3种类型的父母更容易养出不孝子

第一篇：3种类型的父母更容易养出不孝子

3种类型的父母更容易养出不孝子

父母不当的教育方式易在孩子心中埋下不孝的火种。孩子潜意识里仇恨、埋怨父母，平时不会表现出来，只有受到某些事情的触发后才会爆发出来。

除工作压力之外，其与父母教育观念上的差异、婆媳相处的琐碎矛盾是他打骂父母的导火索。

专家说，不孝子完全是父母培养出来的。特别是以下几种类型的父母更容易养出不孝子： 父母不当的教育方式易在孩子心中埋下不孝的火种

著名心理专家尹邓安说，父母不当的教育方式易在孩子心中埋下不孝的火种。孩子潜意识里仇恨、埋怨父母，平时不会表现出来，只有受到某些事情的触发后才会爆发出来。

尹邓安说，不孝子完全是父母培养出来的。特别是以下几种类型的父母更容易养出不孝子： 经常打骂孩子的父母

孩子挨了父母的打，心理会反感、仇恨父母，以后容易以暴易暴，主动去打别人。特别是孩子在五六岁时被父母影响最深远。因为五六岁是个体心理成长的关键期。

啰嗦的父母

“成功的孩子成功在妈妈的心里，失败的孩子失败在妈妈的嘴里。”父母的啰嗦容易使孩子反感，认为父母不值得尊重，进一步就会顶撞父母。

包办溺爱的父母

父母包办溺爱，就是剥夺了孩子劳动的机会、孝顺的机会，让孩子心理变得越来越冷漠。父母应该学会“装”

尹邓安说，父母如果能掌握一些心理学知识和技巧，可以培养孩子的孝顺之心。培养孩子对弱者的怜悯之心

怜悯弱者与孝顺父母其实是一回事。当孩子长大后，父母逐渐老去，也会成为一个弱者。对社会来说，弱者是索取少、奉献多的一群人，而对孩子来说，父母也属于索取少、奉献多的人。所以，不尊重穷人的人往往不孝顺父母。

尹邓安说，很多人喜欢在孩子面前吹嘘自己官大、钱多、关系硬，这样的人不仅绝对培养不出孝子，还会培养孩子的非道德行为。

培养孩子良好的道德体验感

如果你扶起一位摔倒的老人，送他去医院，并受到了别人的称赞，这时就会产生一种良好的道德体验感，今后还会不断地做好事。培养孩子的孝顺之心同样如此。所以，父母平时要试着让孩子为家里做点事，并及时称赞孩子，这其实也是在培养孩子的感恩之心。

尹邓安说，父母应该学会“武装自己”，适当装病、装穷。装病是为了创造让孩子为父母服务的机会，装穷是为了创造让孩子为家里做些事的机会，并体会父母培育自己的艰辛。

第二篇：英语演讲：父母和孩子谁更容易抑郁

父母和孩子谁更容易抑郁

Today our topic is which of them----teenager or adult----would be easier to depression?in my opinion,there is no doubt that the adults are more suffering from depression---or we can say melancholia[ˌmelənˌkəuljə].First,from the physiologic aspect:the age of our parents are most range from 40 to 50----a period we called climacterium[klaiˌmæktəriəm].in this period,the biological hormone of human goes wrong,.The main symptoms are metabolic disorder,wakefulness,easy to lose their temper,palpitate[ˌpælpɪˌteɪt]

etc.All of this may probably result in a depression.Secondly,from the social aspect: our parents are faced with high pressure.I admit that students are stressful too.But our stress are almost only from two parts:the study and the maybe love.Someone will say we are faced with high pressure of finding a job.In fact,if you can't find a job immediately,you can stay at home for a buffer,at least you will not starve to death the day after your out of work.But the same problem comes to our parents,the answer maybe yes.They are the main support of a family which include one,two,or more children and old men who can't make money.They need to consider how to educate their children,how to take good care of the old's health,how to get along with colleague,how to get a promoting or a better salary,how to pay the house loan,and even how defend their marriage by beating a third.A survey on the internet shows that the group suffer from depression most is the white-collar group.They are faced with high pressure--maybe beyond our imagination.Besides,from our habitual way of thinking,adults have stronger psychology bearing capacity and psychological adjustment ability than teenagers.but just because of this,people often ignore adults' states of mind.If a teenager keeps blue for several days,his parents,teachers and friends are easy to find some unusual,the teenager who has a tendency to depression will get immediate comfort,exhort or even treatment.But if an adult keeps silence,people will think maybe he is just thinking about a difficult problem.Even themselves will not attach so much importance to their psychology.In Chinese traditional ideas,only lunatics [ˈlu:nətɪk ] need a psychologist.Conclusions As a result,adults are easier to depression than teenagers.We should pay more attention to our parents' psychology.