日记与心灵的沟通

第一篇：日记与心灵的沟通

日记与心灵的沟通

爱因斯坦说过：“任何一种伟大高尚的事物，无论是艺术还是科学成就，都来源于独立的个性。”培养出人的独立个性，是教育工作者的职责，而日记恰巧是能够将这种个性反映出来的文字表达方式。但是，学生刚开始接触日记时总会抱怨无话可说，无话可写，时间久了，就容易产生厌烦情绪。其实，日记是表情达意的工具：心中不快，通过日记渲泄，达到心平气和、心中欢喜；通过日记诉说，心情恢复平正。在日记里，可以谈天说地，可以描绘未来，可以直抒胸臆……要想做到这一点，必须克服畏惧写日记的心理障碍，要以平常心对待日记，要把日记当作自己的伙伴，当作贴心的朋友。只有这样，才能彻底走出日记教学的怪圈，才能彻底放松学生的手脚，才能有真正意义上的快乐日记。那么，怎样才能让学生把日记当作最好的伙伴呢？

（一）和日记一起诉说

生活是写作的源泉，日记就是把我们周围的生活写出来，把平日所见、所闻、所做、所想的写出来，叙述喜闻乐见的事情，刻画具体可感的人物，描写时时变化的风景。新颁布的《全日制义务教育语文课程标准》中就明确指出：写作应贴近学生实际，让学生易于动笔，乐于表达；应引导学生关注现实、热爱生活，表达真情实感。比如深秋的一天，刮起了风。顿时，落叶纷飞。树上的叶子飘然而下，地上的叶子也追着、赶着往前跑，好一幅大自然的美景。笔者马上召唤正在早读的学生们出来观察。同学们一出教室，就被吸引住了，争着拾飘飞的落叶，追着捡地上的落叶，还比赛谁捡的多，谁捡的漂亮。回到教室，马上让学生分组说说自己看到的景象。同学们七嘴八舌，争着说自己的发现，整个教室充满了热烈的气氛。在大家的共同讨论下，决定以《群蝶飞舞》或者《落叶纷飞》为题写一篇日记。不久，在大人眼中司空见惯的落叶竟被学生形容得妙不可言。有位同学写道：“看啊！一片片彩蝶般的落叶，正跳着芭蕾舞比美呢！瞧呀！它们互相追逐着，飘飘悠悠，在空中打着转儿，恋恋不舍地离开了树妈妈，极不情愿地落在地上。又像淘气的孩子，脚一着地又立刻飞了起来，好像总也玩不够。不一会儿，叶子在地上不动了。轻轻吹来一阵风，它们又慢慢地散起步来，直到走累了为止。”

生活中可写的东西太多，校长的讲话、老师的讲课、父母的叮嘱、上学路上的风景、餐桌上的闲聊、一次实验、一张照片、一次电话等，只要留意生活，只要真心去感受生活，日记就会成为你忠实的记录者，成为最好的伙伴，让人进一步体会生活的滋味，丰富敏感的心灵。我们烦恼时，可以向它倾诉；我们快乐时，可以和它分享；我们痛苦时，它会给你安抚；我们愁闷时，它会悄悄地到你身边，默默地跟着我们，让我们不觉得孤独。烦恼的时候，和日记说说自己的心理话，排解心中的烦恼。今年春天，阴雨连绵，数日不晴。每天教室的地面都是湿淋淋的，运动会一再推迟，五一长假也只能无聊地待在家中。于是许多同学都以“烦人的雨”为主题写了一篇日记，在日记中抱怨这几天的烦心事。

（二）和日记一起画画

我们的世界、我们的生活是丰富多彩的，但也需要用眼睛和思维去认识世界，需要用情感去感受这个世界。有目的地让学生感受自然和社会，有利于学生的成长、发展。画画就是教人学会“看”，学会观察、欣赏大自然，训练学生观察形状、色彩的能力。学生的日记可以用画来再现，看到一幅画，可以用文字来表现。观察的表述过程实际就是再现一幅幅画面，再用文字写出来，日记和画画关系十分密切，和日记一起画画尤为重要。山坡下有几株松树，直直地挺立着，浓绿的树冠，镶上了金灿灿的宽边。面对这样的场景，用眼睛去勾勒、去着色，会发现松树不同的美。

（三）和日记一起编故事

孩子在小时候，喜欢编故事、讲故事，有时讲给小朋友听，有时讲给爸爸妈妈听，有时还自言自语。家长应该看到这既是锻炼表达能力的好机会，也是发展想象力的好机会。要积极鼓励孩子，不要冷言冷语，更不能随便阻止。《新课程标准》中指出：“要引导学生说真话、实话、心里话，不说假话、空话、套话。激发学生展开想象和幻想，鼓励写想象中的事物。”因此，家长平时就该引导孩子按照某个主题去编去讲，适时地给以赞扬，指出不足。好的故事，让孩子用笔记录下来，不断修改。天长日久，孩子的想象能力会越来越强。

（四）和日记一起旅游

外出旅游是孩子们十分向往的一项户外活动。每次在课堂上宣布这一消息时，大家总是欢呼雀跃，兴奋不已。的确，旅游途中不仅能欣赏到祖国各地的山川美景，也为学生日记提供了丰富的素材，激发学生记日记的欲望。教师可抓住这一教育契机因势利导，鼓励孩子们设计具有自己特色的日记，如在日记本上贴相片、剪报、旅游胜地的门券、邮票、明信片……某位同学在日记旁，就贴了一张上海自然博物馆举办“澳大利亚珍稀动物标本展览”的入场券，蓝色的鸭嘴兽图案非常醒目。这样图文并茂的日记，不仅做的时候有味道，将来读的时候恐怕更有味道。

心理学家认为：“兴趣是一个人能量的激素。”对一件事物产生浓厚兴趣的人，他的智能会得到充分的发挥。兴趣有一种神奇的力量，它会为学习某一件技艺增添上一层斑斓的色彩。我们知道，写日记是一件艰苦的劳动，但它同时又能激发莫大的愉悦。一旦对日记产生了兴趣，它必将成为启迪、挖掘写作才能的一种启动力。写日记一旦成为孩子的日常习惯，日记就会像“严师”一样督促孩子每天必须完成训练；写日记一旦成为孩子的日常爱好，日记就会像“挚友”一样鼓励孩子把训练做好。这样无声的督促和鼓励，对促进孩子作文的进步，是学校的教育和家长的指导无法替代的。

第二篇：沟通,与孩子心灵对话

《沟通，与孩子心灵对话》教学设计

教学目标：

1、让家长明白亲子沟通的重要性。

2、让家长了解亲子沟通的基本策略。

3、学习将沟通技巧用于实践中。教学重点：了解亲子沟通的基本策略。教学难点：在现实生中运用沟通的技巧。教学准备：PPT 教学过程：

一、游戏导入

家长朋友们，首先感谢你们来参加本次的家长会。游戏：由孩子联想到的„„

请家长们按照顺序，按“孩子像„„，因为„„”这样的句式说一句话。总结：从家长们的交谈中，我感受到了大家对孩子都充满了浓浓的爱，让人感到温馨。

二、了解亲子沟通的重要性

（一）故事分享

应该说每个父母都爱自己的孩子，但每个做父母自己不一定都知道如何去爱孩子。也并不是每一个孩子都能真正理解父母对自己的爱。

下面我来给大家分享一个故事：

主持人：有这么一所学校，一位新老师来给同学们上课。在极为融洽的课堂里，老师看到了一个和这个气氛格格不入的男孩。他让新上任的唐老师感觉心疼。

唐老师：在语文课上，我看到了那个孩子——目光呆滞，对于周围的一切都没啥反应，似乎活在自己的世界里。后来我知道了这个孩子叫奇奇。他平时不愿意和同学交流，总是一个人坐在位子上。我想和他谈心，可他却始终闭着嘴，眼睛直勾勾地看着你。好不容易孩子开口了，他告诉我前一段时间他和班级里的同学闹矛盾了，他一生气就把同学的文具盒摔坏了。老师找到他的家长。爸爸到校后没问前因后果，当着全班同学的面给了他一耳光。奇奇在那个情况下愤怒极了，心理恨极了爸爸。一句话也没有和爸爸说，因为他觉得没有什么可以和他说的。奇奇认为自己没有什么可以和爸爸好说的了，爸爸当着众人扇他的一耳光让孩子失去了很多，他觉得自己一点面子也没有了，以后怎么在老师、同学面前抬起来头来啊。想到以后要被同学们瞧不起，他就特别不想在这个班级再待下去了。

听了孩子的叙述，我很心疼，特地去拜访奇奇的爸爸，交流时我问孩子的爸爸为什么因为这样一件事就在班上打了奇奇。爸爸也很无奈，他告诉我奇奇以前是一个很调皮的孩子，常犯一些错误。当时被老师叫到学校，他感觉很丢面子，因为当时太生气了，就动手打了孩子。

我又问了奇奇爸：当时打了孩子，心理怎么想的？奇奇爸说：当时打孩子也是一时冲动，心里想着对孩子要严格要求，没想太多就动手了。当时也没想到孩子也是有自尊心的，自己的一巴掌就这样把孩子的面子打没了。从那次以后孩子彻底改变了，变得行为怪异起来，在班级里沉默不语，性格变得很内向，不再愿意跟别人交往，在家里也不愿意和家人说话了，问他总说要换班，再也不想去那个班了„„后来，奇奇爸也对自己的一耳光后悔不已。

我又问奇奇爸：有没有想过办法来弥补现状。奇奇爸说：事后家里人做了很多事情来帮助奇奇走出这个事件的阴影。当他不愿意和同学玩，不愿意跟同学讲话的时候，我们就专门邀请同学来家里聚会，还特地买了很多有关与同学交往的书给他看„„当他不愿意和家人讲话的时候，我们专门挑他喜欢看的电视陪他一起看，主动和他讨论电视情节，找了很多话题和他聊天，了解他在想些什么，在做些什么„„

交流后，我特地开展了一个《谁能成为奇奇最好的朋友》的活动。让同学们说说想和他成为好朋友的原因，上课时我们还和同学们约好用设计好的有特殊节奏的掌声欢迎奇奇在课堂上发言„„

经过一段时间的努力，奇奇和同学们的交流多起来了。他爸也打电话告诉我孩子在家里笑容多起来了，也主动和家里人交流了。他还主动报名参加了班级的朗诵表演。

在一次谈心中，奇奇主动和我说：那件事情发生后，虽然当时很生气，但是事情发生那么久了，他也不生爸爸的气了，现在他和同学的关系也比以前好了，自己也不觉得在班级里没有立足之处了。

主持人：为了使奇奇走出心理阴影，唐老师前后花了将近两年的时间。有些家长在教育孩子的时候，总觉得自己是家长，教育孩子是天经地义的事情，却没有想到当着别人的面来数落孩子甚至动手，会使孩子的自尊心受到很大的伤害，结果让孩子心理上留下阴影，给孩子身心造成很大的伤害。

（二）讨论

听了这个故事，您有什么想说的呢？ 组织家长讨论。交流自己的感想。

（三）总结

所以，当您在家庭教育中出现了一些难题，当您越来越不知道您的孩子的头脑里在想些什么，当您的孩子不再能把您的话听到心里去，那您就要反思一下家庭教育中的关键问题——沟通。

在孩子的一生中，与孩子间的沟通是家庭教育的重要组成部分。据调查分析证明，许多孩子的心理问题的克服、矫治，家庭教育的作用是学校教育所不可替代的，家长经常与孩子进行正常的沟通，在孩子成长过程中往往起着非常重要的作用。

沟通，是相互尊重，认可对方是独立的生命个体，彼此在人格上是平等的，而不是将自己的思想强加于对方的思想和意志，企图越俎代庖，包揽一切，以自己的价值标准代替对方的价值标准。作为家长应给孩子一个相对独立的思想活动的空间。

沟通，是彼此敞开心扉，进行心灵对话，真诚倾听和倾诉，既增进相互了解，更努力理解彼此的心境和思维方式，将心比心。换位思考。对于孩子，要以和蔼的目光唤起自己心中感受和困惑的愿望，并对他们给予更多的理解和认可。

（四）升华

孩子健全人格的培养与家庭良好的亲子沟通是分不开的。沟通有助于孩子形成自尊、自立、自强、自信的品质。所以，各位家长朋友一定要重视与孩子之间的沟通。

三、亲子沟通的三个问题。

（一）亲子间的相互认知问题

现在很多家长对家庭教育虽然十分重视，但对自己孩子并不太了解，有的家长对子女期望值过高；有的家长对子女的要求过严，看不到子女的优点；有的家长只注意子女的智力开发和学习成绩，而忽略了子女的个性发展„„

其实，孩子对父母也不了解，最突出的问题是孩子对父母期望的认知程度，也就是说孩子对父母的期望是否知道，是否了解，认知的深浅程度又是如何。

据调查，小学生在家长对自己学业、技艺、才能等要求方面的期望与家长一致的只占30%，主要原因是小学生以形象思维为主，对父母易于表达的期望，如父母对其学习的满意程度，他们能直接的感知，并且能与父母一致。而有些抽象的或不易于直接表达的期望，如父母希望他们长大后凭“一技之长”来“出人头地”，他们可能不能理解，其认知就很难与父母一致了。因此，要使孩子对父母的认知与父母对孩子的认知一致，则要求父母从孩子的角度出发，把自己的期望、要求，对客观事物的看法等传递给孩子，取得与孩子的共识，这样亲子关系在认知方面会比较和谐一致，家庭教育就有一个良好的基础。

（二）亲子之间的情感与态度

从目前显示情况我们可以看到父母对孩子的情感和态度表现为七种类别：1.过度保护型。2.溺爱型。3.专制型。4.理智型。5.期待过高型。6.严厉型。7.忽略性。在父母对孩子的情感与态度的教育环境影响下，孩子对父母的情感与态度也呈现为十种类别：1.顺从型。2.希望型。3.信任型。4.体谅型。5.协调型。6.理智型。7.无耐型。8.冷漠型。9.惧怕型。10.疏远型。亲子关系随父母的教养态度的变化而变化，也就是说，具有怎样的教养态度，就有怎样的亲子关系。

（三）沟通应该是双向的

沟通，也应理解为双向的，既有父母对子女心灵活动的了解、理解和尽可能多的认同，也有子女对父母心理活动的了解、理解和认同。当然，在此过程中，父母要注意适时、适度地因势利导，巧妙地发挥引领和提升的作用。

四、交流亲子沟通的现状。

各位家长朋友，你们平时在家是怎么跟孩子沟通的呢？ 请与坐在你旁边的家长朋友做一个交流。全体家长交流：

1、从沟通的内容、频率、主动性和满意度等方面进行交流。

2、提出自己的困惑。

五、亲子沟通的策略 亲子沟通是家庭教育中的一件大事，但是如何沟通，这是我们应该特别注重的。

（一）试着理解尊重孩子

被尊重被理解是孩子的最基本心理需求之一，当一个孩子觉得自己被理解、被尊重的时候，他的内心是温暖的、安全的、放松的，没有疑虑、没有孤独感的。因此，理解、尊重孩子能够有效地拉近您与孩子之间的心理距离，缩小“代沟”。

理解是一种无条件的喜爱与尊重的情感，它需要你的无私和爱心。这在亲子之间，本来应该没有问题，但事实并不是没有问题。作为父母，我们往往把自己的面子看得很重，我们往往希望子女无条件的听从我们，我们却不能无条件的去尊重子女。当然，这并不是要求家长去认同孩子的一切观点和行为，而是我们要能够设身处地站在孩子的位置，用他们的眼睛去看，用他们的耳朵去听，用他们的头脑去想。

理解孩子也并不是娇宠孩子。做父母的如果不能理解孩子，孩子就会向外寻找理解他们的人。反之，父母若能理解他们，他们就会感到家庭的温暖、安全，就会愿意与父母沟通。没有理解，一切教育、引导都难有真正好的效果！家长与孩子之间需要理解，理解是爱心和尊重的具体体现。父母对子女，一般都不缺少爱心，但往往缺乏尊重。因为欠缺尊重，结果连爱心也感觉不到了。现在你不妨从理解开始，你与孩子的心理距离马上就会缩小。将心比心，孩子会对你更加信任。

（二）把自己的真实想法告诉孩子

在与孩子沟通时，还要能准确地向孩子传达出自己内心的想法、愿望，使孩子能够感觉到父母批评、教育中所包含的关爱和善意是非常重要的，这可以减少由于父母言辞不妥而引发孩子的抵触情绪。

有这样一个例子：有一天，我的一位学生放学后在该回家的时候还没有回家。家长开始想：这孩子，又贪玩了。继而是愤怒：都什么时候了，人影子都不见！不等她，我们先吃饭！心里想：她回来非得“好好教育”她一顿不可！左等右等还不回来，家长越来越焦虑：这孩子不会出什么事吧？越想越害怕，开始一个一个打电话询问女儿的同学。正在此时，门铃响了，母亲迫不及待地去开门，（接下来会怎么样？大家想一下），这位母亲是怎么做的呢？劈头一阵责骂：“你死哪里去了？！害得我们差一点没去报案......”女儿试图解释，但母亲此刻哪里容得下女儿的解释？劈脸又是一个巴掌，打得女儿捂着脸跑进自己的房间去呜呜地哭起来。这位家长用“责骂和巴掌”传达了自己对女儿的那一份刻骨铭心的关爱。

做父母的，原本出于“爱和善意”的管教，常常被这种不当的方式所遮掩。当父母对着孩子愤怒责骂的时候，父母的“爱心”往往被湮没在“粗暴的管教行为”之中。尽管许多父母在责骂孩子的同时，不时声称“我是为你好”，但孩子听到的却是如雷贯耳的斥骂声，很难感受到父母的爱心和善意。做父母的往往沉浸在自己的出发点完全是“为了孩子好”而一意孤行，甚至根本没有想过孩子怎么看自己。我们的管教如果建立在孩子当时的对立情绪上，又如何能真正生效？我们为什么不在一开始就让孩子感觉到我们对他的关心和疼爱呢？国内外都有研究表明：父母过于严厉、缺乏温情的养育方式与过分保护、过分干涉一样，都不利于孩子的健康成长。作为家长不应该用打骂和训斥来把自己的爱心和善意伪装、包裹起来，而应该直接地准确地把自己的感觉、想法表达出来，这样效果会更好。

例如，家长可以这样对晚归的孩子说：你回来得太晚了，我们都非常为你担心，我已经拨了十几个电话，还差一点要打110报案了！

担心孩子是家长真正的感觉，愤怒其实是由担心而产生的。直接地、坦诚地把自己的感觉告诉孩子，不管她是由于正当的原因还是不正当的原因晚归，听到这样的话，多半都会感受到父母的深切关心，并且产生内疚感。若有此良好的沟通为基础，接下来的教育就容易接受了。

家长批评教育孩子，是对孩子的深切关爱，也是家长应该履行的职责、义务。但家长在批评教育孩子时，要注意表达方式：

1、•避免夸大事实。•不要用“你总是”“你肯定”“你从来”这样的句式。凭心而论，你的本意并非认为自己的孩子真的“总是如此”、“肯定如此”、“从来如此”。所以应避免。

2、避免笼统模糊。如果你对孩子的某种行为不满，要避免笼统的指责“你这个孩子......”而应该具体地说“你这个行为......”“你这件事......”因为你真正不满意的是他的某个行为，而不是他这个“人”。

3、善于认错。家长也有无理的时候，认错时不要说“好了，好了，都是我的错！”“反正你总是对的，我都是错的！”准确的表达应该是：“也许你是对的”“也许是我错了。”

总之，当我们对孩子的行为不满时，要避免指责，而是对她说出自己真实的感觉。

（三）耐心倾听

父母与子女之间的沟通非常重要，但在这种沟通中，我们做家长的还要注意一点就是：少说多听。倾听有时候会带来意想不到的效果。我给大家举一个例子：有一位母亲，有一天得了喉炎，嗓子哑了。儿子放学回来后说：“妈妈，老师批评我了。”接着就诉说老师怎么怎么不对。当时，这位母亲特别想批评儿子：你错了，老师是对的。可是因为嗓子哑，说不出话，就只好瞪着眼睛，看着儿子说。等儿子终于说完了以后，突然儿子又说了一句：“妈妈，我谢谢您。”她当时一愣，不知儿子是什么意思。儿子又说：“谢谢您，今天听我说了这么多话。”第二天，儿子又对妈妈说：“妈妈，你昨天虽然什么都没说，但是我已经明白了，我错怪了老师。”这就是倾听的力量，不需要你去评论，孩子在说的过程中自己就醒悟了。

人与人之间需要沟通，但是不要认为沟通需要用嘴去说，其实沟通更需要用耳、用心去听。可以说，倾听有时候是最好的沟通。

从今天开始，让我们在座的各位都来试着克制一下自己，改变一下自己，当发现孩子有烦恼时，不妨耐心地聆听孩子的心声，了解孩子真实的、细微的想法，并进行恰当的鼓励，那你会发现与孩子更愿意跟你说心里话。

（四）丰富沟通的方法和内容

与孩子沟通的方法有很多，比如说可以给孩子写封信，给孩子发一封邮件，还可以定期开个家庭会议，专门用一本笔记本作为“连心桥”，也可以通过啊孩子最信任的小朋友或大人作为“信息传递员”。

父母与孩子的沟通还应该讲究更为丰富的内容。交谈的内容是很广泛的，社会的方方面面都死沟通的内容，而在此过程中彼此都可以开拓视野，实现知识上的互构，思想上的互启，情感上的互通，彼此相得益彰。一般来讲，可以有以下的内容：（1）市场信息反馈。（2）讨论新鲜事物。（3）活动交际。（4）影视评论。（5）共同解决困难问题。

六、沟通，没问题（情境表演）

下面，我为大家提供了几个需要沟通的场景，请家长朋友们自由组合，可以谈一谈，也可以演一演。

1、如果你的孩子对你抱怨他的母亲：“妈妈最讨厌了，一天到晚唠叨个没完！”你的反应是什么？

2、当你的孩子对你说：“老师偏心，别人讲话不批评，就批评我”时，你的反应是什么？

3.如果你对孩子过多玩电脑游戏不满意，你怎样告诉他？

4.老师反映原本活泼开朗的孩子变得郁郁寡欢了，你会怎么跟孩子沟通呢？

七、结语

沟通在家庭教育中占据着重要的地位。希望家长们都能走进孩子的心灵世界，共同分享孩子成长的快乐和成功的喜悦，当然，也要体会他们的难处，如果这样做了，孩子们定能敞开心扉，把大家当成最知心的朋友。谢谢大家！

第三篇：与学生进行心灵沟通

与学生进行心灵沟通

在重视素质教育的今天，作为教师尤其是班主任的我们不仅要重视学生的知识技能目标，而且要关注学生的内心世界，与学生进行心灵沟通，用爱心来感化学生心灵，培养他们健全的人格与心理素质，使学生得到和谐发展。如果教师与学生的沟通不当，即使心怀美好的动机，也会造成很多的问题。我认为可以从以下几个方面实现与学生心灵的沟通。

1、塑造良好的自身形象

人们常说，“身教重于言教”，主要是因为“身教”是无声的教育，能收到“润物细无声”的效果。孔子说“君子怀德”，认为做老师的自己首先要有高尚的人格，才有资格去教育学生。人格魅力就是人在能力、气质、性格等个性特征方面所具有的吸引力。高尚而富有魅力的教师人格能产生身教重于言教的良好效果。有理想的人讲理想，有道德的人讲道德，学生才能信服。因而，教师应努力学习，具备渊博的知识底蕴；要努力锻造自身高尚的品格与道德情操，以此去影响和感召学生。生活中，才华横溢、知识渊博的教师，在学生心目中往往最有威望，也最令学生信服。因此，教育者要努力成为品德高尚、处事公正、与人为善、知识渊博的人。

2、积极倾听与反馈。倾听是教师与学生沟通的基本技巧，也是在沟通中认识与了解学生的第一步。良好的沟通，需要耐心地聆听对方，了解他心中的感受。在班级管理中，教师对学生的倾听显示了对学生的理解与尊重。在倾听中，教师首先应表现出对学生谈话的专注，其次要用简洁及扼要的语言将学生的观点复述出来。老师发现学生的问题之后要主动及时地找他谈心，听他的心里话，理解他、接纳他。有了这样的尊重和理解，也许不用再做任何事情，学生的心结就自然解开了。我班里有一位女生，个性较强。一次，英语老师下课后对我说，这个女生上课总是跟他对着干，没认真听讲，批评她一句，她还气呼呼地把课本全摔到地上。我当即把这名女生叫到办公室，没有批评她，而是问她是不是对老师有什么想法，开始她还不想说，后来看我态度很诚恳，于是就说出原因。原来这个女生因为有一次英语老师没及时给她发测试卷，她便以为老师是针对她而处处跟英语老师作对。后来我请英语老师过来，对她说明情况后，她心里的疙瘩才解开，也向英语老师道了歉。

3、换位思考。一般而言，善于交往的人，往往善于发现他人的价值，懂得尊重他人，愿意信任他人，对人宽容，能容忍他人有不同的观点和行为，不斤斤计较他人的过失，在可能的范围内帮助他人而不是指责他人。他懂得“你要别人怎样对待你，你就得怎样对待别人”；懂得“己所不欲，勿施于人”；懂得“得到朋友的最好办法是使自己成为别人的朋友”。

4、表扬与信任相结合老师对学生的表扬与信任，有助于他形成积极的自我概念，树立自信心。表扬、信任是与学生心灵沟通的重要方式，我们除了在课堂上对学生进行及时的表 扬、鼓励之外，还可以把这种表扬通过电话告诉家长，扩大表扬的激励效用。有些学生总是丢三落四，总是存在这样或那样的缺点。这种事情本来就是难免的，如果我们总是对学生严厉批评、失望放弃的话，他们可能就会破罐子破摔。这时候我们应该多一点耐心，对他们充满信任，这样才会成为他们进步的动力。

班级管理是一门艺术，也是一门科学。我们不但需要各种技巧，更需要充满爱心，营造一种温暖、和谐的班级气氛，积极关注每一个学生，走进每个学生心里，这样就会收到事半功倍的效果，做到真正意义上的育人。

第四篇：心灵的沟通

心灵的沟通——倾听

学情分析：

小学生由于缺乏“倾听”的意识和习惯，也不善于倾听课上同学们的发言，经常上课不听讲，搞小动作，窃窃私语，课堂纪律乱糟糟，难以有效完成师生互动的合作探究的教学活动。本次辅导活动的意图在于让学生们换位体验，学会尊重，学会倾听。让学生意识到这种课堂对老师的教学产生的负面影响，改变学生对家长的教导不耐烦，在交往中对自己不感兴趣的话题、不同意的观点和与已无关内容需要其做听众时，具有做听众的意识，做出相应的意志努力。活动目标：

1．帮助学生认识倾听的重要性。

2.体验不同的倾听态度和倾听习惯带给别人的不同感受，领悟不同的态度和做法在人际关系中的不同影响。

3．对学生进行倾听训练，提高他们的人际交往技巧。教学重点：学习模仿合格的倾听行为。

教学难点：帮助学生理解养成倾听习惯对自己成长的意义。教学方法：活动情境创设、角色扮演、冥想体验。教学过程： 导入语：

记得老师读师范时我的一位老师说过，“一个人的成功，15%靠专业知识，85%靠人际关系和处世技巧。”而在众多的处世技巧中，倾听，是一个重要的环节。

请大家欣赏一组图片（狗狗、宝宝），连小动物和小宝宝都知道倾听，你会吗？

首先，让我们做个游戏，检验一下你的倾听水平怎么样，游戏的名字叫“传声筒”，谁愿意给大家读一下游戏规则？

（一）暖身活动：“传声筒”

① 40被一半除再加上15 ② 9+5是13，9+5+13 ③猫头鹰和蝙蝠在黑暗中看得最清楚 ④ 网吧里有两个学生，一个不是小学生

问：（1）哪些小组在活动中反应既快又准确？为什么？失误的同学原因是什么？

（2）总结成功的经验和失败的教训，我们会发现哪些因素能使我们成为一个好的听者？ 过渡：

师：同学们，大文豪伏尔泰说过一句名言：“通往心灵的大路是你的耳朵。”生活需要我们时时“洗耳恭听”，那究竟什么样的倾听行为才是受欢迎的呢？四人小组不妨从下面几个角度讨论一下

（二）小组讨论：

1、倾听时的目光与表情

2、倾听时的姿势与动作

3、当赞同或不赞同对方的观点时

4、如果要鼓励对方谈下去时

师：那么，假如你碰到了这样的情景，你打算如何倾听呢？

1．好朋友小杨与同学玩蓝球时手脱臼了，第二天，他走在上学的路上，看到了你，小王说：“我受伤了,真倒霉!”。

2．下课了，小圆兴冲冲的过来跟你说：“昨天我看了《灰太狼和喜羊羊3》，可有意思了！”

师：同学们说的真好，老师现在也有一件心事想说给大家，想听吗？

今天老师和大家一起感受“倾听”，我觉得可紧张了，因为我不知道自己讲得能不能得到大家用心的倾听，大家能用好的倾听鼓励我一下吗？（生表示）谢谢同学们，你们也是最好的倾听者！小结：

所以，诉说者要坦诚相待，倾听者也需要智慧，这样，才能使沟通愉快地进行下去。

（三）情景剧：

师：老师这里有两份演讲稿，想请两位同学有感情朗读一下

一、先将两位演讲者安排在教室外，再将表演情景剧的要求告诉全班同学

二、记者招待会：听了两位同学的演讲，老师想做一下现场采访。（1）听一听两位同学演讲后的感受是什么？

（2）刚才你在做设计么？假如你是演讲者，你会有哪些感受？

（3）所以，若果你是一个演讲者，更喜欢刚才前一个还是后一个环境？ 说到这里，下面老师还有有个小故事想和大家分享。

（四）故事分享：

师：Xx，我想弥补一下刚才对你做的事，你还愿意给大家读一下吗？请上前来

美国知名主持人林克莱特一天访问一名小朋友，问他说：“你长大后想要当什么呀？” 小朋友天真地回答：“嗯，我要当飞机的驾驶员！” 林克莱特接着问：“如果有一天，你的飞机飞到太平洋上空所有引擎都熄火了，你会怎么办？”小朋友想了想：“我会先告诉坐飞机上的人绑好安全带，然后我挂上我的降落伞跳出去。”现场的观众大笑，都认为这个孩子是个自作聪明，不顾别人的家伙。这时，林克莱特继续注视着这孩子，没想到，接着孩子的两行热泪夺眶而出，于是林克莱特问他说：“为什么要这么做？”小孩的答案透露出一个孩子真挚的想法：“我要去拿燃料，我还要回来！我还要回来！”。师：Xx，这次的朗读感觉如何？心情好一点了吗？

同学们，从这个故事里你理解“听的艺术”了吗？

师：在这里，老师想和大家学习一个字，你知道“听”怎么写吗？ 生：写出来

师：老师知道“听”还有另外一个写法，是我们古人的写法（繁体“听”），从这个字中你体会出古人的用意了吗？ 生：耳+目+心

过渡：

同学们，真正的倾听，要用耳朵，用眼睛，更重要的是带着真诚的心，那么现在我们来亲身验证一下，我们自己是否也能做到真正的倾听呢？

（五）学生练习：

师：这里有一段音乐，请大家闭上眼睛，我们一起仔细倾听，看看大家都能听到些什么，看到些什么，感受到些什么？（森林狂想曲）

（六）课后练习：

师：同学们，刚才我们已经倾听了同学的心声，倾听了大自然，也一直在倾听老师的讲课，可是还有一部分人，他们对我们的呵护和帮助比老师和同学都要多，那就是我们的家人，大家曾经用心倾听过他们吗？ 能先跟大家交流一下你打算倾听谁吗？为什么？

在这里老师想布置一份周末作业，就是回家倾听他们的心声。把你的倾听感受回来写在你的日记里，好吗？ 总结：

同学们，让我们学会倾听吧，当我们能够沉静下来，目光清澈的注视着对方，微微前倾你的身姿，那么你就能听到心与心碰撞的声音，宛若风铃一样„„

第五篇：心灵日记

A Long-cherished Desire(chapter one)

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.There exist two certain categories of people around us, both of whom have strengths and weaknesses, but that is what I think makes our life colorful.Let us talk about one of them first.For one thing, he perhaps does not have a good background.However, he does have a good appearance.For another, he will not have any difficulty in coping with incidents in certain scope with many friends around.But he maybe is someone who attaches much importance to the traditional relationship of family, and he is some what stubborn at some time.It is just the very characters that he owns that make him less popular in the eyes of certain people.Regardless of his weaknesses, he is still a real man supporting his family.When it comes to the other one, a figure has already captured my mind.Though enjoying a good reputation among colleagues, his background is not that good, either.Having experienced hard time in an early age, he has got what he deserves.More importantly, he enjoys a good health, which is a big fortune for him.Actually, he is not old for his age, but his learned knowledge and considerate heart have won so many people all round.Charm as he is, he has received sincere admiration from people with enthusiasm.On balance, in spite of his weakness, I will always be excited in his presence.It seems that I have a preference for the category, but what depresses me most is that it is just a legend.Something coming across easily, but never pursued.But just think over it several seconds, it has become a feast for a green heart.If memory serves me well, I have dreamt both of them in some night.If I would I can picture more of their features in detail from it.Above are only my personal opinions about them.If there are some similarities with someone, please just consider it a coincidence.2555(chapter two)

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The day is drawing near tranquilly, although I have been informed in advance, I still have no other means to control my fast-beating heart.I am now even wondering whether I should have a word with him or not.Though I know in my deep heart that he will accept my compliments, I will be sort of nervous in his presence, let alone the courage to tell the designed impression of him.Being lack of necessary skills in communicating has embarrassed my heart strongly.Actually I have not directly talked with a considerate person before he first chats with me.But now, as the yearning heart beats with curiosity, my body has already lost control of itself, running just after it.As is schemed a week earlier，there are three matters that I would like to tell him.The first may be an interesting one: What would he think and say if there is someone applauding on a highlight in a lecture? It counts for little whether I can get a certain answer to it, and what I really want to do is to express that there does exist such an occasion where I just want to applaud.Perhaps because some kind of character touches heart deeply.But in most cases I will keep silent without any reason to tell.The second one is what I think best for my potential apology, if there is any mistake.It is just the coming Band-4.Obviously his regular consideration and kindness should be taken seriously, rather than just smile them selfishly without considering his situation and other persons‟ feelings.After all, knowing there is someone caring for oneself is full of happiness, which will stimulate her or him to achieve what she or he has desired for a long time.There seems to lack something important when it comes to a blank heart if there are not comfortable words around.At least I think it in this way.Finally my feelings after his lecture will be served as the third one.On the one hand, please allow me to express my doubt toward the details from certain examples.However, it does matter whether they are true or not.Because they are amusing as well as meaningful, which I think is enough for teaching.To be honest, I have been more attracted by those examples, regardless of their sources.It is exactly he that makes the atmosphere in a lecture lively.On the other hand, I certainly can gain confidence in his lecture, but at the same time I also get

frustrated.Compared with the influential persons he refers to in class, though he takes proud of them, I come to feel kind of uncertain of the future without any useful guidance.So I would like to write those words just to get in touch with him.Otherwise, it will be a great loss for me to a designed fate.Just as he has put in the first class: It will probably take many years to bring both strangers from different backgrounds together.I have not learned one with so much professional knowledge and abundant experience until his appearance.If we had known each other a little earlier.But life is good enough as it is now.After all, good fortune has brought me the very character that I have sought for a long time in people.Old as he is, he always appears young and energetic for his age and keeps up a good sate of mind.In a nutshell, I have a favorable impression of him.Excited in his presence without any reason.Writing aimlessly, I myself even can not figure out what I have already written.Perhaps he would be clear about everything even without taking a glimpse at this.第二章翻译

Durianu091213 这一天（不确定）悄悄的临近，尽管我早已预知，但我仍然无法控制跳动的心，我甚至还在想是否应该和你谈一次话。虽然我深知你会接受我真诚的赞美但你在场时我还是会有点紧张，更甭提告诉对你已形成的印象的勇气。

必要交流技巧的缺乏令我颇感难受。事实上，在一个考虑周到的人找我谈话乊前，我还未主动与他按照一周前的计划，我打算与你谈三件事。聊过。但是现在由于心的好奇，我也不由自主的随他所欲，无法控制。

第一件事也许很有意思：如果有人在讲座的高潮部分鼓掌，你会怎样想并说些什么呢？我能否得到确切的答案无关紧要，我只是想要你知道确实存在这样我想鼓掌的场合。也许因为被某个特定的品格深深触动了。但多数时候我总是没有缘由的保持沉默。如果有错误的话，第二件事是我道歉的最佳。正式将要到来的四级考试。很显然，你惯常的体贴和关爱应当谨慎对待，而不是不考虑你的境况和别的感受地付诸一笑。毕竟，知道有人关心自己是件快乐的事。这将激发他（她）实现自己盼望已久的梦想。如果没有温馨的话萦绕，当提及空白的心时似乎少了一些重要的东西。至少我这样认为。最后听后感作为第三件吧！一方面请允许我对你所讲的一些例子中的细节提出疑问。然而，它们是真是假无关紧要。因为它们已被寄予了乐趣和意义，对于教学来说，我想那已足够了。坦诚的说，我更喜欢那些例子，并不在意其来源。正是你使的课堂上的气氛如此活跃；另一方面我能从你的讲座中得到信心，但同时也会感到受挫。和你课堂提到的有影响力的人相比，尽管你以他们为荣，我逐渐感到了未来的渺茫，仅仅因为没有一些有用的指导。因此我写了这些希望能够与你保持联系。否则，对于我来说，将是命运安排的损失。正如你在第一堂课上所言：多年休来相见缘。

在你乊前，我还没了解到一个有如此多的专业知识和丰富经验的人。我们若早点相识就好了。但现在的生活已很好：毕竟，好运实现了我长久以来寻找人们内在特定品质的愿望。你看起来比实际年龄年轻，并总保持清醒的头脑。总乊，对你印象良好，看到你很高兴。漫笔随谈，我自己也不知道写了些什么，也许会很明白即使仅一瞥。

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It is great honor to have been with you for almost one year.During those times we have spent together in the class, I have got not only contentment for the soul but also attitude toward life.There are no other good sentences than “someone takes a hand, opens a mind, touches a heart and shapes a future”to describe the fine qualities you hold as the certain position.When thinking of the first time I attended your lecture, I indeed felt delighted upon a new teacher.After all, as with the course itself, it is a theoretical course as well as a required one.A good sir will surely make his audience concentrated on what he intends to convey by using various methods, rather than tell the designed content of the book without any attractive or useful experience from real life.When comparing those two types of teachers, I like the former one much more.To tell the truth, it was exactly after the second class that I came to appreciate your style of teaching with kind voice and considerate heart.Being kind of humorous, you have passed your message in such a special way as we all can accept.But when it comes to the potential international issues, it appears hard to imagine what will happen without professional knowledge in mind.For example, as we all know, China possesses the largest part in population of the world;on the one hand, it makes the numerous resources to every single individual much less than that of any other country, which seems to promise not so good a phenomenon.But on the other hand, the largest part in population can otherwise fortify its citizen’s glory as well as confidence.Just as a father living in the rural area takes pride in the number of his son.All those are realistic facts.What would it be like if there is a nation whose population is expected larger or at least as much as ours’in the world near the future ? Will we sense the pressure from the respect of population? Surely it is a profound question.As I do not care much about those things, I only can realize its pressure with a superficial mind.Besides the reputation of being respectable and learned, a bold interval between eyebrows is quite impressive.It is just the symbol of insight and humanity.I do not learn much about your extra work, but it is an obvious fact that everyone has his or her talent in certain field which he or she takes interest in, and there is

no exception for others working in other careers.Plain as they all are, they have the qualities of encouraging others and being patient.But now I am wondering whether those qualities make them what they are or the other way around.As a sentence reveals: The qualities most of us value above all others are honesty, courage, persistence, generosity and humility, we are not born with those things, instead we develop them.Though it is just about initiative and passivity, I think it does count for much.To some extent, I have no intention to write those feelings, much less the right to disturb other’s normal life with them, but it seems much easier to flow those feelings with a pen than to talk with you directly.I do not want to make further explanation of why, perhaps I can not make it at all.What I actually want to do is respect you with fear.Although I know that making someone feel that he is hard to communicate with is impolite, I still can not take up courage to talk with you.But when given a second thought, it is reasonable that one will feel delighted when he knows that he is held admirable.With no other intention writing those, I just want to share some encouragement and useful guidance in spirits with another him, at most express what I think in my mind.As a matter of fact, it is not necessary for me to think too much, just right we will be afraid of taking even a glass of water if we pay too much attention to the sources of disease.Just behave as what I think is appropriate.As a proverb goes: Go your own road, and let others say.Job is all about work, while life is what we have to take into account even during the work.Only by this way can one enjoy a successful career as well as a harmonious FAMILY life.If the paper were of function in recording your expressions which would soon be sent back when you are reading, that would be fairly good.No special meaning;just say“cheese”with a causal mind.Sorry to take up some of your time.Yours sincerely，Li Anling

The advantages of using the third person: There seems to be no direct relationship in the essay between the writer and addressee, thus fading that special relationship, and there also seems to be less respect, thus making it close but not to be extreme.Happiness in my mind

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From my standpoint, happiness is a special feeling which comes from the bottom of heart for a certain reason.It is just a kind of state existing between the materialistic world and the spiritual world.Surely it is more a process than an outcome.It is exactly the process of pursuing the dream we desire for that makes it much more precious for our soul, which would otherwise remain plain as a tranquil lake, dull without any ripple.When it comes to happiness, some conceive that material is a necessity.But I am inclined to that certain material only can meet one’s demand to some extent, or rather it is just an extra one.As is widely acknowledged: a millionaire may encounter frustrating occasions in his life;while a beggar can gain happiness over his lunch food.Common as it is, it is food not only for the mouth but also for the soul, and it is best bestowal for the beggar to meet his need.Happiness, as everyone desires for, is a natural feeling that can be come across by luck, but seldom be pursued with some purpose.That is to say, happiness just takes its own course without considering one’s subjective will.But it does not appear so bad an incident for our human beings;at least, we can imagine some wonderful situations by adding our own feeling to them.Actually, it matters little whether this way will work or not, for it is just an approach to make one feel delighted.There are various ways to gain happiness if we like and keep up a positive attitude.It does not matter where you come from and what you will be.All you need to do is to find the potential happiness with your sensitive eyes.For example, we can obtain happiness from the scene when we are sitting around the table and enjoying a big meal together with our family members;we can acquire happiness by helping a blind man cross the bustling street;we also can get happy from the time when we are accompanied by the one we love.All in all, happiness is all around our daily life, it depends on your capacity to discover it.Happiness is to human beings what sunshine is to flowers.The flowers become more beautiful with gentle sunshine on.As with our human beings, our life would have been meaningless if there were not happiness existing as an emotional style.After all, happiness has played a crucial role in strengthening the relationship among people.In a nutshell, happiness has highlighted our life in different ways.To be in the elder’s company is like reading thick book of deluxe edition that fascinates one so much as to be reluctant to part with;to come across an old friend is like tasting a fragrant wine that includes colorful memories of the old days;to be in a subtle longing to someone is like enjoying a silent drama that covers various sides of life;to receive a humane look is like showering in gentle sunshine that will warm heart deeply;to be in the smile of the kind eyes is like walking in breeze wind that will encourage one strongly.All of those are indispensable elements forming the happiness.As we can see from the above, they are just casual daily life that can happen even beyond your expectation.It is your effort that really matters if you want to go along with it.To conclude, whatever else happiness may be, it is neither in having nor in being, but in becoming through your own effort to overcome difficulties in your life.Only by this way can one enjoy a successful career as well as a harmonious “FAMILY” life, and then true happiness will be surely in his mind.母爱—萦绕心头的一缕阳光

题记：在众多的爱别之中，我最喜欢母亲的爱

每当忆起母亲，总会有一种莫名的感觉漫不经心地爬上心头，些许的留恋，些许的思念，但更多的是对她深沉的爱的感激。正是母亲那份无所索取﹑默默奉献的爱是我在成长的道路上得以顺利行进。在生活中，它不仅给了我在逆境中战胜困难的勇气，而且使我明白了事在人为的道理。

在日常的家庭生活中，母亲是个精准的时间打理者。她总会在适当的时机把儿女及家人的所需准备妥当，尤其是在天气突然转变这方面，母亲的感知能力绝不逊色于天气预报的科学预测。即使有时倔强的我们会极力反对母亲的建议，体贴的她仍然会在我们最需要她的时候及时出现，无论刮风下雨，酷暑严寒。相对于我们有意或无意的冷漠的拒绝母亲关心的自私心理，母亲那孜孜不倦的爱显得多么高尚啊﹗家中的一切在母亲那勤劳而智慧的双手下各就各位，而家庭了的其他成员则尽情享受着一切各司其职的特权。无需多问，你曾经落在荒郊野外的玩具小车仍藏匿于你经常光顾的“车库”里；你用了n年之久的挎包已悄然变成了你盼望已久的背包了；你昨天刚换洗的衬衣正焕然一新的酣睡于衣柜。在生活中，母亲就是这样一个关怀无微不至、体贴无处不在的锐利形象。井井有条的室内布置，周到热情的服务是母亲在这个平凡的家庭中所承担的最基本的任务，而她却做出了令人骄傲的业绩。毕竟，我们现在都已长大成人，并且拥有母爱所传递的做人准则。

在日常的开支方面，母亲又是一个出色的钱财管理者，她小心谨慎的进行着每天的柴、米、油、盐的预算。也许财务的数目并不可观，但母亲总是以一种满足的心态毫无怨言地继续着那份自已娴熟的职业。或许是习惯了的缘故，母亲在生活开支方面的管理能力，在

某种程度上可以和当代的财务工作者相匹敌。只是少了些巨额钱财的管理而已，但却多了一份精打细算。小到每顿饭的支出，大至家电器材的购置，母亲无不发挥着她超强的预算能力。每当遭遇家中经济短缺的时候，母亲总能从前期的工作经验中总结出应对的措施：或者是上个月的预留款，或者是亲戚朋友的舶来品，这些总能帮助家人度过困难时期，并迎来新的希望。其中，母亲自如的应对发挥着无可替代的作用。小时候，总以为母亲是个苛刻的形象，我盼望已久的一顶帽子直到下雪的前夕才温暖到我的心头，看到有些委屈的我，母亲也流露出了淡淡的无奈。生活毕竟如此，诚然我应该感谢那时的生活，正是其时的那些人和事成就了母爱中最辉煌的人性之美，而作为生活经营者的母亲更值得讴歌。

母亲的文化程度度并不高，但和同时代的人相比，母亲却是幸运的。小学四年级没毕业的她，迫于无奈，只得留在家中。但她从未有过半点怨言。有时她竟在我们面前夸耀自已在上学时取得的优异成绩，虽然那些成绩在现在看来并不显著，但母亲仍然乐此不疲，颇像天真的孩童一样，留恋着充满欢乐的童年趣事。母亲熟谙教育的重要性。作为一个受教育程度不高的母亲，她从未放松过对我们学习的管理。她常常鼓励我们努力学习，因为只有这样才能走出农村，去城市打拼另一片新天地。当时母亲的思想开放程度实在令她的同龄人吃惊。当别人都在忙于田间劳作的时候，母亲却不忘监督我们的学习，生怕我们在学习上会落后于他人。能够有一个思想如此超前的母亲，实在是值得骄傲的事。

母亲是乐观的。面对生活中不行的遭遇时，或许是饱经风霜的缘故，母亲显得分外坦然，无所畏惧。而勇敢接受现实的挑战是她多年来从实践中总结出来的杀手锏。一直以来，母亲秉乘方法比问题多的解决方针，当遇到相当棘手的问题时，从多个角度全面分析，以寻求解决问题的最佳途径。这样一来，母亲便能权衡大局利弊，从中选择最佳方法。在这方面，母亲既拥有分析问题的素材，又有自主抉择的权利，其权威性绝不亚于一个专业的政府官员。事实上，这些丰富的素材和应有的权利进一步充实了母亲乐观的性格，当然对我们的成长也起到了一定的指导作用。

现今处于花甲之年的母亲，仍然在辛勤的经营着那份属于自已的工作，怡然自得。由于相距甚远，我与母亲相聚的机会自然也就少了很多，而我对她的思念却与日俱增，越来越强烈。孤独寂寞的时候，会想起母亲讲述故事的温馨场景；面对困难时，母亲鼓励的话语会时常萦绕在耳畔；失望伤感时，忆起母亲的乐观会给我重新振作起来的勇气。然而，时光荏苒，岁月无情，一并在她曾经潇洒飘逸的黑发间种下了丝丝白发，在那一度娇艳的容颜上留下了深深的皱纹，同时也留下了根本就无法带走的那份对儿女及家人默默付出的执着。那些虽然一纵即逝却湿润我双眸的份份感念，那些纵然久远亦不能淡忘的阙阙故事都会在心中渐渐累积，渐渐沉淤成最凝重、最美丽、最隽永的回忆，任岁月侵蚀，心境变迁，它却历久弥新，永葆着那份独特而清雅的余韵，散发着怡人芬芳。

在成长的道路上，是母亲轻挽着我们的小手，给我们以前进的动力；在心智成熟的过程中，是母亲用金钥匙为我们打开了通往智慧的大门，使我们领悟到心灵深处那种伊始的触动；在成功的旅途中，是母亲独具前瞻性的见解为我们塑造了一个美好而灿烂的未来。

因此，在众多的爱别之中，我最喜欢母亲的爱，不止为那平凡的伟大，也不止为那无言的深沉，更为了那不经意间的一个喷嚏对心灵的触动与震颤。值此母亲节来临之际，让我们重温FAMILY的旧梦，拾掇母爱的的点点滴滴，共同将其珍藏于心灵的伊甸园，共同祝愿所有为人母的女性健康快乐、永远幸福。

﹡FAMILY一层意思为Father And Mother I Love You, 也为其意本身：家庭。

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I am glad to write something to you to show my gratitude.With no other intention in mind, I mainly want to keep in touch with you.After all, this is the last P.E.class that is assigned to our sophomore students.Some wonderful memories are worth recalling anyway.I do not regret choosing your class at all;instead, I feel much honored to have been with you during the class and learned something extra as well.As a matter of fact, I did not attend any formal physical education before I come to college.The only informal one that I attended was assigned to our class in 2003.Strict as the teacher was, he scolded students who did not do as he taught to with a loud voice, and he even hit them hard.His “unique”style really impressed me deeply.Yet, thinking of his stiff face, I will still be quivering with fear.I had thought we would have more access to physical education before I went to senior high middle school.To my disappointment, due to the fierce competition pressure from among schools, the school government did not considering arranging that sort of class at all.Their main concern was the number of high scores.Therefore, under that circumstance, my interest in physical education had faded, only leaving an unconscious conception of outdoor activity.This is why I did not like physical education class until your appearance.As with another three P.E.teachers in university, they are also good with their own character, but it is just you that make me have some passion for the class.Good fortune just brought you to be my last semester P.E.teacher without any notice in advance.Believe it or not, before the activity of selecting course, I had intended to play softball.But as it turned out the course of softball had conflict with my other required courses.With so many courses around, I really had no idea of what to choose and whose course to take.Finally，I selected health care with curiosity and memorized the name of the teacher and the number of the classroom at random.It can not be denied that the unintentionally meeting is that fate has designed for each other intentionally.This is exactly what you call as luck.Approachable as you, you seldom get angry in our class, I reckon it is the sufficient patience that enable s you to keep a positive attitude when it comes to teaching students.But as yourself, you only keep disappointment in your own heart and just show subtle helplessness

through your eyes.Being the person in your favorite job, I think you will not have any difficulty while coping with that sort of mental effect.The most impressive character is the way you tell your life experience when we are taking a break.With kind voice and a multivariate（多变的）facial expression, you make the classroom filled with laughter when you refer to something interesting.After entering college, I find a fact that there are few teachers smoking in public, but the number of smoking students takes up a large proportion.What is worse, some students should smoke in the dormitory.Bad phenomenon as it may be, it can not be eliminated.My attitude toward smoking varies from season to season.Smoking in winter can create a relatively warm atmosphere;while smoking in summer in the public place can disturb others psychologically and leave an ungraceful image on others.As far as I am concerned, smoking itself will not do any good to our health.Here just talk about my attitude to smoking, no suggestion for you.After all, it is none of my business.(Indeed this comment is not responsible at all.)in other people’view, we are just passerby to each other in life, but as for me, I have experienced an unforgettable experience.Special as you are, you show a peaceful mentality and no hauteur at all.I learned that the quality of a person will match his or her title to a large extent;the position one hold indeed can reflect his or her capability.It is none of others but your heart that makes a real you presenting in our class.Ok, just end here and contact later.If the paper were of function in recording your expressions which would soon be sent back when you are reading, that would be fairly good.No special meaning;just say“cheese”with a causal mind.Sorry to take up some of your time.Yours sincerely，Li Anling

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Having been away from writing English composition for almost three month, now I find it difficulty to start, only leaving a blink mind wandering.Indeed, I do not have any certain feeling after Band-4, what I actually have is subtle luck.As I did not take this Band-4 seriously before its coming, sometimes I even escaped the compulsory course of English course, thinking that I had enough confidence in passing it, and all of those led to my failure in finish the Band-4 test paper.After the exam, though I knew in my deep heart that I could pass it anyway, I felt kind of shameful in my former teachers’presence.To make matters worse, I even told him that I did not want to the class without any formal excuse, but he should accept my request and advise me to memorize some sample composition of Band-4.Whether his advice was taken seriously was not of importance.It is the fact that I had got something(like advice)from him beyond my expectation that delighted me most.To my contentment, after a long time waiting, I finally got my score of Band-4.It is an excellent one, at least I think it like this in my mind, perhaps just as I had expected before the answers to it came.While contacting with him, he made no remark but sincere compliment on it.I had intended to get some advice from him with scores of every part, but I had not received it yet, perhaps he did not care for it at all, or it was my fault that I failed to use a directly way to chat with him.Actually, I have little sense of the relationship between teacher and student.Though I have told myself many times not to be shy while coping with the relationship, I do not manage it just because I attach too much traditional factors to it.As a matter of fact, there is no need for me to feel embarrassed.As a test throughout the whole nation, the Band-4 exam has taken on fair as well as authoritative.Given the fact that different areas have diverse level of language, its difficulty in paper has to be strictly considered.In terms of myself, I find it easy to pass it, but only one o my roommates passed it with a satisfactory score.To my surprise, our dormitory was not the worst one, which was really a confusing thing.As for my roommates, every one had his own goal, but they all expected to pass it after painful work.Unfortunately, good luck turned against them;perhaps they did not find a proper way while learning English.Now looking back on the old days we had spent together, I find that not everyone’s hard work is paid off.In my opinion, what really matters in the situation is one’s attitude and way of study.First of all, in order to learn English well, one can make a plan for his

study, in which case he can go on his work regularly.Second one must have persistent effort to fight to the end.Last but not the least important, one can find a soul mate who can offer useful guidance so that he can go through this relatively lonely period.This is a really useful suggestion.As we all know, long-lasting learning is monotonous and it is usually inevitable for us to encounter unexpected difficulties.But if we have a soul mate who can offer the shoulder to us to rest our exhausted head, we will get encouraged so that we can refresh ourselves from ever frustration and gain confidence in advancing against difficulty.To be frank, thanks to one of my sincere soul mates, I have passed this test without any extra hurting in both physical condition and mind.If memory serves me correctly, I did come across some puzzling problems and it is exactly my soul mate that helped me out of those hard times.In a nutshell, one’s soul mate really plays an important role in his journey to success.Writing aimlessly, I myself even can not figure out what I have already written.There do some truths as well as off-truths exist in the composition.SB PV WYCM

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When I came across such a title in a book of Chinese version, I felt it necessary for me to write something of my own to illustrate my viewpoint.Here just write in English in case of accuracy explanation.As a matter of fact, I am for the viewpoint, but in everyday life I am experiencing, I always try to avoid being helped or accept any kind of offer from others by instinct, even though I know for myself that they will feel sort of embarrassed.I am just reluctant to ask for help for fear of owing them something.Actually, this situation can not be all to blame for me, and the growing atmosphere in my previous years has already separated me from a pretty large group.Besides, we are of different channel just as a TV set can broadcast diverse programs, which do not have direct connection.Perhaps we have no universal language at all.In a word, I have been out of date for that special relationship.I can sense the hurt of being deserted for my indifference to the help from others.In reality, human resource has taken up a large proportion in our society when it comes to accomplishing a certain work.Without proper human resource, you even can not finish one task completely.While as for me, I would rather take trouble to do things in myself than ask for a hand for others.I seldom take any junk food from my roommates and friends, not that I do not like to eat them.Gradually, my bad manners hurt many persons around;though declining others is not my initial motivation.The impression I left upon others shows that I was a man with who is hard to get along.As a result, I have fades out of the mortal society in a way.A person is surely not of his own world.When I had some achievements, I suddenly found that there is nit anyone else to congratulate on my luck, and share happiness with me.Eying around, I even could not find a stranger passing by.I felt extremely sorrowful, and a sense of unprecedented loneliness covered all my heart.As a consequence, I reckoned it is not essential for me to stick to fighting anyway.No meaning at all if there was not any

encouragement existing.The author of the essay explains as this: someone just there for being used;you can not decline an offer with no excuse at all.If someone needs a help, you should probably offer one on condition that you can help it.Otherwise, how the relationship between people can be strengthened?

It suddenly occurs to me that no one would like to become friends with one who hold no interest in others help.So I try to change within my ability.I try to accept others help with a good grace;if there is no one would like to help, I will find someone to offer some advice initiatively.Only by owing something to others can I get some human smell on me.In our life, someone indeed just is there for being used.It is not the someone that plays a key role in the process, but a you with some initiative character that matters.☆The happiest people do not necessarily have the best of everything;they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.Maybe god wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but we often look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling that it was the best conversation you ever had.It is true that we do not know what we have got until we lose it, but it is also true that we do not know what we have bee n missing until it arrives.Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love back!Do not expect love in return;just wail for it to grow in their heart but if it does not, be content it grew in yours.It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it probably takes a lifetime to forget someone.Do not go for looks, they can deceive.Do not go for wealth, even that fades away.Go for someone who makes you smile because it only takes a smile to wake a day seem bright.Find the one that make your heart smile.There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!Dream what you want to dream;go where you want to go;be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.Always put yourself in others’ shoes.If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.The happiest people do not necessary have the best if everything;they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.and those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ended with a tear.The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can not go on well in life until you let go of your failures and headaches.When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.Live your life so that when you die, you are the one who is smiling and everyone around you was smiling.Please send this message to those people who mean something to you, to have touches your life in one way or another, to those who make you smile when you really need it, to those that make you see the brighter sides of thing s when you are really down, to those who you want them know that you appreciate their friendship.And if you do not, do not worry, nothing bad will happen to you, you will just miss out the opportunity to brighten someone’s day with this message.☆ 最幸福的人未必拥有全部最好的东西，他们只是能最大程度地利用生活所赋予的一切。

也许，上帝希望我们在遇到适合自己的人之前，总会遇到一些不适合自己的人，这样，在最终找到适合自己的人的时候，我们就会心存感激，并将其看做天赐福祉。

当一扇幸福之门关闭的时候，另一扇幸福之门就会打开，但是，我们往往长久的凝望着那扇已经关上的门，而没有看见那扇已经打开的门。

如果有一个人与你心情愉快的坐在门廊里，然后没说一句话就走了，但当他离开后，你却感觉你们之间仿佛有过平生最美妙的交谈，那么这个人就是你最好的朋友。

凡事都是失去以后才知道珍惜；同样地，不曾拥有，也就不知有所缺憾。

爱别人并不意味着一定得到对方的爱！不要期待爱的报答，要期待爱在对方心中的滋长，如果没有实现的话，那就让爱常驻你心吧！对一个人产生好感只需要一分钟，喜欢上一个人需要一个小时，爱上一个人需要一天，而忘记一个人却需要漫长的一生。

不要追求容貌，那是骗人的。别去追逐财富，那最终会烟消云散。去寻找那些能使你绽放笑容的人吧！因为只有欢笑才能给黑暗的日子带来光明。找一个能博你开心一笑的人吧！

在我们的生命中，有时你是如此的思念一个人以至于你希望他们能从梦境中跳出来，带让你实实在在地去拥抱。

梦你想梦之梦，去你想去之地，做你想做之人吧！因为你只有一次生命和一次机会去做自己想做的事情。

愿你：因拥有幸福而可爱，因经历考验而坚强，因体验悲哀而善良，因怀抱希望而幸福。

设身处地为别人着想。如果你觉得受到了伤害，对方恐怕也觉得如此。

最幸福的人未必拥有全部最好的东西，他们只是能够最大程度的利用生活所赋予的一切。

幸福亲睐那些哭过、伤过、追寻过并且努力过的人们，因为只有他们才懂得珍惜曾经影响过自己生命的人。

爱以笑开始，以吻而深厚，却以泪收场。最光明的未来往往建立在忘记过去的基础上，只有当你让过去的失败与伤痛随风而逝时，才能更好的生活下去。

当你出生的时候，你不停的哭泣，而周围的人都在笑。好好的度过你的一生，这样当你死去时，你可以面带微笑，尽管周围的人在为你哭泣。

请将本文传递给那些对你来说很重要的人，那些以这样或那样的方式影响你生活的人，那些在你需要时带给你欢笑的人，那些在你失落时让你看到光明的人，那些你渴望结交并成为挚友的人。如果你还没有这样做，也不用担心，在你的身上不会发生任何糟糕的事情，你只是错过了用这篇美文让别人的日子变得更美好的机会。

1．Swing 摇动，摇摆 2．Sorrow 悲伤，忧伤 3．Assurance 确定，确保 4．Trial 试验，测试 5．Deceive 欺骗

Not Just a Mom

★ Being a mom is the greatest of all sorts of joys.A woman named Emily renewing her driver‵s license at the County Clerk office was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.“What I mean is,”explained the recorder, “Do you have a job, or you just a …” “Of course I have a job,”snapped Emily.“I am a mother.”

“We do not list mother as an occupation…housewife covers it”said the recorder emphatically.I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.The clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,“Official Interrogator” or “Town Registrar.” “What is your occupation? she probed.What made me say it, I do not know.The words simply popped out.“I am a research associate in the field of child development and human relations.” he clerk posed, ballpoint pen frozen in midair, and looked up as though she had not heard right.I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words.Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.“Might I ask,”said the clerk with new interest,“just what do you do in your field? ”

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself replied,“I have a continuing program of research, in the laboratory and in the field.I am working for my master, and already have four credits.Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities and I often work 14 hours a day.But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.”

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk‟s voice as she completed the form，stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.As I drive into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants—aged 13,7,and 3.Upstairs I could hear out new experimental model, in the child-development program, testing out a new vocal pattern.I felt triumphant!I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensible to mankind than“just another mother”.Motherhood … what a glorious career!Especially when there is a title on the door.Does this make grandmother“Senior Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relation”and great grandmother“Executive Senior Research Associate”? I think so！!

I also think it makes Aunts“Associate Research Assistants”.不仅仅是一位妈妈

★做一名母亲是福中之福，了中之乐。

一位名叫艾米丽的妇女到郡办公室办理驾照延期时，女登记员问她的职业。她犹豫了，拿不准自己属于哪一类。

“我的意思是你有没有工作，或者说你是个……”女登记员解释道。“我当然有工作，”艾米丽急忙说，“我是一个母亲。”

“我们不把„母亲‟看做职业……你应该填„家庭主妇‟，”登记员强调说。

要不是有一天在我们自己的市政厅，在我的身上发生了同样的事情，那位女士的遭遇几乎让我给忘了。那儿得职员是一位职业的女性，举止稳重、训练有素，有着类似“官方询问员”或“镇登记员”那样响亮的名头。“你的职业？”她询问道。

我为什么会这么说，连我自己都不知道，这句回答简直就是脱口而出，“我是儿童发展与人类关系研究员”。

那名办事员顿了一下，圆珠笔停在了半空，她抬起头来好像没听清楚。

我又慢慢的重复了我的职业，并强调了最重要的几个词。然后好奇地看着她用粗黑的墨水将我说的话写在了官方的调查问卷上。

“请问您在哪个领域具体是做什么的？”那名职员饶有兴趣的问。

我镇定自若、毫不慌乱的说：“我在实验室里或现场从事持续性的项目研究。我为获得学位而努力工作，并且以获得四学分。当然，这项工作是人文学科中要求最高的，我通常一天工作14个小时。然而，这项工作比许多普通工作更具有挑战性，而且我所得到的回报与其说是金钱不如说是一种满足感。”

那名办事员填完了表格，话里也多了些敬意，她起身亲自把我送到门口。

那响亮的新头衔使我飘飘然起来。车开到家门前的车道上，我的实验室助理出来迎接我，他们分别是13岁、7岁和3岁。楼上，儿童发展项目的新实验对象正在测试一种新的发音模式。

我深感得意。我给了当局有利一击！我，被看作一位从事着对人类来说比“仅作母亲”更不可缺少的、更重要的职业的人被登记在官方档案上。

母亲--多么光荣的职业！特别是当它已经有一个官方称谓的时候。

那么，是否祖母就是“儿童发展与人类关系资深研究员”，曾祖母是“高级研究员”？我想，那是确定无疑的！！

我想姑姑、婶婶、姨妈、舅妈等也可称为“助理研究员”。

I hope

★Happiness is goodness.But how? Grandpa knew more here.We tried hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse.For my grandchild, I would know better.I would really like for them to know hand-me-down clothes and home-made ice cream and left-over meatloaf.I really would.My cherished grandson, I hope you learn humility by surviving failure and that you learn to be honest when no one is looking.I hope you learn to make your bed and mow the lawn and wash the car—and I hope nobody gives you brand-new car when you are sixteen.It will be good if at least one time you can see a baby calf born, and you have a good friend to be with you if you ever have to put your old dog to sleep.I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.I hope you have to share a bedroom with you younger brother.And it is all right to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he is scared, I hope you will let him.And when you want to see a Disney movie and your kid brother wants to tag along, I hope you take him.I hope you have to walk uphill with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.If you want a slingshot, I hope your father teach you how to make one instead of buying one.I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books, and when you learn to use computers, you also learn how to add and subtract in your head.I hope you get razzed by friends when you have your first crush in a girl, and that you when you talk back your mother you learn what Ivory soap tastes like.May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on the stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.I hope you get sick when someone blows smoke in your face.I do not care if you try beer once, but I hope you will not like it.And if a friend offers you a joint or any drugs, I hope you are smart enough to realize that person is not your friend.I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your grandpa or go fishing with your uncle.I hope your mother will punishes you when you throw a baseball through a neighbor‟s window, and that she hugs you and kisses you when you give her a plaster of pared mold of your hand.Those things I wish for you--tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness.希望

1.幸福本是仁慈。怎样获得幸福，爷爷知道的更多。

我们辛辛苦苦的努力，想让孩子们过上更好的生活，可结果却适得其反。我知道什么才是对子孙们有益的。

我想让他们知道什么是上一辈传下来的衣服，什么是自制冰激凌，什么是吃剩的肉块。我一定会那样做。

我的宝贝孙子啊，我希望你能经历失败，并从中学会谦虚，而且在没人看见的情况下你也能做到诚实。

我希望你学着自己铺床、叠被、剪草和洗车。同时，我还希望没人会在你16岁时就送你新车。

如果你能看到小牛犊出生，哪怕一次也好；当你不得不帮一只老狗解脱时，我希望能有好友与你相伴。

我希望你能为自己的信念而奋斗，哪怕结果是鼻青脸肿。

我希望你能和弟弟睡在一个屋里，在卧室里划分一条分界线也没关系，可是，当他害怕的想躲进你的被窝时，我希望你能让他如愿。

我希望当地地缠着想和你一起去迪士尼看电影时，你能爽快的带上他。

我希望你能跟朋友一起去登山，而且我希望你能住一个小镇中，在那里你们可以安全的进行这类活动。

我希望当你想玩弹弓时，你父亲能教你做一个，而不是去买。我希望但你学着在土里挖土的时候，也能学着读书；当你学着使用电脑的时候，也能学着用心算来加减乘除。

我希望当你第一次对女孩有好感的时候，你会被朋友们的起哄弄得面红耳赤，而当你和妈妈顶嘴的时候，你会领教象牙肥皂的滋味。

我希望你登山时膝盖擦破点皮烤火是炉子灼一下你的手舔旗杆时冰冷的旗杆粘一

下你的舌头。

我希望当别人抽烟的时候你会觉得反感。我不在乎你偶尔喝点啤酒，但是我希望你不会喜欢上它。还有。当朋友给你一些大麻烟或毒品时，我希望你能够拥有一双火眼金睛，看清她不是你真正的朋友。

我当然希望你能够抽出时间陪爷爷聊天或者跟叔叔钓鱼。

我希望当你将棒球投进邻居的窗户时，你母亲会惩罚你；然而，当你将自己的手模送给她时，她会拥抱并亲吻你。

我希望上天能赐予你—艰难和失望，拼搏和幸福。

On Meeting the Celebrated

I have always wondered at the passion many people have to meet the celebrated.The prestige you acquire by being able to tell your friends that you know men proves only that you are yourself of small account.The celebrated develop a technology to deal with persons they come across, they show the world a mask, often an impressive one, but take care to conceal their real selves.They play the part that is expected from them, and with practice they learn to play it very well, but you are stupid enough if you think that this public performance of theirs corresponds with the man within.I have been attached, deeply attached, to a few people;but I have been interested in men in general not for their own sakes, but for the sake of my work.I have not, as Kant enjoined, regarded each man as an end in himself, but as a material that might be useful to me as a writer.I have been more concerned with the obscure than with the famous.They are more of themselves.They have had no need to create a figure to protect themselves from the world or to impress it.Their idiosyncrasies have had more chance to develop in the limited circle of their activity, and since they have never in the public eye it has never occurred to them that they have anything to conceal.They display their oddities because it has never struck them that they are odd.And after all it is with the common run of men we writer have to deal;kings, dictators, commercial magnates are from our point of view very unsatisfactory.To writer about them is a venture that has often tempted writers, but the failure that has attended their efforts shows that such beings are too exceptional to form a proper ground for a work of art.They can not be made real.The ordinary is the writer‟s richer field.Its unexpectedness, its singularity, its infinite variety afford unending material.The great man is too often all of a piece;it is the little man that is a bundle of contradictory elements.He is inexhaustible.You never come to the end of the surprises he has in store for you.For my part I would much sooner spend a month on desert island with a veterinary surgeon than with a prime minister.1.magnates

大资本家，巨头，富豪，要人 2.singularity

单一，异常，奇异，奇妙，稀有 3.inexhaustible 无穷无尽的

4.veterinary 兽医

与名人见面

我总想弄明白为什么许多人热衷于见名人。告诉朋友你认识某个名人，由此而来的声望只能证明你自己微不足道。

名人个个练就了一套处事高招，无论遇上谁，都能应对自如。他们给世人展现的是一副面具，常常是美好而难忘的面具，但他们会小心翼翼的遮盖自己的真相。他们扮演的是大家期待的角色，演得多了，最后都能演的惟妙惟肖。如果你认为他们在公众面前的表演就是他们真实的自我，那你就太傻了。

我自己就喜欢一些人，非常喜欢他们。但一般来说，我对人感兴趣不是因为他们自身的缘故，而是出于我的工作需要。正如康的劝告的那样，我从来没把认识某人当作目的，而是将其当作对一个作家有用的素材。比之名流之士，我更加关注无名小卒。他们常常显得较为自然真实，他们无需再创造另一个人物形象，用它来保护自已不收拾人干扰，或者用它去感动世人。他们的社交圈子有限，自己的种种癖性也就越有可能滋长，因为他们从没引起公众的关注，也就从来没有想到过要隐瞒什么。他们会表露他们古怪的一面，因为他们从来没有觉得有任何古怪。总之作家要写的是普通人。在我们看来，国王、独裁者和商界大亨等都是不符合条件的。

去撰写这些人物经常是作家难以抗拒的冒险之举，可为此付出的努力不免以失败告终，这说明这些人物过于特殊，无法成为一件艺术作品的创作根基，作家也不可能把他们写的真真切切。老百姓才是作家创作的沃土，他们或变化无常，或难觅其二，各式人物应有尽有，这些都给作家提供了无限的创作素材。大人物经常是千人一面，小人物身上才有一组组矛盾元素，是取之不尽的创作源泉，让你惊喜不断。就我而言，如果在孤岛上度过一个月，我宁愿和一名兽医相守，也不愿统一为首相做伴。

The important things in life

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or what you want to become.You never know who these people may be—a roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover or even a complete stranger—but when you lock your eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.Without those small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere.It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become.Even the bad experiences can be learned from.In fact, they are sometimes the most important ones.If someone love you, give love back to them in whatever way you can, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.If someone hurts you, betrays you, or break your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.Make every day count.Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again.Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen to what they have to say.Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sight high.Hold your head up because you have every right to.Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you do not believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.You can make anything you wish of your life.Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.And if you love someone, just tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store for you.一生中要紧的事

有时，一旦有人走入你的生命，你就会立刻明白他们本来就在那里，要么达成某种目的，给予你处事的道理；要么帮助你认清你自已；要么帮你实现理想。

你永远不知道这些人会是谁—一位室友，一位邻居，一位友人，一位情人或者是位陌生人—然而当你闭上眼睛想起他们时，那一刻，你会明白他们在某些方面深深地影响着你的生活。

有时，发生在你身上的事情首先看起来有点可怕，有点痛苦甚至还有点不公，而你反省之后，你会发现不克服这些障碍，也意识不到自己的潜力、实力、毅力还有心地。

疾病，伤害，爱情，那些逝去的真正伟大的时刻，以及种种愚蠢行为都可以验证你灵魂的底线。无论这些小小的测验是什么，没有它们，生活就像一条平坦的大道，伸向没有终极的目标。它可能安全舒适，却枯燥乏味，完全没有，意义。

在你的人生中，那些你遇见过的影响你生活的人，以及你所经历的大起大落，都会帮助你创造自己，实现自己。你甚至可以从那些糟糕的经历中学到东西。实际上，它们有时会成为你人生中最重要的经历。

如果有人爱你，无论你用何种方式，一定要投桃报李；不仅仅因为他们爱

你，而且因为他们教你怎样去爱，怎样敞开你的心扉，开阔你的视野。

如果有人背叛了你，伤害了你，或者伤了你的心，原谅他们，因为他们帮助你学会了信任，学会了对一个人敞开心扉时要谨慎小心。

让每一天都有价值，珍惜每一时刻，尽可能从那些时光中有所收获，因为这些经历你可能不会再重复。和那些你往日没有讲过话的人交流，听听他们的心声。

让自己陷入爱的涡旋之后从中解脱，然后放远眼光。你应该昂头挺胸，对自己充满信心，因为你有权利这样做。要从内心告诉自己你是一位了不起的人，并相信自己，如若你自己不相信自己，也很难让他人来相信你。

你可以按照自己的愿望生活。创造你自己的人生，按照你自己设计的方式毫无遗憾的度过。如果你爱上某个人，就告诉他，因为你永远不知道明天等待你的是什么。

我们这个时代的尴尬

我们的房屋在扩大，家庭却在缩小；生活越来越便利，时间却越来越少；学位证书越拿越多，基本常识却愈加匮乏；知识越来越丰富，判断力却日趋迟钝；专家越来越多，问题却也日益增加；药物越吃越多，健康却每况愈下。

我们花钱太鲁莽，笑容太少，车开得太快，太容易动怒，熬夜太晚，起床时太累，书读得太少，电视看得太勤，祷告做得太少。

我们不断敛聚物质财富，却逐渐丢失了自我价值。我们说的太多，爱的太少，谎言泛滥。我们掌握了谋生手段，却不懂得生活的真谛；我们不断的延年益寿，却没有为生命注入新的活力。

我们的房子越筑越高，脾气却越来越糟；我们行驶的道路越来越宽阔，眼光却越来越狭隘。我们付出很多，可获得的很少；我们购买了很多，可从中得到乐趣却很少。

我们能够往返于地球和月球之间，却不愿意穿过马路向邻居问好。我们已经征服太空，却无法与于内心的鸿沟；我们已经让原子分裂，却不能突破思想偏见；我们写的很多，可学到的很少；计划很多，可完

成的很少。

我们学会了追赶时间，却没学会耐心等待；我们拥有的财富越来越多，道德品质却日益沦丧，我们生产更多的电脑用于储存更多的信息和制造更多的拷贝，而相互间的交流却越来越少。我们渴求数量，却忽视了质量。

这是一个快餐食品与消化迟缓相伴的时代；一个体格高大和性格病态共存的时代；一个追名逐利和人情冷漠相生的时代。我们的休闲多了，乐趣缺少了；食品种类多了，营养缺失了；双薪家庭增加了，离婚率也激升了；局势的装饰华丽了，家庭却残缺破碎了。

Glad to chat with you From the first communication between us several days ago, I found that you are a man with kindness and consideration.I do not want to learn much about your background;after all, I have received concrete and all-aspects advice of everyday life, which I did not expect at all when I got you in the list of my“good-friends”.You should chat with me via voice-media, I do not mean that I dislike it here.To be honest, you are the first person that talked with me on the internet via voice-media since I bought the computer.Perhaps it is easier for you to chat through the voice-media than press the keys on the keyboard, as you have copious materials and life experiences, which make you a talkative man.As with myself, I reckon I have more time to think what I will say while pressing the keys, and in this way, too long interval between our talks seems to be avoided.Similarly, I do not think it(by pressing the keys)is good way to communicate either.Though the internet itself is filled with unreality, you have fostered a favorite image in my deep heart.Perhaps you are the leading man that helps me go to the right direction when I am at sea.OK, that is all.Thank you forever!

Yours sincerely

Li Anling

杂论随谈

1.Subtle friendship is true;subtle greetings are enough;subtle love is tender;subtle longing is deep;subtle wishes come from the bottom of my heart.2.I am not sure what it is that keeps me from approaching you to some extent, the wisdom you hold, or the fear in my heart, or some other objective facts.As a matter of fact, I have not meant to put you to so much trouble for the moment.I just want to keep in touch with you and know that it would be nobody else but you when I dial a certain telephone number.Perhaps that is what I have been longing for a long time.At the same time, as with strangers from different backgrounds, I do not expect much consideration from you, though it probably would not take you much time to offer me some necessary help when I actually need it.But on the other hand, all we see about your performance during the class is only the aspect of work, whether it is the real one of another you which I reckon can best reflect your certain quality does not account for much, after all, I have experienced some of your attitude to work and communication.3.Do not Wait till the Flowers out of Bloom

We often trap ourselves in a contradictory situation: we are willing to cherish those beloved or liked around us, but we also find excuse to wait till next day or time for them.However, one day when we are saddened to learn their disappearance, we realize that god do give us time to love, to care, to transplant them into our beautiful memories, but we miss the blossom.4.Two Truths to Live by

The art of living is to know when to hold fast and when to let go.For life is a paradox: it enjoins us to cling to its many gifts even while it ordain their eventual relinquishment.The rabbis of old put it this way: “A man comes to this world with this world with his fist clenched, but when he dies, his hand is open.5.The Difference Between Love and Like In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster, But in front of the person you like, you get happy.In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring

But in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter

If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile

In front of the person you love, you can‟t say everything on your mind But in front of the person you like, you can

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy

But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self The person you love comes into your mind every 2 minutes You can‟t look straight into the eyes of the one you love But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting The feeling of love starts from the eye And the feeling of like starts from the ear

So if you stop liking a person you used to like All you need to do is cover you ears But if you try to close you eyes

Love turns into a teardrop and remains in your heart forever after.6.When Love Beckons You

作者：纪伯伦

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.When love beckons you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep.And when his wings enfold you, yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.north wind lays waste the garden.For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, so shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.But if, in your fear, you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure, then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears, love gives naughtbut itself and takes naught but from itself, love possesses not, nor would it be possessed, for love is sufficient unto love.Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.But if you love and have desires, let these be your desires:

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.To know the pain of too much understanding of love.And to bleed willingly and joyfully.To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;

To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;

To return home at eventide with gratitude;

And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart.当爱挥手召唤你时，跟随着它，尽管它的道路艰难而险峻。当它展翼拥抱你时，依顺着它，尽管它羽翼中的利刃会伤害你。当它对你说话时，要相信它，尽管它的声音会击碎你的梦，像狂风扫尽花园中的花。

爱虽可为你加冕，也能将你钉上十字架。它虽可助你成长，也能将你削砍剪枝。它会攀至你的高处，轻抚你在阳光下颤动的最柔嫩的枝条，它也会降至你的根底，动摇你紧紧依附着大地的根须。

但是如果你出于畏惧而去寻求爱的和平与爱的欢乐，那你最好掩起自己的赤裸，离开爱的打谷场，踏入那没有季节的世界，在那里，你会开怀，但不是尽情欢笑，你会哭泣，但不是尽为泪水。爱除了自身别无所予，除了自身也别无所取。爱不占有，也不被占有：因为爱有了自己就足够了。

爱别无他求，只求成全自己。但如果你爱了，又有所渴求，就让这些成为你的所求吧： 融化为一道奔流的溪水，在黑夜吟唱自己的清曲。体会太多温柔带来的痛苦。被自己对爱的体会所伤害。心甘情愿的滴血。

清晨，带着一颗生翼的心醒来，感谢又一个充满爱的日子； 午休，沉思爱的心醉神怡； 黄昏，带着感激归家；

睡前，为你心中的挚爱祈祷。

Is life shy

I was painfully shy as a child.In high school I would avoid anticipating in class discussions.I was too afraid to talk to anyone but my closest friends.I would think about being less shy, wanting the courage not only to ask a girl out, but to speak up in class and say what I was thinking.Yes, it never happened, fears embodied themselves in such self-conscious question as, “What will other people think?”, “What if she says no?” I felt a dark presence in my mind holding me back.This shyness continued into college.One day the question occurred to me: Is life shy?

The thought startled me!Think of the leaves bursting in the spring time, the bird singing at dawn, the sheer number of different forms of life, all expressing the wildness and scope of divine life.There is nothing shy about it.This life is everywhere and attention-grabbing.So, if my creator is not shy about all the life that needs expressing, I do not need to be either.I realized that if I wanted to overcome fear and shyness, I would have to put the law of life into practice.Shyness, fear, and loneliness were hiding me from living my life as life.I had to refuse to let shyness and fear control me.Instead, I decided to live hw life saw me.One example: I wrote a note to a girl, asking her out on a date.Even as I was writing it, the fears of rejection and unworthiness put their pressure to me.This time however, instead of shrinking back and hiding from fear, I put the note in the campus mail in spite of myself.I thought whether she says yes or no, it is still right for me not to be shy.I can live with the confidence sent from the source of my life.The girl saw me in class the next day and told me that she would love to go out with me.I should not have been so surprised!

Bit by bit, I was proving that a limited view of myself no longer had control over me.After college, I worked as a newspaper reporter, earned an advanced degree in theater, became a published writer(a life-long dream), met a special woman whom I married, and even got a job teaching at a major university.作为采石工的第一天

截至去年二月止，距离我初次打算尝试一种痛苦且受制约的生活经历已经20年了。那天早晨，我怀着无比沉重的心情于日出前上路。那时我还只是个瘦骨嶙峋男孩，爱恋美好而飘渺的浪漫，痴迷于白日做梦，醉心于不幸的变故。但我却将要去被伯恩斯在他的“两只狗”中列为所有就业情况中最令人讨厌的采石场之一去工作。除了以前被几则悲观的论调引起的不安外，我当时生活状况的一部分还是相当快乐的。我曾经游荡于山石和丛林之间，也一度品读猎奇书籍，并且对世袭故事珍爱有加。但现在我将用所有的白日梦和所有的乐趣来迎取一种不得不长时间出卖劳力以求基本生存的苦难生活。

我所工作的采石场位于南海岸一个美丽的内陆湾，或者说是一个河口。一旁是一条清澈见底的小溪，另一旁则是绵延的冷杉丛。在老红山岩片区已经被开发了，高耸在由冲积泥土而形成的巨大河床之上，有些地方几乎高出30英尺，在那时的这个季节被租出了，在近来天气严寒的时节，它总呈现出一览无余的面貌，摇摇欲坠，岌岌可危。一堆从上面落下来的碎块挡住了通往采石场的路。我此行的目的就是把它们清理开。

尽管与铁锹之间的摩擦导致了手上的水泡，但那却无关痛痒。我仍欣欣然地努力工作，因为我期待目睹这些外表看似坚不可摧的地下层组织是如何被挖开，尔后被挪走的。我的工友利用了锄、楔形物以及杠杆等工具，尽管我习惯性的认为这些工具除了本身笨重外，操作还是很方便的，但我却发现，就其使用方式而言，我仍需多加学习。然而它们的效用并不明显，由于必须深挖至下一层，工人们便利用了火药，我想这道对我来说还是陌生的程序应该极其有趣吧！他享有因受意外伤害而被照顾的特权，诸如划船、攀岩这类程度危险的活动。因此也就有了无关自身新奇与否的兴趣。经过多次致命爆破，碎石片漫天飞舞，其中一个巨大的洪积层块团崩塌时，两只既死的鸟儿也随之落了下来，顺着由最近的一次暴风雨形成的水流入一条更深的裂沟，死于隐蔽处。

我又产生了观看它们好奇心:其中一个是一只雄性的金翅雀，朱红色的头冠，翅膀上镶嵌着名副其实的金色，看起来油光滑亮且干净，就像是为了博物馆藏而特意维持的一般；另外一个是属于啄木鸟科的相当稀有的鸟类，斑驳的色彩中闪现出淡蓝色和灰黄色。我之所以专注于欣赏这两只可怜的鸟儿，与其说是思考十年后它们夏季绿色栖息地中的温暖和快乐与它们迁徙时的的寒冷和黑暗的对照，不如说是陶醉于其时的的脉脉含情。正在这时，响起了老板吩咐工人收工的声音。

我抬头看到太阳沉浸于绵延的杉木丛后，留下来的长长的黑影径直伸向海岸。

Chen Bin’s Noble Deeds Born in Haikang county, a city of Guangdong province, Chen Bin enjoys a courtesy name of Meichuan.When he worked hard in his early years, he once said: “There are few who are able to gain a good reputation of nobility when they are officials if they don not have strict self-discipline before.”

After passing a series of examinations, he became a presented scholar in 1694,and was conferred a magistrate of Gutian county.Mountainous as Gutian is, its small fields laid around without any order, and its tax and corvee were not so even.As a consequence, many people migrated and evaded away, some sly ones even turned thieves.Given its serious situation, Chen Bin boldly made a balanced tax and corvee plan, thus people there had a chance to recuperate and rebuild themselves.He soon was moved to Taiwan, where just had a recovery then, and many rules and regulations were not that complete.He not only led its people with his honesty but also made improving custom and prospering culture as his important business.He himself even wore flax clothes and ate vegetable food with no other flavor.At he end of the year, he donated all of his salary to the public and he left himself nothing.His noble deeds startled everyone around, and that was exactly what made him achieve so great a feat.When he took office as a TXDQS in Sichuan in 1703, he selected the talented with heart and soul all by himself, and he was known as the most honest government official.In 1714, he broke a rule of being promoted grand coordinator of Pianyuan, and he went there alone.Being unknown to his occupation, many bureaucrat officials showed no cordial welcome to him at all.He often said: “though an official takes only a small amount of money, he actually had stolen a big sum.” So he refused to accept any gift or offering from people.His son had planned to visit their relatives several times, only finding no extra money at hand to rent a boat or cart.Chen Bin‟s extraordinary character separated him from his fellow.He lived a plain, or rather a hard life, even his roof was of rough materials.Though he ate a little meat everyday, fruits and vegetables were his constant diet.His daily life was mostly lived through at the congress hall.He was so crazy about his work that he would get up at dawn and not sleep until it was too late at night.When he came up to meet the emperor, the predecessor showed solicitous concern about his health and welfare.But Chen Bin said:“I have a relatively wealthy life before I get the position, and I always can feed myself well without taking even a penny.” After he went far away, the emperor said with a mixed feeling:“what a poor penitential monk!”

Soon after he was set to Fujian.The emperor personally said to the chancellors:“Chen Bin is born and growing up by the sea, has no a well traditionary family, nor any relatives or

old friends, but people around all acclaimed that he is honest and upright.If he does not have fine deeds, how could it be like this? He is surely a prototype of auspicious for the country.” When he coped with affairs, he put emphasize on the important ones, and did not approve trivial ones.After he reached Jianyang, he built a Cox Pavilion Academy, then he also constructed Zhizi Temple of Dragon Stream.After a while, he took a viceroy of MinZhe as another work.When he wasa commanded to guard the coast, he refused to take in offerings from people and prepared necessary food by himself.The sea tides of Dongyang bank in Leizhou, Guangdong province, were so violent that they violated peasants‟ fields there.Therefore, Chen Bin took liberties with public property and his own salary of the official to help construct the burrock.Henceforth, its induration benefited fellow villagers there.When he suffered a serious illness, he only left his will indicating that his remaining 13,000 taels of silver would be presented to military pay division.The emperor said:“It is rare to such a noble official as Chen Bin.” And he was posthumously awarded director of board of vites, its posthumous title Qingduan.Exhortation to High Officials It is worthwhile paying certain attention to the historical experiences when it comes to tidy local administration.A paragraph in …………compiled and published by imperial order records:“If a corrupted chancellor can not make a prototype for his fellows, they might be dishonest;if the fellows can not manage people well, the society custom is bound to go bad, and at this rate, they make compulsory collection wildly, which will exert great harm on common people.So dsastr will surely be in store for the country.Under this circumstance, one can not wish a peaceful and stable life at all.”

Chancellor plays a key role in advocating upright and punishing dishonest.First of all, they occupy an important position and can affect other inferior officers directly.And their ways of dealing with affairs are bound to have significant effect on political life and social climate.Secondly, once a chancellor is involved in corruption, he will not be able to accord the dignity he actually deserves, and has no bold courage to manage politics.Just as the saying goes: It makes little invalid efficiency that one blame others for their dishonesty and corruption in he himself can not perform good deeds expected from him.Adimittedly it is true that some chancellors in all ages are so lured by greedy lust that they are just like moths flying into the flames, without considering accusals from the public.They just disregard moral principles in pursuit of profit, which makes them fatuous.And at the same time, they all harbor a fluke mind.Some books involving cautionary advice on high officials have already analyzed such a mentation, and indicated that people surely have a preference for themselves when compared with bribery, but they usually make an inverse choice between the two, and this is why? Actually, most of them reckon that they have a relatively underground action, and no one will know it.However, what makes them surprised is that their bribery will gradually spread from the place where they practiced

bribery to large street and small lanes day by day.Once their bribery is brought to light, not only all of their relatives and faithful friends but also evil associates will be hostile to them.They might feel tired in mind and exhausted in strength upon losing all standings and reputation.What a tragic experience!All talked about here is intended to deliver such a plain and profound alert to those ignoramus who hold an important post:“ You just can not escape being punished as there does exist justice and verdict of the masses.”