解读羞耻范文合集

第一篇：解读羞耻

m going to tell you a little bitabout my TEDxHouston Talk.I woke up the morning after I gave that Talkwith the worst vulnerability hangoverof my life.And I actually didn't leave my housefor about three days.The first time I left was to meet a friend for lunch.And when I walked in, she was already at the table.And I sat down, and she said,“God, you look like hell.”I said, “Thanks.I feel really--I'm not functioning.”And she said, “What's going on?”And I said, “I just told500 peoplethat I became a researcherto avoid vulnerability.And that when being vulnerableemerged from my data,as absolutely essentialto whole-hearted living,I told these 500 peoplethat I had a breakdown.I had a slide that said Breakdown.At what point did I think that was a good idea?”(Laughter)And she said, “I saw your Talk live-streamed.It was not really you.It was a little different than what you usually do.But it was great.”And I said,“This can't happen.YouTube, they're putting this thing on YouTube.And we're going to be talking about 600, 700 people.”(Laughter)And she said, “Well, I think it's too late.” And I said, “Let me ask you something.”And she said, “Yeah.”And I said, “Do you remember when we were in collegeand really wild and kind of dumb?”And she said, “Yeah.”And I said, “Remember when we'd leave a really bad messageon our ex-boyfriend's answering machine?Then we'd have to break into his dorm roomand then erase the tape?”(Laughter)And she goes, “Uh...no.”(Laughter)So of course, the only thing I could think of to say at that point was,“Yeah, me neither.That...me neither.” And I'm thinking to myself,“Brene, what are you doing? What are you doing?Why did you bring this up? Have you lost your mind?Your sisters would be perfect for this.”So I looked back up and she said,“Are you really going to try to break inand steal the videobefore they put it on YouTube?”And I said, “I'm just thinking about it a little bit.”(Laughter)She said, “You're like the worst vulnerability role model ever.”(Laughter)And then I looked at her and I said somethingthat at the time felt a little dramatic,but ended up being more prophetic than dramatic.I said,“If 500 turns into 1,000or 2,000,my life is over.”(Laughter)I had no contingency plan for four million.(Laughter)And my life did end when that happened.And maybe the hardest part about my life endingis that I learned something hard about myself,and that was that,as much as I would frustratedabout not being able to get my work out to the world,there was a part of me that was working very hardto engineer staying small,staying right under the radar.But I want to talk about what I've learned.There's two things that I've learned in the last year.The first isvulnerability is not weakness.And that mythis profoundly dangerous.Let me ask you honestly--and I'll give you this warning,I'm trained as a therapist,so I can out-wait you uncomfortably--so if you could just raise your hand that would be awesome--how many of you honestly,when you're thinking about doing something vulnerableor saying something vulnerable,think, “God, vulnerability's weakness.This is weakness?”How many of you think of vulnerability and weakness synonymously?The majority of people.Now let me ask you this question:This past week at TED,how many of you, when you saw vulnerability up here,thought it was pure courage?Vulnerability is not weakness.I define vulnerabilityas emotional risk,exposure, uncertainty.It fuels our daily lives.And I've come to the belief--this is my 12th year doing this research--that vulnerabilityis our most accurate measurementof courage--to be vulnerable, to let ourselves be seen,to be honest.One of the weird things that's happenedis, after the TED explosion,I got a lot of offers to speak all over the country--everyone from schools and parent meetingsto Fortune 500 companies.And so many of the calls went like this,“Hey, Dr.Brown.We loved your TEDTalk.We'd like you to come in and speak.We'd appreciate itif you wouldn't mention vulnerability or shame.”(Laughter)What would you like for me to talk about?There's three big answers.This is mostly, to be honest with you, from the business sector:innovation, creativityand change.So let me go on the recordand say,vulnerability is the birthplaceof innovation, creativity and change.(Applause)To create is to make somethingthat has never existed before.There's nothing more vulnerable than that.Adaptability to changeis all about vulnerability.The second thing,in addition to really finally understandingthe relationship between vulnerability and courage,the second thing I learned is this:We have to talk about shame.And I'm going to be really honest with you.When I became a “vulnerability researcher”and that became the focus because of the TEDTalk--and I'm not kidding.I'll give you an example.About three months ago, I was in a sporting goods storebuying goggles and shin guardsand all the things that parents buy at the sporting goods store.About from a hundred feet away, this is what I hear:“Vulnerability TED!Vulnerability TED!”(Laughter)I'm a fifth generation Texan.Our family motto is “Lock and load.”I am not a natural vulnerability researcher.So I'm like,just keep walking, she's on my six.(Laughter)And then I hear, “Vulnerability TED!”I turn around, I go, “Hi.”She's right here and she said,“You're the shame researcher who had the breakdown.”(Laughter)At this pointparents are, like, pulling their children close.“Look away.”And I'm so worn out at this point in my life,I look at her and I actually say,“It was a frickin' spiritual awakening.”(Laughter)(Applause)And she looks back and does this,“I know.”And she said,“We watched your TEDTalk in my book club.Then we read your bookand we renamed ourselves'The Breakdown Babes.'”And she said, “Our tagline is:'We're falling apart and it feels fantastic.'”(Laughter)You can only imaginewhat it's like for me in a faculty meeting.So when I became Vulnerability TED,like an action figure--like Ninja Barbie, but I'm Vulnerability TED--I thought, I'm going to leave that shame stuff behind,because I spent six years studying shamebefore I really started writing and talking about vulnerability.And I thought, thank God, because shame is this horrible topic,no one wants to talk about it.It's the best way to shut people down on an airplane.“What do you do?” “I study shame.” “Oh.”(Laughter)And I see you.(Laughter)But in surviving this last year,I was reminded of a cardinal rule--not a research rule,but a moral imperativefrom my upbringing--you've got to dance with the one who brung ya.And I did not learn about vulnerabilityand courage and creativity and innovationfrom studying vulnerability.I learned about these thingsfrom studying shame.And so I want to walk you into shame.Jungian analysts call shamethe swampland of the soul.And we're going to walk in.And the purpose is not to walk inand construct a home and live there.It is to put on some galoshesand walk through and find our way around.Here's why.We heard the most compelling call everto have a conversation in this country,and I think globally,around race, right?Yes? We heard that.Yes?Cannot have that conversation without shame,because you cannot talk about race without talking about privilege.And when people start talking about privilege,they get paralyzed by shame.We heard a brilliant simple solutionto not killing people in surgery,which is have a checklist.You can't fix that problem without addressing shame,because when they teach those folks how to suture,they also teach them how to stitch their self-worthto being all-powerful.And all-powerful folks don't need checklists.And I had to write down the name of this TED Fellowso I didn't mess it up here.Myshkin Ingawale,I hope I did right by you.(Applause)I saw the TED Fellows my first day here.And he got up and he explainedhow he was driven to createsome technology to help test for anemiabecause people were dying unnecessarily.And he said, “I saw this need.So you know what I did? I made it.”And everybody just burst into applause, and they were like “Yes!”And he said, “And it didn't work.And then I made it 32 more times,and then it worked.” You know what the big secret about TED is?I can't wait to tell people this.I guess I'm doing it right now.(Laughter)This is like the failure conference.No, it is.(Applause)You know why this place is amazing?Because very few people hereare afraid to fail.And no one who gets on the stage, so far that I've seen, has not failed.I've failed miserably, many times.I don't think the world understands thatbecause of shame.There's a great quote that saved me this past yearby Theodore Roosevelt.A lot of people refer to it as the “Man in the Arena” quote.And it goes like this:“It is not the critic who counts.It is not the man who sits and points outhow the doer of deeds could have done things betterand how he falls and stumbles.The credit goes to the man in the arenawhose face is marredwith dust and blood and sweat.But when he's in the arena,at best he wins,and at worst he loses,but when he fails, when he loses,he does so daring greatly.” And that's what this conference, to me, is about.That's what life is about, about daring greatly,about being in the arena.When you walk up to that arena and you put your hand on the door,and you think, “I'm going in and I'm going to try this,”shame is the gremlinwho says, “Uh, uh.You're not good enough.You never finished that MBA.Your wife left you.I know your dad really wasn't in Luxembourg,he was in Sing Sing.I know those things that happened to you growing up.I know you don't think that you're pretty enoughor smart enough or talented enough or powerful enough.I know your dad never paid attention, even when you made CFO.”Shame is that thing.And if we can quiet it down and walk inand say, “I'm going to do this,”we look up and the critic that we seepointing and laughing,99 percent of the time is who?Us.Shame drives two big tapes--“never good enough”and, if you can talk it out of that one,“who do you think you are?”The thing to understand about shame is it's not guilt.Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior.Shame is “I am bad.”Guilt is “I did something bad.”How many of you,if you did something that was hurtful to me,would be willing to say, “I'm sorry.I made a mistake?”How many of you would be willing to say that?Guilt: I'm sorry.I made a mistake.Shame: I'm sorry.I am a mistake.There's a huge difference between shame and guilt.And here's what you need to know.Shame is highly, highly correlatedwith addiction, depression, violence, aggression,bullying, suicide, eating disorders.And here's what you even need to know more.Guilt, inversely correlated with those things.The ability to hold something we've done or failed to doup against who we want to beis incredibly adaptive.It's uncomfortable, but it's adaptive.The other thing you need to know about shameis it's absolutely organized by gender.If shame washes over me and washes over Chris,it's going to feel the same.Everyone sitting in here knows the warm wash of shame.We're pretty sure that the only people who don't experience shameare people who have no capacityfor connection or empathy.Which means, yes, I have a little shame;no, I'm a sociopath.So I would opt for, yes, you have a little shame.Shame feels the same for men and women,but it's organized by gender.For women,the best example I can give youis Enjolithe commercial:“I can put the wash on the line,pack the lunches, hand out the kissesand be at work at five to nine.I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in the panand never let you forget you're a man.”For women, shame is do it all,do it perfectlyand never let them see you sweat.I don't know how much perfume that commercial sold,but I guarantee you,it moved a lot of antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds.(Laughter)Shame, for women, is this webof unobtainable, conflicting, competing expectations about who we're supposed to be.And it's a straight-jacket.For men,shame is not a bunch of competing, conflicting expectations.Shame is one,do not be perceived as what?Weak.I did not interview men for the first four years of my study.And it wasn't until a man looked at me one day after a book signing,said, “I love what you have to say about shame,I'm curious why you didn't mention men.”And I said, “I don't study men.”And he said, “That's convenient.”(Laughter)And I said, “Why?”And he said, “Because you say to reach out,tell our story,be vulnerable.But you see those books you just signedfor my wife and my three daughters?”I said, “Yeah.”“They'd rather me die on top of my white horsethan watch me fall down.When we reach out and be vulnerablewe get the shit beat out of us.And don't tell meit's from the guys and the coaches and the dads,because the women in my life are harder on me than anyone else.” So I started interviewing menand asking questions.And what I learned is this:You show me a woman who can actually sit with a manin real vulnerability and fear,I'll show you a woman who's done incredible work.You show me a man who can sit with a womanwho's just had it,she can't do it all anymore,and his first response is not,“I unloaded the dishwasher,”but he really listens--because that's all we need--I'll show you a guy who's done a lot of work.Shame is an epidemic in our culture.And to get out from underneath it,to find our way back to each other,we have to understand how it affects usand how it affects the way we're parenting,the way we're working, the way we're looking at each other.Very quickly, some research by Mahalik at Boston College.He asked, what do women need to do to conform to female norms?The top answers in this country:nice, thin, modestand use all available resources for appearance.When he asked about men,what do men in this country need to doto conform with male norms,the answers were:always show emotional control, work is first,pursue status and violence.If we're going to find our way back to each other,we have to understand and know empathy,because empathy's the antidote to shame.If you put shame in a Petri dish,it needs three things to grow exponentially:secrecy, silence and judgment.If you put the same amount of shame in a Petri dish and douse it with empathy,it can't survive.The two most powerful words when we're in struggle:me too.And so I'll leave you with this thought.If we're going to find our wayback to each other,vulnerability is going to be that path.And I know it's seductive to stand outside the arena,because I think I did it my whole life,and think to myself,I'm going to go in there and kick some asswhen I'm bulletproof and when I'm perfect.And that is seductive.But the truth is that never happens.And even if you got as perfect as you couldand as bulletproof as you could possibly musterwhen you got in there,that's not what we want to see.We want you to go in.We want to be with you and across from you.And we just want,for ourselves and the people we care aboutand the people we work with,to dare greatly.So thank you all very much.I really appreciate it.

第二篇：羞耻近义词反义词及其出处

羞耻[xiū chǐ]

近义词：耻辱 羞辱 侮辱 污辱 可耻

反义词：

光彩，荣誉，光荣

羞愧耻辱。

《史记·律书》：“会 吕氏 之乱，功臣宗室共不羞耻。” 宋 欧阳修 《与高司谏书》：“是足下不復知人间有羞耻事尔。”《水浒传》第四五回：“ 杨雄 怕他羞耻，也自去了。”

《羞耻》是福斯探照灯公司于2011年发行的一部剧情电影。影片由史蒂夫·麦奎因执导，迈克尔·法斯宾德、凯瑞·穆里根和妮可儿·贝海尔等联袂出演。影片于2011年9月4日在意大利威尼斯电影节率先放映。影片讲述一个男人的性心理转变过程，在他自己构建的隐蔽空间中，用各种各样的“性事”，企图冲破内心的囹圄，追寻自由

第三篇：八荣八耻心得体会——知羞耻方成人

八荣八耻心得体会——知羞耻方成人

胡锦涛总书记提出的“八荣八耻”，既集中体现了社会主义的世界观、人生观和价值观，也提出了一个如何做人的问题。

一个人不管是干工作还是过日子，首先要学会做人。在做人的道理上，古今中外的哲人们给我们提出了一些建议。孟子说：“无羞恶之心，非人也。”荀子说：“人不知羞耻，乃不能成人。”宋代名儒陆九渊说：“耻存则心存，耻忘则心忘。”《元史·杨忍传》中说，“人有三成人”，其中提到“知羞耻成人”。明末思想家顾炎武说：“士而不先言耻，则为无本之人。”美国作家马克·吐温则说：“人是唯一知道羞耻和有必要知道羞耻的动物。”不同地域、不同时代的人都不约而同地强调羞耻感在为人处事中起着关键的作用，值得我们后人深思。

“知羞耻成人”，一直都是仁人志士立身做人的宝贵经验和修身养性的重要法宝。清代学者朱起凤年轻时在一家书院教书，因为没弄清“首施两端”和“首鼠两端”两词通用，而错判学生的作文，遭到众人的奚落。他知羞耻而发愤图强，潜心于词语研究，编成了300多万字的《辞通》，为汉语言文字的发展作出了重要贡献。英国生物学家谢灵顿早年沾染恶习，在向一位女工求婚时，被姑娘一句“我宁愿跳进泰晤士河里淹死，也不会嫁给你！”的话深深刺痛，从此幡然醒悟，努力钻研医学和生物学，并最终在1932年获得了诺贝尔医学奖。所以说，知羞耻不仅是做人的基本，在某种意义上也是成就事业的起步。

“知羞耻成人”，前提是要明于羞耻的界限，保持清醒的认识。当前，我们处于一个急剧转型的社会环境，大量涌入的外来文化和各种各样的外在诱惑，对人们的生活方式和价值取向、思想观念产生了负面影响，以致使一些人思想混乱、价值迷惘，对什么是羞耻、什么不是羞耻分辨不清。当一个人对真善美与假丑恶缺乏辨别力，头脑中分不清耻与荣时，什么愚昧无知、好逸恶劳、损人利己、见利忘义、违法乱纪、骄奢淫逸甚至危害祖国、背离人民的事情都有可能做出来。现代社会是多元的、开放包容的，但在基本准则上依然有自己的底线，人们不论怎么选择，都离不开做人的本色和遵守社会运行的基本规则。只有树立正确的荣辱观，善于辨别羞耻的界限，才能知羞耻而成人。

“知羞耻成人”，关键在于严格的道德自律，强化思想内省。“知耻近乎勇”。道德自律产生的羞耻感是人类趋于完善的动力，使人自爱、自重、自尊、自律，使人止于礼、合乎情、趋于善、臻于美，使人深刻反省、改正缺失。

然而，不肖之徒们则害怕道德自律。莎士比亚名剧《理查三世》中，理查三世痛骂：“羞耻啊，你是个懦夫，你把我惊扰得好苦！你伸出千万条舌头将我指控成一个罪犯！”另一个凶手则说得更直接：“我不再跟羞耻打交道，它叫人缩手缩脚办不成事；偷不得，一偷，它就来指手画脚；赌不得咒，一赌咒，它就阻挡你；不能跟邻居的妻子通奸，一动，它就识破你；它是脸会发红躲躲闪闪的妖精，会钻进肚子造反的家伙。”可见，道德自律、知羞耻有助于阻人为恶，劝人从善。难怪英国作家卡莱尔说：“羞耻心是所有品德的源泉。”增强人们的羞耻感受，加强思想道德修养，可以造就具有良好品德的人。加强社会主义“荣辱观”教育，首要的就是要教育人们把荣荣、耻耻作为一个社会公民的起码准则。>

第四篇：知羞耻，守道德 国旗下讲话

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各位老师 各位同学，早上好。

今天我演讲的主题是：知羞耻，守道德。

今天是 9月20日，是我们的公民道德日。

道德是一个人做人的底线，是每个人都要遵守的。还为别的，只求无愧于自己的内心。

一个人不管是干工作还是过日子，首先要学会做人。在做人的道理上，古今中外的哲人们给我们提出了一些建议。

孟子说：“无羞恶之心，非人也。”荀子说：“人不知羞耻，乃不能成人。”宋代名儒陆九渊说：“耻存则心存，耻忘则心忘。”

《元史·杨忍传》中说，“人有三成人”，其中提到“知羞耻成人”。

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明末思想家顾炎武说：“士而不先言耻，则为无本之人。”

美国作家马克·吐温则说：“人是唯一知道羞耻和有必要知道羞耻的动物。”

不同地域、不同时代的人都不约而同地强调羞耻感在为人处事中起着关键的作用，值得我们后人深思。

清代学者朱起凤年轻时在一家书院教书，因为没弄清“首施两端”和“首鼠两端”两词通用，而错判学生的作文，遭到众人的奚落。

他知羞耻而发愤图强，潜心于词语研究，编成了300多万字的《辞通》，为汉语文字的发展作出了重要贡献。

所以说，知羞耻不仅是做人的基本，在某种意义上也是成就事业的起步。

当前，我们处于一个急剧转型的社会环境，大量外来文化和各种各样的外在诱惑，对人们的生活方式和价值取向、思想观念产生了负面影响。

以致使一些人思想混乱、价值迷惘，对什么是羞耻、什么不是羞耻分辨不清当一个人对真善美与假丑恶缺乏门辨别力，头脑中分不清耻与荣时，什么愚昧无知、好逸恶劳、损人利已、见利忘斍、违法乱纪、骄奢淫逸甚至危害祖国、背人民的事情都有可能做出来。

现代社会是多元的、开放包容的，但在基本准则上依然有自己的底线，人们不论怎么选择，都离不开做人的本色和遵守社会运行的基本规则。

“知羞耻成人”，关键在于严格的道德自律，道德自律产生的羞耻感是人类趋于完善的动力，使人自爱、自重、自尊、自律，使人止于礼、合乎情、趋于善、臻于美，使人深刻反省、改正缺失。

道德自律、知羞耻有助于阻人为恶，劝人以善。难怪英国作家卡莱尔说：“羞耻心是所有品德的源泉。”增强人们的羞耻感受，加强思想道德修养，可以造就具有良好的品德的人。

知羞耻，守道德，从每个人做起，从每一天做起。

我的演讲完毕，谢谢大家！

>>《知羞耻，守道德 国旗下讲话》

第五篇：不因碌碌无为而羞耻——读《今天怎样做教科研》有感

不因碌碌无为而羞耻

——读《今天怎样做教科研》有感

不知不觉，站在这三尺讲台已近17年，再细细算一下，从自己进入学校读书，再到毕业从教，已经将近29年，如果再算上25年后退休，那么我跟学校打交道的时间将超过半个世纪，其中42年是与我的学生们度过的。

尼·奥斯特洛夫斯基在《钢铁是怎样练成的》 一书里这样写道：“人的一生应当这样度过：当他回首往事时，不会因虚度年华而悔恨，也不会因碌碌无为而羞耻。”我想：作为一名教师，从教一辈子，虚度年华肯定是算不上的，但如果只知道夹本教案上课，捧叠作业本批改的话，估计要算碌碌无为了。

今天看完了冯卫东教授的《今天怎样做教科研》，感受颇深，不禁有点感受想要写下来。冯教授说，教师应该是一个写作者，写教育随笔是教师进行“心灵漫步”的一种极好的方式与途径。我想，在日常教学中撰写随笔，不单是心灵的漫步，它更是教师自身素质提升的需要，是教育改革、时代发展的需要。进师范时老师就说过，要给学生一杯水，老师要有一桶水。工作几年下来，深感教育改革变化之快，读书时学的东西早早的被时代所淘汰了。教材在改版，教法在更新，教育理念更需要提升，所以，教师撰写教育随笔有其现实意义。

冯教授把教学随笔分为叙事随笔、事理随笔和论理随笔，书中重点介绍了前二者。他说，写叙事随笔是因为“值得过的生活”就值得“回味”。他把教师的教育生活称为“值得过的生活”，我想是因为教师的教育把培养学生做人放在首位，所以“回味”那些“值得过的生活”，并从中感悟，才显得如此重要。教育不是枯燥的教授，更不是知识的灌输。把日常教育教学中那些“淡而无味”的事例点点滴滴的积累，细细的品味，并用之于今后的教育，这就是冯教授所说的转到教育的背后，对自我进行琢磨、反思和研究的过程。

记得前两年读了全国特级教师李庾南老师的《班主任工作艺术一百例——触及心灵的足音》。书中很多事例平淡无奇，甚至自己也曾经历过，然后冯教授对这些事例的评价极高。他说，李老师所做的班主任工作是“有魂的教育”，平平淡淡才是真。“值得过的生活”往往就是由这些看似平淡的事情组成的，当然，它们的价值是需要我们细细“品味”才能较好实现。在我们每个老师身边都有这样“值得过的生活”，“品味”了，它是“值得过的生活”，不去“品味”，那它们成不了“值得过的生活”。教育生活成不了“值得过的生活”，那就是在耗费自己的生命，同时也在耗费学生的生命。

回想自己，对教育生活的“品味”还远远不够，很多教育故事就白白的浪费掉了，甚至都不记得了。那么我为之的付出也就白白浪费掉了，就像不曾发生过一般。是自己不懂得“品味”吗？我想不是的，应该是惰性使然，亦或是对那些平淡无奇的小事的不屑。冯教授说，真水无香。我们每个老师的教育生活中都不乏真水，也正因为其无香，所以才需要我们更加细心去发掘、去“品味”。

冯教授的第二个观点，事理随笔能让我们在石头里看到风景。他倡导教师去写一写就事论理的教育随笔。教师要有对教育生活、学生表现的穿透力，要能在寻常中发现奇崛，在凡俗里看到精彩。我想，这样的能力不是天生就有的，也不是一蹴而就的，它需要我们长期的练习，需要我们对教育生活、对学生的细致观察和思考。

我们每天面对着各不相同的学生，每个老师又有不同的思维方式，所以对教育生活产生的认知和理解也是不同的。很多时候我们的想法是独特的，与众不同的，这就需要我们撰写一些事理随笔，表述自己的观点。通过深入的分析与思考，可以使我们发现其中蕴含的道理，同时更好的指导今后的工作。冯教授从一名女生在乎老师对她作文的评价感悟到，作为老师要在乎学生在乎的东西。我想，这样的事例在我们身边比比皆是，为什么就从来没认真对待过呢？就事论理，不在于单单论理，更主要的是我们要通过论理发现一些对我们的教育有益的东西，提高自身认识，增长教育智慧。

科研先导是教育的发展方向。如何做好教育科研，如何使教育科研利于我们的教育，这是每一位老师都需要思考的问题。当我们第一次踏上这三尺讲台，相信每个老师心中都有一个教育理想，一个教育梦。古代雅典政治家梭伦说：“活到老，学到老。”我想，抱着这样的态度对待自己的教育事业，应该不会因碌碌无为羞耻了。