教孩子做一个输得起的人

第一篇：教孩子做一个输得起的人

教孩子做一个输得起的人

上个周末，带孩子去参加了市小学生乒乓球比赛，借此机会观看了一场场赏心悦目、令人叹为观止的球赛。作为大人，看到许多小选手们年纪虽小，但个个身怀绝技，在场面隆重、激烈竞争的比赛中其表现出的过硬的心理素质、顽强拼搏的精神，惊喜羡慕之余，我还感到自愧不如。此外，在欣赏了孩子们带来的精彩表现之外，我还看到了一些令人遗憾和担忧的现象。

观看比赛的间隙，一个同行朋友有些气愤地告诉我：前不久，S学校的学生刚和他们学校进行完比赛，双方实力接近，比赛时双方拼得很凶，最后他们得以艰难胜出。比赛结束后，S学校的学生不甘心落败，竟在场地旁边的黑板上写下了咒骂对手的话，以此泄恨。真是一群没有教养的学生，也不知道他们老师是怎么教的。说完他不住地摇头叹息。听他的话后，我也为那些孩子“没教养没风度”的表现深感失望。一般来说，比赛胜负本由选手实力及临场发挥决定，无论谁输谁赢都是很正常的事。再说，这些由各学校、镇区经过比赛选拔出来的选手，有许多人还被家长送到专业培训机构参加训练，既经历过比赛，又有专业培训的经历，至少应当懂得胜败乃兵家常事，应当能够正确地看待比赛的输赢。可为什么却表现出这样的教养来？

我又想到，学生以这种不恰当的方式来发泄，他的老师或家长们未必知道，甚至未必想得到。当然还有这样的可能，知道了却认为这无关紧要，因为他们更关心的只是比赛的胜负。还有一种令我担忧的可能，那便是：大人默许了孩子的行为，认为孩子输了比赛，发泄一下情绪也很正常。孩子嘛，不就是写几个骂人的字吗，何需大惊小怪呢。在我看来，有些大人的确是这样想的。而很多教育方面的问题，恰恰就出在大人身上。有句话说得好，有什么样的大人，便有什么样的孩子。换言之，孩子身上表现出来的言行教养，往往从某种程度上反映了他的老师、家长的言行教养。所以指责孩子的时候，大人往往忽略了一个问题：在日常生活中，孩子从大人们身上学到了什么？

常看体育赛事的朋友一定都会同意我的看法：哪里有比赛，哪里就有争执。这也是很正常的事。因为人人都要公平，<莲山课 件 >都争取占胜对手。然而裁判也是人，也和我们一样都是两只眼睛两手两脚的人，所以有时出现差错也是在所难免的事。我想以此来谈谈这次的小学生乒乓球赛。在比赛中，我看到，有几次，为了某个球的判罚问题，选手双方的老师、教练或亲友团，都出现了极不理智的行为。比如：对裁判员大呼小叫，指指点点，盛气凌人，大有争不过便绝不罢休的气势。有时甚至严重干扰了比赛的正常进行，迫使比赛出现中断。我注意到，这些大人们的争执也极大地影响了孩子比赛的情绪。作为带孩子参赛的老师，我当然能理解和体会大人们一心求得公正和胜利的心情。我也认为，裁判出现差错或不公的时候，有必要用合理的方式适时提出自己的意见和申诉。然而，我反对这种过激的方式来处理和看待这件事。一方面，裁判判罚比赛时出现一些差错是难以避免的，即使是世界顶级体育大赛也是如此。比赛中谁也不愿意吃亏，但是也要学会理解和尊重裁判的工作。作为大人，教孩子明白这一点也有助于他学会正确地看待比赛。另一方面，我想很多大人也许根本没有考虑过，孩子将从他们的行为中学到什么？比如：孩子不懂得尊重比赛的规则和裁判，会因此把失败更多地归咎于自己以外的原因，如裁判的判罚偏颇等。而由于大人的争吵将造成的孩子心态上的失衡，比如过于看重比赛的结果，比赛时将难以调整好自己的情绪将影响自身水平的发挥，或者在比赛中不懂得要尊重对手，有时甚至还会做出极端的行为来。我还想到，孩子年龄尚小，过于注重比赛的结果，将使孩子失去打球本身带来的乐趣，忽视平时的训练及比赛的过程，这对孩子今后的个性成长和专业发展都是极为不利的。

在我个人看来，无论大人小孩，出现以上种种令人遗憾的现象，其主要原因在于三个字：输不起。写到这里，我不由联想起了前不久引起各大媒体广泛关注的合肥少女毁容事件。这起惨剧中，一高中少年爱慕并疯狂追求另一女高中少女，追至女方家中遭到拒绝后，竟以残忍的手段将之毁容。在一般人看来，男女交往本应是你情我愿的事，可这个高中少年却因追求不得而做出如此丧心病狂的极端行为。从上面谈及的角度来看，这难道不也是一种“输不起”的表现吗？

因此，我认为，关于这一点，无论是体育比赛还是其它，大人首先应该以身作则，然后教孩子明白：比赛的胜负以及任何事情的结果固然重要，但更重要的是，要学会用正确的心态来看待失败或挫折，做一个输得起的人。

第二篇：如何做输得起的人

如何做输得起的人

Hello ladies and gentlemen.Welcome here today.I hope you enjoy my speech.Learn from failure.Learn from every mistake.Learn how to be a good loser.That's what I'll be talking about today.That's our lesson to learn.Let me tell you why.First,realize losing is a part of life.It is unavoidable.It is something we all must face.Don't be embarrassed to lose.Don't be ashamed of losing.Losing doesn't mean you're a loser.Everybody loses sometimes.Every great person knows this truth.Never let losing become permanent.Second,just accept it.Losing is beneficial.Losing can be helpful to you.View losing as positive.View it as a learningexperience.Make “lemonade out of lemons.”

Losing can be a valuable lesson.Losing is an excellent chance to learn.You can learn how to try again and improve.Third,practice makes perfect.Practice losing to get tough.Enter contests you know you can't win.Create challenges for yourself.Create a fearless mindset.Never be afraid of failure.Lose as much as you can.Losing only makes you better.That is a great secret of success.Fourth,force yourself to be gracious.Just grin and bear it.Just take it with a smile.Offer congrats to the winner.Offer a handshake or some praise.Say,“you did a better job today.”

Share in his or her happiness.Share sincerely and your disappointment will fade.That's the magic of future winners.In conclusion,remember this.Always be a good loser.Always be gracious in defeat.It might be painful at first.It gets easier as you go along.The benefits of being a good loser are many.You'll be respected and admired.You'll feel so fortunate to learn so much.It is in losing well that we really become winners in life.

第三篇：优秀作文：学会输得起

优秀作文：学会输得起

短短12年过去了，喜和泪一直伴随着我，我闯出了勇者的不悔，赢过输过。每一次成功我都为自己的拼搏而庆幸，每一次失败，也将在我的心头狠狠的划上一刀。虽然我知道，一次失败不代表人生的全部，但情感的波线让我无法正视失败。失败时，没有鲜花，没有掌声，没有荣耀，只有孤独，只有落泪，只有彷徨。好像我被这个世界抛弃在荒草连天的大草原上，伤心、疲惫。小时候，写作文总是写自己不畏摔跤，不畏失败，但当被它们伤到时，却总是默默地躲到一边。独自心伤。儿时的豪言壮志，长大后才发现是那么的不符合实际。“有志者，事竞成。破釜沉舟，百三秦关终归楚；苦心人，天不负。卧薪尝胆，三千越甲可吞吴。”突然想起同学的赠言，好吧！学勾践来个卧薪尝胆，积聚力量，来它个一鸣惊人，对得起自己的那句“在鸟终为凤，为鱼须化馄”。人生路上，我学会了输得起！学会输得起 的延伸阅读——作文写作技巧慧眼传神的标题要在考场中取悦阅卷老师，先用传神的标题去构建作文的佳境，尝言：标题是眼睛。好作文就要有一双迷人的慧眼。现在我们训练了大量的话题作文，大量同学却把标题拟得老气横秋，或者干脆用话题作为文章的标题，让人一看就不愿给高分。所以作为考生的你要充分意识到阅卷老师的疲惫，用尽量新、雅、美的标题去引起老师的注意，标题拟好

了，实际上也是在为考场作文创设景致，而独特的标题更是作文独僻佳境的最好体现，会让人为之一震。一言九鼎的识见对于中学生的作文，阅卷老师尤其看重学生的思想认识与观点见解。在阅卷的过程中，老师始终在留意或寻找考生作文中最能代表其识见的内容。因为任何一篇文章总是为表达一定的思想主题服务的，识见的水平如何，直接关涉到作文得分的高低，因此作为考生应该不断磨砺语言，砥砺思想，尽可能在作文中表达一言九鼎的识见。而实践证明，精要而有深度的认识与见解，会使本来很平常的作文内容为之境界全新，无眼之龙也会因为你的点睛之笔而畅游九天之外。千描百绘的特写考场记叙文，阅卷老师最看重有没有场面描写，看场面描写时，老师又最看重有没有特写镜头。因为写好特写镜头在阅卷老师看来，就是写好记叙文的最佳境界。什么是特写镜头，即考生借鉴电影艺术的表现手法，对人物、景物的局部特征加以浓墨重彩式的描写或精细刻画，从而凸现一个感人的形象，展示一个精彩的细节，使文章具有强烈的感染力的艺术手法。所以为了与一般平铺直叙式的记叙文境界有别，考生应该独辟特写的佳境，让考场记叙文因为特写而牵制住老师的眼球。

第四篇：英语演讲——如何成为一个输得起的人

如何成为一个输得起的人

hello ladies and gentlemen.welcome here today.i hope you enjoy my speech.learn from failure.learn from every mistake.learn how to be a good loser.that's what i'll be talking about today.that's our lesson to learn.let me tell you why.first,realize losing is a part of life.it is unavoidable(不可避免的).it is something we all must face（面对）.don't be embarrassed（尴尬）.don't be ashamed of losing（不要以失败为耻辱）.losing doesn't mean you're a loser.everybody loses sometimes.every great person knows this truth.never let losing become permanent（永久的）.second,just accept it.losing is beneficial（有益的）.losing can be helpful to you.view losing as positive.view it as a learning experience.losing can be a valuable lesson.losing is an excellent chance to learn.you can learn how to try again and improve.third,practice makes perfect.enter contests you know you can't win.create challenges for yourself.never be afraid of failure.lose as much as you can.losing only makes you better.that is a great secret of success.fourth,force yourself to be gracious.just take it with a smile.offer congrats to the winner.offer a handshake or some praise.say,“you did a better job today.”

share in his or her happiness.share sincerely（真诚的）and your disappointment will fade（消失）.that's the magic of future winners.in conclusion（总之）,remember this.always be a good loser.it might be painful at first.it gets easier as you go along.the benefits of being a good loser are many.you'll be respected（尊敬）and admired（钦佩）.you'll feel so fortunate（幸运）to learn so much.it is in losing well that we really become winners in life.

第五篇：初中生英语演讲：如何成为输得起的人（推荐）

hello ladies and gentlemen.welcome here today.i hope you enjoy my speech.learn from failure.learn from every mistake.learn how to be a good loser.that's what i'll be talking about today.that's our lesson to learn.let me tell you why.first,realize losing is a part of life.it is unavoidable.it is something we all must face.don't be embarrassed to lose.don't be ashamed of losing.losing doesn't mean you're a loser.everybody loses sometimes.every great person knows this truth.never let losing become permanent.second,just accept it.losing is beneficial.losing can be helpful to you.view losing as positive.view it as a learningexperience.make “lemonade out of lemons.”

losing can be a valuable lesson.losing is an excellent chance to learn.you can learn how to try again and improve.third,practice makes perfect.practice losing to get tough.enter contests you know you can't win.create challenges for yourself.create a fearless mindset.never be afraid of failure.lose as much as you can.losing only makes you better.that is a great secret of success.fourth,force yourself to be gracious.just grin and bear it.just take it with a smile.offer congrats to the winner.offer a handshakeorsome praise.say,“you did a better job today.”

share in hisorher happiness.share sincerely and your disappointment will fade.that's the magic of future winners.in conclusion,remember this.always be a good loser.always be gracious in defeat.it might be painful at first.it gets easier as you go along.the benefits of being a good loser are many.you'll be respected and admired.you'll feel so fortunate to learn so much.it is in losing well that we really become winners in life.