情敌观后感

第一篇：情敌观后感

【关雪燕《情敌》】读后感，批判龚维叶为主，情敌观后感。

【不做情敌，不做朋友，如果我伸出手，你愿不愿意来到我身边。】----题记

“对不起......我下手重了点，可我绝对没有要赶你走的意思。我只是--有点生气，白天的事。”

“我说过，你不用走，我不会赶你走，就住在这里，我--我不会再随便跟你发脾气。”

文首，简介

骄傲的天之骄子，从他出生的那一天起，就注定着不平凡的际遇。庞大的家族，娇贵的独子，得天独厚的宠爱，金汤玉匙，锦衣华服，他从小就过着令多少人羡慕的生活。为了一个男人，他不惜放下身段，就因为他，龚维叶，有了一点将离开自己身边的可能。

刚开始听广播剧就是这么一段，方琰的声音别扭又倔强，其中透着隐隐的哀求。无法抗拒地，我找到了《情敌》的小说版。

《情敌》的主线，是一个女人，宁小凡。她由开始的俏皮直率，演变成无措哀伤，直到最后竟成为了心机深沉，再无快乐可言的悲哀妇女。而她，也是最终破坏两个男主角修成正果的主导因素。

看文的过程就是一种对自己的深刻折磨。方琰的一切，都让我不由自主地沉沦。文里，他已经偏离了贵公子的形象，因为龚维叶，他不要自尊，一而再再而三地告白恳求甚至对宁小凡下跪，只求她能放过龚维叶。他也是个有妈疼有爹爱的凡夫俗子，请问他是欠了谁？凭什么龚维叶可以随随便便就轻言放弃？凭什么龚维叶可以轻易收拾包裹让方琰找遍全世界都找不到？在方琰说了那么多句我爱你，在方琰说了那么多句对不起，在方琰流泪之后...广播剧里方琰绝望空灵的声音一遍遍回荡，“维叶，我不贪心了，我不求生生世世，就这一辈子，把你这一辈子给我行不行，我只要你这一辈子，到老，到死，我们都牵着手，好不好。我会给你最好的生活，绝不再骂你，不跟你打架，会做更多好吃的给你，维叶，我什么都不要你做，只用陪着我就好，只用一直陪在我身边就好。即使离得远一点，但我知道你一直都在，在我触手可及的地方，只要转个头，只要开个门，我就能看到你。维叶，我只求这样的生活，可以吗？维叶......”“维叶，外面好冷，真的，我觉得好冷，我的膝盖很疼。维叶，我们回家吧，回家就会暖和了，我给你焐身子，我给你捶背，维叶，跟我回家吧，维叶......”

而龚维叶呢？“不想再爱一个男人，不想不能站在阳光底下，不想连牵你的手都得偷偷摸摸，不想被人在背后指指点点......”“不想当别人问我你是谁时，只能尴尬地说你是情敌；不想明明有爱的人，却还得装作单身一人，被人说三道四；不想看你妈的脸色，不想再被她打，被她骂；不想连一张照片，只是站在一起的照片都不敢拿给别人看；不想连大声喊出来，我爱你的勇气都没有......”“我不想再爱你了。”

此时此刻，我已经不想去想龚维叶说出这些话的时候，是否违心是否难受。我只知道，他不顾一切地伤害方琰，狠狠地，一次一次，全都是不留余地的，我想就算对待一个仇人也不过如此了，可是对象是爱他至深的方琰，就为了一个不爱他一心在别人身上的女人，一个蠢女人。他甚至放弃了曾经对方琰的承诺，十年、二十年、三十年、五十年、永生、永世...这样的承诺。我不知道龚维叶为什么会忍心这么对待痴情如方琰这样的男人，我只知我恨透了龚维叶，恨透了这薄幸的平凡的男人。龚维叶何德何能让方琰如此倾心？他何德何能让方琰，这样一个从没有尝过人间心酸的玻璃王子一次又一次地陷入更深的绝望？

“我喜欢你，喜欢上你的平凡，放在人群中，也不会有人想看第二眼；喜欢上你的倔强，有时候跟我道个歉又能怎么样，可你却永远学不会；喜欢上你的坚持，认定的事情就要一无返顾的去做，不在乎会不会受到伤害；喜欢上你的温柔，只想要照顾别人的温柔，却不愿留点给自己。”“喜欢你身上怎么洗也洗不掉的淡淡的药味。”

“我喜欢你，喜欢和你一起看电演的奇遇，被那么多烦人的女生团团围住，是我一生从未有过的经历；我喜欢你，喜欢和你在夜间一起看过的焰火晚会，喜欢你靠在我的肩头，听一夜冬海的歌声；我喜欢你，喜欢你大口吃蛋糕的样子，喜欢你毫无顾忌的吃掉我盘子里的青椒。”

“我喜欢你，喜欢和你一起打篮/a>的日子，喜欢那个每天见面的你，即使只是菜色简单的小饭店，我也每天期待着和你相约的那个时间；我喜欢你，喜欢到在你不辞而别的新年里，整天魂不守舍，满脑子都是你的影子，我喜欢你......”“我喜欢你，喜欢和你同居的那段日子，喜欢每天守着秒针的走动，只等下了班能立刻冲回家见到你；喜欢明明期待得要死，却仍故作潇洒地坐在沙发上，看着电视机上的雪花，听着你转动门锁的声音；喜欢听你每天必备的‘我回来了’，好像那里就是属于我们两个人的家；喜欢和你一起去买菜；喜欢和你一起在厨房摆弄；喜欢吃你总也做不好、难以下咽的食物；喜欢你用沾满泡沫的手将碗递给我冲洗；喜欢你强迫的拉起我的胳膊，要我陪你一起去散步；喜欢和你一起坐在客厅的地板上，听你叽叽喳喳地说着工作上的事；喜欢不知不觉地躺在你身边，沉入梦里；喜欢这种生活化的感觉，喜欢我的生活里有你的影子，那么自然地溶进来，好像不曾分开过，读后感《情敌观后感》。我们在一起有多久，多久了呢？久到我已经不能再习惯没有你的生活。那种寂寞，任何人也替代不了、填不满的寂寞，只有你，只有你......喜欢坐在你身边，剥好果壳递到你伸手就能触到的地方，喜欢看着耍赖窝在沙发里，眼睛一眨不眨盯着电视的你，自然地拾起，扔到嘴里。就只是这样看着你，看着这样的你，我就拥有装下整个心脏的满足，我就不会再觉得孤单......”“我喜欢你，喜欢和你一起在麦场守麦；喜欢听你说小时候的故事；喜欢将你搂在我怀里，枕在我肩上，我想将你抱得更紧更紧，紧到你能看清我的心，看清你的心。我喜欢你，倔强的你、和我吵架的你、笨蛋一样傻笑的你、温柔的你、与我大打出手的你、眼里只有别人的你、忍让着我的你。喜欢在一点点加深，撑过极限就是爱。即使一次次把我往外推，即使所有人都说不可以，不适合，可我还是爱上了你。已经变成了这样的结果，跑到你身上的心无法收回。我该怎么办？怎么要自己忘记你呢？我们都没有错，只是不小心爱上了，不小心让自己陷进去了。想要退出的时候已经太晚太晚。如果我伸出手，你愿不愿意来到我身边。”

方琰的一句一句我喜欢你，足以让全世界为他沦陷，这么一大段的表白，只换来了可笑的离弃，换来了他挚爱的人的两场让他天崩地裂的婚礼。狼心狗肺的龚维叶，凭什么你能轻而易举地放弃约定！放弃誓言！

“维叶……维叶……你看看我好不好……我是方琰……方琰……为什么到了这种时候……你的心里……还是没有我……你的眼睛里……还是没办法装下我……维叶……维叶……我求你看看我……维叶……维叶……我不怪你了……不再生你的气了……维叶……我什么都不要了……你要去哪里……我都陪着你……好不好……你别再抛下我……这一次……别再抛下我……维叶……我爱你……”

甚至在受尽伤害后，方琰还要卑微地说出这种小小的哀求。他说，不要抛下我，是被抛下了多少次才能有这么懦弱的乞求？龚维叶，你有心嘛？你有感情这种人类该有的东西在嘛？

“整整一年，方大哥谁也认不清。他只记得我哥，只记得和我哥在一起的日子。他死死守着和我哥一起住过的房子，哪里也不去。他把自己折磨得人不人、鬼不鬼，方伯母、方伯父去看他，你知道他说什么吗？婶，他连自己的亲生父母都认不清，他抓着方伯母的手说‘宁叔、宁婶，求您，求您阻止他们，宁叔，求您，告诉我维叶在哪，宁婶，求求您’；如果是年轻的女人，他就当成是子凡姐和我，不停说着把维叶还给他，告诉他维叶在哪！婶，你知道我听到这些话时。我有多恨自己吗？婶，是我们，是我们大家一起把方大哥变成那样的。方大哥对我们所做的事的确很过份，可是，婶，难道，我们就有权利去伤害他，而不允许他心里产生一点点恨吗？婶，将心比心，方大哥的家人，该有多恨我们啊！”

方琰疯了，可是没人放过他，龚维叶，宁小凡，还有宁家一大家子的帮凶！就连恭维雪都动容了，可是真正应该回心转意的人却还是铁石心肠着。为了无关紧要的人，为了自己冥顽不灵的坚持。龚维叶啊，我只想说，你不配！

如果我伸出手，你愿不愿意来到我的身边？鲜血淋漓的双手还能承载什么重量？龚维叶的重量，你再也承受不起了，方琰。一时的牵手不代表能有你的生生世世，像这样一个忘恩负义没心没肺的东西，怎堪让你费尽心力苦苦相追？

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《情敌》---关雪燕

一个是英俊傲慢的富家大少，一个是平凡体贴的邻家大哥，如果你是被他们同时爱上的清丽女主，你会选择谁？

当你犹疑时，温柔和浪漫同时降临；

当你心中的天平开始偏向一方，有些感觉却缓缓流失；

当你真正决定了选择谁时，才发现，爱情……早已离去……

第二篇：电影《全民情敌》台词

Hitch

Basic principles: 基本原则

No woman wakes up saying: “God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today.” 没有女人醒来，说：希望今天不会有帅哥追我

Now, she might say, “This is a really bad time for me.” 她可能会说：现在时机可能不对 Or something like, “I just need some space.” 或是这句，我需要一点空间 Or my personal favorite: 或我最喜欢的

“I'm really into my career right now.” 我正在全心发展事业 You believe that? Neither does she.你相信吗，她也不信

You know why? Because she's lying to you, that's why.知道原因吗？她在骗你 You understand me? Lying.听懂了吗，骗你的

It's not a bad time for her.She doesn't need any space.时机并没有不对，她也不需要空间 She may be into her career...她也许专业事业 but what she's really saying is，“Get away from me now.” 但她其实是说|：给我滚开 Or possibly, “Try harder, stupid.” 或者再努力点，笨蛋 Well, which one is it? 到底是什么意思呢

60% of all human communication is nonverbal.人们勾通有六成不是靠说话 Body language.身体语言

30% is your tone.三成靠你说话的音调

So that means that 90% of what you're saying...那表示你传答的意思有九成 ain't coming out of your mouth.不用嘴巴来说的 Toby!托比 Shit!糟了

Of course she'll lie to you.当然会骗你 She's a nice person，she doesn't wanna hurt your feelings.她是个好人，她不想伤害你 What else is she gonna say?

She doesn't even know you.她还能说什么，她跟你又不熟 Yet.还不熟

Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us...幸运地和我们一样even a beautiful woman doesn't know what she wants until she sees it.就算美女也不知道自己要做什么

And that's where I come in.这就是我的工作 My job is to open her eyes.我要让她看清楚 Oh, my God!我的老天

Is this what you're looking for? 你在找它吗

Basic principles: No matter what, no matter when, no matter who...基本原则：不论何事，不论何时，不论何人，any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet.任何男人都有机会迷倒任何女人 Just needs the right broom.只要方法正确

You cannot use what you do not have.你不能应用你没有的东西 So if you're shy, be shy.If you're outgoing, be outgoing.保持自我，害羞的不要装外向，外向的不要装害羞，Nobody knows.-I'm good.Let me get a Bomb Pop and a Screwball for the lady.But what I can tell you，is that it happens in the blink of an eye.One moment, you're enjoying your life.And the next, you're wondering how you ever lived without them.Three dates is all I need.Three dates, and I'll get you here, to the high-stakes medal round...where eight out of women believe that the first kiss...will tell them everything they need to know about the relationship.After that, you're on your own.But always remember...life is not the amount of breaths you take.It's the moments that take your breath away.Did I call it or did I call it?

I mean, what did I say, six months? And when was her first date? So five-and-a-half?

God, I hate it when I'm right.What is it about guys that makes them want to screw anything that walks...even when they're going out with

someone as awesome as Allegra Cole? She's only the most fabulous thing walking around New York.Thanks, Young.Are you kidding? Of course I'm gonna run it.Why should she waste her heart on some Swedish aristo-brat? Even if he is gorgeous.If he's stupid enough to cheat...the world should know

he's dumb enough to get caught.Exactly.I'm in the elevator.See you in a minute.Good morning, how are you? Bitter, party of one.You should try it sometime.Barbados by myself?

I wouldn't last five minutes.It was just what the doctor ordered.I slept in, I did my yoga, I read a couple of books...flirted with my scuba instructor.-And apparently never left the office.I don't have time for a boyfriend.This couldn't wait.I don't want you here.You are becoming

a sick, workaholic lunatic...and this is exactly...the kind of nervous, overwrought behavior that leads to...Pictures of Sebby with a busty brunette.A very big raise.Jesus.You could find dirt in a snowstorm.Comes with the job.You know, kiddo, there is more to life than watching other people live it.Can I help he was cheating on my beach? I think it's great

that you're so good at your job.I'm just a little worried as to why.Let me worry about that.Okay.I want that column on my desk by lunch.So you'll pay for my hotel? For you to sip mai tais? I don't think so.Get out.What?

-That's good, right?

-No.No, it was in and it freaked out.You know what your problem is, Hitch? You're all about the short game.You pick your shots

based on what you see first...not what's necessarily best for you...in the long run.All of us are not married to the woman of our dreams and about to have a baby.You know, I'm very happy for you.Just not meant for everybody.So please just leave me to my hot, sweaty...totally varied, wildly experimental short game.-I was talking about pool, but whatever.Is this really barroom talk?

-You need to listen to me.I'm serious.Because when you get to a place with a woman like that...it's so beyond anything physical that...when I think back to

when I used to run around with you...and chase all these really gorgeous but shallow women...I don't know, it's kind of ridiculous and vaguely pathetic.Yeah, I see what you mean.That's pathetic.So, how'd you meet him? I was in La Perla

just buying some weekend thongs.No.Actually, he said he was buying something for his mom.His mom?

Casey, who buys high-priced lingerie for their mother?

Well, maybe he was looking for a robe.Casey, he was hitting on you while

he was buying lingerie for another woman.Why not?

-Because that's how you wind up...Like me? Is that what you were gonna say? No.I was gonna say, “Like you.” Why?

-I'm gonna Google him.So when is Grace due again?-What'd you say?

Do you want me to go get them and bring them over here? No, don't do that.Are you saying you don't wanna talk to them because you can't go home with them?

I'm just trying to keep my head above water.Urban myth.Absolutely.I was hoping he also helped women.Casey, you're not sick.You're single.You just have to relax and enjoy the ride.I haven't been ridden in months.On that happy note, I'm gonna go see if anybody interesting came in tonight.Right.Bye.I'll go get those girls, bring them over here...and we'll have a conversation like human beings.Then you're gonna home，and I'll take them back to my apartment.Well, that sounds like fun for me.But you might want to get in line, pal.I knew you didn't work here.I'm Alex.So does she know you're interested? Here, take mine.-Albert, you're crushing my arm.Sorry about that.Here you go, Allegra.Allegra? As in Allegra Cole?

Yeah, I realize that I'm not her usual type.Well, her last boyfriend owned Sweden or something.And that guy was a bum.He didn't seem like

a very nice person to me.You swing for the fence.Look, you don't think I tried talking myself out of this? I mean, you don't think I know

how ridiculous this is? I know, okay? I just thought that maybe with your help...Excuse me, sir.That's quite enough!Sit down...-No!You know what? I quit!Oh, my God.Just breathe.How'd it go?

I yelled at her.I screamed at my boss!I quit my job!-You said...-I gotta go back.-No, I didn't tell you to quit.Relax.Okay, listen, we're fine.Albert, no!

Just relax!Okay?

-Just let it marinate for a second.Trust me.Answer it.-Could I speak to you a second? Close your mouth, man.Let me rephrase that.People never talk to me like that.Stand up.I guess it's kind of scary for them.But that's why I really appreciate what you did in there.But I was wondering...do you think that you and I could get together sometime this week? You know, to go over things.Financial things.I'd like to see the areas

where I can afford to take some risks.I'll check my schedule.Great.Let me give you my number.Do you have a pen? I don't think I have one.Great.And call me Allegra.-You're done.What's your name? You have fantastic eyes.Thanks.Try to listen.This is no reflection on you.I'm just not interested.But thank you for the compliment of coming over.You're welcome.So do you like Cuban food?

Chip, seriously, that was not code for, “I wish you'd try harder.”

Are you always so shut-down and afraid that the right man might make you...Feel like a natural woman? Sorry I'm late, honey.I couldn't get a cab.How was the meeting? Well, there was a beginning, a middle, and an end.Nice to meet you, Chip.You, too.On the one hand，it is very difficult for a man...to even speak to someone who looks like you.But on the other hand，should that be your problem? So life's kind of hard all around.Not if you pay attention.You're sending all the right signals: no earrings, heels under two inches, your hair is pulled back...wearing reading glasses with no book, drinking a Grey Goose martini...which means you had a hell of a week and a beer just wouldn't do it.If that wasn't clear enough...there's always the “fuck off”

that you have stamped on your forehead.Who'd believe there's a man out there that can sit by a woman he doesn't know...and genuinely be interested in who she is, what she does, without his own agenda? I wouldn't even know what that would look like.So what would a guy like that say? He'd say, “My name is Alex Hitchens and I'm a consultant.”

But she wouldn't be interested in that...because she'd be counting the seconds until he left.Thinking he was like every other guy.Which, life experience has taught her, is a virtual certainty.But then he'd ask her name and what she did for a living...and she might blow him off.Or she might say...I'm Sara Melas.I run the gossip column at the Standard.And then he'd ask

all these penetrating questions about her...because he was sincerely, if atypically, interested.No.he could possibly make her realize that he was for real.Well, he could be funny and charming and refreshingly original.Wouldn't help.-Don't you hate it when that happens? No, I'm fine, thank you.So, tell me about her.Have you ever met someone...and you knew right away

she was gonna be important to you? Not just because of her looks, but that X factor.How'd you meet her? Actually, I was in a shop buying pajamas for my mom.And by that, of course, you mean...you were buying lingerie for another woman.Yes.You can't help

where you meet somebody.And the lingerie is for a woman I'm no longer seeing.But anyway, the girl I met, the one I was talking about...she's so sweet, funny, Southern.She gives me her number.Now she won't return my phone calls.I don't know what it is about her.I just can't get her out of my mind.You know, food has lost its taste.Colors, they seem dull.Things that used to matter...I don't know, they just no longer do.I think things aren't gonna snap back unless I...Unless I bang her.Excuse me?

You know, bang her.Clear my head.Get in, get off, get out.I think you may have misunderstood what I do exactly.No, I was told you help guys get in there.Right.But, see, here's the thing.My clients actually like women.Hit it and quit it is not my thing.Let me make one thing clear to you, rabbi.I need professional help.Well, that is for damn certain.And I'm glad you can admit it

because generally that's the hardest part.You see what I'm doing? This is what I'm about.Power suit, power tie, power steering.People can wince, cry, beg，but eventually they do what I want.So that's, like, a metaphor.Well, I'm more of a literal kind of guy.So when I do this...this is more like me saying

that I will literally break your shit off...if you ever touch me again.Okay, pumpkin? Got it.No.Pablo, I can't just mention your restaurant.Somebody has to eat there.No, somebody famous.You know that.No.Okay.Bye.I need your signature.I hate it when a guy calls a girl who did not give him her number.So this is me not calling.Over.Hello? Good morning.-“Good” would have been at :.You're a lot taller than I remember.You ever ride one of these? Not on the Hudson.So, what do you wanna do?

Race me around the Statue of Liberty? If there's time.-But you might need these.Bam.Straight shot to where?

-That's for me to know and you to find out.What you do with these babies is...Yeah, what I do with this baby is kick your ass.-What happened? You change your mind? I didn't break it.It just died.Scoot back.-Hitch, I'm already here.But you don't know where we're going.Why don't you tell me? Then we'll both know.Man, male egos.I don't know how you guys

make it through the day with them.What? It is not my ego.I just don't want to ruin the surprise.I'm sorry.Are you all right?

There.I always keep a few of those around.Thank you.I have lower back trouble.I just shove the ice packs right down there.No.That's a fresh one.So, Ellis Island.I have to admit, I have lived in New York my whole life and I've never been here.I figured that.Most people haven't.So I got my man Larry here to set us up a private tour.Are you serious? That count? Really? What?

-What was that thing?

No.You know, I was just thinking...you can't really know where you're going until you know where you've been.Amen, brother.That's kind of deep for a first date, don't you think?

What is that? Oh, my God!

That's my great-great-grandfather.That's his signature.Jesus, it's right here!How did you know?

Hitch did the search.I just found the page.I'm sorry.I saw that going differently in my mind.So my family never saw him again.Well, except for on the Wanted posters.Look, I'm really sorry.When I saw it on the computer, it said, “the Butcher of C酝iz.” I thought it was a profession, not a headline.It's just one of those horrible family legacies we've all tried to forget.But thank you.No, it was...No.Let me get you a cab.Thanks.Bye-bye.Taxi!Poor guy.Sounds like he went to a lot of trouble.It was fun.In a disastrous kind of way.I mean, this isn't exactly a hickey.At least you got a good story out of it, right? Right?

-You should try mine, it's great.Yes.Hello, Miss Cole? One moment, please.Just moving some things around.Sky Studios.Tonight I'm actually going

to this fashion thing at Sky Studios.Designer friend.I just thought it might be something

your designer friend would be interested in.Yeah, definitely.Well, great.Then I will put you back on with my...Miss Cole, this way.Great.One more.No.-I know, I'm not.I'm saying that you are an iceberg...in that over %% of your mass is below the surface.I know I'm heavy.I am.I'm talking about who you are.It's a metaphor.Accounting, business...all of that is just a small part of a much deeper, richer Albert.One more.It's gonna be loud in there...so this is our opportunity to break the touch barrier...in a non-sleazy way.So get to where it's loudest.Ask her if she'd like a drink.Lean in, place your hand on the small of her back...and say it in her ear like a secret.Watch your hand placement.Too high says, “I just wanna be friends.” Too low says, “I just wanna grab some ass.” Friends.Ass.Me.Special issues: Allegra Cole is a celebrity...which means that when people talk to her, they'll ignore you completely.She's classy, so she'll introduce you.When she does, shake hands hard

and speak up.Let them know you're there.Show her you can handle being her escort.How you doing? Nice to see you.These guys are friends with Maggie.No, but I am...It's disgusting.I'm writing an article about it.Did you see the new installation at MOMA? Disgusting.Women can always tell

when you're not being real with them.Worst thing you can do is try to fake it, because you are a great guy.And you do have something

to offer Allegra that no other man does.What was your name? Eggnog? Egon.What do you think of the design of the Jets' new football stadium on the West Side? Let me guess.Disgusting? Think it over.We'll be back.Thank you.I can't stand those guys.Really? I kind of liked them.But when all is said and done...tonight is not about Allegra.No, you're not.You have very soft hands.Thank you.So tonight, you focus on one thing and one thing only.Maggie.-Where does your inspiration come from? Is he gay?

-I don't think so.I like him.About the deejay.Generally, I have a firm no-dancing policy.But if she asks, you cannot say no.I'm not worried about dancing.But if there are people there...I'm sorry, I hate to be a stickler, but I need to be thorough.Show me what you mean

by you're not worried about it.Trust me.You know what I'm gonna do.That's what it's all about, right there.See how it gets bigger?

Now I'm gonna start the fire.But the feet are going.I start the fire, I make the pizza.Hips are always going.Can't get enough hip.From there, the Q-Tip.Q-Tip.Throw it away.That's not working, hit them with this.Don't ever...do that again.Do you hear me?

-Just expressing myself.I'm really sorry.She was there?

-I left you a bunch of messages.My phone fell in the Hudson.Yeah, well, it gets worse.I don't believe this.-I thought he was a bodyguard.-I'm the only one who will need protection.Tell me how this happened.-What? There were some photographers.Does this even look like dancing to you? That's just a little bit of me being me.No, that's you being a lot of something you don't need to ever be again.No.One dance, one look, one kiss.That's all we get, Albert.Just one shot to make the difference...between happily ever after and: “Oh, he's just some guy

I went to some thing with once.” All right? She has? It's a very big deal!What do you mean?

-Just show me how you would kiss me.I wouldn't kiss you.I'm not me, I'm Allegra.But you're really not, so...Okay, Albert, end of the night, you're dropping me off at home.You see what I'm doing? For how long?

-As long as it takes...for her to come the other %%.Okay, %%What the hell was that? So you invited Albert? Yeah.He's too much of a player

to have a bad date on his record.Is this a source or a date? A source.Well, it sounded like a date.Well, it was supposed to.So it looks like a date and it sounds like a date...Yeah.Right.Just checking.Hi.I wasn't sure you got my message.I wasn't sure you called the right guy.You must be a glutton for punishment.Either that or I really wanna pay you back.I think this is yours.Thank you.I'm gonna frame this for my wall of shame.Really? There's a whole wall? So what are we getting into? Ever been to a food rave before?

Happens once a month, all around the city.Different chefs, different venues.You any good in the kitchen? I can stand the heat, if that's what you mean.Good.Because that's my boss and his wife right over there.Interesting.Well, here's a concept:

We're paying to cook our own food.Here's another concept: Shut up.It's an evening out.The longer you're married, the less you go out.In a couple of years, we're gonna end up bricked into our apartment like a Poe story.So, Louise, are you

in the newspaper business, also? No, I'm a psychiatrist.Well, that's the last thing I'm gonna say tonight.So, Sara, you never told me.How was the Sky Studio fashion thing you went to the other night?

Did you meet anyone worth mentioning? No.Really? I find that very odd.My friends who and who? I don't.-So you know Albert? Compliments of our chef.Are you all right? I know what's happening.Wow.Aisle.-Which one's Aisle ?

-The one with the big over it.Sara, I'm fine.-You sure it's in Aisle ? What? Are you...Coquille St.Jacques.Death on a leaf!Come on!

Okay, we're doing fine.Just a couple more blocks and you get to lie down.Wait, who sings that song again? Oh, girl.Earth, Wind & Fire.You should let them sing it.I bet this would be great on the rocks.It's good, right? I bet I can ask you

just about anything right now.No.I'm a vault, baby.Locked down.What is an heiress doing with a CPA? They're going to the Knicks game.Yep, Fort Knox.He loves her so much!I'm sure he does.I'm telling you, people search

their whole lives trying to find the...Reasons that we're here I wouldn't know.You would if you saw it.Sometimes it's really hard

to see the forest through the sleaze.What about you? You ever been in love? Yep.But you're never gonna know that.Okay, I think you've had enough of the juice box.Let's go.This is some place.You live here alone?

Yeah.I actually prefer it that way.What about you?

I haven't had a roommate since college, and he upped and married my sister.Good.Relaxed.So what about you? Any siblings? Sister.Maria.Lives in D.C.Younger, right?

I could hear it in your voice.Sort of an innate protective thing.Yeah, I guess.What?

She almost died once.I was.We were skating on the pond behind our house...and she fell through the ice.My dad pulled her out.Gave her mouth-to-mouth.Longest three minutes of my life.Yeah, I'm sure.I don't think I've ever really gotten over it.Kind of defines you, doesn't it? You know like，one moment you're gliding along...the next moment you're standing in the rain watching your life fall apart.Except it was snow.Yeah.That's what I said, “snow.” You said “rain.”

Some kind of precipitation.Is that what happened to you? Nothing as dramatic

as falling through the ice.You know...it definitely...Left a scar? Yeah.I guess it's best just not to love at all, right? Or skate.Are you here?

Sara, you're such an idiot!You moron!What the hell did you think?

You're so stupid!You gotta learn, Sara.Should I come back later? Hi.I thought you left.Well, I did，but then I came back with breakfast.I figured it was the least that I could do.I didn't know what you were drinking...so I got a grande cap, a latte, an Earl Grey tea...and something with “chai” in the title.Tea for me.Tea.Yes!I was hoping you'd say that.Oh, God.You're a morning person, aren't you? Well, like I always tell my clients:

Begin each day as if it were on purpose.Yeah.-Beautiful girl.I'm so stupid.I ignored your advice.I went on that date.With who?

Not the lingerie guy.Vance Munson.And you're right, there's no way he ever had a mother.That bad?

He took me to Scalinatella，and he was affectionate and sweet.He told me all these intimate things, like how he can't taste food...and he wants three kids.So you slept with him.I never seen anybody get dressed that fast.Case, I'm so sorry.-Maybe I'll just die alone after all.What does that mean?

-It means he's really out there.And if I ever meet him, the only date he's gonna need is with a real doctor.That's him.Vance, is that you?

Yeah, hey there, beautiful.Sara Melas, from the Standard.I'd like to discuss

the dating consultant you hired...before you went out with Casey Sedgewick.You don't wanna talk, that's fine.I'm going to write this anyway.You just earned yourself a photo with a boldface caption.What? Nice.I can only imagine how the trading floor guys will react when they see this.You have no proof, no facts.Vance, I'm a gossip columnist, not the DA.Okay, how much will it cost me to stay out of this?

I don't want money.I want a name.Well, what do you know? I know this.All this for a lousy lay.Are we satisfied? Almost.No, you...You got to be...Is this really necessary? Have you seen your back?

No, but I see my front and maybe

we should be starting with some sit-ups.God!Mother of Troy!Hello?

That's crazy.Just hearing your voice makes me smile.How are you? I'm good, I think.No, actually, you know what? I feel a little strange.I'm good.Sweet Georgia Brown!What was that?

No, that's just some guy screaming.Listen, is there any context...under which you'd consider facial edema and pharmaceutical intervention a date? Probably not.How about a do-over?

-What do you have in mind? That's a makeover show? Bye.-See, it wasn't so bad, was it? here early in the first quarter.“This” being?

Great seats, great game.Great date.I mean, sort of.To me, it feels like a...Yeah.Look at her.She looks so happy.How does a guy like that end up with a girl like her? I am so jealous.I've always wanted to be able to do that.Really? Tonight is your lucky night.Let's see what you got.Okay.You ready? It's fine.Knicks off to a great start...All right, here's how it works.Central Park Zoo, tomorrow, noon, by the sea lions.No, don't worry.I'll find you.All right.Thank you.It's all right.I'm sorry.Damn me.That was it!You got it.Do it again.Look how cute they are.Thanks.I had a great time tonight, Albert.I had a great time, too, Allegra.Good night.Good night, Albert.Yes? Hold on.I like your lips.They seem to like you, too.Good night.Good night.Not yet.But I got some great shots of you biting your nails.Well, it's a big story.Really?

Yep.They're shaking hands.This is so great.I can't wait to nail this guy.Make sure you get a good shot of his face.Albert Brennaman.Excellent guy.What? Sara.-Pleasure to meet you, Geoff.Albert Brennaman.Excellent guy.You sure you want to do this? Why wouldn't I?

Louise made an interesting observation on the way home the other night.She said people who are guarded are afraid...that you can see right through them.That's why they hide behind layers of secrecy or humor.He'll have to hide behind a lot more than that once this hits the fan.She meant you.What do you want me to say? That I like the guy?

Yeah, sure, I liked the guy.Well, here's his shirt.-Why don't you think about it? Call me.No, that's okay.Sure.So, Hitch.Is that a noun or a verb? I guess it depends.Let's see, what should we toast to? Never lie, steal, cheat, or drink.But if you must lie，lie in the arms of the one you love.If you must steal，steal away from bad company.If you must cheat, cheat death.And if you must drink...drink in the moments

that take your breath away.Did you just make that up? Make yourself at home.I'm gonna check on the risotto.Look at this!Which one's the music? It does lights, too?

Let me help you out with that.Now, this is nifty.What are you doing?

How does it work, exactly? Well, usually you have dinner, then you have dessert.No, I mean your thriving business.I don't do interviews.But if you'd like to get back to the evening, I'd be happy to sit and talk.Great idea.You start.Well, maybe I would if you weren't snarling.What if I told you...that I know exactly what you do and how you do it?

And I think it's despicable!You know what?

We might need to go out to dinner.There's a great seafood restaurant I'd love to take you to.How about you just get a cleaver, butcher? You put them there!I'm telling you, that's him.-He doesn't look anything like him.No.I want you to look me in the eye and tell me that he did not hire you.Ma'am, I have never seen this man before in my life.See you later, Tony.Tony? You have got

some serious explaining to do.Albert.Hitch.You all right? I can't really talk right now.I'm kind of tied up.One, two.On three.Women will remain seated.Men will rotate to the left at the buzzer.You get two minutes each, four minutes total.So trade your talk time when you hear...the gong.If it's mutual, you get numbers.If not, better luck next time, okay? Ladies, take your seats.Case, you are a living testimonial

to the triumph of hope over experience.Thanks for coming.I know it's lame.I'm sure it's the last thing you feel like doing.I really prefer Rachmaninoff

to the heavier romantic composers.But despite the pan-Germanic anti-Semitism...I'd still have to say my favorite is Wagner.Thank you.Bye.Bye.Excuse me.That's my seat, man.My name is Ron.I'm.Albert Brennaman is a good man.In fact, Albert Brennaman is a great man.I just got out of a five-year relationship.I'm a lot of fun at parties.I like dogs...And then you're mad at me for what I do for a living? I've already got your number...so why don't you go consult your conscience? Just like Sebastian? No, just one sec.-What do you have against Allegra anyway? You don't even know me.Apparently not.You're in my seat.You really...I'm doing you a favor, believe me.Basically, I like outdoor sports.But indoor sports have their place, too.There are certain aspects of my job that are secretive.And my job is to try to find the truth.The truth? You wouldn't know the truth if it kicked you in the head.If Albert Brennaman has to take a fall for it,-so be it.Why don't you say

what's really pissing you off? I've been waiting to talk to her...-You want to sit down? Here you go.Gong!I'm Casey.Thank you.Case, you're not helping.Excuse me, I'm on you are terrific oh~~my gosh!thk u chif Excuse me, I'm on a date

Does it ever occur to women that maybe a guy might like to have a plan… Because he’s nervous

He’s not sure that he could just walk up to you and you’d respond if he said: I like you

That’s sounds good to me, ture, you can’t tell them you like them I tried that.It didn’t go well.I’ve crashed and burned on that.That is what you did, and I did like you.I just didn’t know I was being worked over by some professional.He doesn’t have a badge.The only time he was sincere or spontaneous…[ spɔn'teinjəs,-niəs ] a.自发的,自然产生的Was when everything was going wrong or when you were stoned out of your head.I’m sorry to interrupt.Do I know you? No, I don’t think so.You want to see me be spontaneous? Sure, you want a benadry!This is kind of distracting.And I haven’t gotten laid in a year!We’re sorry, why don’t you guys get back to your date? Or go somewhere Maybe from the bank Is this doesn’t work out, call him.He might hook you up with Paris Hilton.Wait, that’s it.You’re the Date Doctor, right?

You’re the Date Doctor? – do we have a problem here? Yeah, a big one!What the hell did I ever do to you? Am I missing something?

Sir, I’m gonna have to ask you to leave.Why don’t you go hit a titty bar with your buddy Vance? Wow.I don’t believe this.that’s your source? You buried yourself, Alex.Then you weren’t listening.I heard every word.You are a scam n.诡计,故事artist.You trick women into getting…don’t worry about it.We’re straight.扯平了

I should’ve asked you.But sometimes you’re so guarded.充满戒心

I just don’t wanna be another reason for you to…

I’m not someone who like to get involved past a certain point.And that point was about a week ago.Well, I just want to say I’m really sorry…and i didn’t meant to hurt you.You didn’t.– That’s relief.放松，解脱了

Hey, fella.Yeah, good.You? What you got there?

This? I figured maybe if my heart stops beating, it wouldn’t hurt so much.She hasn’t called back? You want some coffee? I want you to fix it.I got nothing, Albert.You wanna do something? We should get out tonight.Honestly, I never knew I could feel like this.I swear I’m going out of my mind.I wanna throw myself off of every building in New York.I see a cab and I wanna die in front of it, because then I’ll stop thinking about her.Look, you will.Just give it time.That’s just it.I don’t want to.I’ve waited my whole life to feel this miserable.a.悲惨的,痛苦的If this is the only way I can stay connected with her… Then this is who I have to be.No, you don’t.you can change, you can adapt.You can make it so you don’t ever have to feel like this.Ever again.Oh, my god.You just don’t get it , do you? – I get it.Let me get this straight.You’re selling this stuff, but you don’t believe in your own product.Love is my life.– No, love is your job.You wanna jump out a plane without a chute滑梯, be my guest.But forgive me if I don’t join you.This isn’t about love for you at all, is it?

This whole time, I thought I was the coward.懦夫

Where you going? – skydiving.Miss Cole, thank you very much for seeing me.You said it was a matter of life and death.That man would’ve sold his soul to make you happy.So what does that make you, the devil?

My job is not to deceive, Miss Cole.It’s to create opportunities.Like the boardroom?

Would you have noticed him otherwise? – yes.Really? – eventually.Maybe.How did you know all that stuff about me? Well, you really did your homework

Like at boarding school when everyone used to tease me because I couldn’t whistle.And having him dance like a buffoon [ bə'fu:n ] n.丑角,缺乏教养knowing that I can’t dance, either.Then telling him to drop mustard on his shirt, so I’d feel less like a dork.笨蛋

That was all you, right?

No.hell, no.– what was him?

That’s got Albert written all over it.Did you put him up to the inhaler?过滤器

Stop it.He did not show you that.He chucked it right before he kissed me.So, wait… that stuff worked for you? It was adorable.What did you do? – Nothing.Absolutely nothing.That’s good.This was your plan the whole time? – Albert.You sail off into the sunset with my girl

之人-

You were like a brother to me!He came here for you.– who? The guy you’re choking.a.I love you.I really love you.I love you more, I really do.I got somewhere I gotta go.Yeah!Who is it? – Hitch.Can I talk to you? What? – You almost hit me.Look, I just wanted to stop by, basically.See, this is the thing.This is weird.I don’t have me behind the door, you know.Close your mouth.Because I knew at some point I’d be…

Right here.But I thought that… everything would come out, but it’s like… That’s throwing me off.不太自在

Can we close the door? – what? – I’m sorry.Just, can we… I just need… Are you serious? – no, just like this.What do you want, Hitch?

You.For a whole lot of reasons that don’t make any sense to me.I mean, what, we’ve been on three dates? See, that’s what’s crazy.That’s what’s crazy, because I know.I know deep… Like just down, just in this area….that I just know…

That I want… I want to be miserable.Like really miserable.痛苦的Cause hey, if that’s what it takes for me to be happy then… Wait, that didn’t come out right.What the hell is wrong with you? – nothing, no, not you.I’m talking to me.I’ll just put this in the car.Maybe it’s like what you said.We should just both go our separate ways and then we’ll do just fine.What if fine isn’t good enough? What if I want extraordinary? – no such thing.I’m just as scared as you are, Sara.But I’m right here, and our time is right now.Well, what about before?

I am a guy.Since when do we get anything right the first time?

I’m a realist, and I know what love does to people.No, you don’t.– keys.There you go.Right here.I don’t know who this is , and I don’t care.What I do know is he’ll never feel about you the way that I do.You know how to drive a stick? – both of you, shut up!You okay? – yeah.No, I’m fine.You’ll never be fine, and neither will i Maybe I should drive.Are you trying to get yourself killed? If that’s what it takes.-Sara, what happened?

He jumped on the car.– why?

Because that’s what people do.They leap and hope to god they can fly.Because otherwise… we just drop like a rock… Wondering the whole way down:

Why in the hell did I jump? But here I am, Sara, falling.And there’s only one person that makes me feel like I can fly.That’s you.So, you kind of like me? – no, I love you.I love you , and I knew it from the first… If I say it back now, it’ll sound so stupid.This is the guy I was telling you about, Hitch, that’s my sister, Maria.And that’s her husband, Tom.Where’s your date? Don’t have one.I know.Shocking, huh?

Oh, my god.Are you all right? Grandma, what happened?

This young lady just saved my life.Ask her to dance.Well, if you insist.And this… forget it, just go.Basic principles: There are none.Excuse me, I'm on a date.Does it ever occur to women that maybe a guy might like to have a plan...because he's nervous?

He's not sure that he could just walk up to you and you'd respond if he said:

“l like you.”

-That sounds good to me.-True, you can't tell them you like them.-I tried that.It didn't go well.-I've crashed and burned on that.That is what you did, and I did like you!

I just didn't know I was being worked over by some professional.He doesn't have a badge.The only time he was sincere or spontaneous...was when everything was going wrong or when you were stoned out of your head.-I'm sorry to interrupt.Do I know you?-No, I don't think so.-You wanna see me be spontaneous?-Sure, you want a Benadryl?

This is really kind of distracting.And I haven't gotten laid in a year!

We're sorry.Why don't you guys get back to your date?

Or go somewhere.Maybe from the bank?

If this doesn't work out, call him.He might hook you up with Paris Hilton.Wait, that's it.You're the Date Doctor, right?

-You're the Date Doctor?-Do we have a problem here?

Yeah, a big one!What the hell did I ever do to you?

Am I missing something?

Sir, I'm gonna have to ask you to leave.Why don't you go hit a titty bar with your buddy Vance?

Wow.I don't believe this.That's your source?

You buried yourself, Alex.Then you weren't listening.I heard every word.You're a scam artist.-You trick women into getting---lnto getting out of their own way...so great guys like Albert Brennaman have a fighting chance.No, I want everybody to take a good look at this right now.Because this right here...this is exactly why falling in love is so goddamn hard.Sir, let's go.Now.And Vance Munson is a pig!

And I refused to work with him.You need to get your facts right.It's because of jerks like him that I even have a job.Had a job.Can you believe that guy?

Actually, I do.You...complete me.-I might just have---Shut up.Just shut up.You had me at “hello.”

No comment.This is off the record.I came to apologize.I made some assumptions about you...based on nothing, it turns out.-I guess Casey's right.My best friend---Don't worry about it.We're straight.I should've asked you.But sometimes you're so guarded.I just don't wanna be another reason for you to--

I'm not someone who likes to get involved past a certain point.And that point was about a week ago.Well, I just want to say I'm really sorry...and I didn't mean to hurt you.You didn't.That's a relief.-Hey, fella.-Yeah, good.You?

What you got there?

This? I figured maybe if my heart stops beating, it wouldn't hurt so much.She hasn't called back?

You want some coffee?

I want you to fix it.I got nothing, Albert.You wanna do something? We should get out tonight.Honestly, I never knew I could feel like this.I swear I'm going out of my mind.I wanna throw myself off of every building in New York.I see a cab and I wanna dive in front of it, because then I'll stop thinking about her.Look, you will.Just give it time.That's just it.I don't want to.I've waited my whole life to feel this miserable.If this is the only way I can stay connected with her...then this is who I have to be.No, you don't.You can change, you can adapt.You can make it so you don't ever have to feel like this.Ever again.Oh, my God.You just don't get it, do you?

I get it.Let me get this straight.You're selling this stuff, but you don't believe in your own product.-Love is my life.-No.Love is your job.You wanna jump out a plane without a chute, be my guest.But forgive me if I don't join you.This isn't about love for you at all, is it?

This whole time, I thought I was the coward.-Where you going?-Skydiving.Taxi!

Mr.Hitchens.Miss Cole, thank you very much for seeing me.You said it was a matter of life and death.That man would've sold his soul to make you happy.So what does that make you, the devil?

第三篇：营销“情敌”交锋的谈判技巧

营销“情敌”交锋的谈判技巧

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我们支招教你勇闯3关，提高危机时刻的谈话智商--第一关：谈话时机 谢丽29岁会计

第一次参加男友单位的出游活动，我惊讶地发现有一双眼睛满含醋意地盯着我。男友帮我拎包时、光着脚背我过河时、掏腰包给我买水晶吊坠时，其他同事打趣开玩笑，那个女人则郁郁寡欢。最让我生疑的是，男友趁我不注意，主动跑去讨好她，她不理不睬，分明就是一个恋爱中吃醋的女人。

我决定跟男友谈一次，弄清他们到底是怎么回事，同时也敲敲他的警钟。没料到他死不承认，反倒怪我小心眼儿、无中生有、不信任他。

“她高兴不高兴跟我有什么关系，你可真是莫名其妙。你不相信直接去问她好了！”他这一番抢白，倒让我不知说什么好了。谢丽谈话智商得分：70

把脉：谢丽谈话智商分数偏低的主要原因，是她没有掌握好谈话时机。

A谢丽发现一点小小异常后马上与男友谈话，危险之处在于也许男友跟那个女同事没什么关系，你这一提醒，他才发现原来公司里有人暗恋自己。

B从自述来看，谢丽掌握的证据不过是一些自我感觉与猜测。通常，男人最反感的就是妻子或女友捕风捉影地抓住一点儿小事没完没了。这种情况，他们定会誓死反抗，让你下不了台。男人们很清楚，纵容这些小疑心，自己就永无宁日。谈话时机三原则

1、无论你多么相信你的第六感，也请在发现“问题”三次后再与他谈话。这样才不冤枉他，也给自己一段消化问题、冷静思考的时间。除非一开始发现的就是致命环节，比如当街拥吻甚至捉奸在床。话说回来，如果发现了此类问题，咱也没什么好谈的了。

2、男女之间相处久了，有一点点暧昧其实难免，尤其在你火眼金睛的注视下。因此，发现暧昧之后，别大惊小怪地立刻断定感情危机到来了。跟你最要好的朋友聊聊你的倒霉发现，请她帮忙分析一下，你是不是神经过敏，这样的“小事”有没有必要郑重跟他谈。

3、即使天塌下来也要给自己至少一天冷静时间。第一时间谈话，你当然比较冲动，冲动说出来的往往是主观“不讲理”的话，难以以德服人。第二关：话题切入点 小文33岁管理人员

我老公出差时，手机占线。鬼使神差的我拨打他女秘书的电话，居然也是占线。这样的状况一直持续着，直到一个多小时后，两部手机同时通了。我打通老公的电话兴师问罪。他语气明显慌乱，安慰我半天。见我不依不饶，突然来了个大转弯，说跟女秘书谈工作很正常，既然我这样疑心，以后每次通话都录下来给我听好了。最后，他总结了五点跟女秘书谈话的内容(当然都与工作有关)。我心里很清楚，男上司和女秘书深夜通电话这么久是不正常的，可他一口咬定为了工作，有理有据。我说左，他说右，谁也没有说服对方的证据，大吵了一架！小文谈话智商得分：80

把脉：女人不是生来就知道怎么跟有可能外遇的男人谈话，不可避免的一个错误就是以“你与她究竟是什么关系，你为什么要跟她这样那样”为切入点。开始已经将危机谈话引入歧途，男人不可能承认他和她有什么不正当关系(即便真的有)，于是你说这种行为不正常，他说正常，争论个三天三夜又有什么用呢？ 良好的切入点是成功的一半

1、就事论事的切入常使谈话陷入无谓的争执。既然你已经看到了令自己不爽或生疑的事情，那么你要说的并不是该不该这样做，而是告诉他你的感受与想法。

“我不是怪你，可能是我太敏感了。我想起咱们刚结婚时……”这样的开始男人们比较容易接受，或许你们危机产生的原因并不是来自另一个女人的勾引，而是很久都没有一次知心的交流。

2、一开始就抱着批评和抱怨的态度，有理也输七分。他是你此刻受伤的罪魁祸首没错，你就完全没有过失？恋爱和婚姻中，没有任何一方有义务承担感情危机的全部责任，只要你没打定分手或离婚的主意，就先从自身找原因吧。

3、“我是个没什么情趣的女人，这些年你已经忍了很久。如果你有什么想法，或是有更好的选择，别让我最后一个知道。你说呢？”当你感觉到他的外遇危机时，事实多半已经存在，解决危机的谈话应该以此为前提，必须绕过纠缠不清的事实认证阶段，才能开始真正解决问题的谈话。第三关：如何跟她谈 蔡菲27岁美容师

无意间在他的手机信息发件箱中看到一条语气亲昵的短信，收信人却不是我。当时我什么都没说，隔了几天，他的手机放在饭桌上，屏幕一亮，又是那个号码的短信。“你有短信！”我说。他说不管它，肯定是广告。匆忙吃完饭，他像抓金砖似地紧紧把手机握在手里跑到阳台上去了。

必须提醒一下了！先跟谁谈呢？思来想去，我想到了一个一石二鸟的主意。我打电话给她，告诉她我在老公手机里发现一条发给她的短信。说到这儿，我故意停顿了足足有十秒。这种情况，默不做声绝对是威慑，因为她不知道我有没有看到了她发过来的短信，也不知道我接下来会说什么。“我给你打电话没别的意思，是替老公给你道个歉。尽管我不了解你，但我觉得作为已婚男人，发这样的短信干扰他人是不道德的，希望他没有影响你的正常生活。唉，没办法，男人都不老实，我也不是第一次给他处理这事儿了。被伤害的总是女人，只能自己保护好自己。” 蔡菲谈话智商得分：90

把脉：很多女人在爱情或婚姻危机中都产生过找那个女人谈谈的想法。一来家里这个男人有时很难对付，二来在女人身上找突破口相对容易。如果你不能像蔡菲这样心平气和地与她谈，最好免开尊口。无论你多么有道理，一旦情绪失控，出言不逊，“没素质没礼貌”的话很快就成为她被伤害的证据，于是你家那位深感对不起她，更加惜香怜玉，她也会站到你的敌对立场，变本加厉而毫无愧意。

第四篇：手刃情敌冒名逃亡八年归案

2005年12月20日,锦州市古塔公安分局刑警大队副大队长韩建伟、中队长李壮,将杀人潜逃8年之久的犯罪嫌疑人邹士铭从浙江省衢州市押解回到锦州市。这个曾经轰动整个锦城的杀人案,经过8年的追踪,行程两万多公里,动用警力200余名,二上东北,三下江南,拨开层层迷雾,克服重重困难,终于划上圆满的句号。

清晨血案

1997年6月,19岁的邹士铭从老家吉林省辉南县来到辽宁省锦州市电业宾馆做学徒工,并和宾馆一女服务员谈起了恋爱。此前邹士铭的女友还和同在电业宾馆学徒的高辉处过对象,而邹士铭恰好和高辉同住一个宿舍。高辉是本地人,因为这层关系平素总欺负邹士铭,邹士铭又不敢得罪人家。所以邹士铭憋一肚子火气,也总想找机会报复。当年8月的一天晚上,邹士铭从朋友那里借100元钱,准备第二天回老家看看。他想到自己与女友谈恋爱却被高辉从中搅和,一直不顺利,心里很难受,便独自来到酒店喝起闷酒。酒入愁肠,心情更糟,喝着喝着,一种罪恶的念头在他的脑海中萌生,宰了姓高的,出口恶气!第二天早上7点,邹士铭把所有的衣物收拾好,装入皮箱,打了一辆出租车在宿舍外等候。然后悄悄潜回屋内,见高辉还蒙头大睡,就从后厨拿了一把尖刀,返回宿舍。他隔着蚊帐,趁高辉熟睡之机,凶狠地猛扎数刀,致使高辉当场死亡。同宿舍的人被惊醒了,见状高喊“杀人了”,邹士铭恶狠狠地说:“谁也不许喊,再喊我就杀死你们!”说完便破门而逃。案件发生后,古塔公安分局组织了大量警力进行侦破,经过调查得知,作案人与被害人同是这家宾馆的学徒工,名叫邹士铭,吉林省人。随后,分局组织近百名警力赶往吉林,对邹士铭进行全力抓捕,几经调查,但始终没能抓到。1999年7月,邹士铭被列为网上逃犯,一直被公安机关追踪,可这一追就是8年。

二上吉林

2005年8月,以局长李维民为首的新一届分局领导班子上任后,对此案十分重视。党组班子专门召开了刑侦工作会议,对全区现存的杀人积案进行了重新梳理,抽调精兵强将组成专案组,决定全方位攻坚邹士铭杀人案。局长李维民先后多次亲临刑侦大队召开案情分析会,主管刑侦副局长贺文德坐阵刑侦大队现场指挥,刑侦大队长殷亮带领大队班子精心组织,周密部署,在吃透案情的基础上进行重点攻坚,成立了由大队长殷亮、副大队长韩建伟等4名侦查员参加的专案组。同时,分局党组对侦破杀人积案工作还给予了警力上的优先、物资上的保障、资金上的倾斜。为了及早尽快侦破此案,分局领导亲自带领侦破小组再次驱车前往黑龙江、吉林、内蒙古等地进行艰苦细致的摸排工作。

从逃犯邹士铭在宾馆学徒时留下的身份证得知,他家住吉林省通化市辉南县样子哨镇邵家店村会房沟九屯,经过一周时间的摸排,走访了几十个企事业单位,并在当地公安部门的配合下,查出了与邹士铭有关系的亲属和朋友30多人。但这30多人当中,有的音讯皆无,有的不知去向,有的根本不与其来往。这次摸排的最大收获就是知道了邹士铭和父亲或母亲在一起,还有一个姐姐在外地。这使侦查员们心里一亮,只要找到邹士铭的父母和姐姐,就一定会找到邹士铭。可是,邹士铭的父母早年离婚,父亲在老家吉林再婚,根本不与邹士铭往来。邹士铭母亲和姐姐都已搬到外地,详情一点不知。这下侦查员又陷入了困境,刚刚见亮的线索又断了,他们只好返回锦州,重新调整侦破方案。

回来后,局长李维民主持召开会议,并要求专案组的同志们要坚定信念,树立信心,发扬刻苦顽强和连续作战的精神,认认真真做好每一步侦破工作。同时,还要求参战刑警每10天一汇报,并且,每次汇报都要有新内容,没有新内容就视为工作没有进展。这位年近半百,饱经沧桑的公安局长不但给刑警们施加压力,而且还自身增加压力,他在几个月前的省公安系统总结大会上曾表态发言:“我们古塔公安分局在今后的‘命案攻坚’、‘打处增长率’二项指标中,一定摘下落后的帽子,年底,二项指标若完不成,我将自动辞职。” 刑警们看到局长有这样的决心,也都深受鼓舞,同时也增强了战胜困难的信心和勇气。同时李局长还要求对此案件要有新突破,查不出结果决不收兵,在2005年底前破案,否则刑警大队领导班子解散。顿时,专案组的刑警们感到自己肩上的担子很沉重。他们吃不下饭,睡不好觉,有的嘴上起了大泡,他们顶着压力再次潜往吉林省辉南县邹士铭的老家去查访。

这次查访的主要对象的是邹士铭的母亲和姐姐。到达辉南县以后,在当地街道干部的帮助下,了解到邹士铭的母亲和姐姐在上海居住,但地址不详。然而,那么大的上海,要想查找一个不知地址的住户,简直如同大海里捞针,根本无法查找。后来,刑警们又不辞辛苦通过其它途径,耐心细致地走访调查,终于查出了邹士铭的姐姐住在上海市浦东区方华路xxx栋楼。于是,他们火速赶往上海。

上海密查

在上海浦东区,刑警们在当地警方的协助下,很快找到了邹士铭的母亲宋xx、姐姐邹xx、姐夫陈xx,而他们一口否认,邹士铭根本没有到他们这里来过。于是刑警们便蹲坑守候。可总是这样守候也不是办法,不知道邹士铭什么时候出现,刑警们又走访了周围的居民。有一位经常到邹xx家串门的邻居反映:几个月前,他们家来了三口人,小两口带个孩子,那男的管老太太叫妈妈,孩子叫奶奶。邻居问老太太说:“你不是说只是有一个女儿吗?怎么又来一个儿子呢?”老太太又不肯说出实情。至此,线索又中断了,刑警们只好从上海又撤回到锦州,向分局领导进行汇报。

在古塔公安分局的会议室里,局长李维民一边听刑警们的汇报,一边思考着下一步的侦破方案:邹士铭的母亲和姐姐一口咬定邹士铭没有来过上海,而邻居又说她家曾来过两个大人和一个孩子,那么那个男的是不是邹士铭?如果不是,又为什么管老太太叫母亲?孩子又管她叫奶奶?孩子是不是他的孩子?女人是不是他的妻子?他们又是从哪里来的?一连串的问号,让李局长陷入了沉思之中。下一步该怎样排兵布阵?该从哪里选择突破口?急需他来定夺,如果一旦指挥失误,不但会打草惊蛇,而且还将会影响整个案件的侦破。为了不打草惊蛇,侦查员再次去上海秘密调查邹士铭母亲家来人的情况。经过走访周围的群众了解到,那次来的三口人,男的是东北口音,约二十六七岁。同时又了解到老太太前些天到浙江省衢州市去串亲十几天,她女儿邹xx的户口也在衢州市。老太太曾经说过跟前只有一个女儿,再没有别的亲人,除非是她的儿子——逃犯邹士铭。根据这一线索,分局立刻派人赶到浙江省衢州市,以查询邹士铭姐姐邹xx的户口为由,调查走访周围的群众。

浙江抓捕

到浙江衢州之后,刑警们首先通过当地派出所找到邹士铭姐姐的户口所在地——万泉镇,同时又了解到这家住三口人,夫妻俩带一个孩子,男主人叫孙永波,是东北人。虽然名字不对,但这三口人与在上海邹士铭母亲家了解到的情况相吻合,而男的又是东北人,更加坚定了侦查员的信心。于是刑警们又到当地民政部门的婚姻登记处,查验孙永波真实身份,经查此人的身份证的名字确是叫“孙永波”,家住黑龙江省肇东市,身份证经过核查也是真的。

疑点上断定,此人就应该是逃犯邹士铭,可他怎么会有别人真实的身份证呢?这个“孙永波”与邹士铭究竟是什么关系?本来以为柳暗花明的案件,又陷入僵局。刑警们没有放弃对“孙永波”的调查,并且得知此人在市内租一个门市房,以卖葱花鸡蛋饼为生。刑警们走遍市区的大街小巷和20多个农贸市场,秘密查找卖葱花鸡蛋饼的东北人,果然功夫不负有心人,终于在茫茫人海中找到了所谓的“孙永波”。

为防止意外,刑警们没有直接接触他,而是通过当地执法局以城管的名义对商贩进行登记。当问到孙永波的名字时,他又说叫“孙小峰”。这不怪啦,他的身份证明明是“孙永波”,怎么又变成了“孙小峰”?他为什么要再次改变名字?这更加引起了刑警们对他的怀疑,可以断定即使不是逃犯邹士铭,也一定是个有案底的人,但直接讯问又怕他逃跑。经过商量,刑警们决定抓捕讯问,但又怕抓错,只好秘密进行。第二天早晨天刚亮,刑警们就来到“孙永波”出租房前准备抓捕,可人没了,门反锁着!刑警们的心一下又凉了,难道是他发现什么了?还是有人给他通风报信逃跑了?正当大家猜测难解之时,有人提出就近搜查,挨家寻找,果然在他家不远处,发现了他卖饼的货车和一些物品。根据这一情况,刑警们断定,他一定不会走远,还会回来,便就地守候。大约过了一个多小时,从远处来了一位身穿大衣的男子,急匆匆直奔门市房而来。到近前打开门进屋,正当他脱下大衣准备和面时,刑警们猛然冲进屋去,以迅雷不及掩耳之势,将其抓获。此人正是所谓的“孙永波”。

天网恢恢

经审问,此人一口咬定自己不是邹士铭,而叫“孙永波”,并拿出身份证证实自己所说是真的。经过核对“孙永波”的身份证确实是真的,也确有其人。当刑警问他8年前锦州市电业宾馆杀人的事时,他一言不发,后来只说什么也不知道。刑警们没有灰心,而是想办法突破他的心理防线。经过一天一夜的审讯,加之政策攻心,孙永波终于承认自己就是逃犯邹士铭,从而彻底交代了8年前在锦州杀人犯罪的全部事实,也解开了刑警们心中所谓“孙永波”的疑团。

1997年6月,邹士铭到锦州打工时,因谈恋爱与同在一起学徒的高辉发生矛盾后,趁其熟睡之机,将其杀死在宿舍内,之后乘出租车潜逃。开始时他趁夜色沿火车道线徒步行走,后来又扒货车到沈阳、大连等地,饿了就沿途乞讨。一次在大连乞讨时捡到一张身份证,他一看照片上的人跟自己长的很相似,地址是黑龙江省肇东市,名叫孙永波。于是他心里一动,把这张身份证揉搓的模糊不清,然后用乞讨来的钱买了去肇东市火车票,径直到身份证所在地的户籍部门,说自己不小心把身份证弄坏,想重新照张照片,按照身份证的地址,给他重新补办了一个。这样,邹士铭就成了一个真正的“孙永波”。之后又一路乞讨到河北邯郸,后又来到杭州。

在杭州他开始在一家饭店打工,由于他肯吃苦,不久就当上了领班,每月工资800元左右。有了本钱他又学起了美发,在学习美发的过程中认识了女友杨某,不久两人便谈起了恋爱。2003年9月,两人回到女友的家乡浙江省衢州市结婚了。他做了倒插门女婿。第二年,他们生了一个儿子,并让孩子随母亲姓杨,再后来,他们在市内租了一个门市房,做起了卖葱花烙饼的生意,月收入一二千元,生活得很美满。没想到,法网恢恢、疏而不漏,潜逃8年,改名换姓,还是被公安机关抓捕归案。

第五篇：阮玲玉的情敌梁赛珍生平简介

阮玲玉的情敌梁赛珍生平简介

梁赛珍1926年从影，参演大亚影片公司影片《孽海惊涛》。次年转入华剧影片公司，开始在《情奴》等影片中扮演重要角色。1929年后，曾为海滨，复旦等影片公司主演影片《海滨豪侠》，《太极标》等。1931年，入明星影片公司，主演了其最著名电影《火烧红莲寺》。20世纪30年代梁赛珍曾与唐季珊交往，又无辜卷入阮玲玉自杀的**中，后良心发现，与妹妹赛珊一道将阮玲玉的真实遗书公开；在1937年的上海，梁女士积极参与抗日，是红十字队的护士，积极参与看护义务近两个月的时间；1939年，梁赛珍女士带着姐妹们来到了新加坡演出作短暂逗留，继续筹备移民美国的计划之余，更全力参与抗日募款和策划主办宣传演出的活动。然而二战之火蔓延到新加坡，梁氏姐妹因为参与抗日被日方列入黑名单，只好再度准备逃难。挪移了现金存款到澳洲后，姐妹们却来不及乘船离去，只好滞留新加坡。谁知造化无常，不想该船不久被日军击沉，而逃过一劫的姐妹们也只好四处躲难，以防日军骚扰。其间，梁赛珠还化名从事自行车买卖生意，胆识过人。梁赛珍于1941年出任南洋歌舞团女艺员协会的主席，战后又回到新加坡，并于1948年出任南天酒店七彩龙凤舞宫的总经理。