands together and instructs the couple to join hands.)
美国人的婚礼
Weddings in the United States vary as much as the people do.There are church weddings with a great deal of fanfare;there are weddings on mountain-tops with guests barefooted;and there have been weddings on the ocean floor with oxygen tanks for the guests.But many weddings, no matter where or how they are performed, include certain traditional customs.美国的国土上居住着各种各样的人,他们的婚礼也千差万别.有热闹庄重的教堂婚礼;有在山顶上举行的婚礼,客人们光着脚陪伴登高;也有在海底举行的婚礼,客人们戴着氧气罐跟着入水.但婚礼无论在哪儿举行或怎样举行,总有某些传统的风俗.Before a couple is married, they become engaged.And then invitations are sent to those who live nearby, their close friends and their relatives who live far away.When everything is ready, then comes the most exciting moment.在举行婚礼前先要先订婚,然后发放请贴给住在附近的人和好朋友以及远方的亲戚.当一切准备就绪,就该到最激动人心的时刻了.The wedding itself usually lasts between 20 and 40 minutes.The wedding party enters the church while the wedding march is played.The bride carrying a bouquet enters last with her father who will “give her away”.The groom enters the church from a side door.When the wedding party is gathered by the altar, the bride and groom exchange vows.It is traditional to use the words “To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”.Following the vows, the couple exchange rings.Wearing the wedding ring on the fourth finger of the left hand is an old custom.婚礼本身通常进行20至40分钟.婚礼一行人伴着结婚进行曲进入教堂.新娘手持一束鲜花和她的父亲最后进来,父亲要把她交给新郎.而新郎则要从侧门进入教堂.当婚礼一行人聚集到教堂的祭坛前时,新娘和新郎互相表达誓言.常用的结婚誓言是:“而今而后,不论境遇好坏,家境贫富,生病与否,誓言相亲相爱,至死不分离.”宣誓过后,二人交换戒指.通常把戒指戴在左手无名指上,这是一个古老的风俗.After the ceremony there is often a party, called a reception,which gives the wedding guests an opportunity to congratulate the newlyweds.礼仪过后,通常会有宴会,叫“喜宴”.宴会给参加婚礼的人一个向新婚夫妇祝贺的机会.The car in which the couple leaves the church is decorated with balloons, streamers and shaving cream.The words “Just Married” are painted on the trunk or back window.The bride and groom run to the car under a shower of rice thrown by the wedding guests.When the couple drives away from the church, friends often chase them in cars, honking and drawing attention to them.And then the couple go on their honeymoon.新郎新娘乘坐汽车离开教堂,汽车上装饰有气球,彩色纸带,刮须膏之类的东西.“新婚燕尔”
几个字常写在汽车后的行李箱上或后玻璃窗上.新娘新郎从婚礼客人撒下的雨点般的生大米中跑向汽车.小两口儿开车离开教堂时,朋友们常常开车
追赶他们,不停地按喇叭,引他们注意.然后小两口儿就接着去度蜜月了.结婚前6～9个月需做的事项：
（1）设定婚期；（2）决定基本婚礼形式；（3）拜访牧师，看看教堂对婚礼有什么规定；（4）初步决定来宾名；（5）初步核算婚礼开销；（6）初步择婚礼与婚宴地点；（7）选择婚礼顾问；（8）选择举办婚宴的公司；（9）挑选新娘礼服；
（10）选择婚礼摄影师、录影师；（11）选择婚的色调。结婚前4～6个月需做的事项：（1）选择婚宴的乐队或DJ；（2）选婚礼、婚宴的音乐；（3）预订邀请函；（4）决定婚礼与婚宴地点；（5）安排婚礼礼车；（6）开始蜜月计划；（7）在商店里注册接受结婚礼物；（注：新娘可以到美国各大百货商店注册接受结婚礼物，并注明接受礼物的种类。想送礼的人只要到商店看一下新娘的注册单子，看看还有哪些未婚夫妇要的东西没有人买，然后在商店里选一选，付了钱就行。过后，新娘会到商店把物一并取出。这样做省时省力，又实惠，还免去不少退换礼物的麻烦）
（8）计划婚礼、婚宴环境布置
结婚前3个月需做的事项：
（1）选择给父母、近亲、伴娘及伴郎的结婚纪念品或小礼物；
（2）买结婚戒指；注：结婚戒指与订婚戒指不同。订婚戒指一般是男方求婚时买给女方的礼物，通常是颗粒的钻戒。结婚戒指一般是未婚夫妇一起去买的对戒，造型比较简单。）
（3）预订结婚蛋糕；
（4）买切结婚蛋糕的刀、新婚夫妇干杯的酒杯、来宾签字纪念册及新娘的吊袜带。（注：一般美国婚宴上都有一个节目，让新郎用牙齿把新娘的吊袜带从她大腿上取下，往往把宴会气氛推向高潮，所以新娘在挑选吊袜带时都会格外讲究。）
结婚前1～2个月需做的事项：
（1）安排婚礼排练及婚宴排练的时间与地点；
（2）邮寄婚礼邀请函；（注：邀请函里不但会注明婚礼及婚宴的时与地点，还有一个贴好邮票的回执信封，请被邀请人写明参加婚宴的人数以选择的主菜。大多数婚宴都会有2种至3种主菜供任选一样。未婚夫妇在收到回信后会算一下每种主菜的预订数量，然后通知举办结婚宴席的公司按照这些数量去准备。因为举办婚宴的公司通常都是按照参加婚礼的人头来收费并准备主菜，所以来宾数字的正确与否非常重要。如果有人因为忙而忘了把信寄出，也没有打电话告诉未婚夫妇，到婚宴的时候就自说自话去了，很有可能会空肚子而归。）
（3）最后试穿新礼服；（4）最后试穿伴娘礼服；（5）敲定婚礼及婚宴的每个细节；（6）确认蜜月旅行的机票、酒店；（7）领取结婚证书；（8）取结婚戒指。
结婚前2个星期至1个月需做的事项：
举办新娘结婚洗礼Bridal Shower）。（注：这个聚会一般是由伴娘主持，邀请所有新娘的女友与女亲戚参加。男士一般不参加。这个庆祝会除了讲些“女人话”外，很多人也会趁这个机会提前送结婚礼物。）
结婚前1～2个星期需做的事项：
（1）取新娘礼服、头饰、伴娘礼服；（2）如有何变化，通知所有参加婚礼者；（3）为蜜月旅行准备行李；
（4）婚礼排练与婚宴排练；（注：绝大多数未婚夫妇为了确保婚礼与婚宴的顺利进行，在正式婚礼前都会选一天进行婚礼排练。参加排练的一般是男女双方的家人加上伴娘与伴郎。根据婚礼的常规，新娘一般是由她的父亲挽手出来，所以婚礼排练的主要一点是让们父女偕步，以免正式举办婚礼的时候出洋相。至于所谓的“婚宴排练”，其实主要是未婚夫妇在婚礼排练之后以晚饭形式感谢所有参与婚礼准备的人包括双方的家人、伴娘与伴郎。未婚夫妇也会趁此机会送一些谢小礼物。）
（5）新娘做指甲；（6）最后确认一下来宾数；
（7）为新郎举办“单身庆祝会”（Bachelor Party）。（注：未婚新郎的“单身庆祝会”通常是由他的好友代为安排，只有男士参，意为让新郎向他的“单身生活”告别，但同时也要他牢记单身的“美妙回忆”，于是往往转变成“男人最后的疯狂”。啤酒、舞女是这聚会的主题，与新娘洗礼形成鲜明对比。）
婚前准备和新婚礼品
男女结婚之前，往往好友都要来聚会。女青年们举行送礼会，其中以送厨房用品为最多。如送烹任参考书、水桶、咖啡壶、炒菜锅等。男青年们也为自己的朋友举行一次单身派对(Bachelor
Party)，并且声言只许男人参加，女宾恕不招待。在会上，他们可以共送一件比较贵重的礼物给新郎，然后追忆少年时的好时光，互相惜别，并为新郎成家而庆贺，举杯碰盏，一醉方休。欲向新婚夫妇送礼，应在接到婚礼请帖或在结婚日期公布后，便把礼物送去新娘家。礼物应用白纸包装，系上白绸带，附上自己的名片，还可以写上一句祝辞。所送礼品多属花瓶、瓷器、餐具、床毯等日常用品。在送给新娘的银器或织品上刻上新娘名字的第一个字母。也是很常见的做法。
如果严格按照习俗办理，婚前还要有一系列程序。先是举行订婚仪式，届时男女双方交换订婚戒指，把事前准备好的钻石戒指戴在对方的左手无名指上。这种风俗。可追溯到原始社会晚期。当时有些部落在举行婚礼时,男女双方要交换用花环，以保证灵魂的结合。今天交换戒指，则象征双方相互承担的义务和牢不可破的感情。订婚仪式后，就要为正式婚礼做准备，如印发请帖，展示结婚礼品并向送礼人表示感谢，两家会亲，宴请亲友，布置教堂，预备男女傧相的服装等等。一切准备就绪，婚礼的时刻便将来临了。
按照传统，婚礼之日，在走上教堂的圣坛之前，新郎新娘不能会面。婚礼之前，也不允许新郎看新娘的礼服。新娘须着雪白长裙，戴洁白面纱，以象征纯洁。同时，新娘穿戴的衣物中必须包括有新的、旧的、借来的和蓝色的四种东西。旧东西，可以是新娘母亲穿戴过的衣物，蓝色的东西通常则是蓝色的吊袜带。
整个婚礼活动从婚礼仪式开始。仪式一般在教堂举行，但也可能安排在家中或者旅馆的舞厅里。在教堂举行婚礼时，宾客们分别坐在教堂走廊的两侧，女宾坐右侧，男宾坐左侧，女宾前面是新郎父母，男宾前面是新娘父母。婚礼开始，新娘挽着其父的手臂，缓缓通过走廊向圣坛走去。他们的前后簇拥着着一式服装的男女傧相和最亲近的亲友。这时，负责撤花的女孩走到新娘前面，从花篮中将一把把花瓣撒在走廊上。新娘父亲把新娘带上圣坛，便把她交给着深色礼服的新郎。接着，新郎在左，新娘在右，面对牧师站好，由牧师为其举行传统的仪式。牧师将结婚戒捐戴在新娘的左手无名指上，在郑重其事地说完“现在我宣布你们二人正式结为夫妻”之后，新郎新娘便回到走廊上。整个仪式一般不超过45分钟。
仪式结束，新郎新娘手挽手在音乐声中步出教堂，参加婚礼的人们纷纷向他们抛撒米粒、玫瑰花瓣和五彩纸屑，向他们祝福.婚宴 按照习惯，婚宴由女方家里举办，其丰盛程度，要取决于女方家庭的经济状况。婚宴热闹非常，觥筹交错，碰杯之声不绝于耳。此时在座的每一位男客都可以亲吻新娘，这大概是西方封建时代的遗俗。
过去封建地主在姑娘新婚前夕有吻她一下的权利。不过今天，也许只意味着新娘开始告别自己的青年时代，从此就要做一个忠实的妻子了。在精美漂亮的结婚大蛋糕被搬上餐桌后，新郎新娘要手把手地握住一把刀，共同将蛋糕切开，二人先各吃一片，然后再款待所有的客人。有时人们还把小块蛋糕送给那些没来的朋友。
有一种有趣的说法，认为把几块结婚蛋糕盛在小盒中，让未婚姑娘带回家放在枕下，她便能在梦中见到未来的丈夫。结婚蛋糕的出现，可以追溯到很久以前。世界上有许多民族都曾把新郎新娘分吃食物作为婚礼的重要仪式。古希腊客人们在婚礼上一同分吃拌有蜂蜜的芝麻蛋糕；古罗马早期的结婚仪式，也是新郎新娘先用蛋糕祭神，然后再二人分吃。
宴会即将结束，新娘站在屋子中间，将手中的花束从左肩信手向背后年轻姑娘们抛去。据说，碰到花束的姑娘将成为下一次婚礼上的新娘。所以这时在场的姑娘神态各异，腼腆的姑娘羞涩地躲闪，大方的姑娘则毫不顾忌地抢着去接花束。抛完花束，新郎还可以将新娘的吊袜带摘下来，向小伙于们扔去，抓住吊袜带的人就意味着快要做新郎了。宴会在这欢快的气氛中结束。度蜜月 婚礼毕，人们欢送新郎新娘去度蜜月，这一场面充满诙谐和滑稽，与方才的庄重和热闹恰成对照。届时新郎要想方设法带妻子赶快离开，而那些调皮的客人则想出种种新奇花样阻止汽车开走。他们有时把剃须膏抹在司机座前的车窗上，使新郎不得不下车来擦掉；有时把一串罐头盒挂在车尾，弄得叮挡作响。当汽车终于突出包围困时，人们便在后面一阵追赶，最后在笑声中目送汽车远去。这种情景，象征着人们对新娘的爱慕，表现出亲人和朋友对新婚夫妻难舍难分的情感。此时此刻也正是新郎显示自己有足够力量和智慧保护妻子的大好时机。
度“蜜月”的说法也有一番来历。据说度蜜月的风俗起源于德国的古条顿人。那时男女举行婚礼后，要到风景优美的地方去旅行。同时每天都要喝蜜糖水或是蜜酿成的酒，连喝30天不得中断，以示幸福生活的开始。这种风俗一直流传至今，只是不用再喝糖水了。度蜜月的时间也未必恰好是一个月，或一定要到风景区去旅游。这既取决于时间是否许可，也取决于男方是否有足够的金钱。因为同婚宴相反，蜜月旅行的费用要由新郎家负担。
中国的结婚风俗
Wedding Ring
The wedding ring has been in evidence.Some believe the wedding ring was the first element of wedding traditions.The circular shape of the wedding ring symbolizes never-ending love.Third finger, left hand It is believed that the vein in the third
finger of the left hand runs directly to the heart.Wedding Flowers
Historically, flowers & herbs have played a significant role in the attraction of “good” and/or the warding off of “evil”.Greeks used ivy for the sign of lasting love.Today, pretty wedding flowers convey a message of fertility and enduring love and romance.The minister will speak
To Groom:_ Do you take this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together after God's ordinance, in the holy estate of marriage _ Will you love her, comfort her, honor, and keep her, in sickness and in health;and, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her, so long as you both shall live _(Groom: “I do.”)
To Bride: Do you take this man to be your wedded husband, to live together after God's ordinance, in the holy estate of marriage _ Will you obey him and serve him, love, honor, and keep him, in sickness and in health;_ and, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him, so long as you both shall live _(Bride:_ “I do.”)
(Minister takes the bride by the right hand & taking the groom by the right hand, brings the hands together and instructs the couple to join hands.)
中国北方结婚习俗英文版
Pre-existing elements of traditional Chinese wedding ceremony is generally credited to scholars of the Warring States period, 402-221 B.C.The Three Covenants and the Six Rites, which were considered necessary elements of a marriage.However, the full ritual was too complicated, so even within the span of the Warring States period;the etiquette underwent changes and simplification.” What remained constant were the chief objectives: joining and enhancing the two families and ensuring succession with numerous descendants.Reverence to parents and ancestors, omens to encourage fertility and wealth, financial and social obligations contracted by both families at the betrothal, extensive gift giving etiquette, and the bride’s incorporation into her husband’s family are recurring elements.”
1There are six steps to form a completely wedding: The Proposal, The Betrothal, and Preparing for the Wedding Day, Day of the Wedding, Day After the Wedding, and Three Days after the Wedding.Before the wedding ritual, there are a lot to do, including The “Hair Dressing” Ritual which is done at dawn on her wedding day(or the night before).A “good luck woman”, woman with living parents, spouse and children, will come to help dressing up the bride’s hair.The woman should also speak auspicious words while tying up her hair in a bun, a style of married woman.Though this “hair dressing” ceremony, people give their best wishes to the bride so the bride will bring good luck to the groom and his family。The “Capping” Ritual “ that is performed at the groom’s home, where father of the groom place a hat decorated with cypress leaves on the groom’s head”.The groom will bring the bridal sedan chair, an equivalent of a limousine nowadays, and a group of relatives and friends to go to fetch the bride.This act also wishes the groom to have good luck.The Bride’s Journey to the Groom’s House which is do by the “good luck woman” or a dajin, employed by the bride’s family to look after the bride, carried the bride on her back to the sedan chair.Arriving at the Groom’s House and after stepping over a saddle or a lit stove, the wedding ritual comes to the emphases.In contrast to the elaborate preparations, the wedding ceremony itself is simple.The bride and groom are conducted to the family altar, where they pay homage to Heaven and Earth, the family ancestors and the Kitchen God, Tsao-Chün.Tea, generally with two lotus seeds or two red dates in the cup, is offered to the groom’s parents.Then the bride and groom bow to each other.This completes the marriage ceremony, except in some regions, where both also drink wine from the same goblet, eat sugar molded in the form of a rooster, and partake of the wedding dinner together.Immediately after the ceremony, the couples are led to the bridal chamber, where both sit on the bed.In some areas, honey and wine poured into two goblets linked by
a red thread.The bride and groom take a few sips and then exchange cups and drink it up.And the guests that are usually the relatives of the bride and groom, will enjoy separately rich banquet which is by either the bride’s parents or the groom’s.It is generally considered as public recognition of the union.介绍一下中国婚礼习俗
Ever since ancient times, there has been a saying that the three most delightful moments in one's life come with success in the imperial examination, marriage and the birth of a son.From the Qin(221 BC – 206 BC)to Qing(1644 – 1911)Dynasties, the feudal system dominated over two thousands years.During this period, the importance of getting married was far more than that a person found his better half.For the male side, it determined the prosperity and even the future fame of their family;while for the female side, it meant that parents lost the chance of seeing their daughter for a long time.Thus to choose an ideal partner was vital for both the individual and the family.In feudal society, a marriage would be decided not by a young couple's love, but by their parents' desires.Only after a matchmaker's introduction and when parents considered the two family conditions were similar and could be matched, would the marriage procedures go forward.Conditions that should be taken into consideration included wealth and social status.If a boy's family was well-off or an official family, his parents would never permit him to marry a girl from a poor family.Essential to the marriage process were the commonly recognized 'three Letters and six etiquettes'.The three letters were the betrothal letter, the gift letter with a gifts list and the wedding letter used on the day the bridegroom met his bride at her home.Six etiquettes then led to the final wedding ceremony.Proposing: when a boy's parents intended to make a match, they would invite a matchmaker to propose with them at the girl's home.It was the custom that the first time matchmaker went as a guest they could not be served tea in order not to 'lighten the marriage'.If the proposal was successful, however, the matchmaker(usually a woman)would be rewarded with profuse gifts and feasts to show the two families' gratitude.Many unmarried young people could not see and were unfamiliar with each other till their wedding day.Birthday Matching: after knowing the girl's full name and birthday, they would ask a fortune teller to predict whether that could match their son's and whether there would be a happy marriage.The Chinese zodiac would be surely taken into consideration.Presenting Betrothal Gifts: if the match was predicted to be auspicious, the matchmaker would take gifts to the girl's parents and tell them that the process could continue.Presenting Wedding Gifts: This was the grandest etiquette of the whole process of engagement.Prolific gifts were presented again to the girl's family, symbolizing respect and kindness towards the girl’s family as well as the capability of providing a good life for the girl.Selecting the Wedding Date: the boy's family asked the fortune-teller to choose a date according to the astrological book when it would be proper and propitious to hold the wedding ceremony.Wedding Ceremony: the wedding ceremony began with the groom and his party meeting the bride in her home.Before this day the bride's dowry would have been sent to the boy's house.The dowry represented her social status and wealth, and would be displayed at the boy's house.The most common dowries included scissors like two butterflies never separating, rulers indicating acres of fields, and vases for peace and wealth.Before the meeting party's arrival, the bride would be helped by a respectable old woman to tie up her hair with colorful cotton threads.She would wear a red skirt as Chinese believed red foreshadowed delight.When the party arrived, the bride, covered by a red head-kerchief, must cry with her mother to show her reluctance to leave home.She would be led or carried by her elder brother to the sedan.In the meeting party the bridegroom would meet a series of difficulties intentionally set in his path.Only after coping with these could he pass to see his wife-to-be.On the arrival of the sedan at the wedding place, there would be music and firecrackers.The bride would be led along the red carpet in a festive atmosphere.The bridegroom, also in a red gown, would kowtow three times to worship the heaven, parents and spouse.Then the new couple would go to their bridal chamber and guests would be treated to a feast.Wine should be poured to the brim of a cup but must not spill over.On the night of the wedding day, there was a custom in some places for relatives or friends to banter the newlyweds.Though this seemed a little noisy, both of them dropped shyness and got familiar with each other.On the third day of the marriage, the new couple would go back to the bride's parents' home.They would be received with also a dinner party including relatives.Of course, marriage customs differed by region, but these were the most common.They have been maintained for thousands of years, but in recent years(especially after the founding of modern China), people have tended to discard some of the details and advocate simplified marriage procedures and wedding ceremonies.娶亲回来，新娘、新郎在进大门时，门口左右预先放着的两捆干草要点燃。干草是用红线绳捆着，草内夹放着油炸糕。点干草含有三层意思：其一，因干草乃“五谷”之一的秸秆，点燃是祈祝五谷丰登；其二，干草里夹油糕，借“糕”字音寓意步步登高；其三，捆系干草的线是红色的，点燃后的火也是红的，可以辟邪。不论是为了辟邪、还是祈福，红色，都包含着强烈的生活的愿望、意志和追求。生活仿佛是从结婚开始，而红色的婚礼，象征红红火火的日子。
“中国红”婚礼
红色是中国的传统色、吉祥色、喜庆色。红色是一种具有强烈视觉冲击力的光线，有着生命的、火的色彩和光辉，所以，古人认为红色可以驱除一切邪气。婚礼是人生最重要的事情，不允许一丝一毫的邪祟作怪，所以红色成了传统婚礼的主色调。红灯笼、红喜字、红对联、红窗花，从大场面到小细节，整个婚礼都是红色的。
五色绸子
五色绸子五色线
娶亲当日，新郎、新娘胸前都带脯花，花的缀饰是五色绸子五色线。五色也叫五彩，青黄赤白黑，象征五彩缤纷，以红为主，图大吉大利。不仅胸前带五色绸子、五色线，连随嫁带的大红包袱上也是五彩绸佩带。
裤袋里装钱
结婚之日，新郎、新娘束系的都是大红裤带。裤带是空心的，里边装着钱。清代时，装的钱是“字钱”，解放初期装的是硬币，现在装的是百元大钞，名为 “富贵”，寓意是婚后能招财进宝，成为腰缠万贯的富豪人家。折枣枝和拿筷、杯 新郎去娶亲时，要从新娘家折些枣树枝子，并要两双筷子、两个喝水杯，用红丝带系在一起，用红绸布包好带走。
“枣枝”寓意婚后“早得子”。一双筷子、一对水杯，意指成双成对和婚后有吃有喝，不受贫穷。
随身佩带红手帕
新娘出嫁将要起程时，姑娘、姑爷双双要向父母作揖告别。此景此情，不免令人伤感落泪，带上手帕便于抹眼泪。从前，新娘出嫁时要哭到村外，据说新娘子哭嫁的泪水会给庄稼带来甘露。古代女子一旦出嫁，特别是远嫁他乡，便很少有机会与父母见面，其伤心程度可想而知。而今在城市里，哭嫁已经不寻常了，新娘出嫁带手帕，只是依照习俗而行。
“红盖头” 过去新娘出嫁时坐轿子，戴“红盖头”，现在出嫁一般是坐小轿车，戴“面纱”。“盖头”和“面纱”同是一个同意，是在显示和代表新娘青春、贞洁和尊贵。
送亲奶奶或伴娃娃
与新娘一同坐在大红轿子里的人，如果陪送的是姑姑或婶婶，称作“送亲奶奶”；如果陪送的人是新娘的侄儿侄女，称作“伴娃娃”。如果没有陪送的人，则在新娘轿子里放一个大馍馍，彩绘成红花五色，称“喜馍”，寓意是新娘坐的不是孤独单人轿。
上下轿子不沾地
新娘出嫁上、下轿子，讲究脚不沾地。古人传说人间有人结婚时，天狗星就要滴血，如果让新娘子的脚踩上天狗星的血，就不会生孩子了。所以上轿(车)要人抱，下轿(车)要人背，进洞房要踩着黄布，都是这个用意
Married back, the bride, the groom at the entry gate, the gate stood about in advance of the two bundles of hay to be ignited.Hay is the red line Shengkun the grass stood inside the folder deep-fried cakes.Contains a three-point hay meaning: first, because hay is a “grain” one of the straw, light is pray bumper grain harvest;secondly, hay inside folders You Gao, use the “cake” pronunciation implication ascend step by step;Third, the Department of hay bales line is red, lit the fire is red, you can ward off
evil.Whether in order to ward off evil, or praying, red, all with a strong desire to live, will, and pursuit.Life is like starting from the marriage, while the red wedding, symbolizing the booming days.“China Red” Wedding
Red is a traditional Chinese color, lucky colors, happy colors.Red is a strong visual impact of light, has a life, fire and brilliant color, so red and could drive out the ancient Chinese believed that all the evil.A wedding is the most important things in life do not allow a shred of evil evil spirit trouble, so the red color became the main traditional wedding.Red lanterns, red hi word, red couplets, red bars scenes from large to small details, the wedding is red.Colored silk
Five-color silk colored lines
Married that day, the bride and groom have brought chest chest flower, flowers, inlaid with a five-color silk colored lines.Colored, also known as colorful, Qinghuang Chibai black, symbolizing the colors, mainly red, Figure good luck.Not only the chest with a five-color silk, colored lines, even with the marriage of the red tape burden is also five colored silk wear.Installed in his hip pocket money
Wedding day, the groom, the bride-beam system are red belt.Belt is hollow, the inside filled with money.During the Qing Dynasty, filled with money, “the word money,” the liberation of the initial installation of the coins, and now is filled with hundred dollar bills, called “rich”, it means that marriage can be招财进宝to become wealthy and rich people.Off date sticks and chopsticks, cups and groom to get married when the bride's family from the jujube tree branches off more, and to two pairs of chopsticks, two drinking cups, is tied with red ribbon with a red silk cloth away.“Jujube Tree” implies marriage “as early as a son.” A pair of chopsticks, a pair of cups, meaning pairs, and after marriage for food and drink, free from poverty.Carry-wear red handkerchief
Will have to leave the bride married when the girl, Guye both bid farewell to their parents Zuo Yi.Cijing such a situation inevitably raises the sad tears, bring a handkerchief to facilitate Mayan Lei.In the past, when the cry out of the village married bride, bride is said to cry tears of marriage will bring nectar crops.Ancient times, women, once married, especially in marrying men from his home, they rarely have the opportunity to meet with their parents, their grief can imagine.Now, in the city, weeping is no longer unusual, and the bride married with a handkerchief, but in accordance with custom trip.The “red hijab” In the past when the bride married sedan chair, wearing a “red hijab”, now married generally by car, wearing “the veil.” “Hijab” and the “veil” with an agreement on behalf of the bride in the display, and youth, virginity and distinguished.To send the pro-grandmother or with dolls
Together with the bride sitting in red chair inside the person, if the escort is the aunt, or aunt, known as the “sending pro-Grandma”;if the escort who is niece of the bride's nephew, called “with dolls.” If there is no escort the person, then the chair where the bride put a large steamed bun, painted into a saffron colored, saying “hi bun”, it means the bride is not sitting alone single sedan chair.Sedan chair up and down does not stick to
Married bride upper and lower chair, pay attention to feet do not stick to.Ancient legend of earth was married, Nintendogs stars should drop of blood, if the bride's foot so that the star on the Tengu blood, they will not have a baby.Therefore sedan chair(vehicle)dignitaries hold, got down(car)dignitaries back, Jin Dongfang to tread yellow cloth, is this intention.
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