2016布琳布朗ted演讲稿

第一篇：2016布琳布朗ted演讲稿

2016布琳布朗ted演讲稿

布琳布朗ted演讲稿为大家整理社会研究教授布琳布朗在2016年在ted上的精彩演讲，脆弱的力量，我恨脆弱!演讲中她说出了自己的观点，脆弱的力量。关系是我们活着的原因，下面是小编整理的布琳布朗ted演讲稿 布琳布朗ted演讲稿

几年前，一个活动策划人打电话给我，因为我当时要做一个演讲。她在电话里说：“我真很苦恼该如何在宣传单上介绍你。”我心想怎么会苦恼呢?她继续道：“你看，我听过你的演讲，我觉得我可以称你为研究者，可我担心的是，如果我这么称呼你，没人会来听，因为大家普遍认为研究员很无趣而且脱离现实。”然后她说：“但是我喜欢你的演讲，就跟讲故事一样很吸引人。我想来想去，还是觉得称你为讲故事的人比较妥当。”而那个做学术的感?ahref='list-6-1.html'class='keylink'讲话驳奈彝芽诙龅溃?ldquo;你要叫我什么?“她说：”我要称你为讲故事的人。“我心想：”为什么不干脆叫魔法小精灵?“(笑声)我说：”让我考虑一下。“我试着鼓起勇气。我对自己说，我是一个讲故事的人。我是一个从事定性研究的科研人员。我收集故事——这就是我的工作。或许故事就是有灵魂的数据。或许我就是一个讲故事的人。于是我说：”听着，要不你就称我为做研究兼讲故事的人。“她说：”哈哈，没这么个说法呀。“所以我是个做研究兼讲故事的人，我今天想跟大家谈论的——我们要谈论的话题是关于拓展认知。我想给你们讲几个故事是关于我的一份研究的，这份研究从本质上拓宽了我个人的认知，也确确实实改变了我生活、爱、工作还有教育孩子的方式。

1、关系是我们活着的原因

我的故事从这里开始。当我还是个年轻的博士研究生的时候，第一年，有位研究教授对我们说：”事实是这样的，如果有一个东西你无法测量，那么它就不存在。“我心想他只是在哄哄我们这些小孩子吧。我说：”真的么?“他说：”当然。“你得知道我有一个社会工作的学士文凭，一个社会工作的硕士文凭，我在读的是一个社会工作的博士文凭，所以我整个学术生涯都被人所包围，他们大抵相信生活是一团乱麻，接受它。而我的观点则倾向于，生活是一团乱麻，解开它，把它整理好，再归类放入便当盒里。

我觉得我领悟到了关键，有能力去创一番事业，让社会工作的一个重要理念是置身于工作的不适中。我就是要把这不适翻个底朝天每科都拿到A。这就是我当时的信条。我当时真的是跃跃欲试。我想这就是我要的职业生涯，因为我对乱成一团，难以处理的课题感兴趣。我想要把它们弄清楚。我想要理解它们。我想侵入那些我知道是重要的东西把它们摸透，然后用浅显易懂的方式呈献给每一个人。

所以我的起点是”关系“。因为当你从事了10年的社会工作，你必然会发现关系是我们活着的原因。它赋予了我们生命的意义。就是这么简单。无论你跟谁交流工作在社会执法领域的也好，负责精神健康、虐待和疏于看管领域的也好我们所知道的是，关系是种感应的能力--生物神经上，我们是这么被设定的--这就是为什么我们在这儿。所以我就从关系开始。下面这个场景我们再熟悉不过了，你的上司给你作工作评估，她告诉了你37点你做得相当棒的地方，还有一点成长的空间? 然后你满脑子都想着那一点成长的空间，不是么。这也是我研究的一个方面，因为当你跟人们谈论爱情，他们告诉你的是一件让他们心碎的事。当你跟人们谈论归属感，他们告诉你的是最让他们痛心的被排斥的经历。当你跟人们谈论关系，他们跟我讲的是如何被断绝关系的故事。

所以很快的--在大约开始研究这个课题6周以后——我遇到了这个前所未闻的东西，它揭示了关系以一种我不理解也从没见过的方式。所以我暂停了原先的研究计划，对自己说，我得弄清楚这到底是什么。它最终被鉴定为耻辱感。耻辱感很容易理解，即害怕被断绝关系。有没有一些关于我的事如果别人知道了或看到了，会认为我不值得交往。我要告诉你们的是：这种现象很普遍;我们都会有(这种想法)。没有体验过耻辱的人不具有人类的同情或关系。没人想谈论自己的糗事，你谈论的越少，你越感到可耻。滋生耻辱感的是一种”我不够好。“的心态--我们都知道这是个什么滋味：”我不够什么。我不够苗条，不够有钱，不够漂亮，不够聪明，职位不够高。“而支撑这种心态的是一种刻骨铭心的脆弱，关键在于要想产生关系，我们必须让自己被看见，真真切切地被看见。

2、我恨脆弱!你知道我怎么看待脆弱，我恨它。所以我思考着，这次是轮到我用我的标尺击溃它的时候了。我要闯进去，把它弄清楚，我要花一年的时间，彻底瓦解耻辱，我要搞清楚脆弱是怎么运作的，然后我要智取胜过它。所以我准备好了，非常兴奋。跟你预计的一样，事与愿违。(笑声)你知道这个(结果)。我能告诉你关于耻辱的很多东西，但那样我就得占用别人的时间了。但我在这儿可以告诉你，归根到底这也许是我学到的最重要的东西在从事研究的数十年中。我预计一年变成了六年，成千上万的故事，成百上千个采访，焦点集中。有时人们发给我期刊报道，发给我他们的故事--不计其数的数据，就在这六年中。我大概掌握了它。

我大概理解了这就是耻辱，这就是它的运作方式。我写了本书，我出版了一个理论，但总觉得哪里不对劲——它其实是如果我粗略地把我采访过的人分成具有自我价值感的人——说到底就是自我价值感。他们勇于去爱并且拥有强烈的归属感。另一部分则是为之苦苦挣扎的人，总是怀疑自己是否足够好的人。

区分那些敢于去爱并拥有强烈归属感的人和那些为之而苦苦挣扎的人的变量只有一个。那些敢于去爱并拥有强烈归属感的人相信他们值得被爱，值得享有归属感。就这么简单。他们相信自己的价值。而对于我，那个阻碍人与人之间关系的最困难的部分是我们对于自己不值得享有这种关系的恐惧，无论从个人，还是职业上我都觉得我有必要去更深入地了解它。所以接下来我找出所有的采访记录找出那些体现自我价值的，那些持有这种观念的记录，集中研究它们。

这群人有什么共同之处?我对办公用品有点痴迷，但这是另一个话题了。我有一个牛皮纸文件夹，还有一个三福极好笔，我心想我该怎么给这项研究命名呢?第一个蹦入我脑子的是全心全意这个词。这是一群全心全意，靠着一种强烈的自我价值感在生活的人们。所以我在牛皮纸夹的上端这样写道，而后我开始查看数据。事实上，我开始是用四天时间集中分析数据，我从头找出那些采访，找出其中的故事和事件。主题是什么?有什么规律?我丈夫带着孩子离开了小镇，因为我老是陷入像杰克逊.波洛克(美国近代抽象派画家)似的疯狂状态，我一直在写，完全沉浸在研究的状态中。下面是我的发现：这些人的共同之处在于勇气。我想在这里先花一分钟跟大家区分一下勇气和胆量。

勇气，最初的定义，当它刚出现在英文里的时候--是从拉丁文cor，意为心，演变过来的--最初的定义是真心地叙述一个故事，告诉大家你是谁的。所以这些人就具有勇气承认自己不完美。他们具有同情心，先是对自己的，再是对他人的，事实是，我们如果不能善待自己，我们也无法善待他人。最后一点，他们都能和他人建立关系，这是很难做到的，前提是他们必须坦诚，他们愿意放开自己设定的那个理想的自我以换取真正的自我，这是赢得关系的必要条件。

他们还有另外一个共同之处那就是，他们全然接受脆弱。他们相信让他们变得脆弱的东西也让他们变得美丽。他们不认为脆弱是寻求舒适，也不认为脆弱是钻心的疼痛--正如我之前在关于耻辱的采访中听到的。他们只是简单地认为脆弱是必须的。他们会谈到愿意说出”我爱你“，愿意做些没有的事情，愿意等待医生的电话，在做完乳房X光检查之后。他们愿意为情感投资，无论有没有结果。他们觉得这些都是最根本的。

3、是灵魂觉醒，还是精神崩溃? 我当时认为那是背叛。我无法相信我尽然对科研宣誓效忠——研究的定义是控制(变量)预测去研究现象，为了一个明确的目标，去控制并预测。而我现在的使命即控制并预测却给出了这样一个结果：要想与脆弱共存就得停止控制，停止预测于是我崩溃了。它确实是我称它为崩溃，我的心理医生称它为灵魂的觉醒。

灵魂的觉醒当然比精神崩溃要好听很多，但我跟你说那的确是精神崩溃。然后我不得不暂且把数据放一边，去求助心理医生。你知道你是谁当你打电话跟你朋友说：”我觉得我需要跟人谈谈。你有什么好的建议吗?“因为我大约有五个朋友这么回答：”喔。我可不想当你的心理医生。“我说：”这是什么意思?“他们说：”我只是想说，别带上你的标尺来见我。“我说：”行。“ 就这样我找到了一个心理医生。我跟她，戴安娜，的第一次见面--我带去了一份表单上面都是那些全身心投入生活的人的生活方式，然后我坐下了。她说：”你好吗?“我说：”我很好。还不赖。“她说：”发生了什么事?“这是一个治疗心理医生的心理医生，我们不得不去看这些心理医生，因为他们的废话测量仪很准(知道你什么时候在说真心话)。(笑声)所以我说：”事情是这样的。我很纠结。“她说：”你纠结什么?“ 我说：”嗯，我跟脆弱过不去。而且我知道脆弱是耻辱和恐惧的根源是我们为自我价值而挣扎的根源，但它同时又是欢乐，创造性，归属感，爱的源泉。所以我觉得我有问题，我需要帮助。“我补充道：”但是，这跟家庭无关，跟童年无关。“(笑声)”我只需要一些策略。“(笑声)(掌声)谢谢。戴安娜的反应是这样的。(笑声)我接着说：”这很糟糕，对么?“她说：”这不算好，也不算坏。“(笑声)”它本身就是这样。“我说：”哦，我的天，要悲剧了。“(悲剧)果然发生了，但又没有发生。大概有一年的时间。你知道的，有些人当他们发现脆弱和温柔很重要的时候，他们放下所有戒备，欣然接受。(我要声明)一，这不是我，二，我朋友里面也没有这样的人。(笑声)对我来说，那是长达一年的斗争，是场激烈的混战。脆弱打我一拳，我又还击它一拳。最后我输了，但我或许赢回了我的生活。然后我再度投入到了我的研究中，又花了几年时间真正试图去理解那些全身心投入生活的人，他们做了怎样的决定，他们是如何应对脆弱的。为什么我们为之痛苦挣扎?我是独自在跟脆弱斗争吗?不是，这是我学到的：我们麻痹脆弱——当我们等待(医生)电话的时候。好笑的是，我在Twitter微博和Facebook上发布了一条状态，”你怎样定义脆弱?什么会让你感到脆弱?“在1个半小时内，我收到了150条回复。

因为我想知道大家都是怎么想的。(回复中有)不得不请求丈夫帮忙，因为我病了，而且我们刚结婚;跟丈夫提出要做爱;跟妻子提出要做爱;被拒绝;约某人出来;等待医生的答复;被裁员;裁掉别人--这就是我们生活的世界。我们活在一个脆弱的世界里。我们应对的方法之一是麻痹脆弱。

我觉得这不是没有依据：这也不是依据存在的唯一理由，我认为我们当代问题的一大部分都可以归咎于它--在美国历史上，我们是欠债最多，肥胖，毒瘾、用药最为严重的一代。问题是我从研究中认识到--你无法选择性地麻痹感情。你不能说，这些是不好的。这是脆弱，这是悲哀，这是耻辱，这是恐惧，这是失望，我不想要这些情感。我要去喝几瓶啤酒，吃个香蕉坚果松饼。(笑声)我不想要这些情感。我知道台下传来的是会意的笑声。别忘了，我是靠”入侵“你们的生活过日子的。天哪。

4、你不发麻痹的痛苦，也是快乐的源泉 你无法只麻痹那些痛苦的情感而不麻痹所有的感官，所有的情感。你无法有选择性地去麻痹。当我们麻痹那些(消极的情感)，我们也麻痹了欢乐，麻痹了感恩，麻痹了幸福。然后我们会变得痛不欲生，我们继而寻找生命的意义，然后我们感到脆弱，然后我们喝几瓶啤酒，吃个香蕉坚果松饼。危险的循环就这样这形成了。

我们需要思考的一件事是我们是为什么，怎么样麻痹自己的。这不一定是指吸毒。我们麻痹自己的另一个方式是把不确定的事变得确定。宗教已经从一种信仰、一种对不可知的相信变成了确定。我是对的，你是错的。闭嘴。就是这样。只要是确定的就是好的。我们越是害怕，我们就越脆弱，然后我们变得愈加害怕。这件就是当今政治的现状。探讨已经不复存在。对话已经荡然无存。有的仅仅是指责。你知道研究领域是如何描述指责的吗?一种发泄痛苦与不快的方式。我们追求完美。如果有人想这样塑造他的生活，那个人就是我，但这行不通。因为我们做的只是把屁股上的赘肉挪到我们的脸上。(笑声)这真是，我希望一百年以后，当人们回过头来会不禁感叹：”哇!“ 我们想要，这是最危险的，我们的孩子变得完美。让我告诉你我们是如何看待孩子的。从他们出生的那刻起，他们就注定要挣扎。当你把这些完美的宝宝抱在怀里的时候，我们的任务不是说：”看看她，她完美的无可挑剔。“而是确保她保持完美--保证她五年级的时候可以进网球队，七年级的时候稳进耶鲁。那不是我们的任务。我们的任务是注视着她，对她说，”你知道吗?你并不完美，你注定要奋斗，但你值得被爱，值得享有归属感。“这才是我们的职责。

给我看用这种方式培养出来的一代孩子，我保证我们今天有的问题会得到解决。我们假装我们的行为不会影响他人。不仅在我们个人生活中我们这么做，在工作中也一样--无论是紧急救助，石油泄漏，还是产品召回--我们假装我们做的事对他人不会造成什么大影响。我想对这些公司说：嘿，这不是我们第一次牛仔竞技。我们只要你坦诚地，真心地说一句：”对不起，我们会处理这个问题。“ 但还有一种方法，我把它留给你们。这是我的心得：卸下我们的面具，让我们被看见，深入地被看见，即便是脆弱的一面;全心全意地去爱，尽管没有任何担保--这是最困难的，我也可以告诉你，作为一名家长，这个非常非常困难--带着一颗感恩的心，保持快乐哪怕是在最恐惧的时候哪怕我们怀疑：”我能不能爱得这么深?我能不能如此热情地相信这份感情?我能不能如此矢志不渝?“ 在消极的时候能打住，而不是一味地幻想事情会如何变得更糟，对自己说：”我已经很感恩了，因为能感受到这种脆弱，这意味着我还活着。“最后，还有最重要的一点，那就是相信我们已经做得够好了。因为我相信当我们在一个让人觉得”我已经足够了"的环境中打拼的时候我们会停止抱怨，开始倾听，我们会对周围的人会更友善，更温和，对自己也会更友善，更温和。布琳布朗资料简介： 中文名:布琳·布朗

外文名:BrenéBrown 国籍:美国

职业:助理研究教授

毕业院校:德克萨斯大学奥斯汀分校 工作单位:休斯顿大学

1995年获社会工作学士，就读于德克萨斯大学奥斯汀分校。

1996年获社会工作硕士，就读于休斯顿大学社会工作研究生院。2002年获社会工作博士，就读于休斯顿大学社会工作研究生院。

1998年1月-2002年5月，休斯顿大学社会工作研究生院，兼职教员。2002年8月-2016年5月，休斯顿大学社会工作研究生院，社会工作助理教授。2016年8月8日-现在，休斯顿大学社会工作研究生院，社会工作研究助理教授。2016年，布林·布朗在TEDxHouston的演讲《脆弱的力量》，是TED网站上最受瞩目的演讲之一，拥有超过600万次的点击量。

2016年，在长滩的TED大会上，布林·布朗作了闭幕讲座《解读羞耻》。相关推荐： ted演讲稿大全

第二篇：布琳布朗ted演讲稿

布琳布朗ted演讲稿

布琳布朗ted演讲稿为大家整理社会研究教授布琳布朗在2010年在ted上的精彩演讲，脆弱的力量，我恨脆弱!演讲中她说出了自己的观点，脆弱的力量。关系是我们活着的原因，下面是小编整理的布琳布朗ted演讲稿

布琳布朗ted演讲稿

几年前，一个活动策划人打电话给我，因为我当时要做一个演讲。她在电话里说：“我真很苦恼该如何在宣传单上介绍你。” 我心想怎么会苦恼呢? 她继续道：“你看，我听过你的演讲，我觉得我可以称你为研究者，可我担心的是，如果我这么称呼你，没人会来听，因为大家普遍认为研究员很无趣而且脱离现

实。”然后她说：“但是我喜欢你的演讲，就跟讲故事一样很吸引人。我想来想去，还是觉得称你为讲故事的人比较妥当。”而那个做学术的感到不安的我脱口而出道：“你要叫我什么?”她说：“我要称你为讲故事的人。”我心想：“为什么不干脆叫魔法小精灵?”(笑声)我说：“让我考虑一下。”我试着鼓起勇气。

我对自己说，我是一个讲故事的人。我是一个从事定性研究的科研人员。我收集故事——这就是我的工作。或许故事就是有灵魂的数据。或许我就是一个讲故事的人。于是我说：“听着，要不你就称我为做研究兼讲故事的人。”她说：“哈哈，没这么个说法呀。”所以我是个做研究兼讲故事的人，我今天想跟大家谈论的——我们要谈论的话题是关于拓展认知。我想给你们讲几个故事是关于我的一份研究的，这份研究从本质上拓宽了我个人的认知，也确确实实改变了我生活、爱、工作还有教育孩子的方式。

1、关系是我们活着的原因

我的故事从这里开始。当我还是个年轻的博士研究生的时候，第一年，有位研究教授对我们说：“事实是这样的，如果有一个东西你无法测量，那么它就不存在。”我心想他只是在哄哄我们这些小孩子吧。我说：“真的么?”他说：“当然。”你得知道我有一个社会工作的学士文凭，一个社会工作的硕士文凭，我在读的是一个社会工作的博士文凭，所以我整个学术生涯都被人所包围，他们大抵相信生活是一团乱麻，接受它。而我的观点则倾向于，生活是一团乱麻，解开它，把它整理好，再归类放入便当盒里。

我觉得我领悟到了关键，有能力去创一番事业，让社会工作的一个重要理念是置身于工作的不适中。我就是要把这不适翻个底朝天每科都拿到A。这就是我当时的信条。我当时真的是跃跃欲试。我想这就是我要的职业生涯，因为我对乱成一团，难以处理的课题感兴趣。我想要把它们弄清楚。我想要理解它们。

我想侵入那些我知道是重要的东西把它们摸透，然后用浅显易懂的方式呈献给每一个人。

所以我的起点是“关系”。因为当你从事了10年的社会工作，你必然会发现关系是我们活着的原因。它赋予了我们生命的意义。就是这么简单。无论你跟谁交流工作在社会执法领域的也好，负责精神健康、虐待和疏于看管领域的也好我们所知道的是，关系是种感应的能力--生物神经上，我们是这么被设定的--这就是为什么我们在这儿。所以我就从关系开始。下面这个场景我们再熟悉不过了，你的上司给你作工作评估，她告诉了你37点你做得相当棒的地方，还有一点成长的空间?

然后你满脑子都想着那一点成长的空间，不是么。这也是我研究的一个方面，因为当你跟人们谈论爱情，他们告诉你的是一件让他们心碎的事。当你跟人们谈论归属感，他们告诉你的是最让他们痛心的被排斥的经历。当你跟人

们谈论关系，他们跟我讲的是如何被断绝关系的故事。

所以很快的--在大约开始研究这个课题6周以后——我遇到了这个前所未闻的东西，它揭示了关系以一种我不理解也从没见过的方式。所以我暂停了原先的研究计划，对自己说，我得弄清楚这到底是什么。它最终被鉴定为耻辱感。耻辱感很容易理解，即害怕被断绝关系。有没有一些关于我的事如果别人知道了或看到了，会认为我不值得交往。我要告诉你们的是：这种现象很普遍;我们都会有(这种想法)。

没有体验过耻辱的人不具有人类的同情或关系。没人想谈论自己的糗事，你谈论的越少，你越感到可耻。滋生耻辱感的是一种“我不够好。”的心态--我们都知道这是个什么滋味：“我不够什么。我不够苗条，不够有钱，不够漂亮，不够聪明，职位不够高。”而支撑这种心态的是一种刻骨铭心的脆弱，关键在于要想产生关系，我们必须让自己被看见，真真切切地被看见。

2、我恨脆弱!

你知道我怎么看待脆弱，我恨它。所以我思考着，这次是轮到我用我的标尺击溃它的时候了。我要闯进去，把它弄清楚，我要花一年的时间，彻底瓦解耻辱，我要搞清楚脆弱是怎么运作的，然后我要智取胜过它。所以我准备好了，非常兴奋。跟你预计的一样，事与愿违。(笑声)你知道这个(结果)。我能告诉你关于耻辱的很多东西，但那样我就得占用别人的时间了。但我在这儿可以告诉你，归根到底这也许是我学到的最重要的东西在从事研究的数十年中。我预计一年变成了六年，成千上万的故事，成百上千个采访，焦点集中。有时人们发给我期刊报道，发给我他们的故事--不计其数的数据，就在这六年中。我大概掌握了它。

我大概理解了这就是耻辱，这就是它的运作方式。我写了本书，我出版了一个理论，但总觉得哪里不对劲——它

其实是如果我粗略地把我采访过的人分成具有自我价值感的人——说到底就是自我价值感。他们勇于去爱并且拥有强烈的归属感。另一部分则是为之苦苦挣扎的人，总是怀疑自己是否足够好的人。

区分那些敢于去爱并拥有强烈归属感的人和那些为之而苦苦挣扎的人的变量只有一个。那些敢于去爱并拥有强烈归属感的人相信他们值得被爱，值得享有归属感。就这么简单。他们相信自己的价值。而对于我，那个阻碍人与人之间关系的最困难的部分是我们对于自己不值得享有这种关系的恐惧，无论从个人，还是职业上我都觉得我有必要去更深入地了解它。所以接下来我找出所有的采访记录找出那些体现自我价值的，那些持有这种观念的记录，集中研究它们。

这群人有什么共同之处?我对办公用品有点痴迷，但这是另一个话题了。我有一个牛皮纸文件夹，还有一个三福极好笔，我心想我该怎么给这项研究命

名呢?第一个蹦入我脑子的是全心全意这个词。这是一群全心全意，靠着一种强烈的自我价值感在生活的人们。所以我在牛皮纸夹的上端这样写道，而后我开始查看数据。事实上，我开始是用四天时间集中分析数据，我从头找出那些采访，找出其中的故事和事件。主题是什么?有什么规律?我丈夫带着孩子离开了小镇，因为我老是陷入像杰克逊.波洛克(美国近代抽象派画家)似的疯狂状态，我一直在写，完全沉浸在研究的状态中。下面是我的发现：这些人的共同之处在于勇气。我想在这里先花一分钟跟大家区分一下勇气和胆量。

勇气，最初的定义，当它刚出现在英文里的时候--是从拉丁文cor，意为心，演变过来的--最初的定义是真心地叙述一个故事，告诉大家你是谁的。所以这些人就具有勇气承认自己不完美。他们具有同情心，先是对自己的，再是对他人的，事实是，我们如果不能善待自己，我们也无法善待他人。最后一点，他们

都能和他人建立关系，这是很难做到的，前提是他们必须坦诚，他们愿意放开自己设定的那个理想的自我以换取真正的自我，这是赢得关系的必要条件。

他们还有另外一个共同之处那就是，他们全然接受脆弱。他们相信让他们变得脆弱的东西也让他们变得美丽。他们不认为脆弱是寻求舒适，也不认为脆弱是钻心的疼痛--正如我之前在关于耻辱的采访中听到的。他们只是简单地认为脆弱是必须的。他们会谈到愿意说出”我爱你”，愿意做些没有的事情，愿意等待医生的电话，在做完乳房X光检查之后。他们愿意为情感投资，无论有没有结果。他们觉得这些都是最根本的。

3、是灵魂觉醒，还是精神崩溃?

我当时认为那是背叛。我无法相信我尽然对科研宣誓效忠——研究的定义是控制(变量)预测去研究现象，为了一个明确的目标，去控制并预测。而我现在的使命即控制并预测却给出了这样一个结果：要想与脆弱共存就得停止控制，停止预测于是我崩溃了。它确实是我称它为崩溃，我的心理医生称它为灵魂的觉醒。

灵魂的觉醒当然比精神崩溃要好听很多，但我跟你说那的确是精神崩溃。然后我不得不暂且把数据放一边，去求助心理医生。你知道你是谁当你打电话跟你朋友说：“我觉得我需要跟人谈谈。你有什么好的建议吗?”因为我大约有五个朋友这么回答：“喔。我可不想当你的心理医生。”我说：“这是什么意思?”他们说：“我只是想说，别带上你的标尺来见我。”我说：“行。”

就这样我找到了一个心理医生。我跟她，戴安娜，的第一次见面--我带去了一份表单上面都是那些全身心投入生活的人的生活方式，然后我坐下了。她说：“你好吗?”我说：“我很好。还不赖。”她说：“发生了什么事?”这是一个治疗心理医生的心理医生，我们不得不去看这些心理医生，因为他们的废话测量仪很准(知道你什么时候在说真心话)。(笑声)所

以我说：“事情是这样的。我很纠结。”她说：”你纠结什么?”

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第三篇：TED演讲稿

So I'm here to tell you that we have a problem with boys, and it's a serious problem with boys.Their culture isn't working in schools, and I'm going to share with you ways that we can think about overcoming that problem.First, I want to start by saying, this is a boy, and this is a girl, and this is probably stereotypically what you think of as a boy and a girl.If I essentialize gender for you today, then you can dismiss what I have to say.So I'm not going to do that.I'm not interested in doing that.This is a different kind of boy and a different kind of girl.So the point here is that not all boys exist within these rigid boundaries of what we think of as boys and girls, and not all girls exist within those rigid boundaries of what we think of as girls.But, in fact, most boys tend to be a certain way, and most girls tend to be a certain way.And the point is that, for boys, the way that they exist and the culture that they embrace isn't working well in schools now.1:08How do we know that? The Hundred Girls Project tells us some really nice statistics.For example, for every 100 girls that are suspended from school, there are 250 boys that are suspended from school.For every 100 girls who are expelled from school, there are 335 boys who are expelled from school.For every 100 girls in special education, there are 217 boys.For every 100 girls with a learning disability,there are 276 boys.For every 100 girls with an emotional disturbance diagnosed, we have 324 boys.And by the way, all of these numbers are significantly higher if you happen to be black, if you happen to be poor, if you happen to exist in an overcrowded school.And if you are a boy, you're four times as likely to be diagnosed with ADHD--Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.2:02Now there is another side to this.And it is important that we recognize that women still need help in school, that salaries are still significantly lower, even when controlled for job types, and that girls have continued to struggle in math and science for years.That's all true.Nothing about that prevents us from paying attention to the literacy needs of our boys between ages three and 13.And so we should.In fact, what we ought to do is take a page from their playbook, because the initiatives and programs that have been set in place for women in science and engineering and mathematics are fantastic.They've done a lot of good for girls in these situations, and we ought to be thinking about how we can make that happen for boys too in their younger years.2:50Even in their older years, what we find is that there's still a problem.When we look at the universities,60 percent of baccalaureate degrees are going to women now, which is

a significant shift.And in fact, university administrators are a little uncomfortable about the idea that we may be getting close to 70 percent female population in universities.This makes university administrators very nervous, because girls don't want to go to schools that don't have boys.And so we're starting to see the establishment of men centers and men studies to think about how do we engage men in their experiences in the university.If you talk to faculty, they may say, “Ugh.Yeah, well, they're playing video games, and they're gambling online all night long, and they're playing World of Warcraft, and that's affecting their academic achievement.” Guess what? Video games are not the cause.Video games are a symptom.They were turned off a long time before they got here.3:52So let's talk about why they got turned off when they were between the ages of three and 13.There are three reasons that I believe that boys are out of sync with the culture of schools today.The first is zero tolerance.A kindergarten teacher I know, her son donated all of his toys to her, and when he did, she had to go through and pull out all the little plastic guns.You can't have plastic knives and swords and axes and all that kind of thing in a kindergarten classroom.What is it that we're afraid that this young man is going to do with this gun? I mean, really.But here he stands as testament to the fact that you can't roughhouse on the playground today.Now I'm not advocating for bullies.I'm not suggesting that we need to be allowing guns and knives into school.But when we say that an Eagle Scout in a high school classroom who has a locked parked car in the parking lot and a penknife in it has to be suspended from school, I think we may have gone a little too far with zero tolerance.4:55Another way that zero tolerance lives itself out is in the writing of boys.In a lot of classrooms todayyou're not allowed to write about anything that's violent.You're not allowed to write about anything that has to do with video games--these topics are banned.Boy comes home from school, and he says, “I hate writing.” “Why do you hate writing, son? What's wrong with writing?” “Now I have to write what she tells me to write.” “Okay, what is she telling you to write?” “Poems.I have to write poems.And little moments in my life.I don't want to write that stuff.” “All right.Well, what do you want to write? What do you want to write about?” “I want to write about video games.I want to write about leveling-up.I want to write about this really interesting world.I want to write about a tornado that comes into our houseand blows all the windows out and ruins all the furniture and kills everybody.” “All right.Okay.” You tell a teacher that, and they'll ask you, in all seriousness, “Should we send this child to the psychologist?”And the answer is no, he's just a boy.He's just a little boy.It's not okay to write these kinds of things in classrooms today.6:00So that's the first reason: zero tolerance policies and the way they're lived out.The next reason that boys' cultures are out of sync with school cultures: there are fewer male teachers.Anybody who's over 15 doesn't know what this means, because in the last 10 years, the number of elementary school classroom teachers has been cut in half.We went from 14 percent to seven percent.That means that 93 percent of the teachers that our young men get in elementary classrooms are women.Now what's the problem with this? Women are great.Yep, absolutely.But male role models for boys that say it's all right to be smart--they've got dads, they've got pastors, they've got Cub Scout leaders, but ultimately, six hours a day, five days a week they're spending in a classroom, and most of those classrooms are not places where men exist.And so they say, I guess this really isn't a place for boys.This is a place for girls.And I'm not very good at this, so I guess I'd better go play video games or get into sports, or something like that, because I obviously don't belong here.Men don't belong here, that's pretty obvious.7:06So that may be a very direct way that we see it happen.But less directly, the lack of male presence in the culture--you've got a teachers' lounge, and they're having a conversation about Joey and Johnny who beat each other up on the playground.“What are we going to do with these boys?” The answer to that question changes depending on who's sitting around that table.Are there men around that table?Are there moms who've raised boys around that table? You'll see, the conversation changes depending upon who's sitting around the table.7:36Third reason that boys are out of sync with school today: kindergarten is the old second grade, folks.We have a serious compression of the curriculum happening out there.When you're three, you better be able to write your name legibly, or else we'll consider it a developmental delay.By the time you're in first grade, you should be able to read paragraphs of text with maybe a picture, maybe not, in a book of maybe 25 to 30 pages.If you don't, we're probably going to be putting you into a Title 1 special reading program.And if you ask Title 1 teachers, they'll tell you they've got about four or five boys for every girl that's in their program, in the elementary grades.8:11The reason that this is a problem is because the message that boys are getting is “you need to do what the teacher asks you to do all the time.” The teacher's salary depends on “No Child Left Behind” and “Race to the Top” and accountability and testing and all of this.So she has to figure out a way to get all these boys through this curriculum--and girls.This compressed curriculum is bad for all active kids.And what happens is, she says, “Please, sit down, be quiet, do what you're told, follow the rules,manage your time, focus, be a girl.” That's what she tells them.Indirectly, that's what she tells them.And so this is a very serious problem.Where is it coming from? It's coming from us.(Laughter)We want our babies to read when they are six months old.Have you seen the ads? We want to live in Lake Wobegon where every child is above average, but what this does to our children is really not healthy.It's not developmentally appropriate, and it's particularly bad for boys.9:24So what do we do? We need to meet them where they are.We need to put ourselves into boy culture.We need to change the mindset of acceptance in boys in elementary schools.More specifically, we can do some very specific things.We can design better games.Most of the educational games that are out there today are really flashcards.They're glorified drill and practice.They don't have the depth, the rich narrative that really engaging video games have, that the boys are really interested in.So we need to design better games.We need to talk to teachers and parents and school board members and politicians.We need to make sure that people see that we need more men in the classroom.We need to look carefully at our zero tolerance policies.Do they make sense? We need to think about how to uncompress this curriculum if we can, trying to bring boys back into a space that is comfortable for them.All of those conversations need to be happening.10:20There are some great examples out there of schools--the New York Times just talked about a school recently.A game designer from the New School put together a wonderful video gaming school.But it only treats a few kids, and so this isn't very scalable.We have to change the culture and the feelingsthat politicians and school board members and parents have about the way we accept and what we accept in our schools today.We need to find more money for game design.Because good games, really good games, cost money, and World of Warcraft has quite a budget.Most of the educational games do not.Where we started: my colleagues--Mike Petner, Shawn Vashaw, myself--we started by trying to look at the teachers' attitudes and find out how do they really feel about gaming, what do they say about it.And we discovered that they talk about the kids in their school, who talk about gaming, in pretty demeaning ways.They say, “Oh, yeah.They're always talking about that stuff.They're talking about their little action figures and their little achievements or merit badges, or whatever it is that they get.And they're always talking about this stuff.” And they say these things as if it's okay.But if it were your culture, think of how that might feel.It's very uncomfortable to be on the receiving end of that kind of language.They're nervous about anything that has anything to do with violence because of the zero tolerance policies.They are sure that parents and administrators will never accept anything.11:45So we really need to think about looking at teacher attitudes and finding ways to change the attitudes so that teachers are much more open and accepting of boy cultures in their classrooms.Because, ultimately, if we don't, then we're going to have boys who leave elementary school saying, “Well I guess that was just a place for girls.It wasn't for me.So I've got to do gaming, or I've got to do sports.” If we change these things, if we pay attention to these things, and we re-engage boys in their learning, they will leave the elementary schools saying, “I'm smart.”

第四篇：TED英语演讲稿

TED英语演讲稿

TED英语演讲稿

I was one of the only kids in college who had a reason to go to the P.O.box at the end of the day, and that was mainly because my mother has never believed in email, in Facebook, in texting or cell phones in general.And so while other kids were BBM-ing their parents, I was literally waiting by the mailbox to get a letter from home to see how the weekend had gone, which was a little frustrating when Grandma was in the hospital, but I was just looking for some sort of scribble, some unkempt cursive from my mother.And so when I moved to New York City after college and got completely sucker-punched in the face by depression, I did the only thing I could think of at the time.I wrote those same kinds of letters that my mother had written me for strangers, and tucked them all throughout the city, dozens and dozens of them.I left them everywhere, in cafes and in libraries, at the U.N., everywhere.I blogged about those letters and the days when they were necessary, and I posed a kind of crazy promise to the Internet: that if you asked me for a hand-written letter, I would write you one, no questions asked.Overnight, my inbox morphed into this harbor of heartbreak--a single mother in Sacramento, a girl being bullied in rural Kansas, all asking me, a 22-year-old girl who barely even knew her own coffee order, to write them a love letter and give them a reason to wait by the mailbox.Well, today I fuel a global organization that is fueled by those trips to the mailbox, fueled by the ways in which we can harness social media like never before to write and mail strangers letters when they need them most, but most of all, fueled by crates of mail like this one, my trusty mail crate, filled with the scriptings of ordinary people, strangers writing letters to other strangers not because they're ever going to meet and laugh over a cup of coffee, but because they have found one another by way of letter-writing.But, you know, the thing that always gets me about these letters is that most of them have been written by people that have never known themselves loved on a piece of paper.They could not tell you about the ink of their own love letters.They're the ones from my generation, the ones of us that have grown up into a world where everything is paperless, and where some of our best conversations have happened upon a screen.We have learned to diary our pain onto Facebook, and we speak swiftly in 140 characters or less.But what if it's not about efficiency this time? I was on the subway yesterday with this mail crate, which is a conversation starter, let me tell you.If you ever need one, just carry one of these.(Laughter)And a man just stared at me, and he was like, “Well, why don't you use the Internet?” And I thought, “Well, sir, I am not a strategist, nor am I specialist.I am merely a storyteller.” And so I could tell you about a woman whose husband has just come home from Afghanistan, and she is having a hard time unearthing this thing called conversation, and so she tucks love letters throughout the house as a way to say, “Come back to me.Find me when you can.” Or a girl who decides that she is going to leave love letters around her campus in Dubuque, Iowa, only to find her efforts ripple-effected the next day when she walks out onto the quad and finds love letters hanging from the trees, tucked in the bushes and the benches.Or the man who decides that he is going to take his life, uses Facebook as a way to say goodbye to friends and family.Well, tonight he sleeps safely with a stack of letters just like this one tucked beneath his pillow, scripted by strangers who were there for him when.These are the kinds of stories that convinced me that letter-writing will never again need to flip back her hair and talk about efficiency, because she is an art form now, all the parts of her, the signing, the scripting, the mailing, the doodles in the margins.The mere fact that somebody would even just sit down, pull out a piece of paper and think about someone the whole way through, with an intention that is so much harder to unearth when the browser is up and the iPhone is pinging and we've got six conversations rolling in at once, that is an art form that does not fall down to the Goliath of “get faster,” no matter how many social networks we might join.We still clutch close these letters to our chest, to the words that speak louder than loud, when we turn pages into palettes to say the things that we have needed to say, the words that we have needed to write, to sisters and brothers and even to strangers, for far too long.Thank you.(Applause)(Applause)

第五篇：TED杨澜演讲稿

The night before I was heading for Scotland,I was invited to host the final of “China's Got Talent” show in Shanghai with 80,000 live audience in the stadium.Guess who was the performing guest? Susan Boyle.And I told her,“I'm going to Scothland the next day.” She sang beautifully, and she even managed to say a few

words in Chineses.“送你葱”.So it's not like “hello” or “thank you” those ordinary stuff.It's means “green onion for free”.Why did she say that? Beacuse it wae a line from our Chinese parallel Susan Boyle.a 50-some-year old woman a vegetable vendor in Shanghai,who loves singing Westerm opera, but she didn't

understand any English or French or Italian, so she managed to fill in the lyrics with vegetable names in Chinese.And the last sentence of Nessun Dorma that she was singing in the stadium was “green onion for free”.So Susan Boyle was saying that 80,000 live audience sang together.That was hilarious.So I gusee

both Susan Boyle and this Chinese vegtable vendor in Shanghai belonged to otherness.You know, they were the least expected to be successful in the business

called entertainment.Yet their courage and talent brought them through.And a show and a platform gave them the stage to realize their dreams.Well being different is not that difficult.We are all different from different perspectives.But I think being different is good.Because you present

a different point of view.You may have the chance to make a difference.My generation has been very fortunat to witness and participate in the historical transformation of China that has made so many changes in the past 20, 30

years.I remember that in the year of 1990, when I was graduating from college, I was applying for a job in the sales department of the first five-star hotel in Beijing.Great Wall sheraton, it's still there.So after being interrogated by this Japaness manager for a half an hour, he finally said,“So, Miss Yang do you have any questions to ask me?” I summoned my courage and poise and said “Yes, but could you let me know what acutually do you sell?” I didn't have a clue what a sales department was about in a five-star hotel.That was the first day I set my foot into a five-star hotel.Around the same time I was going

through an audition.The first ever open audition by national television in China with another thousand college girls.The producer told us they were looking for some sweet,innocent and beautiful,fresh face.So when it was my turn, I stood up and said,“Why woman personalitise on televison always have to be beautiful sweet,innocent, beautiful and you know supportive?” Why can't they have their own ideas and their own voice? I thought I you know, a kind of offerened them.But actually, they were impressed by my words.And so I was in the second round of competition,and then the third and the forth,after seven round of competition I was the last one to survive it.So I was on a national television prime-time show.And belive it or not,that was the first show on Chinese televison that

allowed its host to speak out of their own minds without reading an approved script.And my weekly audience at that time was between 200 to 300 million people.Well,after a few years,I was decided to go to U.S.and Clumbia university to pursure my postgraduate studies and then strated my own media company,which was unthought of, you know, during the years that I started my career.So we do a lot of things.I interviewed more than a thousands people in the past.And some times,I have young people approaching me and say “you know, Lan.you changed my life” You know, I feel pround of that.But then we also so fortunate to witness the transformation of the whole country.I was in Beijing's bidding for Olympic Games I was representing Shanghai Expo.I saw China embracing the world and vice versa.But then sometimes I'm thinking.you know,what are today's young generation up to;How are they different and what are the differences they are going to make to shape the future of China or at large the world?

So, today I went to talk about young people through the platform of social media.First of all, who are they,How do they look like? Well this is girl called Guo meimei,20 years old,beautiful.She showed off her expensive bags clothes and car on her microblog which is the Chinese vision of Twitter.And she claimed

to be the general manager of Red Cross at the Charmber of Commerce.She didn't realize that she was stepped on a sensitive nerve and aroused national

quesioning almost a turmoil, against the credibility of Red Cross.The controversy was so heated that the Red Cross had to open a press conference to clarify

it and the investigation is going on.So far,as to today, we know that she herself made up that title.Probably she feels pround to be associated with charity.ALL those expensive items were given to her as gifts by her boyfriend who used to be a board member in a subdivision of Red Cross at Chamber of Commerce.It very complicated to explain.But anyway, the publice still don't buy it,it's still boiling.Its shows us a general mistrust of goverment or goverment background institutions, which lacked transparency in the past.And also it showed us the power and the impact of social media as microblog.microblog boomed in the year of 2010,with visitors doubled and time spent on it tripled.sina.com a major news portal alone has more than 140 million microbloggers on Tencent,200 million.The most porpular blogger, it's not me.it's a movie star.And she has more than 9.5 million followers or fans.About 80 percent of those microblogger are young people under 30 years old.And because,as you know, the traditional media is still heavily controlled by the goverment.So,social media offers an opening to let the stem a little bit out.But because you don't have any other openings,so the heat comes out of this opening is sometimes very strong, active and even violent.So through microblogging.We are able to understand Chinese youth even better.So how are they different.First of all,most of them were

born in the 80s or 90s under the One-Child policy.And because of the selected abortion by families who favorede boys to girls.Now we are ended up with 30 million young men than women.That could pose a potential danger to the society.But who knows, we are in the globalized world.So they can look for girlfriends from other countries.Most of them has fairly good education.The illteracy rate in Chian among this gerneration is under 1 percent.In cities, 80 percent of kids go to college.But they are facing an aging China, with a population above 65 years old coming up with 70-some-percent this year.and about to be 15 percent by the year of 2030.And you know we have the tradition that the younger generations support the elder financially and taking care of them when they are sick.So it means young couples will have to support 4 parents who have a life expetancy as to 73 years old.So making a living is not that easy for young people.College graduates are not in short supply.In urban areas,college graduates find the starting salary is about 400U.S dollars a month.While the average rent is above$500.So, what do they do? They have to share space,squeezed in very limited space to save money.And they called themselves“tribe of ants”.And for those who are ready to get married and buy their apartment.They figured out they have to work for 30 to 40 years to afford their first apartment.That ratio in America would only cost a couple 5 years to earn but in China it's 30-40 years with the highrocketing real estate price.Among the 200 million migrant workers,60 percent of them are young people.They find themselves a sort of sanwiches between the urban areas and the rural

areas.Most of them don't want to goback to the countryside,but they don't have the sense of belonging.They work for longer hours,with less income,less social welfare.And they are more vulnerable to job losses.Subject to inflation,tightening loans from banks,appreciation of RMB or decline demand frome Europe and America for the products they produce.Last year,though an appalling incident in a southern OEM manufactureing compound in China.13 young workers in their late teens and early 20s sommitted suside,just one by one like causing a contagious disease.But they died because of all different personal reasons.But this whole incident aroused a huge outcry from society about the isolation both physical and mental of these migrant workers.For those who do return to the countryside,they find themselves very welcome locally,because with the knowledge,skills,networks they have learned in the cities with the assistance of Internet.They are able to create more jobs,upgrade local agriculture and creates new business in the less developed market.So for the past few years the coastal areas they found themselves in a shortage of labor.These diagrams show a more general social background.The first one is the Engels coefficient which explain the cost of daily necessities has dropped the

percentage all throug the past decade in terms of family income,about 37-some percent.But then in the last two years,it gose up again 39 percent indicating a rising living cost.The Gini coefficient has already passed the dangerous line of 0.4.Now it's 0.5,even worse than that in America showing us the equality of income.And so you see the whole society getting frustrated about losing some of its mobility.And also the bitterness and resentment towards the rich and powerful is quite widespreade.So any accusations of corruption or backdoor dealings between authorities or business would arouse a social outcry or even unrest.So through some of the hottest topics on microblogging we can see what young people care most about social justice and goverment accountability runs

the first what they demand.For the past decade or so,a massive urbanization or development have let us wittness a lot of reports on the forced demoliton of private property.And it has aroused huge anger and frustration among our young generation.Sometimes people get killed and sometimes people set themselves on fire to protest.So when these incidents are reported more and more frequently on the Internet,people cry for the goverment to take actions to stop this.So the good news is that earlier this year the state council passed a new regulation on house requisition and demolition and passed the right to order forced demolition from local goverments to the court.Similarly,many other issues concering public safety is a hot topic on the Internet.We heard about polluted air,polluted water,poisoned food.And guess what, we have faked beef.They have sorts of ingredients that you brush on a piece of chicken or fish and it turns it to looks like beef.And then lately,people are

very concerned about cooking oil,because thousands of people have been found recooking oil from restaurant slop.So all these things have aroused a huge outcru from the Internet.And fortunately,we have see the goverment responding more timely and also more frequently to the public concerns.While young people seem to be very sure about their participating in public policy making but sometimes they are little bit lost in terms of what they want for their personal life.China is soon to pass the U.S.as the number one market for luxury brands thats not including the Chinese expenditures in Europe and elsewhere.But you know what,half of those consumers are earning a salary below $2,000 U.S.dollars.They are not rich at all.They are taking those bags and clothes as a sense of identity and social status.And this is a girl explicitly saying on a TV dating show that she would rather cry in BMW than smie on B bicycle.But of course,we do have young people who would prefer to smile whether in a BMW or on a bicycle.So in the next phenomenon,you see a very popular phenomenon called naked wedding or naked marriage.It dose not mean they will wear nothing in the wedding.But it shows that these young couples are ready to

get married without a house,without a car,and without a diamond ring and without a wedding banquate to show their commitment to ture love.And also people are doing good through social media.And the first picture showed us that a truck cagging 500 homeless and kidnapped dogs for food processing was soptted and stopped on highway with whole country watching throug microblogging.People were donating money,dog food,and offer volunter work to stop the truck.And after 5 hours of negotiation.500 dogs were rescued.And here also people are helping to find a missing children.A father posted his son's picture onto the Internet.After thousands of recent delay,the child was found and we wittness the reunion of the family through microblogging.So happiness is the most popular word we have hear through the past two years.Happiness is not only related to personal experience and personal values.But it's also about the

environment.People are thinking about the following questions are we going to sacrifice our environment further to produce higher GDP? How are we going to perform our social and political reforms to keep pace with economic growth to keep sustainability and stability?And also how capable of the system of selr-correctness to keep more people content with all sorts of fiction going on at the same time?

I guess those are the questions people are going to answer.And our younger generation are going to transform this country while at the same time being transformed themselves.Thank you very much!(Applause)