《二十几岁,没有十年》读后感

第一篇：《二十几岁,没有十年》读后感

《二十几岁，没有十年》是一本关于青春，梦想，爱情，人生的书籍。书中一篇篇文章，短小却励志，每每翻起来看，都如同一杯心灵鸡汤，给我注入更多正能量。

二十几岁，是人生中非常美好的一个阶段。但这个阶段，有的人把自己的十年活出了精彩，过得充实而清晰；有的人却浑浑噩噩，过得迷茫而凌乱，恍恍惚惚间，十年过去了，似乎没有留下什么。

该书的作者孙晴悦，与我年龄相仿，但她却有及其丰富的人生阅历。2010年，进入中央电视台工作。2012年赴巴西，担任央视驻拉丁美洲中心站记者。专访过拉美多国政要，从事时政，财经，文化新闻报道。足迹遍布四分之三个地球，如今依旧在路上。从她细腻的文字，我感受到了她的生活过得是热血的、勇敢的，充实而有价值的，同样，在努力中，她也有孤单、无助和疲惫。但这样的人生，敢于为自己的理想而奋斗，活出了这个阶段最良好的状态，是如此的真实而精彩。”

我对比了我自己，大学毕业，择业，就业，前几年里确实过得特别迷茫。

刚开始工作时，一直觉得勤勤恳恳工作就好，每天埋头苦干，甚至可以说有点闭门造车。而我所处的环境下，其实有许许多多可以学习的资源，我都不能很好地去利用。年轻的我们，一直觉得以后的时间还很长，日子一天天过去，当我们恍然大悟，回首过往，发现错过太多的机会，错过了太多的人和事。而这本身就是对青春最大的不尊重。

我现在还一直很感谢引导我进入名师工作室的同事邓颖老师，是她告诉我需要更好地把握身边的学习资源，来开阔自己的视野，提升自己的能力；是她让我有机会认识到工作室里面来自各校的优秀的老师们，与他们学习，并一起成长。进到工作室中，遇到了许许多多优秀的老师。当我羡慕他们丰富的学识、视野和阅历的同时，业发现了他们光环的背后付出的努力。但我知道，与优秀的人在一起，自己不够努力的话，并没有意义。所以，我只能更加积极努力，才能变得更强。

我们不得不承认努力很累，但不努力更累。简单的说，当你想要评职时，发现没有课题，没有论文，没有班主任经验，看到别人拥有一堆的奖励和证书，后悔自己没有好好去争取。

所以，去变强，固然很累，但是不强会更累。只有变强了，才可以有更多的选择余地，才能够在某一个时刻华丽转身，才能发现自己与原来的你有了不同。

分享里面的一段话与大家共勉：“我渴望的自由，不是要随时随地可以去旅游，不是要上班不受领导约束，而是在每一个我想要改变，想要尝试一种不同的生活，想要再往前走一步的时候，永远都有选择的权利和能力。”

第二篇：二十几岁的女孩应该有思想

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二十几岁的女孩应该有思想

作者：杨 澜

来源：《课外阅读》2010年第05期

二十几岁的女孩是片蔚蓝色的天空，它可以是悲伤的，也可以是喜悦的，但，请记住，它一定是有追求的。

一、拥有品位

女孩到了二十几岁后，就要开始学着用心地经营自己了，它体现在自己的外表以及涵养上。每一个女孩都是特别的，都应该有自己独特的品位，可能很多女孩会觉得品位与时尚或奢侈品是挂钩的，其实不是，品位是一个人去观察事物时的态度。

在某种程度上，一个人的品位与她的气质是相辅相成的，品位的高低取决于一个女孩在日常生活里对新事物的发现。品位是自己独特的味道，每个女孩都要有自己的品味。一个廉价的饰品只要戴出了属于它的另类，也能够表现出自己的品位。

二、养成看书的习惯

女孩到了二十几岁后，就已经开始慢慢地接触社会了，在与别人交往的过程中，谈吐与修养是最能征服别人的。我不相信一个不喜欢看书的女孩，她会是充满智慧的。没事的时候，到书店逛逛，认真地挑几本可以提升自己的书籍买回家阅读。书可以让人们的生活丰富，也可以让人们的思想改变，选择阅读一本好书，胜过一个优秀的辅导师。

三、要试着发现生活里的美

女孩到了二十几岁后，就要逃离那些灰暗的小说，它只会让大家与悲伤越贴越近，生活并不是小说里情节的翻版。不要总提醒着自己遇到的不幸，要知道在这个世界上有很多人比你还不幸，只要能够抬头看到阳光就是幸运的，那些生活里的挫折比起一个人的人生只不过是再小不过的插曲。想在这个社会上立足，就要有平和的心态，在患得患失的人生里，我们时刻部在选择着，也被别人选择着，我们应该有阿Q精神，痛苦与快乐的生活都是我们选择的，为什么要让自己沉溺在痛苦中呢?

想成功的人都是乐观的人，悲观永远都是成功的阻碍，只有积极向上的情操才会让生活变得美好。相信明天一定会比今天好，只要你努力了，社会一定是公平的，不要抱怨生活，否则只能证明你自己没有真正去努力。

四、跟有思想的优秀人交朋友

女孩到了二十几岁后，就要开始有目的性地去选择朋友，社会中的人脉非常重要，而你选择加入的朋友圈也会对你的人生有着很大的影响。如果你的朋友都是一些积极、向上、乐观的人，你也会被他们感染。

一个好的朋友可以让你的人生有很大的改变，他会让你变得乐观。女孩到了二十几岁后，要多一些朋友，自私一点也就是说，多交一些对自己有帮助的朋友。你可以从他们的身上学到东西，但是想交朋友，你就要对他们付出真诚，不要只是为了想利用他们才与他们交往，没有人是傻子，你对别人好与不好，别人也都清楚地看得到。用自己的真诚与那些有思想的优秀人交朋友吧!

五、远离泡沫偶像剧

女孩到了二十几岁后，就要开始远离那些虚假的偶像剧了，它并不能与现实生括挂钩，它是超越了生活的，女孩不应该再沉溺于这种虚假的童话氛围里了，有时间多看一些能够帮助自己的节目。

偶像剧会影响人们对社会的判断能力，所以，请远离泡沫偶像剧。相信一个优秀的女孩，应该不会花大把的时间沉溺在偶像剧里。

六、学会忍耐与宽容

女孩到了二十几岁后，就要慢慢地学会忍耐与宽容了。社会并不是一个任性的地方。请放下理直气壮的坏脾气，在适当的时候让一步，不仅可以体现出你的涵养，而且还会让你成为受人欢迎的女孩。

生活里会遇到很多不公平的事情，也会遇到很多让你无法接受的人，我们不能试着去改变别人，与其非常愤怒地大声指责别人的行为，不如怀着理解的心态给对方一个微笑，任何一个人都不会去伤害一个善良的人。声嘶力竭地与别人争论并不能赢得所谓的自尊，反而会让你丢掉自尊。

七、让美貌成为你的资本

女孩到了二十几岁后，就要开始让你的美貌发挥作用了，在适当的时候让你的美貌掌握足够的发言权。漂亮的外貌并不是每个女孩都拥有的，让漂亮的外貌成为你的资本，在需要的时候使用一下，它可以开启你人生中的很多机遇。虽然有时候有人说漂亮的女孩都是花瓶，但是花瓶如果摆在了合适的位置，它就是艺术品。女孩的青春美貌也只是短短的数年，所以要善于利用你的美貌。

但是女孩不能因为有了美貌就陷入自满中，有着美丽的外表又有着智慧的内在才是优秀的女人，请女孩们合理地利用自己的美貌，千万不要因为自己的短暂的美貌而让自己沉沦。

八、离开任何一个男人，你都会活得很好

女孩到了二十几岁，就要理智地对待自己的情感。为什么要为一个男人而让自己陷入不愉快的心情中呢?一个不懂得欣赏你的男人，没有资格让你为他难过悲伤，每一个女孩都是美丽的，她在等待着一个懂她的男人出现。与其让自己陷入到一个无望的爱情中，不如潇洒地转身，充实自己，让自己投入到工作学习中。

曾经我也以为离开了他我不能活了，后来我问了自己一百遍：离开了他，我还能不能活?结果有一百二十遍回答是：我会活得很好。离开那个不懂欣赏你的男人，这就是最华丽的转身。

九、有看理财的动机，学习投资经营

女孩到了二十几岁，就要开始学习理财了，不要以为自己无法成为富翁，就花钱大手大脚，也不要认为明天有挣不完的’钱，而把今天的钱花在不应该花的地方。

十、谁说女人不如男

女孩到了二十几岁，就要坚信不管是在生活中还是在职场中，并不只有男人才能有建树，只要女人努力了，她同样可以在男人的世界里穿梭。女人的资本有很多，在职场中女人略占优势，在有些行业里，女人会发挥着自己独特的优势去拼博。现在不流行家庭主妇的角色了，外面有着大把精彩的世界等待着女人去追求。

在这个社会里，没有谁一定要没有理由地呵护谁。男人也部喜欢有个性有能力的女人。努力吧，只要你拥有了属于自己的一片天空，还害怕自己的这片天空下没有白云吗?只要你是一个才华出众的女人，还害怕优秀的男人不欣赏你吗?

十一、拭一个能帮你实现梦想的老公

女孩到了二十几岁后，就要有明确的梦想。然后再为这个梦想去奋斗。女人完全可以让自己的梦想跟随着自己一起嫁给一个男人，只要他愿意帮你实现梦想，就说明他是一个懂得欣赏你的男人。

十二、让青春放肆一些，笑容灿烂一些

女孩到了二十几岁后，正值青春年华，有着大把的青春可以放肆地绽放。女孩可以在适当的时候倔强一些，在适当的时候骄傲一些，可以让那些美丽的嘴角微微地牵动着。二十几岁的女孩是最美的，可以肆意地笑，可以倔强地哭。二十几岁的女孩不要怕输，青春才刚刚开始，我们有着输的资本，我们可以重新开始自己的追求。二十几岁的女孩要做最真的自己，最美的年华留给灿烂的微笑，让爱情鲜明地呈现，要敢爱敢恨，敢于追求。

第三篇：读《二十几岁的女人》有感

读《女人二十几岁》有感

作为一个二十几岁的女人来说，确实是正处在人生最灿烂的时期，这个时候正是美貌与智慧并举的时候；正是意气风发，逢勃向上的时候；正是大施才华，大展身手的时候。同是也正是决定下半辈子过什么样的生活的时候，也正是转折时期，所以过好这几年是至关重要的。

二十几岁的女孩首先应获得经济上的独立，不论你的家里是多么显贵，不论你的男朋友是富二代还是官二代，你首先要学会的是靠自己的双手养活自己，只有保持经济上的独立，才不至于做别人经济的附庸品，才不至于将来向别人摇尾乞怜。正所谓经济基础决定上层建筑，只有把基础打牢固了才能在以后的生活中昂首挺胸抬头做人，否则一辈子靠他人只会让他人对你产生厌恶，毕竟总是企图从别人荷包里拿钱不是一件容易的事，就算你将来的丈夫愿意养你一辈子，但是别人会怎么看你呢，你自己将来又将怎么样看自己呢。

二十几岁的女人，其次应该懂得合理的安排自己的生活，让自己活得更精彩，让生活更加有意义。正处于风华正茂的时候，正应该把自己的生活安排好，做自己喜欢的事情，不给自己留遗憾，当然有些人也不太明白自己喜欢什么,适合做什么工作，对于这样的人来说就更是需要更多的投入到实践中去，多多尝试，总有一件事在不影响道德伦理的前提下是你热爱去做的，那么这就值得你为之奋斗一生。有个前进的目标并且一直向这个目标看齐，这是多么值得庆幸的一件事情。

二十几岁的女人，应该有自己独立的个性，不随大流，不屈言附众，特立独行，不满足现状，能勇敢的跳出条打框框的束缚，敢想敢做，活出最真实的自我，不过分压抑自己，不浅尝辄止，不碌碌无为。

二十几岁的女人，应该心中充满爱，不抱怨，不流泪，上天把最美好的时光给我们是为我让我们来感受生活中的爱的，同时要学会爱与被爱，在爱与被爱之中完善我们的生活，充实我们的人生意义。

第四篇：二十几岁是不可挥霍的光阴

二十几岁是不可挥霍的光阴（中英字幕）

Meg Jay Ted英语演讲：

kira86 于2013-06-09 20岁，不可挥霍的光阴。在这个点击过百万的TED演讲中，心理咨询师Meg Jay说不能因为婚姻、工作和子女是以后的事情，现在就可以无规划的生活。她提供三条建议帮助20多岁的年轻人重新审视自己的生活，不要做后悔的决定。

为什么要听她演讲

近期观点认为，25岁似乎太过年轻，无法做重大决定。临床心理学家Meg Jay藉由心理学实务和著作《20世代，你的人生是不是卡住了》阐述，许多二十世代深陷《时代》杂志所谓「我我我世代」的迷思和误导中。她认为「三十世代是新二十世代」的说法使人们轻忽成年阶段最具可塑性的时光。

撷取十余年来与数百名二十世代个案及学生咨商的经验，Jay将科学融入一段段引人入胜、不为人知的故事中。精彩、生动的故事发展，显示为何二十世代并非发展停滞期，而是仅此一次的发展高峰。二十世代是个关键期，我们所做之事－及未做之事－对未来人生、甚至后代都将产生巨大影响。

Meg Jay：二十几岁，不可挥霍的光阴 英语演讲稿：

When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client.I was a Ph.D.student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex.Now Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.Now when I heard this, I was so relieved.My classmate got an arsonist for her first client.(Laughter)And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys.This I thought I could handle.But I didn't handle it.With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road.“Thirty's the new 20,” Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right.Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later.Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life.I pushed back.I said, “Sure, she's dating down, she's sleeping with a knucklehead, but it's not like she's going to marry the guy.”

And then my supervisor said, “Not yet, but she might marry the next one.Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one.”

That's what psychologists call an “Aha!” moment.That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime.That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it.That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere.There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now.We're talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.Raise your hand if you're in your 20s.I really want to see some twentysomethings here.Oh, yay!Y'all's awesome.If you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing sleep over twentysomethings, I want to see — Okay.Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.This is not my opinion.These are the facts.We know that 80 percent of life's most defining moments take place by age 35.That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and “Aha!” moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s.People who are over 40, don't panic.This crowd is going to be fine, I think.We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn.We know that more than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30.We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it.We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35.So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain.It's a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become.But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing.Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood.Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence.Journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like “twixters” and “kidults.” It's true.As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time.Isn't that true? So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, “You have 10 extra years to start your life”? Nothing happens.You have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this: “I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but this relationship doesn't count.I'm just killing time.” Or they say, “Everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine.”

But then it starts to sound like this: “My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for myself.I had a better résumé the day after I graduated from college.”

And then it starts to sound like this: “Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs.Everybody was running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.”

Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high.When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career, pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.It's realizing you can't have that child you now want, or you can't give your child a sibling.Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me, sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, “What was I doing? What was I thinking?”

I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.Here's a story about how that can go.It's a story about a woman named Emma.At 25, Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis.She said she thought she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead.Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition.And as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even harder.She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, “You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.”

Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sobbed for most of the hour.She'd just bought a new address book, and she'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts, but then she'd been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words “In case of emergency, please call....” She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said, “Who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck? Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?”

Now in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, “I will.” But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really, really cared.Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance.I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's defining decade went parading by.So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things that every twentysomething, male or female, deserves to hear.First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.By get identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next.I didn't know the future of Emma's career, and no one knows the future of work, but I do know this: Identity capital begets identity capital.So now is the time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startup you want to try.I'm not discounting twentysomething exploration here, but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to count, which, by the way, is not exploration.That's procrastination.I told Emma to explore work and make it count.Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated.Best friends are great for giving rides to the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work.That new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.New things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.So yes, half of twentysomethings are un-or under-employed.But half aren't, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group.Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that un-posted job.It's not cheating.It's the science of how information spreads.Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.Now this was true for her growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own.I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now.Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you.But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress.The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book, and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state.That weak tie helped her get a job there.That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend.Now, five years later, she's a special events planner for museums.She's married to a man she mindfully chose.She loves her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card that said, “Now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough.”

Now Emma's story made that sound easy, but that's what I love about working with twentysomethings.They are so easy to help.Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX, bound for somewhere west.Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break, one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know.It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.It's what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma every single day: Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.You're deciding your life right now.Thank you.(Applause)

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第五篇：·女孩到了二十几岁后

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