雪莉桑德伯格演讲翻译（精选5篇）

第一篇：雪莉桑德伯格演讲翻译

原文： It‘s an honor to be here today to address HBS‘s distinguished faculty, proud parents, patient guests, and most importantly, the class of 2012.Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration and I know that‘s no longer true.I join all of you in grieving for your classmate Nate.There are no words which can make this better.Though laden with sadness, today still marks a distinct and impressive achievement for this class.So please join me in giving our warmest congratulations to this class.When Dean Nohria asked me to speak here today, I thought, come talk to a group of people way younger and cooler than I am? I can do that.I do that every day at Facebook.I like being surrounded by young people, except when they say to me, ―What was it like being in college without the internet?‖ or worse,‖ Sheryl, can you come here? We need to see what old people think of this feature.‖

When I was a student here 17 years ago, I studied social marketing with Professor Kash Rangan.One of the many examples Kash used to explain the concept of social marketing was the lack of organ donors in this country, which kills 18 people every single day.Earlier this month, Facebook launched a tool to support organ donations, something that stems directly from Kash‘s work.Kash, we are all grateful for your dedication.SANDBERG‘S HARVARD SECTION TRIED TO HAVE THE SCHOOL‘S FIRST ONLINE CLASS It wasn‘t really that long ago when I was sitting where you are, but the world has changed an awful lot.My section, section B, tried to have HBS‘s first online class.We had to use an AOL chat room and dial up service.(Your parents can explain to you later what dial-up service is.)We had to pass out a list of screen names because it was unthinkable to put your real name on the internet.And it never worked.It kept crashing.The world just wasn‘t set up for 90 people to communicate at once online.But for a few brief moments, we glimpsed the future – a future where technology would power who we are and connect us to our real colleagues, our real family, our real friends.It used to be that in order to reach more people than you could talk to in a day, you had to be rich and famous and powerful.You had to be a celebrity, a politician, a CEO.But that‘s not true today.Now ordinary people have voice, not just those of us lucky to go to HBS, but anyone with access to Facebook, Twitter, a mobile phone.This is disrupting traditional power structures and leveling traditional hierarchy.Control and power are shifting from institutions to individuals, from the historically powerful to the historically powerless.And all of this is happening so much faster than I could have imagined when I was sitting where you are today – and Mark Zuckerberg was 11 years old.‗WE WOULDN‘T EVEN THINK ABOUT HIRING SOMEONE LIKE YOU‘ As the world becomes more connected and less hierarchical, traditional career paths are shifting as well.In 2001, after working in the government, I moved out to Silicon Valley to try to find a job.My timing wasn‘t really that good.The bubble had crashed.Small companies were closing.Big companies were laying people off.One CEO looked at me and said, ―we wouldn‘t even think about hiring someone like you.‖

After a while I had a few offers and I had to make a decision, so what did I do? I am MBA trained, so I made a spreadsheet.I listed my jobs in the columns and my criteria in the rows.One of the jobs on that sheet was to become Google‘s first Business Unit general manager, which sounds good now, but at the time no one thought consumer internet companies could ever make money.I was not sure there was actually a job there at all;Google had no business units, so what was there to generally manage? And the job was several levels lower than jobs I was being offered at other companies.So I sat down with Eric Schmidt, who had just become the CEO, and I showed him the spreadsheet and I said, this job meets none of my criteria.He put his hand on my spreadsheet and he looked at me and said, ―Don‘t be an idiot.‖

EXCELLENT CAREER ADVICE: ‗GET ON A ROCKET SHIP‘

Excellent career advice.And then he said, ―Get on a rocket ship.When companies are growing quickly and having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves.And when companies aren‘t growing quickly or their missions don‘t matter as much, that‘s when stagnation and politics come in.If you‘re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don‘t ask what seat.Just get on.‖

About six and one-half years later, when I was leaving Google, I took that advice to heart.I was offered CEO jobs at a bunch of companies, but I went to Facebook as COO.At the time people said, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old? THE METAPHOR FOR A CAREER IS NO LONGER A LADDER;IT‘S A JUNGLE GYM The traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but I no longer think that metaphor holds.It just doesn‘t make sense in a less hierarchical world.When I was first at Facebook, a woman named Lori Goler, a 1997 graduate of HBS, was working in marketing at eBay and I knew her a bit socially.She called me and said, ―I want to talk with you about coming to work with you at Facebook.So I thought about calling you and telling you all the things I‘m good at and all the things I like to do.But I figured that everyone is doing that.So instead I want to know what‘s your biggest problem and how can I solve it?‖

My jaw hit the floor.I‘d hired thousands of people up to that point in my career, but no one had ever said anything like that.I had never said anything like that.Job searches are always about the job searcher, but not in Lori‘s case.I said, ―You‘re hired.My biggest problem is recruiting and you can solve it.‖ So Lori changed fields into something she never thought she‘d do, went down a level to start in a new field.She has since been promoted and runs all of People Operations at Facebook and is doing an extraordinary job.Lori has a great metaphor for careers.She says they‘re not a ladder, they‘re a jungle gym.LOOK FOR GROWTH, IMPACT AND MISSION.MOVE SIDEWAYS, DOWN, ON AND OFF As you start your post-HBS career, look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission.Move sideways, move down, move on, move off.Build your skills, not your resume.Evaluate what you can do, not the title they‘re going to give you.Do real work.Take a sales quota, a line role, an ops job.Don‘t plan too much, and don‘t expect a direct climb.If I had mapped out my career when I was sitting where you are, I would have missed my career.You are entering a different business world than I entered.Mine was just starting to get connected.Yours is hyper-connected.Mine was competitive.Yours is way more competitive.Mine moved quickly, yours moves even more quickly.As traditional structures are breaking down, leadership has to evolve as well – from hierarchy to shared responsibility, from command and control to listening and guiding.You‘ve been trained by this great institution not just to be part of these trends, but to lead.As you lead in this new world, you will not be able to rely on who you are or the degree you hold.You‘ll have to rely on what you know.Your strength will not come from your place on some org chart, but from building trust and earning respect.You‘re going to need talent, skill, and imagination and vision.But more than anything else, you‘re going to need the ability to communicate authentically, to speak so that you inspire the people around you and to listen so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job.‗MOMMY, WHAT IS GROWING IN YOUR BUTT?‘

If you watch young children, you‘ll immediately notice how honest they are.My friend Betsy from my section a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child.Her first child was about five and said, ―Mommy, where is the baby?‖ She said, ―The baby is in my tummy.‖ He said, ‗Aren‘t the baby‘s arms in your arms?‖ She said, ―No, the baby‘s in my tummy.‖ ―Are the baby‘s legs in your legs?‖ ―No, the whole baby is in my tummy.‖ Then he said, ‗Then Mommy, what is growing in your butt?‖

As adults, we are never this honest.And that‘s not a bad thing.I have borne two children and the last thing I needed were those comments.But it‘s not always a good thing either.Because all of us, and especially leaders, need to speak and hear the truth.The workplace is an especially difficult place for anyone to tell the truth, because no matter how flat we want our organizations to be, all organizations have some form of hierarchy.This means that one person‘s performance is assessed by someone else‘s perception.This is not a setup for honesty.Think about how people speak in a typical workforce.Rather than say, ―I disagree with our expansion strategy‖ or better yet, ―this seems truly stupid.‖ They say, ―I think there are many good reasons why we‘re entering this new line of business, and I‘m certain the management team has done a thorough ROI analysis, but I‘m not sure we have fully considered the downstream effects of taking this step forward at this time.‖ As we would say at Facebook, three letters: WTF.‗TRUTH IS BETTER USED BY USING SIMPLE LANGUAGE‘

Truth is better used by using simple language.Last year, Mark decided to learn Chinese and as part of studying, he would spend an hour or so each week with some of our employees who were native Chinese speakers.One day, one of them was trying to tell him something about her manager.She said this long sentence and he said, ―simpler please.‖ And then she said it again and he said, ―no, I still don‘t understand, simpler please‖…and so on and so on.Finally, in sheer exasperation, she burst out, ―my manager is bad.‖ Simple and clear and very important for him to know.People rarely speak this clearly in the workforce or in life.And as you get more senior, not only will people speak less clearly to you but they will overreact to the small things you say.When I joined Facebook, one of the things I had to do was build the business side of the company and put some systems into place.But I wanted to do it without destroying the culture that made Facebook great.So one of the things I tried to do was encourage people not to do formal PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me.I would say things like, ―Don‘t do PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me.Instead, come in with a list of what you want to discuss.‖ But everyone ignored me and they kept doing their presentations meeting after meeting, month after month.So about two years in, I said, ―OK, I hate rules but I have a rule: no more PowerPoint in my meetings.‖

About a month later I was about to speak to our global sales team on a big stage and someone came up to me and said, ―Before you get on that stage, you really should know everyone‘s pretty upset about the no PowerPoint with clients thing.‖ So I got on the stage and said, ―one, I meant no PowerPoint with me.But two, more importantly, next time you hear something that‘s really stupid, don‘t adhere to it.Fight it or ignore it, even if it‘s coming from me or Mark.‖

A good leader recognizes that most people won‘t feel comfortable challenging authority, so it falls upon authority to encourage them to question.It‘s easy to say that you‘re going to encourage feedback but it‘s hard to do, because unfortunately it doesn‘t always come in a format we want to hear.‗BEING PART OF MY TEAM MEANT THAT I HAD TO KNOW YOU‘

When I first started at Google, I had a team of four people and it was really important to me that I interview everyone.For me, being part of my team meant I had to know you.When the team had grown to about 100 people, I realized it was taking longer to schedule my interviews.So one day at my meeting of just my direct reports, I said ―maybe I should stop interviewing‖, fully expecting them to jump in and say ―no, your interviews are a critical part of the process.‖ They applauded.Then they fell over themselves explaining that I was the bottleneck of all time.I was embarrassed.Then I was angry and I spent a few hours just quietly fuming.Why didn‘t they tell me I was a bottleneck? Why did they let me go on slowing them down? Then I realized that if they hadn‘t told me, it was my fault.I hadn‘t convinced them that I wanted that feedback and I would have to change that going forward.When you‘re the leader, it is really hard to get good and honest feedback, no many how many times you ask for it.One trick I‘ve discovered is that I try to speak really openly about the things I‘m bad at, because that gives people permission to agree with me, which is a lot easier than pointing it out in the first place.To take one of many possible examples, when things are unresolved I can get a tad anxious.Really, when anything‘s unresolved, I get anxious.I‘m quite certain no one has accused me of being too calm.So I speak about it openly and that gives people permission to tell me when it‘s happening.But if I never said anything, would anyone who works at Facebook walk up to me and say, ―Hey Sheryl, calm down.You‘re driving us all nuts!‖ I don‘t think so.‗WHEN YOU GET HONESTY BACK, WILL YOU REACT WITH ANGER OR WITH GRATITUDE?‘

As you graduate today, ask yourself, how will you lead.Will you use simple and clear language? Will you seek out honesty? When you get honesty back, will you react with anger or with gratitude? As we strive to be more authentic in our communication, we should also strive to be more authentic in a broader sense.I talk a lot about bringing your whole self to work—something I believe in deeply.Motivation comes from working on things we care about.But it also comes from working with people we care about.And in order to care about someone, you have to know them.You have to know what they love and hate, what they feel, not just what they think.If you want to win hearts and minds, you have to lead with your heart as well as your mind.I don‘t believe we have a professional self from Mondays through Fridays and a real self for the rest of the time.That kind of division probably never worked, but in today‘s world, with real and authentic voice, it makes even less sense.CRYING AT WORK: YES, SHE‘S DONE IT BUT NOT EXACTLY ON ZUCKERBERG‘S SHOULDER

I‘ve cried at work.I‘ve told people I‘ve cried at work.And it‘s been reported in the press that ‗Sheryl Sandberg cried on Mark Zuckerberg‘s shoulder‘, which is not exactly what happened.I talk about my hopes and fears and ask people about theirs.I try to be myself – honest about my strengths and weaknesses – and I encourage others to do the same.It is all professional and it is all personal, all at the very same time.I recently started speaking up about the challenges women face in the workforce, something I only had the courage to do in the last few years.Before this, I did my career like everyone else does it.I never told anyone I was a girl.Don‘t tell.I left the lights on when I went home to do something for my kids.I locked my office door and pumped milk for my babies while I was on conference calls.People would ask, ―what‘s that sound?‖ I would say, ―What sound?‖ ―I hear a beep.‖ ―Oh, there‘s a fire truck outside my office.‖

But the lack of progress over the past decade has convinced me we need to start talking about this.I graduated from HBS in 1995 and I thought it was completely clear that by the time someone from my year was invited to speak at this podium, we would have achieved equality in the workforce.But women at the top — C-level jobs — are stuck at 15-16 percent and have not moved in a decade.Not even close to 50% and no longer growing.We need to acknowledge openly that gender remains an issue at the highest levels of leadership.The promise of equality is not equality.We need to start talking about this.‗AS A WOMAN IS MORE SUCCESSFUL IN YOUR WORKPLACES, SHE WILL BE LESS LIKED‘

We need to start talking about how women underestimate their abilities compared to men and how for women, but not men, success and likeability are negatively correlated.That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces, she will be less liked.This means that women need a different form of management and mentorship, a different form of sponsorship and encouragement than men.There aren‘t enough senior women out there to do it, so it falls upon the men who are graduating today just as much or more as the women, not just to talk about gender but to help these women succeed.When they hear a woman is really great at her job but not liked, take a deep breath and ask why.We need to start talking openly about the flexibility all of us need to have both a job and a life.A couple of weeks ago in an interview I said that I leave the office at 5:30 p.m.to have dinner with my children.I was shocked at the press coverage.One of my friends said I couldn‘t get more headlines if I had murdered someone with an ax.This showed me this is an unresolved issue for all of us, men and women alike.Otherwise, everyone would not write so much about it.‗WE NEED MORE WOMEN NOT JUST TO SIT AT THE TABLE, BUT TO TAKE THEIR RIGHTFUL SEATS‘

And maybe, most importantly, we need to start talking about how fewer women than men, even from places like HBS, even likely in this class, aspire to the very top jobs.We will not close the leadership gap until we close the professional ambition gap.We need more women not just to sit at the table, but as President Obama said a few weeks ago at Barnard, to take their rightful seats at the head of the table.One of the reasons I was so excited to be here today is that this is the 50th anniversary of letting women into this school.Dean Noria, who is so passionate about getting more women into leadership positions, told me that he wanted me to speak this year for that reason.I met a woman from that first class once.She told me that when they first came in, they took a men‘s room and converted it to a woman‘s room.But they left the urinals in.She thought the message was clear – ‗we are not sure this whole woman thing is going to work out and if not, we don‘t want to have to reinstall the urinals.‘ The urinals are long gone.Let‘s make sure that no one ever misses them.FOUR THINGS SANDBERG WISHES FOR HARVARD‘S GRADUATING CLASS OF 2012 As you and your classmates spread out across the globe and walk across this stage tomorrow, I wish for you four things: First, keep in touch via Facebook.This is critical to your future success!And since we‘re public now, why you are there, click on an ad or two.Two, that you make the effort to speak as well as seek the truth.Three, that you remain true to and open about your authentic self.And four, that your generation accomplishes what mine has failed to do.Give us a world where half our homes are run by men and half our institutions are run by women.I‘m pretty sure that would be a better world.I join everyone here in offering my most sincere congratulations to the HBS Class of 2012.Give yourselves a huge round of applause.译文：

今天很高兴来到哈佛商学院为各位老师，家长，贵宾，尤其是各位2012届同学做演讲。

今天本应是值得大庆的日子，但我们很为内特同学哀伤，在这场灾难面前言语显得很苍白。

但无论如何今天对你们而言是一个值得纪念且富有意义的日子。让我们一起对你们给予热烈祝贺！

当诺利亚院长邀请我今天来演讲时，我想和一群年轻有活力的人交流是我在Facebook每天都做，这我没问题。我喜欢和年轻人在一起，但有些时候他们也令我尴尬，比如他们会问：“念大学时不能上网是什么滋味？”或者“雪莉，你过来一下，你认为老人会怎么看待这个功能？” 当我17年前在这学习时，兰根教授教授社会营销。他用很多例子阐释这一理论，其中之一是缺少器官捐献，每天有18个生命为此消亡。本月初我们网站正式启用器官捐献工具，这一想法源于兰根教授。在此我想向兰根教授谨致谢意。似乎我毕业时间不算太久，但世界已今非昔比。当时我所在的B小组尽力想拥有这里的首个网络课堂。我们需要一个AOL聊天室和拨号服务。（你的父母稍后会告诉你什么是拨号服务。）我们要分发出去一张张列有网名的名单，因为那时没人会在网上用真名。网一直断，总死机。当时网上还不可以90人同时聊天。但我们仍可隐约窥见未来的景况：技术会使我们有能力和同事、家人、朋友沟通。在以前若想一天中与更多人晤面，那么这个人要富有，有名且有权势。这个人可能是名人、政治家或首席执行官。但今天情况迥然不同。如今不单是我们这些来到哈佛商学院的幸运儿，普通人也可表达自己的想法，只要他们使用Facebook，Twitter或手机。这摧毁了传统的权利结构，消除了传统的等级制度。个体将权利与控制力从机构手中抢回。这一切的发展速度是我当年毕业时难以想见的。当世界变得更紧密，更平等时，传统的职业生涯也在变化着。在2001年，辞掉了政府的工作后，我来到硅谷找工作。我的运气不算太好。泡沫破裂了，小公司倒闭了，大公司在裁员。一个CEO看着我说：“像你这样的人，我们都不会予以考虑。”

之后有一些职位向我伸出橄榄枝，这时我要抉择自己到底要做什么。我是工商管理硕士，所以我作出一张电子表格，将自己的工作和标准一一列出。单上列出的工作之一是谷歌的首位业务部总经理。这一职位如今看起来很好，但当时没人相信互联网公司能赚钱。我认为这一工作会让我无所事事；谷歌当时没有业务部，我要去那管理什么。此外，和其他向我敞开的职位相比这一职位级别较低。所以我和谷歌当时刚上任的首席执行官见了面，告诉他这一职位与我列表上的标准毫不相符，他推开表格对我说：“别傻了。” 这是一个好建议。之后他告诉我：“登上一艘火箭，当公司快速发展时，它的影响力在变大，你的事业自会开启；当公司发展缓慢或没什么影响力时，停滞和办公室政治随之而来。如果你得到一艘火箭上的职位，别犹豫，接受它。” 六年半后当我离开谷歌时我仍然将那个建议铭记于心。当时很多公司请我作首席执行官，但我去Facebook作了首席运营官。当时人们问我为何为一个23岁的年轻人工作？

之前人们认为职场道路应是梯状的，但在如今更为平等的世界里情况早已不同。我刚到Facebook时，一位我在社交场合认识的97届哈佛商学院毕业生当时在eBay做市场营销。一天她打电话对我说：“我想到Facebook工作，我本想陈述 下我的优缺点，但我知道现在很多人会给你打电话这样做，因此我现在想知道你的最大问题是什么，我如何帮你解决。”

我无比感动，那时我已雇佣过数千人，但没人对我说过这些话，我也没对别人这么说过。找工作总是关于找工作者本人，但她的想法令人感动。我告诉她：“你被雇佣了，我最大问题是招人，你可以解决这一问题。”她转入一个陌生领域，从基层做起，现在她已被提职，负责Facebook的人事运行，现在做得很出色。你们毕业后要寻找机会，主动成长，增加影响力，寻找自己的使命。你可以从各个层次做起，重要的是发展你的技能，而非填充简历。要知道自己能做什么，不要在意别人给你的头衔。做实事，接受一个销售目标，一份生产线上的工作，或一份运营工作。别计划太多，别期待平步青云。如果我在毕业之初就规划了事业发展，那我会错失很多机会。

如今你们面对的商业界与我那个时代的相比差异很大。我们那时竞争激烈，你们现在更为激烈；我们那时才开始联系紧密，你们现在联系更为紧密；我们那时更新很快，你们现在变化更快。传统的结构坍塌，领导班子也在演进—由等级制度变为责任共享，从发号施令变作聆听指导。在这里走出后你们不但要跟上潮流，更要引领潮流。

当你领导这个世界时，要知道自己是谁，拿到了什么学位，但更重要的是要懂得更多。你的优势并非源于你的职位，而是在于与他人间的信任与尊重。你需要天赋、技能、想象力和远见。更为重要的是你需要与人真诚沟通的能力，鼓励周围人的能力，并懂得聆听以互相学习。你如果观察教孩子，就会发现他们尤为诚实。有的一位朋友毕业几年后怀了二胎。她的五岁长子一天问道：“妈妈，孩子在哪？”她说：“在我肚子里。‖ 他又问道：“难道小孩的胳膊和腿不在你的胳膊和腿里吗？”母亲答道：“不，它整个在我的肚子里。”之后他问道：“那么妈妈，你的屁股为什么越来越大？”

作为成年人，我们绝不如孩子诚实。这也好，我生过两个孩子，不愿听到这样的评论。但作为领导我们需要说出并听到实话。

职场的人们不愿讲真话，因为尽管我们希望平等，等级制度还是必不可免。也就是说一个人的表现要受他人的评判。

这种机制不鼓励诚实。试想人们在职场的说话方式，他们不会直接说：“我不同意这个扩张策略。”或“这看起来太蠢了。”他们会说：“我知道我们有很多理由进军这一新领域，管理团队也做了很多投资回报率分析，但我们还没有充分考虑到这时采取这一举措的不良后果。”

要用简单言语讲真话。去年，马克决定学中文，他每周会花上一个小时左右的时间和公司里的中国员工谈话。一天，其中一位员工想向他告经理的状。她先说了很长的一句话，马克说：“请简单点。”她又说了一遍后，马克任然不懂，最后，她受不了地大声说：“我的经理糟透了。”这一句简洁明了且对马克很重要。人们在工作生活中很少讲话简明。当你做到更高的位置时，人们不但对你说话拐弯抹角，且会过度解读你的话。我刚到Facebook时，要建立公司的商业板块，使体制得以落实。但与此同时想保留这里独有的优秀的企业文化。所以我建议员工开会时不要放PPT。我对他们说：“开会时无需做PPT陈述，将你想谈的问题列成清单。”但他们对此置之不理。两年后，我对他们说：“我讨厌规则，但我必须指出在和我开会时不能用PPT。”

一个月后，我要在一个大型场合上与全球销售团队对话，这时有人对我说：“你不准大家用PPT与客户交流，大家对此很反感。”之后我走上台，对大家说：“首 先，我是说和我开会时无需PPT；其次，如果下次你听到很愚蠢的指令，就无视它，或与之斗争，即便那是马克或我的指令。”

好领导要知道人们不会以挑战权威为乐，所以领导要鼓励他们多提问题。我们都会说欢迎批评指正，但实际做到这点并非易事，因为常常这种批评出现的方式并非合我们的意。

我刚到谷歌时，我的团队只有四人，我要面试每个人，这很重要。我认为员工作为团队一员，我要了解他们。后来团队壮大到100人，我意识到要花更长时间面试每个人。一天在我的报告会上我对大家说：“也许我要终止面试。”我预计他们会打断我说：“不，你的面试是很重要的一环。‖ 但实际上他们热烈鼓掌，并说我的面试一直是一个瓶颈。我无比尴尬，继而愤怒，坐在那生了数小时的闷气。他们为何不早告诉我我是瓶颈？为何让我一直耽误大家的时间？后来我想这要归咎于我。我没有告诉他们我需要反馈，我要改变这一点。

作为领导，尽管你多次提出，你也很难获得诚实有用的反馈。我使用的技巧是我会在开会时公开指出自己的不足，进而会有人赞同我，这比让他们直接指出毛病容易点。比如说，当有事情没解决时我会焦虑；当很多事没解决时我会坐立不安。我确信没人会说我过于镇定。我把这一缺点公开指出，恳请大家发现我这一点时直接告诉我。如果我不这样说，那么公司决不会有人对我说：“雪莉，镇定点，你快把我们逼疯了。”

今天在你们毕业之际，问问自己如何做个优秀领导。你会使用简单明了的语言吗？你会追求诚实吗？当你听到诚实的回答，你会愤怒还是感恩？ 在我们努力在交流中更真诚时，我们也要追求更多层面的真实，我一直深信我们应带着完整的自己来工作。

工作的动力源自做我们喜爱的事，同时也源自与我们关心的人共事。你需要了解他们，才能进而关心他们。要了解员工的好恶，想法与情感。你若想获得真心拥护，就要首先真心去做个好领导。我不相信我们可以把自己分裂，工作日是一个人，休息日又变成另一个人。在当今这个要求真实的时代，这种分裂行不通。我在工作中哭过，媒体曾报道“雪莉趴在马克肩膀上哭泣”，当然这是杜撰。我告诉他人我的希望与恐惧，并想知道他们的希望与恐惧。我努力做真实的自己，无论是缺点和优点都坦然接纳，我也鼓励他人这么做。无论在工作还是生活中都同样如此。

最近我一直在谈女性在职场中面临的挑战，这是我最近几年才有勇气做的事。在此之前，我的职场生涯跟大多数人一样。我也是女人。有时我会将办公室灯继续亮着，自己却回家照顾孩子；参加电话会议时会把办公室门锁上为孩子挤奶，人们会问：“什么声音？”我会说：“什么声音？”“我听到哔哔声”“哦，办公室外有辆消防车。”

过去十年情况一直如此，这促使我有了改变的想法。我于1995年从哈佛商学院毕业。我那时想到我们这一届学生被请回母校做演讲之时即是职场性别平等之日。但近十年职场中职位在C级以上的女性比例一直是15%—16%。我们必须认清在管理层女性领导者的比例仍然太小，性别歧视仍然存在，我们要正视这一问题。

我们需要知道女性们低估了自己的潜能，而且越成功的女人越不令人喜欢。这意味着女性需要不同的管理和指导，另一种形式的支持和鼓励。

没有很多高层女领导来做这件事，所以即将毕业的男生要和女生一起，甚至要比女性付出更多来帮助实现职场中的性别平等。当他们听到某一女性工作表现出色 且不被喜欢时，要问问自己这是为什么。

我们要协调好家庭和事业。数周前的一个采访我说我会在5:30下班与孩子共进晚餐。当时媒体对此广泛报道，对此我很惊异。我的一个朋友告诉我即便我杀了人也不会得到这么大的关注。这就表明家庭事业的平衡对每个人都是难题，不然这件事不会有那么大的关注度。

最重要的是我们要谈谈为什么很少有女性渴望做到管理层，恐怕在哈佛商学院也是如此。我们要让女性拥有向上走的抱负，才能进而谈到解决不平等的问题。我们不单需要女性参与到管理中来，也需要她们走到管理的最顶层。

今天我很兴奋的原因之一是今天是哈佛商学院接受女学生第50年纪念日。商学院院长对女性领导力很感兴趣，这是他邀请我来做演讲的原因。我曾与商学院的首届女学生中的一位有过一面之缘，她告诉我当她们刚来时，学院将男厕改为女厕，但男用小便器仍被保留，因为校方不确定招收女生这一政策是否可行，如果政策行不通那么也不用重新把男用小便器安装上。当然如今那些男用小便器早已不见，我们不会思念它们。

你和你的同学们会分布在世界各地，在此我对你们提出四点希望：首先，要用Facebook 常联系，这对你们未来成功很重要，我们现在已上市，你可以点击一两个广告；第二，讲真话，也要寻求真理；第三，做真实的自己，坦诚待人；最后，完成我们未能完成的使命。为我们创造一个未来，使男人女人在家庭事业上都能平等，我确信你们能创造一个更好的世界。

最后，对2012届哈佛商学院毕业生致以衷心祝贺。给你们自己好好鼓鼓掌吧!

第二篇：雪莉·桑德伯格 哈佛大学2014毕业典礼演讲

雪莉·桑德伯格 哈佛大学2014毕业典礼演讲

Congratulations everyone, you made it.And I don’t mean to the end of college, I mean to class day, because if memory serves, some of your classmates had too many scorpion bowls at the Kong last night and are with us today.Given the weather, the one thing Harvard hasn’t figured out how to control, some of your other classmates are at someplace warm with a hot cocoa, so you have many reasons to feel proud of yourself as you sit here today.Congratulations to your parents.You have spent a lot of money, so your child can say she went to a “small school” near Boston.And thank you to the class of 2014 for inviting me to the part of your celebration.It means a great to me.And looking at the list of past speakers was a little daunting.I can’t be as funny as Amy Poehler, but I’m gonna be funnier than Mother Teresa.25 years ago, a man named Dave I did not know at the time but who would one day become my husband was sitting where you are sitting today.23 years ago, I was sitting where you are sitting today.Dave and I are back this weekend with our amazing son and daughter to celebrate his reunion, and we both share the same sentiment, Harvard has a good basketball team.Standing here in the yard brings memories flooding back for me.I arrived here from Miami in the fall of 1987, with big hopes and even bigger hear.I was assigned to live in one of Harvard’s historic monuments to great architecture, canady.My go-to outfit, and I’m not making this up, was a jean skirt, white leg warmers and sneakers and a Florida sweater, because my parents who were here with me then as they’re here with me now, told me everyone would think it was awesome that I was from Florida.At least we didn’t have Instagram.For me, Harvard was a series of firsts.My first winner coat, we needn’t need those in Miami.My first 10page paper, they didn’t assign those in my high school.My first C, after which my proctor told me that she was on the admissions committee, and I got admitted to Harvard for my personality not my academic potential.The first person I ever met from boarding school.I thought that was our really troubled kids.The first person I ever met who shares the name with a whole building, or so I met when the first classmate I met was Sarah Widdlesworth, who bore no relation at all to the dorm, which would have been nice to know with that very intimidating moment.But then I went on to meet others, Francis Strauss, James wells, Jessica science center B.My first love, my first heartbreak, the first time I realized that I love to learn, and the first and very last time I saw anyone read anything in Latin.When I sat in your seat all those years ago, I knew exactly where I was headed, I had it all planned out, I was going to the world bank to work on global poverty.The I would go to law school.And I would spend my life working in a nonprofit or in a government.At Harvard’s commencement tomorrow as your dean described, each school is gonna stand up and graduate together, the college, the law school, the med school and so on.At my graduation, my class cheered for the PHD students and then booed the business school.Business school seemed like such a sellout.18 months later, I applied to business school.It wasn’t wrong about what I would do decades after graduating.I had it wrong a year and a half later.And even if I could have predicted I would one day work in the private sector, I never could have predicted Facebook, because there was no internet, and Mark Zuckerberg was at elementary school, already wearing his hoody.Not locking into a path too early, give me an opportunity to go into a new and life changing field.And for those of you who think I owe everything to good luck, after Canaday I got Quaded.There is no straight path from your seat today to where you are going.Don’t try to draw that line.You will not just get it wrong.You will miss big opportunities and I mean big ,like the internet.Careers are not ladders.Those days are long gone, but jungle gyms.Don’t just move up and down.Don’t just look up.Look backwards, sideways, around corners.Your career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags.Don’t stress out about the white space, the path you can try, because there in lives both the surprises and the opportunities.As you open yourself up to possibility, the most important thing I can tell you today is to open yourself up to honesty, to telling the truth to each other, to be honesty to yourselves, and to be honest about the world we live in.If you watched children, you will immediately notice how honest they are.My friend besty was pregnant and her son for the second child, son Sam was 5, he wanted to know where the baby was in her body.So yes mommy, are the babies arms in your arms? And she said, no no sam, baby’s in my tummy, whole baby.Mom ,are the baby’s legs in your legs? No, sam, whole baby’s in my tummy.Then mommy, what’s growing in your butt? As adults, we are almost never dishonest and that can be a very good thing, When I was pregnant with our first child, I asked my husband Dave if my butt was getting big.At first, he didn’t answer but I pressed.So he said, yea, a little.For years my sister-in-low said him what people will now say about you for the rest of your life when you do something done, and that guy went to Harvard.Hearing the truth at different times along the way would have helped me.I would not have admitted it easily when I sat where you sit.But when I graduated, I was much more worried about my love life than my career.I thought I only had a few years very limited time to find one of the good guys, before he was to , or before they were all taken, or I get too old.So I moved to DC, and met the guy, and I got married at the nearly decrepit age of 24.I married a wonder a wonderful man, but I had no business making that kind of commitmer.I didn’t know who I was or who I wanted to be.My marriage fell apart within a year, something that was really embarrassing and painful at the time, and it did not help that so many friends came up to me and said:”I never knew that, never thought that was going to work or I knew you weren’t right for each other.No one had managed to say anything like that to me before I marched down an aisle when it would have been far more useful.And as I lived through these painful months of separation and divorce, boy, did I wish the had? And boy, did I wish I had asked them? At the same time in my professional life, someone did speak up.My first boss out of college was Lant Prichett, an economist who teaches at the kennedy School who is here with us today, after I deferred to law school for the second time.Lant sat down and said I don’t think you should go to law school at all, I don’t think you want to go to law school.I think you should because you told your parents you would many years ago.He noted that he had never once heard me talk about the law with any interest.I know how hard it can be to be honest with each other, even your closest friends, even when they’re about to make serious mistakes, but I bet sitting here today, you know your closest friends’ strength, weeknesses, what cliff they might drive off, and I bet for the most part you’ve never told them, and they never asked.Ask them.Ask them for the truth because it will help you.And when the answer honestly, you know that that’s what makes them real friends.Asking for feedback is a really important habit to get into, as you leave the structure of the school calendar and exams and grades behind.On many jobs if you want to know how you’re doing, if you’re going to have to ask and then you’re gonna have to listen without getting defensive.Take it from me, listening to criticism is never fun, but it’s the only way we can improve.A few years ago, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to learn Chinese, and in order to practice he started trying to have work meetings with some of Facebook colleagues who are native speakers.Now you would think his very limited language skills would keep these conversations from being useful.One day he asked a woman who was there, how it was going, how did you choose the facebook.She answered with a long and pretty complicated sentence.So he said simpler please.She spoke again.Simpler please.This went back and forth a couple of times.So she is blurted out in frustration, my manager is bad.That he understood.So often the truth is sacrificed to conflict avoidance, or by the time we speak the truth ,we’ve used so many caveats and preambles that the message totally gets lost.So I ask you to ask each other for the truth and other people: can you list it in simple and clear language? And when you speak your truth, can you use simple and clear language? As hard as it is to be honest with orther people.It can be even more difficult to be honest with ourselves.For years after I had children, I would say pretty often I don’t feel guilty working even when no one asked.Someone might say, sherly, how’s your day today? And I would say, great I don’t feel guilty working.Or do I need a sweater? Yes ,it’s unpredictably freezing and I don’t feel guilty woring.I was kinda like a parrot with issues.Then one day on the treadmill, I was reading this article on Sociology Journal.about how people don’t start out lying to other people, they start out lying to themselves, and the things we repeat most frequently are often those lies.So the sweat was pouring down my face.I started wondering what do I repeat pretty frequently, and I realized I feel guilty working.I then did a lot of research, and I spent an entire year with my dear friend Neil Scovell writing a book talking about how I was thinking and feeling., and I’m so grateful that so many women around the world connected to it.My book of course was called Fify Shades of Grey.I can see a lot of you connected to it as well.We have even more work to do in being honest about the world we live in.We don’t always see the hard truths, and once we see them, we don’t always have the courage to speak out.When my classmates and I were in college, we thought that fight for gender equally was one that was over.Sure, most of the leaders in every industry were men, but we thought changing that was just a matter of time.Lamont library right over there, one generation before us didn’t let women through its doors.But by the time we sat in your seat, everything was equal, Harvard and Radcliffe was fully integrated.We didn’t need feminism because we were already equals.We were wrong.I was wrong.The word was not equal then and it is not equal now.I think nowadays, we don’t just hide ourselves from the hard truth and shut our eyes to the inequities, but we suffer from the tyranny of low expectations.In the last election cycle in the united states, women won 20% of the senate seats, and all the headlines started screaming out: women take over the Senate.I felt like screaming back, wait a minute everyone.50% of the population getting 20% of the seats.That’s not a takeover.That’s an embarrassment.Just a few months ago this year, a very well respected and well-know business executives in Silicon Valley invited me to give a speech to his club on social media.I’ve been to this club a few months before when I have been invited for a friend’s birthday.It was a beautiful building and I was wandering around looking at it, looking for the women's room, when a staff member informed me very firmly that the ladies' room was over there and I should be sure not to go up stairs because women are never allowed in this building.I didn't realize I was in an all-male club until that minute.I spent the rest of the night wondering what I was doing there wondering what everyone else was doing there, wondering if any of my friends in San Francisco would invite me, a party at a club that didn't allow Blacks or Jews or Asians or gays.Being invited to give a business speech at this club, hit me even more egregious because you couldn't claim that it was only social business that was done there.My first thought was, “Really?” Really.A year after Lean In this dude thought it was a good idea to invite me to give a speech to his literal all-boys club.And he wasn't alone, there is an entire committee of well respected businessman who joined him in issuing this kind invitation.To paraphrase Groucho Marx, and don't worry, I won't try to do the voice I don't want to speak in any club that won't have me as a member.So I said no,and I did it in a way I probably wouldn't have even 5 years before.I wrote a long and passionate email, arguing that they should change their policies.They thanked me for my prompt response and wrote that perhaps things will eventually change.Our expectations are too low.Eventually needs to become immediately.We need to see the truth and speak the truth.We tolerate discrimination and we pretend that opportunity is equal.Yes we elected an African-American president, but racism is pervasive still.Yes, there are women who run Fortune 500 companies, 5 percent to be precise, but our road there is still paved with words like pussy and bossy, while our male peers are leaders and results focused.African-American women have to prove that they're not angry.Latinos risk being branded fiery hot head.A group of Asian-American women and men in Facebook wore pins one day that said I may or may not be good enough.Yes, Harvard has a woman president, and in two years, the United States may have a woman president.But in order to get there, Hillary Clinton is gonna have to overcome 2 very real obstacles, unknown and often ununderstood gender bias, and even worse, a degree from Yale.You can challenge stereotypes that's subtle and obvious.At Facebook, we have posters around the wall to inspire us, Done is better than perfect, Fortune favors the bold.What would you do if you weren't afraid? My new favorite nothing at Facebook is someone else's problem.I hope you feel that way about the problems you see in the world., because they are not someone else's problem.Gender inequality harms men along with women.Racism hurts Whites along with Minorities.And the lack of equal opportunity keeps all of us from failing our true potential.So as you graduate today, I want to put some pressure on you, I want to put some pressure on you to acknowledge the hard truths, not shy away from them, and when you see them to address them.The first time I spoke out about what it was like to be a woman in the workforce was less than five years ago.That means that for 18 years from where you sit to where I stand, my silence implied that everything was okay.You can do better than I did.And I mean that so sincerely.At the same time, I want to take some pressure off you, Sitting here today you don't have to know what career you want or how to get the career you might want.Leaning in does not mean your path will be straight or smooth and most people who make great contribution start way later than Mark Zuckerberg.Find a jungle gym you want to play and start climbing, not only will you figure out what you want to do eventually, but once you do, you'll crush it.Looking at you all here today, I'm filled with hope.All of you who were admitted to a “small school” near Boston, either for your academic potential or your personality or both, you've had your first, whether it's a winter coat, a love or a C, you've learned more about who you are and who you want to be.And most importantly, you've experienced the power of community, you know that while you are extraordinary on your own, we are all stronger and can be louder together.I know that you will never forget Harvard, and Harvard will never forget you, especially during the next fundraising drive.Tomorrow, you all become part of a lifelong community, which offers truly great opportunity, and therefore comes with real obligation.You can make the world fair for everyone, expect honesty from yourself and each other, demand and create truly equal opportunity, not eventually, but now.And tomorrow by the way, you get something Mark Zuckerberg does not have, a Harvard degree.Congratulations, everyone!

祝贺所有人，你们做到了。

我指的不是大学毕业，而是成功出席今天的毕业典礼。如果我们记错，某些同学虽然昨晚在香港餐厅喝了太多蝎子碗调酒，但今天还是来了。

由于天气，这种哈佛还没有弄清楚如何控制的现象，还有同学正在温暖的地方喝热可可饮料，所以，你们有很多为今天出席毕业日活动感到自豪的理由。

祝贺你们的家长，你们花了很多钱，让子女能够说自己是从波士顿附近的这所“小学校“毕业的。还要感谢2014届毕业生邀请我来到这次盛典。这对我价值巨大。看到过往演讲者的名单让人有些敬畏。我肯定没有艾米·波乐那么搞笑，但我至少比特雷萨修女更幽默。

25年前，一个我当时还不认识，但以后会成为我丈夫的男人戴夫，坐在你们现在坐的地方。23年前，我坐在你们现在坐的地方。戴夫和我这周末，带着可爱的子女回校。我们都怀有相同的感触：哈佛的篮球队太棒了！

站在校园中，回忆泉涌。19876年秋天，我从迈阿密来到这里，怀揣着伟大的梦想，还有更夸张的发型。我被分配到哈佛伟大建筑的一座历史丰碑，卡纳迪楼，我是说真的，我当时穿着牛仔裙，白色暖腿袜套，运动鞋，还有一件弗罗里达羊毛衫。因为当时我的父母告诉我，所有人都会人为来自弗罗里达的人很酷。至少，我们那时没有Instagram。

对我而言，哈佛给了我很多第一次，包括我的第一件冬装，在迈阿密没人需要冬装。我的第一份10页论文，高中没人会布置这么长的作业，我第一次得C，这之后，我的学监告诉我说，她在招生委员会，她招我进来不是因为我的学术潜能，而是因为我的品性。我在寄宿学校看到的第一个人，我就觉得这个人会是个大麻烦。我还碰到了第一个名字同整座建筑一样的人，这个人的名字叫做萨拉·威格尔斯沃斯，她和那栋宿舍楼没有关系，当时我很震惊，知道她和宿舍楼没有关系后，我松了一口气。之后，我还碰到了其他人，弗朗西斯·斯特劳斯，詹姆斯·威尔斯，杰西卡科学中心B。我第一位爱人，第一位让我心碎的人，我第一次认识到自己热爱学习，第一次也是最后一次遇到有人在读拉丁文。

我毕业那年，我想好了自己以后有什么计划，我要进世界银行，对抗全球贫穷，然后我要去法学院，然后我将在非营利机构或政府工作，你们院长也讲了，在明天的哈佛毕业典礼上，每个学院都要起立并一同毕业，本科部吗、法学院、医学院等等。我毕业时，我们班为博士生欢呼，然后嘘了商学院，商学院似乎很不受欢迎。18个月后，我就申请了商学院。

我对自己毕业后的数十年规划其实并没错，计划只错在了一年后，就算我算到了自己会在私营企业工作，我肯定算不到自己会在脸谱，那时候没有互联网。那时候马克·扎克伯格还在读小学，已经开始穿他的标志性帽衫了。没有太早锁死自己的道路，让我有机会进入改变生活的全新领域。有些人可能认为我运气好，我想说，卡纳迪楼后，我又被安排到了方院。

从你们所坐的地方倒你们要去的地方是没有直路的，不要尝试画这样的直线，这不仅会出错，还会错失大机遇，我说的是大机遇，例如像互联网这样。

职业不是梯子，那种时代一去不返了，职业更像是立体方格铁架，不要只上下移动，不要只往上看，还要往回看，往旁边看，看转角周围。你的职业和生活会有始终，会有曲折，不要对未来的道路太过忧虑，因为生活中充满了惊喜和机遇，你需要对各种可能性持开放态度。今天我要讲的最重要的一点就是，对诚实保持开放的态度。相互之间说老实话，对自己诚实，也对我们所生活的世界诚实。

看看身边的孩子，你就知道他们有多诚实，我朋友贝琪怀孕后，她五岁的儿子山姆想知道宝宝在她身体里的什么地方。他问，妈妈，宝宝的胳膊在你的胳膊里吗？她说，不是，整个宝宝在我的肚子里。他又问，妈妈，宝宝的腿在你的腿里吗？她回答，不山姆，整个宝宝在我的肚子里。然后，山姆问道，那你的屁股里有什么？ 作为成年人，我们几乎一直很诚实，这是很难得的好事。我怀孕的时候，我问我丈夫我的屁股有没有变大，起初他说没有，但我不断施压，最后，他说，好吧，有一点。

我的小姑子一直说我丈夫，也是你们以后在生活中经常会听到有人说到的：“这家伙竟然是哈佛出来的。”

在人生旅途中，如果听到一些真话会对我很有帮助，我在你们这个年龄的时候，还没有领会到这一点。在我毕业的时候，我对爱情生活的关心大于事业，我认为自己没有什么时间了，必须赶紧找个好男人结婚，以免所有好男人都别人被抢走，或者我太老了。于是，我搬到哥伦毕业特区，在我24岁的时候结婚了。那个男人很不错，但我俩似乎总是相处不好，我变得不知道自己是谁，也不知道未来在哪里。一年不到，我的婚姻以失败告终，当时我非常难堪，非常痛苦。很多朋友来安慰我，但毫无帮助，他们说，我就知道你们俩结婚行不通，我就知道你们俩不合适。没有人在我婚姻之前跟我说这些，事前告诉我这些肯定会更有用。

我熬过了离婚后的这些痛苦时光，我多希望他们原来有给过我建议，我多希望我曾经问过他们。而在我的职业生涯中，确实有人毫无保留地说出了实话。本科后，我的第一任老板是兰特·普利切特，肯尼迪学院授课的一位经济学家，他今天也在现场。我第二次考虑法学院时，兰特跟我说，我不认为你应该去法学院，我也不认为你想去法学院。你认为自己应该去，大概只是你父母一直以来的要求。他注意到，我在谈话中从未表现出对法律的任何兴趣。

我知道 相互之间坦诚相见有多么难，哪怕最亲密的朋友，哪怕是在他们可能犯严重错误的时候，不过我敢打赌，在座的各位知道自己亲密朋友的强项和弱项，知道他们可能掉落在哪个悬崖。我也敢打赌，大部分时候，你们并没有告诉他们，他们也从没问过。去问这些问题，真相会越问越明。朋友城市回答时，你就知道他们是你真正的朋友了。

养成寻求反馈的习惯非常重要，特别是在离开学校系统，没了考试和分数之后。很多工作中，如果你想知道自己干得怎么样，你就需要去询问，而且不要因为听到不喜欢听的而觉得受到冒犯。毫无疑问，听人批评绝对不会让人高兴，但我们只能在批评中进步。

几年前，马克·扎克伯格决定要学中文。为了练习，他开始尝试在一些工作会议中，同中文母语同事交流。你们估计可以想到，他那有限的中文水平，会让谈话很难正常进行。一天，他问一位女性，在脸谱工作怎么样。她用了一个很长很复杂的句子回答。他说，请简单些。她又说了一次。再简单些。经过几次后，她只好说了一句很简单的话“我的经理很糟糕。”他听懂了。

通常，真相都成了避免冲突的牺牲品。我们在讲真相时，总喜欢使用很多修饰，很多委婉语，淹没了真正要传达的信息。我希望你们在向他人询问真相的时候，能用简单明了的语言相互交流。讲到自己的真相时，也应使用简单明了的语言。

同他人坦诚相见很困难，坦诚对待自己的想法甚至更难。我有了小孩后，经常会和自己说，我对工作并不感到内疚，哪怕没有人问我的时候。有人跟我说，雪莉，今天过得如何。我会说，很棒，我对工作并不感到内疚。有人说，我需要一件羊毛衫吗？我说，没错，外面很冷，我对工作并不感到内疚。我就像一只学舌的鹦鹉。

有天，我在跑步机上，正在读社会学杂志上的论文。上面写道，相比对他人撒谎，人们更喜欢对自己撒谎，而重复最多的那些话，通常就是谎言。

我脸上汗如雨下，心想，我重复最多的一句话是什么，我意识到了，我对工作感到内疚，我做了大量的研究，我同好友内尔·斯克维尔花了一整年的时间，写了一本书，讲我的想法和感受。世界上很多女性都同它产生了共鸣，这让我很欣慰。我的书名叫做《格雷的五十道阴影》，可见，你们很多人也都读过这本书。

对于我们所生活的世界保持诚实，我们还有很多要做。我们并不总能看到真相，就算看到了，我们经常也没有大声说出的勇气。

我和同学们在读大学时，认为性格平等的斗争已经结束。没错，大部分行业的领袖都是男性，但改变应该只是时间的问题。那边的拉蒙特图书馆，就在我们之前一代人的时间里，不允许女性进入，但在我们毕业那时，一切都平等了。哈佛和拉德克里夫完全统一了。

我们不需要女权主义，因为我们已经得到了平等。我们错了，我错了，世界在那时并不平等，现在也不平等。我认为现如今，我们并不只是假装没看到真相，并对不平等视而不见，我们还在遭受低预期的践踏。

今年，就在几个月前，硅谷一位很受人尊重的知名商业经理人，邀请我到他的社交媒体俱乐部发表演讲。几个月之前，我去过这家俱乐部。一位朋友过生日邀我去的。建筑很漂亮，我在里面游荡。欣赏她，找卫生间。结果一位员工很肯定的告诉我，女卫生间在那里，我务必不要上楼去，因为女性不允许进入这座建筑，我直到这时才意识到自己来到了一家全男性俱乐部。

剩下的整个晚上，我一直都在纳闷，自己来这里做什么，纳闷其他人都在做什么，纳闷旧金山会不会有朋友邀请我去一个不允许黑人，犹太人，亚洲人，或同性恋者的俱乐部派对。被邀请到这家俱乐部做商业演讲，就更让人不爽了，因为这根本就不是单纯的社交活动场所。

我首先想到的是真的吗？真的。《向前一步》出版后一年，这个家伙竟然认为邀请我到一家全男性俱乐部做演讲是一个好主意。他不是一个人，很多备受尊敬的商务人士，都和他一起发出了这份邀请。

我们需要看到真相，讲出真相。我们容忍歧视，假装机会是平等的。没错，我们选举了一位非裔美国人总统。但种族主义仍然无处不在，不错，确实有女性掌握着财富500强企业，准确说是5%。但我们的道路上，充满了母老虎，跋扈老女人这样的恶语。而我们的男性同行却被尊为领袖，被认为成就卓著。

非裔美国女性总需要证明自己没有生气，拉丁裔总被打上暴躁急性子的标签。脸谱有一群亚裔男女，胸口带着牌子说，我有可能不够好。

没错，哈佛有一位女性校长，也许两年后，美国也会迎来首位女总统。但要实现目标，希拉里·克林顿需要克服两大重要障碍，一是未知，通常也未被理解的性别偏见。二是，更糟的，从耶鲁获得的文凭。

你们可以挑战老一套的做法，在脸谱我们会贴海报激励自己，完成重于完美，财富偏爱勇敢者，不要害怕，勇往直前。我最近又喜欢上一条，在脸谱没有别人的问题。我希望你们也能这样看问题，问题没有别人的问题。性别不平等对男性和女性都没有好处，种族主义对白人和少数族裔都是伤害，缺乏平等机会，让我们所有人无法发挥自己的真正潜能。

在你们毕业的今天，我希望给你们一些压力，让你认识到，真相虽然有时难以接受，但很重要。不要逃避，碰到就要勇于面对。我第一次站出来，公开宣扬职场女权主义，仅仅是不到5年前。也就是说，毕业后，我有18年时间都保持着沉默。这种沉默似乎是在说，一切像这样就行了。你们肯定能比我做的更好。我由衷地这样认为。

同时，我也希望给你们减轻一些压力。今天坐在这里的你们，不需要知道自己该如何走上正确的人生道路。“向前一步”并不意味着你的前路将一帆风顺。很多人对世界的重大贡献都远远晚于马克·扎克伯格。找到你想爬的立体方格铁架，并开始攀爬。你最终会找到你想做的事情，并最终获得成功。

看到今天的你们，让我充满了希望。你们所有人都被录取到波士顿附近的这所“小学校”，也许由于学术潜质，也许由于个人品性。你们经历第一次穿冬装，第一次恋爱，或第一次C。你们更加了解自己是谁，以及自己想成为什么。还有最重要的，你们体会到了团结的力量。你们知道，虽然你们每个人都很出色，但团结起来，你们将会更强，并能发出更大的声音。

我知道，你们永远不会忘记哈佛，哈佛也不会忘记你们，特别是在下次募捐的时候。明天，你们都将步入社会，这是一生的旅途，途中会碰到很好的机遇，也会有很重大的责任，你们能够让世界对于每个人更加公平。对自己和他人，你们需要坦诚相待，要求并创造真正平等的机会。不是最终，而是现在。顺便说下，明天你们将获得马克·扎克伯格所没有的东西，一份哈佛学位。祝贺每一位毕业生！

第三篇：桑德伯格TED演讲

桑德伯格TED演讲：为什么女性领导那么少？

Facebook COO 谢乐尔·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）

谢乐尔·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）是全球最大的社交网站Facebook的首席运营官，曾任比尔·克林顿政府的财政部办公室主任，后任Google副总裁，短时间内帮助谷歌实现盈利。2008年3月，桑德伯格加入新兴社交网络Facebook，担任首席运营官。3年后，Facebook的用户数从当初的6000万飙升至如今的7亿，广告收入更是从2008年的3亿美元上涨到2010年的19亿美元，比两年前翻了六倍，而Google的广告收入在这三年增速减缓。她在演讲中为职场女性提供3条建议：像男性一样坐到谈判桌旁，争取自己能够胜任的职位和应得的薪水；与伴侣有效沟通，共同分担家务和养育孩子的责任；在得到自己想要的职位前“不要提前离场”。

正文：我们先承认我们是幸运的。我们没有生活在我们母亲和我们祖母生活过的那个世界，在那时，女性的职业选择是非常有限的。今天在座的各位，大多数人成长于一个女性有基本公民权的世界。令人惊讶地是，我们还生活在一个有些女性还没有这些权利的世界。但除上所述，我们还有一个问题，它是一个实际问题。这问题是：在世界各地，女性没达到任何职业的高管职位。这些数据很清楚地告诉我们这实情。190个国家元首里，九位是女性领导。在世界上议会的总人数中，13%是女性议员。在公司部门，女性占据高位C级职位，董事会席位高管职位比例占15%，16%。自从2002年起这数据没变化过有下降趋势。即使在非营利的行业----我们有时认为这一行业是被更多女性所领导的，女性领导人占20%。

我们还面临着另一个问题，就是女性在职业成功和个人价值实现中所面临的艰难选择。美国最近一个研究表明，已婚高管人员，三分之二的已婚男性高管人员有孩子，只有三分之一的已婚女性高管人员有孩子。几年前，我在纽约，出席一个协议，在那种别致的纽约私募投资办事处中的一个你能想象到的。我在这个大约有3小时的会议上，过了2小时，有个间歇休息，所有人都站起来，这会议组织者开始显得的确很尴尬。我意识到他不知道在他办公室哪里是女洗手间。所以我开始寻找移动厕所，盘算他们刚搬进来，但我没有看到任何移动厕所。然后我说，“你是刚搬到这办公室吗？”他说，“不是，我们在这儿已经有一年了。”我说，“你能否告诉我这一年来，我是唯一一个来这间办公室的女性吗？”他看着我，说到，“是的。或者说你可能是唯一一个要上女性洗手间。”

所以问题是，我们该怎样解决这样的尴尬？我们怎样改变这些高管职位的比例？我们怎样使这个变得不同？我首先想说，我谈这个女性就职因为我的确认为我们得找到答案。在我们劳动力的高收入的部分，在高管的人员中，财富500强首席执行长官中，或在其它类似的高管行业中，我确信，问题是女性被排除在外。当下人们对此谈了很多，他们谈到像弹性时间和指导公司应该培训妇女计划的事。今天我不想谈这些尽管所有这些事都非常重要。今天我想关注作为个人我们所能做到的事。我们要告诉给自己的事是什么？我们告诉给女同事和打工的女性的事是什么？我们要告诉给我们女儿的事是什么？

现在首先，我想澄清这个演讲不带有任何评判。我也没有正确的答案；甚至就我而言，我也没有完全的答案。在周一，我离开我生活的加利福尼亚，我坐上飞机赶赴这会议。当我送我三岁的女儿到幼儿园时，她紧紧抱进我的腿，哭喊着，“妈咪，不要上飞机”之类的话。这很难受。有时我感到内疚。我知道无论是家庭主妇，还是职业女性，有时她们都会感同身受。所以我不会说对所有人来说，呆在职场是件正确的事。今天我的演讲是要讲如果你真正想呆在职场。我想有3条建议。

一、坐在桌旁。

二、让你的伴侣成为一个真正的合作伙伴。

三、在你离开前别放弃。

第一、坐在桌旁。仅仅几周前在脸谱，我们主持一个非常高级行政官员会议，马克·扎克伯格与来自硅谷周围的高级行政官员见面。每个人都坐在桌边。然后携同他的2个女性，在他部门中她们也占非常高的职位。我对她们说，“坐在桌边。来吧，坐在桌边。”因为她们坐在了屋子的一边。我在大四时，我选修一节欧洲思想史的课程。你们喜爱大学的这类课程嘛。我希望我现在能做到。我和我室友卡丽一起学习，她那时是一个才华横溢的文学学生，现在成为了一个杰出的文学家，另外我的弟弟一个聪明的小伙子，但他爱打水球，他上医学预科大二。我们三人一起选修这课。然后卡丽读了所有希腊文和拉丁文的原版书籍--去了所有的课--我读了所有英语的书上了大多数的课。我弟弟有点忙；他读了12本书中的一本去上了几节课，在考试前几天他来到我们房间自己辅导了一下。我们三个一起去考试了，我们坐下来。我们考了有3个小时，我们的小蓝笔记本，是的。我们走出来，对视对方，我们说，“你考得怎样？”卡丽说，“伙计，我感到我真没有答对有关黑格尔辩证法的主要命题。”我说，“上帝啊，我真希望我考试时能想到学习过的洛克的产权理论等哲学家。”我弟弟却说，“我会是班里考得最好的。”“你会是班里考得最好的？你啥都不知道。”

这种故事的问题出在数据所表明的事实：女性被系统化地低估了她们自身的能力。如果你测试男性和女性，你问他们问题，按完全客观的标准平均成绩来算，男性会错误的高估一些，女性则会错误地低估一些。女性在职场不会为自身利益去谈判。在过去两年，关于人们从学校进入职场的一个调查表明57%的男生或男性进入职场，我猜会协商他们的第一份薪水，只有7%的女性会去协商。更重要的是，男性把他们的成功归功于他们自身，而女性则归功于其他外部因素。如果你问男性为什么他们能把工作做好，他们会说，“我棒极了。这是显而易见的。这还用问吗？”如果你问女性是什么使她们在工作中出色，她们会说有人帮助她们，她们很幸运，她们工作异常努力。这个问题很重要吗？大家，这关系很大因为没人得到角落办公室的职位要是只坐在旁边，而不是桌边。没人得到提升如果他们认为他们不应享有这成功，或者他们甚至不明白他们自己的成功。

我但愿这答案是容易的。我希望我尽可能告诉我所共事过的所有年轻女性，所有这些非常棒的女性，“相信你们自己，为自身利益要讨价还价。把握住你的成功。”我希望我也能告诉我的女儿。但这不是很简单。因为首先是数据表明一件事，它表明成功和人缘亲切性对于男性来说是积极影响的而对于女性来说是负面影响的。每个人都点头，因为我们大家都知道这是真的。

一个非常棒的研究也很好地表明了这一观点。哈佛商学院的一个著名研究是有关于一位叫海蒂·罗森的女性。她是硅谷一家公司的负责人，她使用她的关系成为一名非常成功的风险资本家。在2002年，不久前当时在哥伦比亚大学的一位教授做这个例子和把它改成霍华德·罗森。他把这个案例，他们两人向两组学生展示。他只改变了一个词：海蒂到霍华德。但这个词就造成了非常大的差异。然后他调查学生。好消息是学生们，男生和女生认为海蒂和霍华德都是能力相当的，这很好。但坏消息是每个人都喜欢霍华德。他是个了不起的人，大家都想和他共事，大家都想和他去钓鱼。但海蒂呢？不好说。她有点只为自己着想，对政治有点热衷。大家不太想和她共事。这是复杂的。我们得告诉我们的女儿和我们的同事，我们得告诉我们自己相信我们能获得A，得到提升，坐在桌边。我们在这世上得做到这点，在世上，女性要争取这些就得做出牺牲，尽管她们的兄弟不用为此而付出牺牲。

所有关于这的最可悲的事是很难记住这个。我将讲个对我来说是个真正尴尬的故事，但我认为它很重要。在脸谱不久前我给大约100名员工做这个演讲。几小时后，在脸谱工作的一个年轻女性坐到我小桌子旁边，她想和我谈谈。我说，好，她坐了下来，我们谈了起来。她说，“我今天学了一些东西。我知道我需要举起我的手。”我说，“你指什么啊？”她说，“你在讲这个话时，你说你将会回答2个以上问题。我和其他一些人举起手，你回答了2个以上问题。我把手放下来，我注意到所有女性都把手放下来，然后你又回答了很多问题，仅有男性参与。”我自己想了一下，如果换成是我，谁会在乎这个，明显地做这次演讲，在这演讲中，我甚至没注意到男人们的手是不是还一直举着，女人们的手是不是还一直举着，我们到底有多出色，当我们作为公司和组织的经理人的时候，以及当我们作为少数，与男性竞争争取机会的时候？我们得让女性坐到桌子边上。

第二条：让你的伴侣成为一个真正的合作伙伴。我已经确信我们在职场比起我们在家庭中起了更大的作用。数据也很清楚地表明这点。如果一个女性和一个男性同时全职并有一个小孩，女性比起男性要做两倍多家务活儿，女性比起男性做了三倍多照顾婴儿的事。所以她有了2份，3份工作，而他只有一份。当有人必须在家多干活时，谁应该留下来？这个的理由实在太复杂，我没有时间来讲它们。但我也不认为周日看美式足球和日常的懒惰是理由。

我认为理由是更加复杂化的。我认为，作为一个社会，我们总是更希望男孩子们成功，对女孩子则压力小些。我知道有居家男人呆在家里做内务支持职场妻子这很难。当我去“妈咪和我”的培训课时，我看到那里的父亲，我留意到其他妈咪不愿和他相处。这是个问题，因为我们得把内务变成一个重要的工作因为它是世界上最难的工作-居家工作无论男人女人，我们只有平分了这些事，女性才可能留在职场。（掌声）研究表明夫妻收入相等、且夫妻分担责任相当的家庭也有50%的离婚率。如果这数据并不那么鼓舞人，还有更多的在这个讲台我该怎么讲呢？夫妻双方对于彼此的了解，不仅是做爱这么简单。

（欢呼）

建议三：在你离开前别放弃。我认为这是一个非常深刻的讽刺对于女性所采取行动而言--我一直目睹类似情况的发生--女性希望留在职场这个目标，往往导致它们最终不得不离开职场。曾发生这样的事：我们都忙；每个人都很忙；作为一个女人也很忙。她开始考虑生小孩。从她开始考虑生小孩的时候起，她开始考虑为孩子准备房间。“我该如何调整孩子这件事和手头上的其他事呢？”言下之意，她不再举起她的手，她不寻求提升，她不找新的计划，她不会说，“我，我想做那个。”她开始退缩。这是个问题让我们说说她怀孕的那段日子9个月的怀胎，3个月的产假，6个月来调养休息快速调整要2年，更多的，正如我看到的女性开始过早考虑这事当她们有约会或者结婚时，当她们开始考虑要小孩，这会花相当长的一段时间。一位女性关于此事来找我，我看着她，她显得有点年轻。我说，“那么你和你丈夫考虑要小孩了？”她说，“哦不，我还没结婚。”她甚至没有男友。我说，“你考虑这个太早了吧。”

但关键是一旦你开始退缩下来，接下来会发生什么呢？每个人都会经历这个在这儿我告诉你，一旦在家你有了孩子，你真的最好是回到你的工作中去，因为把小孩留在家太难了，你的工作得有挑战性。它也得有回报。你得感觉到世界因你而变。如果2年前你没有得到提升在你旁边的一个男孩得到提升，如果三年前你放弃寻找新的机会，你会变得很乏味因为你应该紧踩油门，加油。在你离开前别放弃。保住工作。紧踩油门，除非到了那一天你需要离开为了孩子休假然后做出你自己的决定。不要提前做太长远决定，特别是你甚至不晓得自己该做怎样的决定。

我这一代的女性非常可惜，没能改变高管职位的数据变化。女人们就是呆在原地。我们没能达到50%的高管职位，在任何行业的高管职位中，女性都未达到50%。但我希望未来一代人可以做到。我认为我们世界上半数国家和半数公司会由女性所领导，那将会是一个更美好的世界。这不仅仅是因为人们会知道女性洗手间在哪儿，尽管这也有非常大的帮助。我认为它

将会是一个更美好的世界。我有2个孩子。我5岁的儿子和3岁的女儿。我想我儿子会选择在职场或在家里都尽心尽责，全心奉献。我女儿的选择不仅仅是成功，她会更热爱她所做出的成就。

第四篇：sheryl sandberg 名人介绍 雪莉 桑德伯格

Good afternoon, everyone.I’m going to introduce Sheryl Sandberg.She is an American business woman who was born in Washington DC, graduated from Harvard.She is chief operating officer at face book, also the first woman to serve on Face book's board.And before face book, she worked for google as vice president.It seems that she’s a typically successful super woman works for amazing company.But the interesting thing is when she first joined google and face book many years ago these two companies were not as good as they are now.In 2001, after leaving government, one of the offers she got was to become the first business unit general manager in google which sound really good today.But at that time, google was young.It had no business unit and no one thought google can ever make money and the job was several levels lower than the jobs she was being offered by other companies.But she chose google, because she thought no matter what the situation it is, the prospect, the mission, the roles are the things that matter, when companies are growing quickly and having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves.About six and an half years later, when she was leaving google.she got bunches offers from many companies.She chose face book to be a coo, at that time people said, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old? Because prospect, missions,and roles are the things that really important.In her speech at Havard graduate ceremony, she told the graduates that they should look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission.No matter what the situation it is now, don’t think too much, don’t plan too much.what we should do is to build our skills, instead of our resume.Evaluate what we can do, not the title they’re going to give us.Do real work.Sheryl Sandberg wrote a book called lean in, she told a interesting story at the very beginning.When she was first pregnant in 2004, she felt really uncomfortable.One morning, after vomiting in the toilet for a long time, she was hurried driving car to meet an important client, the parking space she could find is usually faraway ,so she had to rush through the huge parking lot to the google office building in a pregnant woman speed.She felt so uncomfortable that she prayed she would not vomit again during the conference.Then she realized it’s necessary to set a special parking space for pregnant women.So the second day, she rushed to the founder’s office, and announce loudly that google need special pregnant women parking space as soon as possible.Of course the founder agreed immediately, because it’s a reasonable and humanized request.After solving this problem, she began to think, obviously she is not the first pregnant woman in google, but why she’s the first one to report the situation, why they chose to endure uncomfortableness, the swollen feet, the inconvenience, if there were someone report their what they need,the situation maybe different.It’s a truly reasonable requirement.If we need some change,at least one of us should stand out and say aloud, clearly and honestly.this book is to encourage women to peruse what they want in workforce.

第五篇：雪莉 桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲（模版）

雪莉 桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲

祝贺所有人，你们做到了。我指的不是大学毕业，而你们成功出席今天的毕业典礼。如果我没记错，某些同学虽然昨晚在香港具厅喝了太多蝎子碗调酒，但今天还是来了。由于天气，这种哈 佛还没有弄清如何控制的现象，还胡同学正在温暖的地方喝热可可饮料。所以，你们有很多为今天出席毕业日活动感到自豪的理由。

祝贺你们的家长，你们花了很多钱，让子女能够说自己是从波士顿附近的这所“小学校”毕业的。还要感谢2014届毕业生邀请我来到这次盛典。这对我价值巨大。看到过往演讲者的名单让人有些敬畏，我肯定没有艾米波乐那么搞笑，但我至少比特雷萨修女更幽默。

25年前，一个当时还不认识，但以后成为我丈夫的男人戴夫，从在你们现在从的地方。23年前，我从在你们现在从的地方。戴夫和我这个周末，带着可爱的子女回校，我们都有相同的三角：哈佛的篮球队太棒了！

站在校园中，回忆泉涌。1987年的秋天，我从迈阿密来到这里，怀揣着伟大的梦想，还胡更夸张的发型。我被分配到哈佛伟大建筑的一座历史丰碑~卡纳迪楼，我是说真的，我当时穿着牛仔裙，白色暖裤袜套，运动鞋，还有一件弗罗里达羊毛衫。因为当时我的父母告诉我，所有人都会认为来自弗里达的人很酷。至少，我们那时没有。

对我而言，哈佛给了我很多第一次，包括我的第一件冬装，在迈阿密没有人需要冬装。我的第一份10页的论文，高中没有人会布置这么长的作业。我第一次得C，这之后，我的学监告诉我说，她在招生委员会，她招我进来不是因为我的学术潜能，而是因为我的品性。我在寄宿学校看到的第一个人，我就觉得这个人会是个大麻烦。我还碰到了第一个名字同整座建筑一样的人，这个人名字叫做萨拉威格尔斯沃斯，她和那栋宿舍楼没有关系，当时我很震惊，知道她和宿舍楼没有关系后，我松了一口气。之后，我还碰到了其他人，弗朗西斯斯特劳斯，詹姆斯威尔斯，杰西卡科学中心B。我第一们爱，第一们让我心碎的人。我第一次认识到自己热爱学习，第一次也是最后一次遇到有在读拉丁文。

我毕业那年，我想好自己以后有什么计划，我要进世界银行，对抗全球贫穷，然后我要去法学院，然后我将非营利机构或政府工作，你们院长也讲了，在明天的哈佛毕业典礼上，每个学院都 要起立并一同毕业，本科部、法学院、医学院等等。我毕业时，我们班为博士生欢呼，然后嘘了商学院，商学院似乎很不受欢迎。但，18个月后，我就申请了商学院。

我对自己毕业后的数十年规划其实并没错，计划只错在了一年后，就算我算到了自己会在私营企业工作，我肯定算不到自己会在脸谱，那时候没有互联网。那时候马克扎克伯格还在读小学，已经开始穿他的标志性帽衫了。没有太早锁死自己的道路，让我有机会进入改变生活的全新领域。有些人可能认为我运气好，我想说，卡纳迪楼后，我又被安排到了设计院。

从你们所坐的地方到你们要去的地方是没有直路的，不要尝试画这样的直线，这不仅会出错，还会错失的大的机遇，例如像互联网这样。

职业不是梯子，那种时代一去不返了，职业更像是立体方格铁架，不要只上下移动，不要只往上看，还要往回，往旁边看，看转角周围。你的职业和生活会有始终，会有曲折，不要对未来的道路太过忧虑，因为生活中充满了惊喜和机遇，你需要对各处可能性持开放态度。今天我要讲的最重要的一点就是，对诚实保持开放的态度。相互之间说老实话，对自己诚实，也对我们所生活的世界诚实。

看看身边的孩子，你就知道他们有多诚实，我朋友贝琪怀孕后，她五岁的儿子山姆想知道宝宝在她身体里的什么地方。李问，妈妈，宝宝的胳膊在你的胳膊里吗？她说，不是，整个宝宝在我的肚子里。他又问，妈妈，宝宝的腿在你的腿里吗？她回答，不山姆，整个宝宝都在我肚子里。然后，山姆问道，那的屁股里有什么？

作为成年人，我们几乎一直很诚实，这是很难得的好事。我怀孕的时候，我问我丈夫我的屁股有没有变大，起初他说没有，但我不断施压，最后，他说，好吧，有一点。我的小姑子一直说我丈夫，也是你们以后在生活中经常会听到有说到的：“这家伙竟然是哈佛出来的。”

在人一旅途中，如果听到一些真话会对我们很有帮助，我在你们这个年龄的时候，还没有俯到这一点。在我毕业的时候，我对爱情生活的关心大于事业，我认识自己没有什么时间了，必须赶紧找个好男人结婚，以免所有好男人都被别人抢走，或者我太老了。于是，我搬到哥伦比亚特区，在我24岁的时候结婚了。那个男人很不错，但我俩似乎总相处不好，我变得不知道自己是住，也不知道未来在哪里。一年不到，我的婚姻以失败告终，当时我非常难堪，非常痛苦。很多朋友来安慰我，但毫无帮助，他们说：我就知道你们俩结婚是行不通的，我就知道你们俩不合适。没有人在婚姻之前跟我说这些，事前告诉我这些肯定是会更有用。

我熬过了离婚后的这些痛苦的时光，我多希望他们原来有给过我建议，我多希望我曾经问过他们。而在我的职业生涯中，确实有人这无保留的地说出了实施。本科后，我和第一任老板是兰特普得切特，肯尼迪学院授刘的一位经济学家，他今天也在现场。我第二次考虑法学院时，兰特跟我说，我不认为你应该去法学院，我也不认为你想去法学院。你认为自己应该去，大概只是你父母一直以来的要求。他注意到，我在谈话中从未表现出对法律的任何兴趣。我知道，相互之间坦诚相见有多么难，哪怕最亲密的朋友，哪怕是在他们可能犯严重错误的时候，不过我敢打赌，在座的各位知道自己亲密朋友的强项和弱项，知道他们可能掉落在哪个悬崖。我也敢打赌，大部分时候，你们并没有告诉他们，他们也从没问过。

去问这些问题，真相会越问越明。朋友诚实地回答时，你就知道他们是你真正的朋友了。

养成寻求反馈的习惯非常重要，特别是在离开学校系统，没了考试和分数之后。很多工作中，如果你想知道自己干得怎么样，你就需要去询问，而且不要因为听到不喜欢听的而觉得受到冒犯。毫

无疑问，听人批评绝对不会让人高兴，但我们只能在批评中进步。几年前，马无扎克伯格决定要学中文。为了练习，他开始尝试在一些工作会议中，同中文母语同事交流。你们估计可以想到，他有有限的中文水平，会让谈话很难正常进行。一天，他问一位女性，有脸谱工作怎么样。她用了一个很长很复杂的句子回答。他说，请简单些。她又说了一次。请再简单些！经过几次之后，她只好说了一句很简单的话~我的经理很糟糕！扎克伯格这次真的听懂了。

通常，真相都成了避免冲突的牺牲品。我们在讲真相时，总喜欢使用很多修饰，很多委婉语，淹没了真正要传达的信息。我希望你们在向他询问真相的时候，能用简单明了的语言相互交流。讲到自己的真相时，也应该使用简单明了的语言。

同他人坦诚相见很困难，坦诚对待自己的想法甚至更难。我有了小孩子后，经常会和自己说，我对工作不感到内疚，哪怕没有人问的时候。有人跟我说，雪莉，今天过得如何。我会说，很棒，我对工作并不感到内疚。有人说，我需要一件羊毛衫吗？我说，没错，外面很冷，我对荼工不感到内疚。我就像一只学舌的鹦鹉。

有天，我在跑步机上，正在读社会学杂志上的论文。上面写道，相比对他人撒谎，人们更喜欢对自己撒谎，而重复最多的那句话，通常就是谎言。

我脸上汗如雨下，心想，我重复最多的一句话是什么，我意识到了，我对工作感到内疚。我做了大量的研究，我同好友内尔斯克维尔花了一整年的时间，写了一本书，讲我的想法和感受。世界上很多女性都同它产生了共鸣，这让我很欣慰。我的书名叫做《格雷的五十道阴影》，可见，你们很多人也都读过这本书。

对于我们所生活的世界保持诚实，我们还有很多要做。我们并不总能看到真相，就算盾到了，我们经常也没有大声说出的勇气。

我和同学们在读大学时，认为性格平等的斗争已经结束。没错，大部分待业的领袖都是男性，但改变应该只是时间的问题。那边的拉蒙特图书馆，就在我们之前一代人的时间，不允许女性进入，但在我们毕业时，一切都平等了。哈佛和拉德克里夫完全统一了。

我们不需要妇权主义，因为我们已经得到了平等。我们错了，我错了，世界在那时并不平等，现在也不平等。我认为现如今，我们并不只是假装没看到真相，并对不平等视而不见，我们还在遭受低预期的践踏。

在美国的上一个选举周期，女性赢得了20%的参议院席位。所有报纸头条都开始叫嚷，女性接管了参议院。我很想大声回应说，等等，大伙，50%的人只占有了20%的席位，这不是接管，这是羞辱。

今年，就在几个月前，硅谷一位很受人新生的知名商业经理人，邀请我到他的社交媒体俱乐部发表演讲。几个月之前，我去过这家俱乐部。一位朋友过生日邀我去的。建筑很漂亮，我在里面游荡。欣赏她，找卫生间。结果一位员工很肯定的告诉我，女卫生间在那里，让我务必不要上楼去，因为女性不允许进入这座建筑，我直到这时才意识到自己来到了一家全男性俱乐部。

剩下的整个晚上，我一直都纳闷，自己来这里做什么，纳闷其他人都在做什么，纳闷旧金山会不会有朋友邀请我去一个不允许黑人、犹太人、亚洲人、或同性恋者的俱乐部派对。被邀请到这家俱乐部做商业演讲，就更让人不爽了，因为这根本就不是单纯的社交活动场所。

我首先想到的是，这是真的吗？真的。《向前一步》出版后一年，这个家伙竟然认为邀请我到一家全男怀俱乐部做演讲是一个好主意。他不是一个，很多备受尊敬的商务人士，都和他一起发出这份邀请。

转述格鲁马克思的一句话，别担心，我不打算模仿他的声音。我不会去任何不愿加我为会员的俱乐部做演讲。我拒绝了。我还做一件，也许5年前我不会做的事，我回了一长篇饱含激情的电子邮件，告诉他们应当改变这一做法。他们感谢了我的迅速回函，写到？也许情况最终会有所改变。我们的期望值太代了，最终需要转化为立刻才行。

我们需要看到真相，讲出真相。我们容忍歧视，假装机会是平等的。没错，我们选举了一位非裔美国人总统。但各族主义仍然无处不在，不错，确实有女性掌握着财富500强企业，准确的说是5%。但我们的道路上，充满了母老虎、跋扈老女人这样的恶语。而我们的男性同行却被尊为俯视，被认为成就卓著。

非裔美国女性总需要证明自己没有生气，拉丁裔总被打上暴躁急性子的标签。脸谱有一群亚裔男女，胸口带着牌子说，我有可能不够好。

没错，哈佛有一位女性校长，也许两年后，美国也会迎来首位女总统。但要实现目标，希拉里克林顿需要克服两 大重要障碍，一是未知，通常也未疲理解的性别偏见；二是，更糟的，从耶鲁获得的文凭而不是哈佛。

你们可以挑战老一套的做法，在脸谱我们会贴海报激励自己，完成重于完美，财富偏爱勇敢者，不要害怕，勇往直前。我最近又喜欢上一条，在脸谱没有别人的问题。我希望你们也能这样看问题，问题没有别人 的问题。性别不平等对男性和女性都 没有好处，各族主义对白人和少数族裔都是伤害，缺乏平等机会，让我们所有人无法发挥自己的真正潜能。

在你们毕业的今天，我希望给你们一些压力，让你认识到，真相虽然有时难以接受，但很重要。不要逃避，碰到了就要勇于面对。

我第一次站出来，公开宣扬职场女权主义，仅仅是不到5年前。也就是说，毕业后，我有18年时间都保持着沉默。这种沉默似乎是在说，一切像这样就行了。你们肯定能比我做的更好。我由衷的这样认为。同时，我也希望给你们减一些压力。今天坐在这里的你们，不需要知道自己应该如何走上正确的人生道路。向前一步，并不意味着你的前路将一帆风顺。很多人对世界的重大贡献都远远晚于马克扎克伯格。找到你想爬的立体方格铁架，并开始攀爬。你最终会找到你想做的事情，并最终获得成功。

看到今天的你们，让我充满了希望。你们所有人都被录取到波士顿附近这所小学校，也许由于学术潜质，也许由于个人品性。你们经历第一次穿冬装，第一次恋爱，或第一次C。你们更加了解自己是谁，以及自己想为什么。还有最重要的，你们体会到团结的力量。你们知道，虽然你们每个人都很出色，但团结起来，你们将会更强，并能发出更大的声音。

我知道，你们永远不会忘记哈佛，哈佛也不会忘记你们，特别是在下次募捐的时候。

明天，你们都将步入社会，这是一生的旅途，途中会碰到很好的机遇，也会有很重大的责任，你们能够让世界对于每个人更加公平。对自己和他人，你们需要坦诚相待，要求并创造真正平等的机会。不是最终，而是现在！顺便说一下，明天你将获得马克扎克伯格所没有的东西，一份哈佛学位。

祝贺每一位毕业生！