第一篇:拥抱他人,拥抱自己 TED 演讲稿
Embracing otherness.When I first heard this theme, I thought, well embracing otherness is embracing myself.And the journey to that
place of understanding and acceptance has been an interesting one for me, and it's given me an insight into the whole notion of self, which I think is worth sharing with you today.We each have a self, but I don't think that we're born with one.You know how newborn babies believe they're part of everything;they're not separate.Well that fundamental sense of oneness is lost on us very quickly.It's like that initial stage is over--oneness: infancy, unformed, primitive.It's no longer valid or real.What is real is separateness.And at some point in early babyhood, the idea of self starts to form.Our little portion of oneness is given a name, is told all kinds of things about itself.And these details, opinions and ideas become facts, which go towards building ourselves, our identity.And that self becomes the vehicle for navigating our social world.But the self is a projection based on other people's projections.Is it who we really are? Or who we really want to be, or should be? 拥抱他人。当我第一次听到这个主题时,我觉得拥抱他人,就是拥抱我自己。对于我来说,通往理解和接纳的路是十分有意思的,并且让我对“自我”这一概念有了深刻的理解。我想这值得在今天和你们分享。我们都有一个自我,但我并不认为这是与生俱来的。你看那些刚出生的小婴儿,他们认为自己属于任何事物,他们并不是脱离的。这种最基本的同一性会很快从我们身上消失,如同最初始的状态已经结束。同一性:婴儿期、未成形的、原始的,将不复存在,取而代之的是分离。在婴儿期的某一点,关于自我的意识开始萌芽。我们同一性的一小部分被赋予了一个名字,被告知关于它自己的任何事情。这些细节、观点和想法变成事实,这些都帮我们形成自我,以及自己的身份。然后这个自我就成为一个工具,用来探索周围的这个世界。但是这个自我实际上是一个以其他人的投影为基础的投影。这就是真正的我们吗?是我们真正想成为,或者应该成为的人吗?
I grew up on the coast of England in the 70s.My dad is white from
Cornwall, and my mom is black from Zimbabwe.Even the idea of us as a family was challenging to most people.But nature had its wicked way, and brown babies were born.But from about the age of five, I was aware that I didn't fit.I was the black atheist kid in the all-white
catholic school run by nuns.I was an anomaly.And my self was rooting around for definition and trying to plug in.Because the self likes to fit, to see itself replicated, to belong.That confirms its existence and its
importance.And it is important.It has an extremely important function.Without it, we literally can't interface with others.We can't hatch plans and climb that stairway of popularity, of success.But my skin color wasn't right.My hair wasn't right.My history wasn't right.My self
became defined by otherness, which meant that, in that social world, I didn't really exist.And I was other before being anything else--even before being a girl.I was a noticeable nobody.我于上世纪七十年代生长在英格兰的海岸边。我父亲是来自康沃尔的白人,我母亲是来自津巴布韦的黑人。对于许多人来说,是无论如何也想不到我们是一家人。但大自然自有意想不到的一面,棕色的孩子出生了。但自从五岁开始,我就察觉出我的格格不入。我是一个信奉无神论的黑人孩子,在一个由修女运转的白人天主学校,我是一个另类。我的自我在不断寻找一个定义,并试图将自己套入定义。因为自我都是愿意去融入,看到自己被复制,有归属感。那能确认自我的存在感和重要性,这很重要。这有一个极端重要的功能。没有一个对自我的定义,我们简直不能和其他人交流。我们无法制定计划,无法爬上潮流和成功的阶梯。但我的肤色不对。我的发色不对。我的来历不对。我的自我被他人定义,这意味着在社会上 我并不存在。我首先被定义为一个另类,甚至先于被定义为一个女孩。我是一个引人注意的没有人。
We've created entire value systems and a physical reality to support the worth of self.Look at the industry for self-image and the jobs it creates, the revenue it turns over.We'd be right in assuming that the self is an actual living thing.But it's not;it's a projection, which our clever brains create in order to cheat ourselves from the reality of death.But there is something that can give the self ultimate and
infinite connection--and that thing is oneness, our essence.The self's struggle for authenticity and definition will never end unless it's
connected to its creator--to you and to me.And that can happen with awareness--awareness of the reality of oneness and the projection of self-hood.For a start, we can think about all the times when we do lose ourselves.It happens when I dance, when I'm acting.I'm earthed in my essence, and my self is suspended.In those moments, I'm
connected to everything--the ground, the air, the sounds, the energy from the audience.All my senses are alert and alive in much the same way as an infant might feel--that feeling of oneness.我们创造了整个价值系统,以及一个客观的现实,用以支持自我的价值。看看由个人形象带动的产业,还有它提供的工作,以及它创造的价值。我们可能会假设,这个自我是真实存在的。但我们错了;这只是一个投影,是由我们聪明的大脑创造出来的,来欺骗我们自己无需面对死亡的现实。但总有一些事,能赋予自我终极无尽的联系,那就是同一性,我们的本源。自我对于真实性和定义的挣扎永远不会停止,除非自我能够与创造者相连——与你,与我。这和意识的觉醒一同存在,意识到同一性的现实,以及自我的投影。一开始,我们可以想想那些我们失去自我的时候,当我跳舞时,表演时。我根植于我的本源,我的自我被抑制了。在那些时刻,我与万物相连——大地,空气 声音,观众的能量。我的所有感官都是警觉和鲜活的,如同一个婴儿感受到的一般——那种同一性的感觉。
And when I'm acting a role, I inhabit another self, and I give it life for a while.Because when the self is suspended so is divisiveness and
judgment.And I've played everything from a vengeful ghost in the time of slavery to Secretary of State in 2004.And no matter how other these selves might be, they're all related in me.And I honestly believe the key to my success as an actor and my progress as a person has been the very lack of self that used to make me feel so anxious and insecure.I always wondered why I could feel others' pain so deeply, why I could recognize the somebody in the nobody.It's because I didn't have a self to get in the way.I thought I lacked substance, and the fact that I could feel others' meant that I had nothing of myself to feel.The thing that was a source of shame was actually a source of enlightenment.And when I realized and really understood that my self is a projection and that it has a function, a funny thing happened.I stopped giving it so much authority.I give it its due.I take it to therapy.I've become very familiar with its dysfunctional behavior.But I'm not ashamed of my self.In fact, I respect my self and its function.And over time and with
practice, I've tried to live more and more from my essence.And if you can do that, incredible things happen.当我表演一个角色时,我进入了另一个自我,我在一段时间内赋予其生命。当自我被抑制时,它的多样性和判断也会一同被抑制。我出演过许多角色,从奴隶时代想要复仇的鬼魂到2004年的国务卿。无论这些角色是多么的不同,他们全都与我相连。我诚恳地认为,我作为一个演员能够成功的关键,以及作为一个不断进步的人,是因为自我的缺失让我觉得非常焦虑和不安。我总是在想,为什么我能如此深切地感受到他人的痛苦,为什么我能辨认出一个被忽视的人。那是因为我没有一个自我挡在中间。我想我缺少一种介质,我能
够感受他人这个事实说明我感受不到我自己。这曾经导致了我的羞愧,其实是给我启蒙的源头。
Crucially, we haven't been figuring out how to live in oneness with the Earth and every other living thing.We've just been insanely trying to figure out how to live with each other--billions of each other.Only we're not living with each other;our crazy selves are living with each other and perpetuating an epidemic of disconnection.Let's live with each other and take it a breath at a time.If we can get under that heavy self, light a torch of awareness, and find our essence, our connection to the infinite and every other living thing.We knew it from the day we were born.Let's not be freaked out by our bountiful nothingness.It's more a reality than the ones ourselves have created.Imagine what kind of existence we can have if we honor inevitable death of self,appreciate the privilege of life and marvel at what comes next.Simple awareness is where it begins.关键在于,我们尚未找出怎样与地球和万物一起,生活在同一性中。我们一直在疯狂地寻找怎样和数十亿的其他人一起生活。我们并非只是和其他人一起生活。我们疯狂的自我们在一起生活,与他人的隔断也如同传染病一般蔓延。让我们生活在一起,歇一口气,慢慢来。如果我们能进入那沉重的自我,点燃一支觉察的火炬,寻找我们的本源,我们和永恒以及万物的联系,我们从出生那天就知道的联系。我们无须因为大量的空虚而慌张。相比于我们创造出的那些,这空虚更加真实。想像我们能有怎样的存在方式,当我们正视自我不可避免的死亡,感恩生命的权利,惊异于即将到来的事物。这些都来自于简单的觉察。
第二篇:拥抱他人,拥抱自己 TED 演讲稿
Embracing otherness.When I first heard this theme, I thought, well embracing otherness is embracing myself.And the journey to that place of understanding and acceptance has been an interesting one for me, and it's given me an insight into the whole notion of self, which I think is worth sharing with you today.We each have a self, but I don't think that we're born with one.You know how newborn babies believe they're part of everything;they're not separate.Well that fundamental sense of oneness is lost on us very quickly.It's like that initial stage is over--oneness: infancy, unformed, primitive.It's no longer valid or real.What is real is separateness.And at some point in early babyhood, the idea of self starts to form.Our little portion of oneness is given a name, is told all kinds of things about itself.And these details, opinions and ideas become facts, which go towards building ourselves, our identity.And that self becomes the vehicle for navigating our social world.But the self is a projection based on other people's projections.Is it who we really are? Or who we really want to be, or should be? 拥抱他人。当我第一次听到这个主题时,我觉得拥抱他人,就是拥抱我自己。对于我来说,通往理解和接纳的路是十分有意思的,并且让我对“自我”这一概念有了深刻的理解。我想这值得在今天和你们分享。我们都有一个自我,但我并不认为这是与生俱来的。你看那些刚出生的小婴儿,他们认为自己属于任何事物,他们并不是脱离的。这种最基本的同一性会很快从我们身上消失,如同最初始的状态已经结束。同一性:婴儿期、未成形的、原始的,将不复存在,取而代之的是分离。在婴儿期的某一点,关于自我的意识开始萌芽。我们同一性的一小部分被赋予了一个名字,被告知关于它自己的任何事情。这些细节、观点和想法变成事实,这些都帮我们形成自我,以及自己的身份。然后这个自我就成为一个工具,用来探索周围的这个世界。但是这个自我实际上是一个以其他人的投影为基础的投影。这就是真正的我们吗?是我们真正想成为,或者应该成为的人吗?
I grew up on the coast of England in the 70s.My dad is white from Cornwall, and my mom is black from Zimbabwe.Even the idea of us as a family was challenging to most people.But nature had its wicked way, and brown babies were born.But from about the age of five, I was aware that I didn't fit.I was the black atheist kid in the all-white catholic school run by nuns.I was an anomaly.And my self was rooting around for definition and trying to plug in.Because the self likes to fit, to see itself replicated, to belong.That confirms its existence and its importance.And it is important.It has an extremely important function.Without it, we literally can't interface with others.We can't hatch plans and climb that stairway of popularity, of success.But my skin color wasn't right.My hair wasn't right.My history wasn't right.My self became defined by otherness, which meant that, in that social world, I didn't really exist.And I was other before being anything else--even before being a girl.I was a noticeable nobody.我于上世纪七十年代生长在英格兰的海岸边。我父亲是来自康沃尔的白人,我母亲是来自津巴布韦的黑人。对于许多人来说,是无论如何也想不到我们是一家人。但大自然自有意想不到的一面,棕色的孩子出生了。但自从五岁开始,我就察觉出我的格格不入。我是一个信奉无神论的黑人孩子,在一个由修女运转的白人天主学校,我是一个另类。我的自我在不断寻找一个定义,并试图将自己套入定义。因为自我都是愿意去融入,看到自己被复制,有归属感。那能确认自我的存在感和重要性,这很重要。这有一个极端重要的功能。没有一个对自我的定义,我们简直不能和其他人交流。我们无法制定计划,无法爬上潮流和成功的阶梯。但我的肤色不对。我的发色不对。我的来历不对。我的自我被他人定义,这意味着在社会上 我并不存在。我首先被定义为一个另类,甚至先于被定义为一个女孩。我是一个引人注意的没有人。
We've created entire value systems and a physical reality to support the worth of self.Look at the industry for self-image and the jobs it creates, the revenue it turns over.We'd be right in assuming that the self is an actual living thing.But it's not;it's a projection, which our clever brains create in order to cheat ourselves from the reality of death.But there is something that can give the self ultimate and infinite connection--and that thing is oneness, our essence.The self's struggle for authenticity and definition will never end unless it's connected to its creator--to you and to me.And that can happen with awareness--awareness of the reality of oneness and the projection of self-hood.For a start, we can think about all the times when we do lose ourselves.It happens when I dance, when I'm acting.I'm earthed in my essence, and my self is suspended.In those moments, I'm connected to everything--the ground, the air, the sounds, the energy from the audience.All my senses are alert and alive in much the same way as an infant might feel--that feeling of oneness.我们创造了整个价值系统,以及一个客观的现实,用以支持自我的价值。看看由个人形象带动的产业,还有它提供的工作,以及它创造的价值。我们可能会假设,这个自我是真实存在的。但我们错了;这只是一个投影,是由我们聪明的大脑创造出来的,来欺骗我们自己无需面对死亡的现实。但总有一些事,能赋予自我终极无尽的联系,那就是同一性,我们的本源。自我对于真实性和定义的挣扎永远不会停止,除非自我能够与创造者相连——与你,与我。这和意识的觉醒一同存在,意识到同一性的现实,以及自我的投影。一开始,我们可以想想那些我们失去自我的时候,当我跳舞时,表演时。我根植于我的本源,我的自我被抑制了。在那些时刻,我与万物相连——大地,空气 声音,观众的能量。我的所有感官都是警觉和鲜活的,如同一个婴儿感受到的一般——那种同一性的感觉。
And when I'm acting a role, I inhabit another self, and I give it life for a while.Because when the self is suspended so is divisiveness and judgment.And I've played everything from a vengeful ghost in the time of slavery to Secretary of State in 2004.And no matter how other these selves might be, they're all related in me.And I honestly believe the key to my success as an actor and my progress as a person has been the very lack of self that used to make me feel so anxious and insecure.I always wondered why I could feel others' pain so deeply, why I could recognize the somebody in the nobody.It's because I didn't have a self to get in the way.I thought I lacked substance, and the fact that I could feel others' meant that I had nothing of myself to feel.The thing that was a source of shame was actually a source of enlightenment.And when I realized and really understood that my self is a projection and that it has a function, a funny thing happened.I stopped giving it so much authority.I give it its due.I take it to therapy.I've become very familiar with its dysfunctional behavior.But I'm not ashamed of my self.In fact, I respect my self and its function.And over time and with practice, I've tried to live more and more from my essence.And if you can do that, incredible things happen.当我表演一个角色时,我进入了另一个自我,我在一段时间内赋予其生命。当自我被抑制时,它的多样性和判断也会一同被抑制。我出演过许多角色,从奴隶时代想要复仇的鬼魂到2004年的国务卿。无论这些角色是多么的不同,他们全都与我相连。我诚恳地认为,我作为一个演员能够成功的关键,以及作为一个不断进步的人,是因为自我的缺失让我觉得非常焦虑和不安。我总是在想,为什么我能如此深切地感受到他人的痛苦,为什么我能辨认出一个被忽视的人。那是因为我没有一个自我挡在中间。我想我缺少一种介质,我能够感受他人这个事实说明我感受不到我自己。这曾经导致了我的羞愧,其实是给我启蒙的源头。
Crucially, we haven't been figuring out how to live in oneness with the Earth and every other living thing.We've just been insanely trying to figure out how to live with each other--billions of each other.Only we're not living with each other;our crazy selves are living with each other and perpetuating an epidemic of disconnection.Let's live with each other and take it a breath at a time.If we can get under that heavy self, light a torch of awareness, and find our essence, our connection to the infinite and every other living thing.We knew it from the day we were born.Let's not be freaked out by our bountiful nothingness.It's more a reality than the ones ourselves have created.Imagine what kind of existence we can have if we honor inevitable death of self, appreciate the privilege of life and marvel at what comes next.Simple awareness is where it begins.关键在于,我们尚未找出怎样与地球和万物一起,生活在同一性中。我们一直在疯狂地寻找怎样和数十亿的其他人一起生活。我们并非只是和其他人一起生活。我们疯狂的自我们在一起生活,与他人的隔断也如同传染病一般蔓延。让我们生活在一起,歇一口气,慢慢来。如果我们能进入那沉重的自我,点燃一支觉察的火炬,寻找我们的本源,我们和永恒以及万物的联系,我们从出生那天就知道的联系。我们无须因为大量的空虚而慌张。相比于我们创造出的那些,这空虚更加真实。想像我们能有怎样的存在方式,当我们正视自我不可避免的死亡,感恩生命的权利,惊异于即将到来的事物。这些都来自于简单的觉察。
第三篇:ted英语演讲稿:拥抱他人,拥抱自己
TED英语演讲稿:拥抱他人,拥抱自己
thandienewtonembracingotherness,embracingmyself
拥抱他人,拥抱自己
embracingotherness.whenifirstheardthistheme,ithought,well,embracingothernessisembracingmyself.andthejourneytothatplaceofunderstandingandacceptancehasbeenaninterestingoneforme,andit’sgivenmeaninsightintothewholenotionofself,whichithinkisworthsharingwithyoutoday.拥抱他类。当我第一次听说这个主题时,我心想,拥抱他类不就是拥抱自己吗。我个人懂得理解和接受他类的经历很有趣,让我对于“自己”这个词也有了新的认识,我想今天在这里和你们分享下我的心得体会。
weeachhaveaself,butidon’tthinkthatwe’rebornwithone.youknowhownewbornbabiesbelievethey’repartofeverything;they’renotseparate?wellthatfundamentalsenseofonenessislostonusveryquickly.it’slikethatinitialstageisover--oneness:infancy,unformed,primitive.it’snolongervalidorreal.whatisrealisseparateness,andatsomepointinearlybabyhood,theideaofselfstartstoform.ourlittleportionofonenessisgivenaname,istoldallkindsofthingsaboutitself,andthesedetails,opinionsandideasbecomefacts,whichgotowardsbuildingourselves,ouridentity.andthatselfbecomesthevehiclefornavigatingoursocialworld.buttheselfisaprojectionbasedonotherpeople’sprojections.isitwhowereallyare?orwhowereallywanttobe,orshouldbe?
我们每个人都有个自我,但并不是生来就如此的。你知道新生的宝宝们觉得他们是任何东西的一部分,而不是分裂的个体。这种本源上的“天人合一”感在我们出生后很快就不见了,就好像我们人生的第一个篇章--和谐统一、婴儿,未成形,原始--结束了。它们似幻似影,而现实的世界是孤独彼此分离的。而在孩童期的某段时间,我们开始形成自我这个观点。宇宙中的小小个体有了自己的名字,有了自己的过去等等各种信息。这些关于自己的细节,看法和观点慢慢变成事实,成为我们身份的一部分。而那个自我,也变成我们人生路上前行的导航仪。然后,这个所谓的自我,是他人自我的映射,还是我们真实的自己呢?我们究竟想成为什么样,应该成为什么样的呢?
sothiswholeinteractionwithselfandidentitywasaverydifficultoneformegrowingup.theselfthatiattemptedtotakeoutintotheworldwasrejectedoverandoveragain.andmypanicatnothavingaselfthatfit,andtheconfusionthatcamefrommyselfbeingrejected,createdanxiety,shameandhopelessness,whichkindofdefinedmeforalongtime.butinretrospect,thedestructionofmyselfwassorepetitivethatistartedtoseeapattern.theselfchanged,gotaffected,broken,destroyed,butanotheronewouldevolve--sometimesstronger,sometimeshateful,sometimesnotwantingtobethereatall.theselfwasnotconstant.andhowmanytimeswouldmyselfhavetodiebeforeirealizedthatitwasneveraliveinthefirstplace? 这个和自我打交道,寻找自己身份的过程在我的成长记忆中一点都不容易。我想成为的那些“自我”不断被否定再否定,而我害怕自己无法融入周遭的环境,因被否定而引起的困惑让我变得更加忧虑,感到羞耻和无望,在很长一段时间就是我存在状态。然而回头看,对自我的解构是那么频
繁,以至于我发现了这样一种规律。自我是变化的,受他人影响,分裂或被打败,而另一个自我会产生,这个自我可能更坚强,可能更可憎,有时你也不想变成那样。所谓自我不是固定不变的。而我需要经历多少次自我的破碎重生才会明白其实自我从来没有存在过?
igrewuponthecoastofenglandinthe’70s.mydadiswhitefromcornwall,andmymomisblackfromzimbabwe.eventheideaofusasafamilywaschallengingtomostpeople.butnaturehaditswickedway,andbrownbabieswereborn.butfromabouttheageoffive,iwasawarethatididn’tfit.iwastheblackatheistkidintheall-whitecatholicschoolrunbynuns.iwasananomaly,andmyselfwasrootingaroundfordefinitionandtryingtoplugin.becausetheselflikestofit,toseeitselfreplicated,tobelong.thatconfirmsitsexistenceanditsimportance.anditisimportant.ithasanextremelyimportantfunction.withoutit,weliterallycan’tinterfacewithothers.wecan’thatchplansandclimbthatstairwayofpopularity,ofsuccess.butmyskincolorwasn’tright.myhairwasn’tright.myhistorywasn’tright.myselfbecamedefinedbyotherness,whichmeantthat,inthatsocialworld,ididn’treallyexist.andiwas”other”beforebeinganythingelse--evenbeforebeingagirl.iwasanoticeablenobody.我在70年代英格兰海边长大,我的父亲是康沃尔的白人,母亲是津巴布韦的黑人。而想象我和父母是一家人对于其他人来说总是不太自然。自然有它自己的魔术,棕色皮肤的宝宝诞生了。但从我五岁开始,我就有种感觉我不是这个群体的。我是一个全白人天主教会学校里面黑皮肤无神论小孩。我与他人是不同的,而那个热衷于归属的自我却到处寻找方式寻找归属感。这种认同感让自我感受到存在感和重要
性,因此十分重要。这点是如此重要,如果没有自我,我们根本无法与他人沟通。没有它,我们无所适从,无法获取成功或变得受人欢迎。但我的肤色不对,我的头发不对,我的过去不对,我的一切都是另类定义的,在这个社会里,我其实并不真实存在。我首先是个异类,其次才是个女孩。我是可见却毫无意义的人。
anotherworldwasopeninguparoundthistime:performanceanddancing.thatnaggingdreadofself-hooddidn’texistwheniwasdancing.i’dliterallylosemyself.andiwasareallygooddancer.iwouldputallmyemotionalexpressionintomydancing.icouldbeinthemovementinawaythatiwasn’tabletobeinmyreallife,inmyself.这时候,另一个世界向我敞开了大门、舞蹈表演。那种关于自我的唠叨恐惧在舞蹈时消失了,我放开四肢,也成为了一位不错的舞者。我将所有的情绪都融入到舞蹈的动作中去,我可以在舞蹈中与自己相溶,尽管在现实生活中却无法做到。
andat16,istumbledacrossanotheropportunity,andiearnedmyfirstactingroleinafilm.icanhardlyfindthewordstodescribethepeaceifeltwheniwasacting.mydysfunctionalselfcouldactuallyplugintoanotherself,notmyown,anditfeltsogood.itwasthefirsttimethatiexistedinsideafully-functioningself--onethaticontrolled,thatisteered,thatigavelifeto.buttheshootingdaywouldend,andi’dreturntomygnarly,awkwardself.16岁的时候,我遇到了另一个机会,第一部参演的电影。我无法用语言来表达在演戏的时候我所感受到的平和,我无处着落的自我可以与那个角色融为一体,而不是我自
己。那感觉真棒。这是第一次我感觉到我拥有一个自我,我可以驾驭,令其富有盛名的自我。然而当拍摄结束,我又会回到自己粗糙不明,笨拙的自我。by19,iwasafully-fledgedmovieactor,butstillsearchingfordefinition.iappliedtoreadanthropologyatuniversity.dr.phyllisleegavememyinterview,andsheaskedme,”howwouldyoudefinerace?”well,ithoughtihadtheanswertothatone,andisaid,”skincolor.”“sobiology,genetics?”shesaid.”because,thandie,that’snotaccurate.becausethere’sactuallymoregeneticdifferencebetweenablackkenyanandablackugandanthanthereisbetweenablackkenyanand,say,awhitenorwegian.becauseweallstemfromafrica.soinafrica,there’sbeenmoretimetocreategeneticdiversity.”inotherwords,racehasnobasisinbiologicalorscientificfact.ontheonehand,result.right?ontheotherhand,mydefinitionofselfjustlostahugechunkofitscredibility.butwhatwascredible,whatisbiologicalandscientificfact,isthatweallstemfromafrica--infact,fromawomancalledmitochondrialevewholived160,000yearsago.andraceisanillegitimateconceptwhichourselveshavecreatedbasedonfearandignorance.19岁的时候,我已经是富有经验的专业电影演员,而我还是在寻找自我的定义。我申请了大学的人类学专业。phyllislee博士面试了我,她问我、“你怎么定义种族?”我觉得我很了解这个话题,我说、“肤色。”“那么生物上来说呢,例如遗传基因?”她说,“thandie肤色并不全面,其实一个肯尼亚黑人和乌干达黑人之间基因差异比一个肯尼亚黑人和挪威白人之间差异要更多。因为我们都是从非洲来的,所以在非洲,基因变异演化的时间是最久的。”换句话说,种族在生物学或任何科学上都没有事实根据。另一方面,我对于自我的定义瞬时失去了一大片基础。但那就是生
物学事实,我们都是非洲后裔,一位在1600XX年前的伟大女性mitochondrialeve的后人。而种族这个无效的概念是我们基于恐惧和无知自己捏造出来的。
strangely,theserevelationsdidn’tcuremylowself-esteem,thatfeelingofotherness.mydesiretodisappearwasstillverypowerful.ihadadegreefromcambridge;ihadathrivingcareer,butmyselfwasacarcrash,andiwoundupwithbulimiaandonatherapist’scouch.andofcourseidid.istillbelievedmyselfwasalliwas.istillvaluedself-worthaboveallotherworth,andwhatwastheretosuggestotherwise?we’vecreatedentirevaluesystemsandaphysicalrealitytosupporttheworthofself.lookattheindustryforself-imageandthejobsitcreates,therevenueitturnsover.we’dberightinassumingthattheselfisanactuallivingthing.butit’snot.it’saprojectionwhichourcleverbrainscreateinordertocheatourselvesfromtherealityofdeath.奇怪的是,这个发现并没有治好我的自卑,那种被排挤的感觉。我还是那么强烈地想要离开消失。我从剑桥拿到了学位,我有份充满发展的工作,然而我的自我还是一团糟,我得了催吐病不得不接受治疗师的帮助。我还是相信自我是我的全部。我还是坚信“自我”的价值甚过一切。而且我们身处的世界就是如此,我们的整个价值系统和现实环境都是在服务“自我”的价值。看看不同行业里面对于自我的塑造,看看它们创造的那些工作,产出的那些利润。我们甚至必须相信自我是真实存在的。但它们不是,自我不过是我们聪明的脑袋假想出来骗自己不去思考死亡这个话题的幌子。
butthereissomethingthatcangivetheselfultimateandinfiniteconnection--andthatthingisoneness,ouressence.theself’sstruggleforauthenticityanddefinitionwillneverendunlessit’sconn
ectedtoitscreator--toyouandtome.andthatcanhappenwithawareness--awarenessoftherealityofonenessandtheprojectionofself-hood.forastart,wecanthinkaboutallthetimeswhenwedoloseourselves.ithappenswhenidance,wheni’macting.i’mearthedinmyessence,andmyselfissuspended.inthosemoments,i’mconnectedtoeverything--theground,theair,thesounds,theenergyfromtheaudience.allmysensesarealertandaliveinmuchthesamewayasaninfantmightfeel--thatfeelingofoneness.但其实我们的终极自我其实是我们的本源,合一。挣扎自我是否真实,究竟是什么永远没有终结,除非它和赋予它意义的创造者合一,就是你和我。而这点当我们意识到现实是你中有我,我中有你,和谐统一,而自我是种假象时就会体会到了。我们可以想想,什么时候我们是身心统一的,例如说我跳舞,表演的时候,我和我的本源连结,而我的自我被抛在一边。那时,我和身边的一切--空气,大地,声音,观众的反馈都连结在一起。我的知觉是敏锐和鲜活的,就像初生的婴儿那样,合一。
andwheni’mactingarole,iinhabitanotherself,andigiveitlifeforawhile,becausewhentheselfissuspendedsoisdivisivenessandjudgment.andi’veplayedeverythingfromavengefulghostinthetimeofslaverytosecretaryofstateinXX.andnomatterhowothertheseselvesmightbe,they’reallrelatedinme.andihonestlybelievethekeytomysuccessasanactorandmyprogressasapersonhasbeentheverylackofselfthatusedtomakemefeelsoanxiousandinsecure.ialwayswonderedwhyicouldfeelothers’painsodeeply,whyicouldrecognizethesomebodyinthenobody.it’sbecauseididn’thaveaselftogetintheway.ithoughtilackedsubstance,andthefactthaticouldfeelo
thers’meantthatihadnothingofmyselftofeel.thethingthatwasasourceofshamewasactuallyasourceofenlightenment.当我在演戏的时候,我让另一个自我住在我体内,我代表它行动。当我的自我被抛开,紧随的分歧和主观判断也消失了。我曾经扮演过奴隶时代的复仇鬼魂,也扮演过XX年的国务卿。不管他们这些自我是怎样的,他们都在那时与我相连。而我也深信作为演员,我的成功,或是作为个体,我的成长都是源于我缺乏“自我”,那种缺乏曾经让我非常忧虑和不安。我总是不明白为什么我会那么深地感受到他人的痛苦,为什么我可以从不知名的人身上看出他人的印痕。是因为我没有所谓的自我来左右我感受的信息吧。我以为我缺少些什么,我以为我对他人的理解是因为我缺乏自我。那个曾经是我深感羞耻的东西其实是种启示。
andwhenirealizedandreallyunderstoodthatmyselfisaprojectionandthatithasafunction,afunnythinghappened.istoppedgivingitsomuchauthority.igiveititsdue.itakeittotherapy.i’vebecomeveryfamiliarwithitsdysfunctionalbehavior.buti’mnotashamedofmyself.infact,irespectmyselfanditsfunction.andovertimeandwithpractice,i’vetriedtolivemoreandmorefrommyessence.andifyoucandothat,incrediblethingshappen.当我真的理解我的自我不过是种映射,是种工具,一件奇怪的事情发生了。我不再让它过多控制我的生活。我学习管理它,像把它带去看医生一样,我很熟悉那些因自我而失调的举动。我不因自我而羞耻,事实上,我很尊敬我的自我和它的功能。而随着时间过去,我的技术也更加熟练,我可以更多的和我的本源共存。如果你愿意尝试,不可以思议的事情也会发生在你身上。
iwasincongoinfebruary,dancingandcelebratingwithwomenw
ho’vesurvivedthedestructionoftheirselvesinliterallyunthinkableways--destroyedbecauseotherbrutalized,psychopathicselvesalloverthatbeautifullandarefuelingourselves’addictiontoipods,pads,andbling,whichfurtherdisconnectourselvesfromeverfeelingtheirpain,theirsuffering,theirdeath.because,hey,ifwe’realllivinginourselvesandmistakingitforlife,thenwe’redevaluinganddesensitizinglife.andinthatdisconnectedstate,yeah,wecanbuildfactoryfarmswithnowindows,destroymarinelifeanduserapeasaweaponofwar.sohere’sanotetoself:thecrackshavestartedtoshowinourconstructedworld,andoceanswillcontinuetosurgethroughthecracks,andoilandblood,riversofit.今年二月,我在刚果和一群女性一起跳舞和庆祝,她们都是经历过各种无法想象事情“自我”遍体鳞伤的人们,那些备受摧残,心理变态的自我充斥在这片美丽的土地,而我们仍痴迷地追逐着ipod,pad等各种闪亮的东西,将我们与他们的痛苦,死亡隔得更远。如果我们各自生活在自我中,并无以为这就是生活,那么我们是在贬低和远离生命的意义。在这种脱节的状态中,我们是可以建设没有窗户的工厂,破坏海洋生态,将xx作为战争的工具。为我们的自我做个解释、这是看似完善的世界里的裂痕,海洋,河流,石油和鲜血正不断地从缝中涌出。
crucially,wehaven’tbeenfiguringouthowtoliveinonenesswiththeearthandeveryotherlivingthing.we’vejustbeeninsanelytryingtofigureouthowtolivewitheachother--billionsofeachother.onlywe’renotlivingwitheachother;ourcrazyselvesarelivingwitheachotherandperpetuatinganepidemicofdisconnection.关键的是,我们还没有明白如何和自然以及其他所有生物和谐地共处。我们只是疯狂地想和其他人沟通,几十亿其他人。只有当我们不在和世界合一的时候,我们疯狂的自我却互相怜惜,并永远继续这场相互隔绝的疫症。
let’slivewitheachotherandtakeitabreathatatime.ifwecangetunderthatheavyself,lightatorchofawareness,andfindouressence,ourconnectiontotheinfiniteandeveryotherlivingthing.weknewitfromthedaywewereborn.let’snotbefreakedoutbyourbountifulnothingness.it’smorearealitythantheonesourselveshavecreated.imaginewhatkindofexistencewecanhaveifwehonorinevitabledeathofself,appreciatetheprivilegeoflifeandmarvelatwhatcomesnext.simpleawarenessiswhereitbegins.让我们共生共荣,并不要太过激进着急。试着放下沉重的自我,点亮知觉的火把,寻找我们的本源,我们与万事万物之间的联系。我们初生时就懂得这个道理的。不要被我们内心丰富的空白吓到,这比我们虚构的自我要真实。想象如果你能接受自我并不存在,你想要如何生活,感恩生命的可贵和未来的惊奇。简单的觉醒就是开始。thankyouforlistening.(applause)谢谢。(鼓掌)
第四篇:学会拥抱自己
学会拥抱自己
我喜欢在夜晚拥抱自己,因为只有这样,我才会觉得,自己不是孤独的。
儿时,我是在别人的拥抱中度过的。
记得,每天清晨,妈妈会抱着我站在阳台看着外面的景色,记不清妈妈在那时对我说过什么,只记得自己喜欢在这个时,把头深深地埋进妈妈的怀抱中,轻轻的,柔柔的,香香的,那是妈妈的味道。
记得,上幼儿园时,爸爸会抱着我一步一步走向学校,每次到大门口时,我就会赖在爸爸的怀里不下来,任性的让他再把我抱回去,爸爸总会把我慢慢放下,然后说:“宝贝,爸爸累了,抱不动你了。”然后我会很懂事的替他捶背,再跟他勾勾手指,让他答应我,明天要继续抱着我,永远的„„因为在他的怀抱中,有爸爸独特的味道。
长大了,我开始学会拥抱自己。
人毕竟是要长大的,爸爸妈妈已经没有力气再去抱动我,我知道,他们已经结束了青春的日子。况且,我已经开始渐渐的拒绝别人的拥抱,那让我觉得恶心,觉得不自在,因为自己明白,那个拥抱不属于自己一人。
缺少拥抱的我是孤独的。当我把这句话告诉默默的时候,她立刻张开双臂想要拥抱我,我条件反射的把她推开,说,别恶心了,又不是小孩子,抱什么抱嘛。默默笑了笑,对我说,她不希望我孤独。我说,我只是开个玩笑而已。然后很木然的笑了笑,我想,那时我的笑一定很难看。默默没有看着我,背对着我说:“你拥抱过自己吗?”
我拥抱过自己吗?那有夜,我失眠了,一直在思考这个问题。是啊!从小到大,只有别人拥抱过我,我却是没有尝试过去拥抱自己。从床上慢慢的坐起来,张开双臂,轻轻的拥抱自己,我楞住了,为什么我的拥抱那么冰凉,没有从前爸爸妈妈拥抱我时的那种温暖。我闭上眼,一直这样拥抱着,回想着,沉默着。将头狠狠的埋进自己的怀中,我可以闻到妈妈的香味,爸爸的气味,我知道这不是我一人的拥抱,这是他们赐予我的拥抱。
就这样,我开始喜欢在无助时,痛苦时,哭泣时,还有在每天的黑夜,去拥抱自己。
我自己都不知道这样做有没有意义。但我至少知道,拥抱自己时,你会发现自己不是一人存在的。
第五篇:拥抱自己作文
拥抱自己作文
拥抱自己作文
(一)“成功,只属于会拥抱自己的人,而那些„„”
——题记
在长满荆棘的漫长路上,有无数的挑战和困难。而我们要学会拥抱,拥抱没有声音,它是无言的。学会拥抱知识的你是充实的;学会拥抱友人的你是幸福的;学会拥抱智慧的你是聪明的;而当你学会拥抱自己时,你也许距离成功不远„„
当你在一场大型的演讲比赛中紧张时,你是否需要给自己一个拥抱?是的,你需要。给自己一个拥抱,在心里默默告诉自己:“相信自己,可以的,我一定行!”也许在这场比赛中,你会有意想不到的结果,你会把自己的风采展现的淋漓尽致。
当你在考试前缺乏自信的时候,你是否需要给自己一个拥抱?是的,你需要。给自己一个拥抱,只要真正学到了知识和方法,再大的难题,你也迎刃而解,不要畏惧考试,它只是你努力成果的展现。树立自信意识,也许你会有史无前例的好成绩。
当你在遇到挫折时,你是否需要给自己一个拥抱?是的,你需要。给自己一个拥抱,在挫折中学会挑战自己、战胜自己,学会不断前进„„挫折不是失败,是通往成功的必经之路。告诉自己:“要坚强,要有不屈的斗志。”也许你会“战无不胜”“所向披靡。”
当你在孤单无助的时候,你是否需要给自己一个拥抱?
当你在掉进“万丈深渊”的时候,你是否需要给自己一个拥抱?
当你在自卑、无人欣赏的时候,你是否需要给自己一个拥抱?
是的,你需要。给自己一个拥抱,让成功之花,开满你的世界。
拥抱自己作文
(二)我喜欢在夜晚拥抱自己,因为只有这样,我才会觉得,自己不是孤独的。
――题记
儿时,我是在别人的拥抱中度过的。
记得,每天清晨,妈妈会抱着我站在阳台看着外面的景色,记不清妈妈在那时对我说过什么,只记得自己喜欢在这个时,把头深深地埋进妈妈的怀抱中,轻轻的,柔柔的,香香的,那是妈妈的味道。
记得,上幼儿园时,爸爸会抱着我一步一步走向学校,每次到大门口时,我就会赖在爸爸的怀里不下来,任性的让他再把我抱回去,爸爸总会把我慢慢放下,然后说:“宝贝,爸爸累了,抱不动你了。”然后我会很懂事的替他捶背,再跟他勾勾手指,让他答应我,明天要继续抱着我,永远的„„因为在他的怀抱中,有爸爸独特的味道。
长大了,我开始学会拥抱自己。
人毕竟是要长大的,爸爸妈妈已经没有力气再去抱动我,我知道,他们已经结束了青春的日子。况且,我已经开始渐渐的拒绝别人的拥抱,那让我觉得恶心,觉得不自在,因为自己明白,那个拥抱不属于自己一人。
缺少拥抱的我是孤独的。当我把这句话告诉默默的时候,她立刻张开双臂想要拥抱我,我条件反射的把她推开,说,别恶心了,又不是小孩子,抱什么抱嘛。默默笑了笑,对我说,她不希望我孤独。我说,我只是开个玩笑而已。然后很木然的笑了笑,我想,那时我的笑一定很难看。默默没有看着我,背对着我说:“你拥抱过自己吗?”
我拥抱过自己吗?那有夜,我失眠了,一直在思考这个问题。是啊!从小到大,只有别人拥抱过我,我却是没有尝试过去拥抱自己。从床上慢慢的坐起来,张开双臂,轻轻的拥抱自己,我楞住了,为什么我的拥抱那么冰凉,没有从前爸爸妈妈拥抱我时的那种温暖。我闭上眼,一直这样拥抱着,回想着,沉默着。将头狠狠的埋进自己的怀中,我可以闻到妈妈的香味,爸爸的气味,我知道这不是我一人的拥抱,这是他们赐予我的拥抱。
就这样,我开始喜欢在无助时,痛苦时,哭泣时,还有在每天的黑夜,去拥抱自己。
我自己都不知道这样做有没有意义。但我至少知道,拥抱自己时,你会发现自己不是一人存在的。
拥抱自己作文
(三)寂寞的时候,给自己一个拥抱,让心灵不再孤单,快乐时,给自己一个拥抱,让幸福洋溢在身边。受到挫折时,也给自己一个大大的拥抱,告诉自己:不经历风雨,怎能见彩虹?
钢琴是我的兴趣,一种享受,每每听到钢琴曲,我是那样的欣喜,在学习钢琴的过程中,我几乎是一帆风顺的。可偏偏那一次,我想要放弃了。随着学业的上升,学习的负担加重,我已无暇顾及钢琴,练习的次数少之又少,可这样,仍然无进步,反而愈发退步了。我开始对它感到失望,一次又一次地上课,到最后竟然连看到音符,也张目结舌,吞吞吐吐说不出话来了,我开始放弃了,我不再如此痴迷、沉醉于它了,偶然间,听到街上响起了熟悉的音乐声:“不经历风雨,怎能见彩虹,没有人能随随便便成功„„”我伫立了许久,沉思了许久,在心灵的深处,给自己这样一个宽慰的拥抱,大声地吼着、嘶喊着,没有人能听到,没有人能了解到那个拥抱给我的力量,从骨子里迸发出的那一股闯劲。我渐渐地恢复了状态,钢琴能让我宣泄烦恼,缓解忧愁,分享快乐,也陶冶了我的性情,变得有分寸,我依旧沉醉于它。
给自己一个拥抱,也许只是做对了一道突破题,也许只是战胜了勇气,也许是自己微不足道的一点点进步,可这些,不都是我们成长的足迹么?给自己一个拥抱,让自己在心灵深处学会感恩、成长。今天,你拥抱自己了么?