第一篇：20到30岁 是人生最不可挥霍的时光
20到30岁 是人生最不可挥霍的时光
20-30岁是人生的关键期，你走的每一步，做出的每一个决定，都会影响你以后的人生。然而，20多岁的年轻人，也是最容易感到困惑迷茫，最可能虚度时光的。心理咨询师Meg Jay根据自己多年的经验，给处在这个重要时期的年轻人一些中肯的建议。下面，双语君（微信ID：Chinadaily_Mobile）就带着大家一起听听。
20多岁时，Meg Jay在伯克利大学读临床心理学博士。她的第一个患者Alex是个26岁的女孩，情感一团糟，生活没有头绪。
面对Alex当前混乱的情况，同为20多岁的Meg Jay并不知道要给她怎样的建议，反正20多岁也不着急。
Work happens later.Marriage happens later.Kids happen later, and even death happens later.工作、婚姻、孩子，甚至是死亡，要等以后才来。
直到有一天，Meg的导师点醒了她，让她意识到20多岁的生活是多么重要，而人们往往忽视了这段时光的重要性。
That was when I realized this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers, families and futures of twentysomethings everywhere.这时我才明白这种“善意的疏忽”是个真正的问题，而且它会带来严重的后果。不光对Alex和她的爱情生活，对于所有20多岁人的事业、家庭和未来都会造成影响。她说，社会、媒体都在宣扬着20多岁是“后青春期”，20多岁的人还未长大等观念，而这些剥夺了你应该有的紧迫感和志向。
So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extra years to start your life”? Nothing happens.所以说当你拍着一个20多岁人的头说，“你还有十年才开始真正的人生”时，你认为会发生什么？什么也不会发生。
You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.你剥夺了那个人的紧迫感以及志向，但没有任何作用。
事实上，20岁是成人发展（adult development）的关键阶段，这段时间会塑造你的未来。Meg Jay告诫20多岁的年轻人，不要浑浑噩噩度过20岁，更不要把所有的压力都留给30岁。
When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.当很多事情被推到30多岁时，你会面临巨大的30岁压力——极短时间内开始职业生涯，择一城，选一人，生几个娃。这些事情中有很多是不兼容的，就如研究所示，在30多岁这个阶段同时完成这么多事，压力和难度实在是太大了。
后来，Meg Jay遇到了另一位年轻患者Emma，她遇到了身份认同难题，对未来充满迷茫。而这一次，她给了Emma一些实用的建议，而这些建议也值得所有20多岁的年轻人来听听。
❶ To forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.忘掉身份危机，获得一些身份资本。
By getting identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.获得身份资本，是指做些可以增加你自身价值的事。❷ The urban tribe is overrated.不要局限于你的核心小圈子。urban tribe：住在大城市的年轻人组成的小圈子。
New pieces of capital and new people to date almost always come from outside the inner circle.New things come from what are called our weak ties.新的资本，新的约会对象大都来自圈外。新事物正是来自所谓的弱关系里。❸ The time to start choosing your family is now.现在是时候选择你自己的家庭了。
The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.考虑婚姻问题的最佳时间是开始婚姻前，这意味着像挑选工作那样有意识地挑选爱情。总之，不要指望30岁弥补20岁的缺失，好好把握20多岁的时光。
Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.You're deciding your life right now.30岁并非新20岁，所以要把握成人期，获得一些身份资本，利用弱关系，选择自己的家庭。不要被你不知道的，没做过的事情定义人生，你要自己去决定。
第二篇：二十几岁是不可挥霍的光阴
二十几岁是不可挥霍的光阴（中英字幕）
Meg Jay Ted英语演讲：
kira86 于2013-06-09 20岁，不可挥霍的光阴。在这个点击过百万的TED演讲中，心理咨询师Meg Jay说不能因为婚姻、工作和子女是以后的事情，现在就可以无规划的生活。她提供三条建议帮助20多岁的年轻人重新审视自己的生活，不要做后悔的决定。
为什么要听她演讲
近期观点认为，25岁似乎太过年轻，无法做重大决定。临床心理学家Meg Jay藉由心理学实务和著作《20世代，你的人生是不是卡住了》阐述，许多二十世代深陷《时代》杂志所谓「我我我世代」的迷思和误导中。她认为「三十世代是新二十世代」的说法使人们轻忽成年阶段最具可塑性的时光。
撷取十余年来与数百名二十世代个案及学生咨商的经验，Jay将科学融入一段段引人入胜、不为人知的故事中。精彩、生动的故事发展，显示为何二十世代并非发展停滞期，而是仅此一次的发展高峰。二十世代是个关键期，我们所做之事－及未做之事－对未来人生、甚至后代都将产生巨大影响。
Meg Jay：二十几岁，不可挥霍的光阴 英语演讲稿：
When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client.I was a Ph.D.student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex.Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.Now when I heard this, I was so relieved.My classmate got an arsonist for her first client.(Laughter)And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys.This I thought I could handle.But I didn't handle it.With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road.“Thirty's the new 20,” Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right.Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later.Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life.I pushed back.I said, “Sure, she's dating down, she's sleeping with a knucklehead, but it's not like she's going to marry the guy.”
And then my supervisor said, “Not yet, but she might marry the next one.Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one.”
That's what psychologists call an “Aha!” moment.That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime.That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it.That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now.We're talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.Raise your hand if you're in your 20s.I really want to see some twentysomethings here.Oh, yay!Y'all's awesome.If you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing sleep over twentysomethings, I want to see — Okay.Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.This is not my opinion.These are the facts.We know that 80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35.That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and “Aha!” moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s.People who are over 40, don't panic.This crowd is going to be fine, I think.We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn.We know that more than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30.We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it.We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35.So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain.It's a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become.But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing.Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood.Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence.Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like “twixters” and “kidults.” It's true.As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time.Isn't that true? So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extra years to start your life”? Nothing happens.You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this: “I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but this relationship doesn't count.I'm just killing time.” Or they say, “Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine.”
But then it starts to sound like this: “My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself.I had a better résumé the day after I graduated from college.”
And then it starts to sound like this: “Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs.Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.”
Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high.When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.It's realizing you can't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling.Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, “What was I doing? What was I thinking?”
I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.Here's a story about how that can go.It's a story about a woman named Emma.At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis.She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead.Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition.And as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even harder.She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, “You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.”
Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sobbed for most of the hour.She'd just bought a new address book, and she'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts, but then she'd been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words “In case of emergency, please call....” She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said, “Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck? Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?”
Now in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, “I will.” But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really, really cared.Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance.I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's defining decade went parading by.So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things that every twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.By get identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next.I didn't know the future of Emma's career, and no one knows the future of work, but I do know this: Identity capital begets identity capital.So now is the time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startup you want to try.I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to count, which, by the way, is not exploration.That's procrastination.I told Emma to explore work and make it count.Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated.Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work.That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.So yes, half of twentysomethings are un-or under-employed.But half aren't, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group.Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un-posted job.It's not cheating.It's the science of how information spreads.Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.Now this was true for her growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own.I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now.Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress.The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book, and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state.That weak tie helped her get a job there.That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.Now, five years later, she's a special events planner for museums.She's married to a man she mindfully chose.She loves her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card that said, “Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough.”
Now Emma's story made that sound easy, but that's what I love about working with twentysomethings.They are so easy to help.Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west.Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know.It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.It's what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day: Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.You're deciding your life right now.Thank you.(Applause)
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第三篇：二十几岁是不可挥霍的光阴中英Meg Jay
二十几岁是不可挥霍的光阴（中英字幕）Meg Jay Ted英语演讲： kira86 于2013-06-09 20岁，不可挥霍的光阴。在这个点击过百万的TED演讲中，心理咨询师MegJay说不能因为婚姻、工作和子女是以后的事情，现在就可以无规划的生活。她提供三条建议帮助20多岁的年轻人重新审视自己的生活，不要做后悔的决定。为什么要听她演讲
近期观点认为，25岁似乎太过年轻，无法做重大决定。临床心理学家Meg Jay藉由心理学实务和著作《20世代，你的人生是不是卡住了》阐述，许多二十世代深陷《时代》杂志所谓「我我我世代」的迷思和误导中。她认为「三十世代是新二十世代」的说法使人们轻忽成年阶段最具可塑性的时光。
撷取十余年来与数百名二十世代个案及学生咨商的经验，Jay将科学融入一段段引人入胜、不为人知的故事中。精彩、生动的故事发展，显示为何二十世代并非发展停滞期，而是仅此一次的发展高峰。二十世代是个关键期，我们所做之事－及未做之事－对未来人生、甚至后代都将产生巨大影响。
Meg Jay：二十几岁，不可挥霍的光阴英语演讲稿：
When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client.Iwas a Ph.D.student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.She was a 26-year-oldwoman named Alex.Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and abig slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off herflats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.Now when I heardthis, I was so relieved.My classmate got an arsonist for her first client.(Laughter)And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys.This Ithought I could handle.But I didn't handle it.With the funny stories that Alex would bringto session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can downthe road.“Thirty's the new 20,” Alex would say, and as far as Icould tell, she was right.Work happened later, marriage happened later, kidshappened later, even death happened later.Twentysomethings like Alex and I hadnothing but time.But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her lovelife.I pushed back.I said, “Sure, she's dating down, she's sleeping with aknucklehead, but it's not like she's going to marry the guy.”
And then my supervisor said, “Not yet, but she might marry thenext one.Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she hasone.”
That's what psychologists call an “Aha!” moment.That wasthe moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later thanthey used to, but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime.Thatmade Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowingit.That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a realproblem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life butfor
the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States rightnow.We're talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if youconsider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their20s first.Raise your hand if you're in your 20s.I really want to see sometwentysomethings here.Oh, yay!Y'all's awesome.If you work withtwentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing sleep overtwentysomethings, I want to see — Okay.Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that everysingle one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know whatpsychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists alreadyknow: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative,things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for theworld.This is not my opinion.These are the facts.We know that 80 percentof life's most defining moments take place by age 35.That means that eight outof 10 of the decisions and experiences and “Aha!” moments that makeyour life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s.People who are over40, don't panic.This crowd is going to be fine, I think.We know that the first10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're goingto earn.We know that more than half of Americans are married or are livingwith or dating their future partner by 30.We know that the brain caps off itssecond and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood,which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is thetime to change it.We know that personality changes more during your 20s thanat any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28,and things get tricky after age 35.So your 20s are the time to educateyourself about your body and your options.So when we think about child development, we all know that the firstfive years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain.It'sa time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who youwill become.But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adultdevelopment, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing.Newspapers talkabout the changing timetable of adulthood.Researchers call the 20s an extendedadolescence.Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like“twixters” and “kidults.” It's true.As a culture, we havetrivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a planand not quite enough time.Isn't that true? So what do you think happens whenyou pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extrayears to start your life”? Nothing happens.You
have robbed that person ofhis urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you orlike your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this:“I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but this relationship doesn'tcount.I'm just killing time.” Or they say, “Everybody says as longas I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine.”
But then it starts to sound like this: “My 20s are almost over,and I have nothing to show for myself.I had a better résumé the day after Igraduated from college.”
And then it starts to sound like this: “Dating in my 20s waslike musical chairs.Everybody was running around and having fun, but thensometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody startedsitting down.I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes Ithink I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.”
Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakesare very high.When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormousthirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, andhave two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these thingsare incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder andmore stressful to do all at once in our 30s.The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.It's realizing youcan't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling.Toomany thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me,sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, “What was I doing? Whatwas I thinking?”
I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.Here's a story about how that can go.It's a story about a womannamed Emma.At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, havingan identity crisis.She said she thought she might like to work in art orentertainment, but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few yearswaiting tables instead.Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend whodisplayed his temper more than his ambition.And as hard as her 20s were, herearly life had been even harder.She often cried in our sessions, but thenwould collect herself by saying, “You can't pick your family, but you canpick your friends.”
Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, andshe sobbed for most of the hour.She'd just bought a new address book, andshe'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts, but then she'd been leftstaring at that empty blank that comes after the words “In case ofemergency, please call....” She was nearly hysterical when she
looked atme and said, “Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck?Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?”
Now in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, “Iwill.” But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really, reallycared.Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance.I had learnedtoo much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's definingdecade went parading by.So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things thatevery twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and getsome identity capital.By get identity capital, I mean do something that addsvalue to who you are.Do something that's an investment in who you might wantto be next.I didn't know the future of Emma's career, and no one knows thefuture of work, but I do know this: Identity capital begets identity capital.So now is the time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startupyou want to try.I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but I amdiscounting exploration that's not supposed to count, which, by the way, is notexploration.That's procrastination.I told Emma to explore work and make itcount.Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated.Best friendsare great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddletogether with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how theythink, how they speak, and where they work.That new piece of capital, that newperson to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.New thingscome from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.Soyes, half of twentysomethings are un-or under-employed.But half aren't, andweak ties are how you get yourself into that group.Half of new jobs are neverposted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un-postedjob.It's not cheating.It's the science of how information spreads.Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family,but you can pick your friends.Now this was true for her growing up, but as atwentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered withsomeone and created a family of her own.I told Emma the time to start pickingyour family is now.Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better timeto settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.But grabbing whoeveryou're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walkingdown the aisle is not progress.The best time to work on your marriage isbefore you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you arewith work.Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what youwant rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to bechoosing you.So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book,and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in anotherstate.That weak tie helped her get a job there.That job offer gave her thereason to leave that live-in boyfriend.Now, five years later, she's a specialevents planner for museums.She's married to a man she mindfully chose.Sheloves her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card thatsaid, “Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough.”
Now Emma's story made that sound easy, but that's what I love aboutworking with twentysomethings.They are so easy to help.Twentysomethings arelike airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west.Right after takeoff,a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, onegood TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations tocome.So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know.It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.It's what I now have theprivilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day: Thirty isnot the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use yourweak ties, pick your family.Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn'tdo.You're deciding your life right now.Thank you.(Applause)
第四篇：大学四年是我人生最珍贵的时光
大学四年是我人生最珍贵的时光。在这四年内，我学习目的明确，态度端正，钻研专业知识。学习勤奋刻苦，关心同学，勇于挑战自我。大学校园生活和社会实践生活，有渴望、有追求、有成功也有失败，我孜孜不倦，不断地挑战自我，改正错误，弥补不足，充实自己，为实现人生的价值打下坚实的基础。
在学习上，我热爱自己的专业，在专业知识方面精益求精，过了英语专业四级，大学英语六级。电脑、普通话等方面的等级考试已达标。身为学生的我在修好学业的同时也注重于社会实践。本着学以致用，理论结合实践的原则，努力提高自己的实践能力。大学四年的暑假，通过暑期工，提高了工作能力，积累了很多工作经验。并且，在以后的工作中，能更好的将理论与实际相结合，建立共赢、换位沟通、集思广益的优良习惯，我相信会有更大提高。
在工作上，对工作热情，任劳任怨，责任心强，具有良好的组织交际能力，和同学团结一致，注重配合其他学生干部出色完成各项工作，促进了团队沟通与合作，得到了大家的一致好评。
在生活上，我最大的特点是诚实守信，热心待人，勇于挑战自我，时间观念强，有着良好的生活习惯和正派作风。我崇尚质朴的生活。平易近人待人友好，所以一直以来与人相处甚是融洽。敢于拼搏，刻苦耐劳将伴随我迎接未来新挑战。
四年的大学生活，使自己的知识水平、思想境界、工作能力等方面都迈上了一个新的台阶。在这即将挥手告别美好大学生活、踏上社会征途的时候，我整军待发，将以饱满的热情、坚定的信心、高度的责任感去迎接新的挑战，攀登新的高峰。
第五篇：大度是人生不可缺少的高贵品质
在弥勒佛的寺庙里，我们经常可以见到这副对联。大肚能容，容天下难容之事;开口便笑，笑世上可笑之人。这副对联，是讲度量的，说的是做人要有做人的分寸。做人的分寸把握得当，就显得老练、成熟、有修养，否则就显得浅薄和稚嫩。把握做人的分寸与自然，颇有讲究，我以为，处理好做人的度与量的关系，应在分寸之列。
事实证明，在与人相处之际，可能有人无意中得罪过你，反对过你，那些让人不快的事，过去就拉倒。相反，对于他人的德行就要想得多一点，记得久一点。风物长宜放眼量，心宽眼阔，自然天高路远。广阔的度量，是以高尚无私的思想品德为基础的。若时时处处多想别人，少想自己，做人才有大胸怀。一个人架子摆得越大，越抬高自己，突出自己，越让人瞧不起。人这一生不会一帆风顺。有的人仕途畅顺，平步青云;有的人屡遇坎坷、前途多舛;有的人一生平平、默默无闻。不论哪种情况，做人总要以德为本，以德为基，以德立世、站得正，行得端，规规矩矩，堂堂正正。坚守道德和灵魂，做人才有价值，才能体味做人的量。
人这一生不会一帆风顺。有的人仕途畅顺，平步青云;有的人屡遇坎坷、前途多舛;有的人一生平平、默默无闻。不论哪种情况，做人总要以德为本，以德为基，以德立世、站得正，行得端，规规矩矩，堂堂正正。坚守道德和灵魂，做人才有价值，才能体味做人的量。
那么，做人应该拥有一颗大度之心的人怎样去践行呢?个人理解认为主要有以下五点：
拥有一颗大度之心的人，应该做到气量宽宏。
海纳百川，靠的是宽容的心。做人做事，心胸不可太狭隘。尺有所短，寸有所长，金无足赤，人无完人，赏识别人的优点，包容别人的不足，靠的是有爱人之心，有容人之量。为你的仇敌而怒火中烧，烧伤的只能是你自己。忍不下一口气，就恶言刀枪相向，忍受不了他人的春分得意，就嫉妒诬陷，这样的人生只能昏暗无光，路会越走越窄。
人间的是非善恶喜乐，世道的好坏、冷热、荣宠，要放宽肚皮，坦然接受，路才会越走越宽。宽容不是懦弱、退缩的压抑，而是一种忍辱负重的大智大勇，是能识实相、敢担当、懂化解融通。为他人着想，是为自己铺路，宽容不是纵容，晓之以理，动之以情，考虑的是别人的自尊和承受度。
善待别人，等于就是善待自己，无论生活受到怎样的伤害，不必忿忿不平、耿耿于怀、怀恨在心，学会忘记，忘记是对自己的最好保护，学会感恩，感谢生活给你磨砺自己的机会，心灵充满阳光，生活自然充满灿烂。所以，做人要问问自己宽容大度了没有。
拥有一颗大度之心的人，应该做到豁然开朗。
豁然开朗是一种人生境界，是一个人有修养的表现。中国有句古话说的好：心旷则万种如瓦缶，心隘则一发似车轮。意思是说，一个豁然开朗的人，即使是一万种的丰厚俸禄也会看成像瓦罐那样没有价值;而一个心胸狭隘的人，即使是如发丝一般细小的利益也会被看成像车轮那么大。
所以，做人要以豁然开朗去容忍别人和容纳自己，遇事想得开，看得透，拿得起，放得下;得之淡然，失之泰然。对于做人应该始终要有豁然开朗的感觉，感觉人世间的那些恩怨，仿佛都变成了过眼烟云，从此好多事都不想再去计较。学会宽容，学会大度，做一个大度的人，宽容的人，学会面对逆境，抚平浮躁的心态。
一个人的心态要稳定，首先要正确对待自己，把自己人生坐标定位定准，不要越位也不要自卑。另外是正确对待他人，正确对待社会，永远对社会有种感激之心，只要这个做到了，好多事都能解决。人对社会有两种态度，一种人永远用乐观的、积极的态度看世界;另一种人用悲观的、消极的态度看世界。只要你用乐观的、积极的态度看世界，这世界就是很美好;如果你用悲观、消极态度看世界，这世界很可怕。
拥有一颗大度之心的人，应该做到心胸开阔。
开阔心胸不仅可以使你建立良好的人际关系，更会让自己具有良好的心境：一个人心胸宽广，懂得包容与宽恕，那么他看到的永远是积极向上、阳光明媚的一面;倘若他心胸狭窄，能面对的恐怕只有消极落寞、忧郁阴霾了。心胸开阔会使你成为一个大度的人，凡事，不要太在意，太苛求，会给身边的人，带来轻松的感觉。
俗话说：心有多宽，路有多广。容人之长、容人之短、容人个性、容人之过、容人之功和容己之仇，容人在于容己，那就得有得让人处且让人的宽容，要学会体谅别人的难处，谅解别人的错处，关注别人的长处。心胸开阔与否，或许和性格有关。
天下之大，为个人的鸡毛蒜皮纠缠不休?要让心胸开阔，在顺心的日子里，要保持那份恬恬，不要得意忘形，忘乎所以;在不顺心的关口，你也要执着一份从容。一个人必须要有宽阔的胸襟，才能保持良好的竞争状态，偏狭和嫉妒只能使自己的路越走越窄，最终走投无路。还要宽容自己。人非圣贤，总会出现一些失误与差错的。只要能正视自己，正视自己的缺点或错误，并不断地去克服或纠正之，使自己的德行符合规范，我们就不必对自己太苛刻、太自责。
拥有一颗大度之心的人，应该做到处人蔼然。
与人为善、天地皆宽。人与人之间需要宽容、需要理解。宽容是催化剂，可以消除隔阂，减少误会，化解矛盾;宽容是润滑剂，能调节关系，减少磨擦，避免碰撞;宽容是清新剂，会令人感到舒适，感到温馨，感到自信，感到世界的美。容是一种高尚的人格修养，一种宰相胸襟，一种大将风度。要心怀坦荡，宽容他人，就必须做到互谅、互让、互敬、互爱。
互谅就是彼此理解，不计较个人恩怨。人都是有感情和尊严的，既需要他人的体谅，又有义务谅解他人。有了相互之间的谅解，就能保持平静的心境和宽容的品格。互让，就是彼此谦让，不计较个人的名利得失。心底无私天地宽，自觉做到以集体利益为重，把好处让给别人，把困难留给自己，互相之间的矛盾容易化解;对个人得失斤斤计较是难以和他人和睦相处的。
互敬，就是彼此尊重。尊重别人是一种美德，敬人者，人自敬之。如果无视他人的存在，不尊重他人的人格，就不会有知心朋友。互爱，就是彼此关心，不计较品质气质的差异，爱能包容大千世界，使千差万别迥然不同的人和谐地融为一个整体;爱能化解矛盾的芥蒂，消除猜疑、嫉妒和憎恨，使人间变得更加美好。
拥有一颗大度之心的人，应该做到宽大为怀。
正确看待自己，正确评估自己的能力，做到身处顺境切忌飘飘然，洋洋得意，遇到挫折不可怨天尤人，牢骚满腹人与人之间尽管在表现形式上有差别，但就其归类划分，无外乎有这么三种类型：一种是有用的人，另一种是可有可无的人，再一种是有还不如没有的人。要真正做到低调做人，高调做事，做人要学会感恩，做事要选准目标。做人要堂堂正正，做事要公公正正。
做人要讲诚信，做事要讲规范。人们往往在自己独处的时候显得非常超脱，往往在与人们交往的时候，却随时暴露出很多毛病，其实这就是对自己人格的不信任所造成的。高山不理解流泉，设置了许多路障，泉水却永不停歇，绕过顽石，跳下断崖，变成了飞瀑，变成了大江，奔向浩瀚的大海。船不理解案，总要离去，但岸总是等待着，永远张开宽大的臂膀。太阳不理解月亮，不喜欢它惨白的光，月亮却永远追随着太阳，当太阳落山后，她却用淡淡的柔光照亮整个黑夜。
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