第一篇：从“虎妈”身上看好媳妇标准
从“虎妈”身上看好媳妇标准
2015年05月15日
导语：《虎妈猫爸》的荧屏热播一度让子女教育话题被推上风口浪尖，而在讨论“虎妈”教育式的同时，洋溢在《虎妈猫爸》中间的家庭地位与生活氛围往往被大众所忽视，赵薇饰演的毕胜男作为母亲十分强势，但是作为媳妇，毕胜男具备了诸多优点，毕胜男与婆婆孙雅娴的对手戏也成为了婆媳关系的范本，从虎妈身上看好媳妇的标准，是值得借鉴的。
1、上得厅堂，下得厨房
从“带的出去，带的回来”的媳妇标准，到“上得厅堂，下得厨房”，无疑后者更受欢迎。毕胜男开篇作为职场丽人，对外不仅可以各种商业公关，对内家庭事项也是打理得井井有条。毕胜男在各个场合的穿衣打扮，无论是职场装还是生活着装，都可以作为30岁女人穿衣典范。再从她为丈夫和女儿做的一手好菜来看，毕胜男绝对是“上得厅堂，下得厨房”的好媳妇代表。
2、充当好婆家娘家关系的润滑剂
如果说罗素的“甜言蜜语”巧妙化解了婆媳之间的矛盾，那么毕胜男也是作为婆家娘家关系的最好润滑剂。在父母来到家里之后，娘家和婆家对子女的教育观念分歧、生活习惯差异所带来的矛盾愈演愈烈，甚至到了砸盘子吵架的地步，但是毕胜男的“服软”有效化解了矛盾，最终在自己任劳任怨地为婆家打扫卫生的“苦肉计”下，让严厉苛刻的婆婆最终妥协，双方都用爱让家庭关系更牢固。
3、生活上独立自强能照顾家庭
从严格意义上来说，毕胜男不是啃老族，性格的独立自强，经济上的省吃俭用，毕胜男即使在辞职失业的情况下，依旧可以勒紧腰带过日子。相比于好吃懒做又啃老的媳妇，婆家就算把经济大权都交到毕胜男手里，应该也是放心的。
4、有自食其力的本领
毕胜男作为社会成员经历了三个阶段，一个是职场成功阶段，一个是辞职失业阶段，一个是再度复职阶段，从中可以看出，无论是转换环境还是失业在家，毕胜男有自食其力的本领，罗家并不是娶了个大小姐回来，这样的媳妇其实最接地气。
5、肯为家庭牺牲 一方面照顾到子女上学，一方面减轻婆家负担，在事业上正风生水起的主管辞去工作，在家当起全职妈妈，这是需要勇气的，毕胜男愿意为家牺牲，这样的媳妇也能让婆家放心。
6、有孝心，照顾老人的感受
孙雅娴是个好面子的婆婆，在她与其他中年妇女在一起的戏份中就能看出来，在对方攀比子女、攀比媳妇工作的时候，孙雅娴是心生不快的，然而毕胜男每次适时地出现在她身边，在外人面前表现得亲密无间无疑是给足了孙雅娴面子的，即使是表面文章，婆婆也是十分欢喜的。
7、能以适当方式化解婆媳矛盾
毕胜男和孙雅娴因为茜茜的教育问题时常出现矛盾，但是毕胜男在处理上十分冷静，首先在婆婆“吃了火药”爆发时候，是好言相劝和温柔安慰；等事情过去之后，主动道歉并以“妈妈，有家蛋糕店味道很好，我带你一起去喝咖啡”的理由双方坐到一起冷静商量，最终让婆婆接受她的看法。有态度、有方法、有情感，在这一点上，媳妇毕胜男做得堪称完美。
需要维护一个家庭的方式有很多，不仅仅涉及到“虎妈”教育问题，婆媳关系、夫妻关系，不同成员间的家庭关系也都需要悉心维护，这才是“家”的题中之义。
第二篇：虎妈·观后感
在《好孩子是虎妈式教育培养出来的吗？》这个视频中，争论双方围绕如何培养孩子的问题，从“好孩子是否是虎式教育培养出来的”、“父母该不该替孩子做主”以及“刻苦打基础还是快乐成长更重要”三个方面展开了多角度论战。其中我最感兴趣的是“父母该不该替孩子做主”。我的观点是，在教育方面，在孩子还没有办法认清自我的时候，父母应该负责任地、理性地替孩子做主。首先，让我们先梳理一下对“父母该不该替孩子做主”这一问题持否定态度者的基本观点。大部分持否定观点的人主要出于以下几点考虑。一是，每个孩子都有自己的长处，父母应该做的是顺应孩子的兴趣，引导其走向成功；二是，对于孩子应该接受怎样的教育、应该怎样学习这样的问题，如果父母替孩子做主，那么孩子便失去了自由选择的空间，这可能导致孩子被迫做不情愿的事情，进而影响孩子的心理健康；三是，如果父母事事替孩子做主，那就可能导致孩子独立面对问题的能力低下，进而可能导致孩子成年后面临多种困难。反对者的考虑不无道理，但是他们之所以反对父母替孩子做决定，其实多少都是出于一种假设——父母做出的决定常常不符合孩子自身的情况，甚至有些偏执武断的父母将自己的功利的想法强加于孩子的身上。这个不理性的做法当然不能提倡。但是，不管孩子是否已经具备独立做出判断决定的能力，就贸然坚持所谓应该顺从孩子的兴趣，这样的做法其实存在太大的不确定性，是一种武断，更是一种为人父母的不负责任。更进一步的是，反对者认为应该顺从孩子自己的兴趣，但是如果孩子其实不知道自己真正喜欢的，真正想要的是什么，那反对者的观点又有何意义呢？事实上，反对者们的观点只能存在于这样一种假设之下，即孩子们自己知道自身的兴趣并且会有明确的追求，但是，这样的设想其实与已有的心理学研究是相矛盾的。根据艾里克森的人格发展阶段理论，人的人格发展分为八个阶段，其中第五个阶段是人生最重要的阶段，该阶段要解决的问题是自我同一性的建立。他指出，这个时候人才真正认识到自己是怎样的人，才能形成明确的自我概念①，而这一阶段处于人的青少年阶段。换言之即是，在青少年阶段，孩子的兴趣爱好会和其意志一同形成合力，朝向明确的自我方向发展。因此，尽管有极少数例外，尽管艾里克森的研究成果不一定是金科玉律（虽然事实上他的这一理论是目前该领域认可度最高的），但是对绝大多数人来说，在青少年阶段之前期望孩子自己朝着自己的兴趣坚持追求其实是不具备生理理论基础，不现实的。那不能单单顺从孩子的兴趣，难道父母替孩子做主就是好的选择吗？难道这一做法不会到来其他的负面影响吗？当然，不顾孩子自身情况（包括其生理发展阶段特征、其性格特点以及在生活中表现出来的兴趣等），单纯拍脑袋决定或者随波逐流浮躁地决定孩子的发展方向肯定是不可取的。同样地，艾里克森在其人格发展阶段理论的第三阶段（3~6岁）指出，这一阶段，孩子总希望被允许去进行自主活动，且如果父母经常否定他们的要求，或完全强迫他们完成父母指定的任务，他们就会变得没有自主性。因此，我支持在教育方面，在孩子还没有办法认清自我的时候，父母应该负责任地、理性地替孩子做主。一方面，此时孩子正处于渴望自主活动的阶段，其表现出来的多种活
动自然会带上其兴趣的烙印，会反映其天赋所在。在这个时候，父母应该认真负责观察孩子的表现，想办法了解孩子的真实感受，然后进行必要的分析，帮孩子找出其兴趣和天分所在，为孩子做出一份科学的规划，为孩子“做主”。接下来便是实施的阶段，在这一阶段中，理性显得尤其重要。父母要用客观理性地态度看待自己为孩子做出的决定，观察孩子的反应，适时对孩子做出恰当的鼓励、教导和规范或对规划做出必要的调整。总结起来，在孩童时期的教育方面，父母与其让孩子游荡在极其不确定的、靠他们自己那点也许连他们自己都未必明了的兴趣中，还不如自己真正担起教育的责任，科学规划科学对待，帮助孩子铺设一条更加明朗的道路。
参考文献
唐红波.心理学.广州：广东省语言音像电子出版社, 2009
第三篇：虎妈教育
As more Chinese parents adopt a Western style of parenting that allows children more freedom and encouragement, Amy Chua and her book lauding strict Chinese parenting as superior ignited unprecedented attention among Americans.如今，提倡给予孩子更多自由与鼓励的西方教育模式越发受到中国家长的追捧，而华裔“虎妈”蔡美儿在新书中却称赞严厉的中式教育更为优越，从而在美国人当中引发空前关注。
Chua made the cover of the latest issue of Time Magazine, continuing to provoke heated discussion among Americans over her alleged Chinese parenting methods including no grades lower than A, no sleepovers, TV or computer games.蔡美儿前不久成为最新一期《时代周刊》的封面人物，此举进一步激起美国民众对其所倡导的中式教育的持续热议，她推行的教育方式包括不准有科目低于A，不准夜不归宿，不准看电视，不准玩电脑游戏。
As many in the US became furious at her “ruthless” way, asking “where is the love and respect for children,” some are wondering whether the Chinese approach creates smarter people who can take the lead in the future global marketplacea Harvard dropout.在中国学术界，许多人也在反思中国式的教育方式，似乎中式教育无法培养出像“哈佛辍学生”比尔•盖茨这样的具有创造思维的人才。
“In my opinion, compared with highly strict Chinese parenting, the Western way exerts more positive influence on children`s mental health,” said Cui Yonghua, a leading psychiatrist at Beijing Anding Hospital.北京安定医院精神病主治医师崔永华称：“我认为，与极其严厉的中式家教相比，西方教育方式对孩子心理健康会产生更多积极的影响。”
Cui pointed out that many Chinese parents now focus too much on children`s IQ development and physical health but little on their mental health.And it`s not good for parents to protect their children from every pressure and discomfort.崔永华指出，现在许多中国家长过分注重孩子的智商发展以及身体健康，反而忽略了孩子的心理健康。此外，家长保护过度孩子，使他们与压力绝缘，不让他们受委屈，这也是不好的。
“Parents should believe that children are able and flexible,” he said.他说：“家长应当相信孩子的能力，他们能屈能伸。”
第四篇：关于虎妈英语作文
Dear parents,Recently, a controversy arose over Amy Chua, the tiger mother.I’m writing to you to explain my ideas about your educational method, which is quite similar to the Tiger Mother’s.I know what you have done for me is all in favor of me.In fact, it worked out quite well.People always compliment me and regard me as a witty and intelligent girl as a top student.You take pride in it and so do I.However, I can’t cheer up, for you are much too strict with me.You don’t allow me to watch TV except the daily news broadcasting.But you don’t know various programs can broaden my horizons.And I know how to control the time.What’s worse, you forbid me to take part in after-school activities, thinking it’s a waste of time.But do you know it’s of great benefit to make me an all-around student? Another thing that makes me unsatisfied is that you force me to practice playing the violin, despite knowing I’m crazy about painting.Under the pressure of you, I have to study harder and harder, with my freedom and happiness becoming less and less, of which you aren’t aware absolutely.Instead of forcing your ideas and choose on me, you are
supposed to discuss with me in detail and then determine.Instead of generalizing, you should respect for the law of my growth.In contrast to being under a severe strain, I’m sure to do better with reasonable freedom.At last, I’d like to show you my thanks for your love all the time.But do remember I’ve already grown up and had my own mind.Please teach me with a more permissive attitude.Only in this way will I do the best in turn.Yours sincerely,daughter
第五篇：虎妈英文读后感
Reaction to Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother Recently, I have finished a book called Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother.The book reveals the author experienced a course of raising two children and parenting experience.The author compares herself to a tiger mother.Lost in thought, I want share my ideas with you.The author Amy Chua, a Chinese-American, Harvard University, bachelor of arts and doctor of law, the Yale university professor.Approximate the sheep in Europe and the relaxation education situation, Ms.Chua in Chinese parents' high expectations and strict parenting to two children.At the start of reading, I didn’t quite understand why Amy is so cruel with her daughters.The rules she made are so strict and even unreasonable.Her daughters are not allowed to: • attend a sleepover
• have a play date
• be in a school play • complain about not being in a school play
• watch TV or play computer games
• choose their own extracurricular activities
• get any grade less than an A
• not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama
• play any instrument other than the piano or violin
• not play the piano or violin.With deeper reading, I found I misunderstood her.Amy’s strict is her love to her daughters.After the book published, it caused a heated debate about education thought idea.Most western and eastern mothers hold completely different idea about it.Amy Chua’s requirement to her daughters seems too rigorous in American people’s eyes, but from the perspective of Chinese parents, it’s just ok.I think one of the reasons why western Mothers are different from the eastern, is that the different culture and environment.In my opinion, the west countries are more advanced than the east in many ways.So the huge disparity may make the eastern mothers feel anxious.As a result, they would be stricter with their children to make them excellent.Traditional Chinese mothers always hold high hopes for their children.The kids are required to learn many things like piano or math, even at a
very
early
age.American education special emphasis on respect for the child, often give children the right to choose.As a result, many children will choose to give up very easily.We should not completely criticize Amy.Though her second daughter hated this cruel mother, her two daughters won’t have today’s achievement without her strict education.Finally two children are outstanding, their learning and music are both excellent, is the envy of achievements, locally known as music child prodigy.There’s no doubt in Amy’s dedication and devotion in educating her children.Every time her daughter was practicing piano, she was always there to company, though Amy had a lot of work to do.She devoted herself in parenting.So she really loves her two daughters but in a different way.Amy writes: “Become an expert, actually there is no fun at all.Any skills to master
must pay the hard work.And from the nature of children, never love.Therefore, the beginning don't give them opportunities to choose don't work hard, it becomes crucial.” Don't give kids opportunities to choose don't work hard, this is her core parenting thought.It equals to help them to work hard, so they can achieve more and become more excellent.Her strict demands teach her daughters how to concentrate on doing something and also develop them persistent and will quality.Actually, every mother has their own way of parenting.There is no the best method, but the most suitable.Just as an old saying goes, no leaves are exactly the same.Tiger mother tell us the way that she do is effective , but this may have effective are not suitable for everyone, every child's personality has different, parents should according to the actual situation of their children in accordance with their aptitude.Different kid has different situation.But we can learn some useful experience from Amy Chua.Most young children like playing, it’s not their nature to work hard or be concentrated.So parents should give some force to help their children in learning.And parents should also learn to keep persistent, as parenting is really a hard and long way.Parents are the guide and light of their children.To learn how to parent well, first be strict with themselves.Truth to tell, my mother is not a tiger mother.She is not strict, and didn’t require me to achieve something.As a consequence, I grew up in a relaxing and comfortable environment.I don’t have any stress or force.She never forces me to do or not to do something.One day I joked my mother why she was not very strict or that I would become better.However, I didn’t take my study easy, but work hard.Because I realized study is students’ primary mission.I take my own example to improve that study is not all parents’ duty, but ours.You can not totally criticize parents when their child didn’t behave well in their study.In a word, I think Amy Chua is a good mother, though she is very strict.But she just did a mother could do to help children become more excellent.She really knows how to educate children.Her daughters will very appreciate it when they grow.So these words are my own opinions, some of them may be not right, but exactly what I want to say.One thousand readers, there are one thousand Hamlet.
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