第一篇:效率极低人群的七个习惯
效率极低人群之七大习惯(牛津大学通过对1050名在校大学生最新调查研究结果,后附英文原版,超值分享)来源: 谈俊✖TJ的日志
与通常所列举的应该培养的有益习惯不同,本文在此举出的是我们最好避免的7种习惯。
就像寻找对你有益的习惯一样,寻找妨碍你的习惯同样重要。这7种习惯中大多数都可能会轻易成为你日常生活的一部分,使你难以察觉它的存在(或者它如何影响到你)。我曾经略微尝试了这些习惯,结果毫无疑问,那些重要的事情没有几个可以完成。同时我也要添加说明的是,这只是在生活中你可能形成的影响效率的主要的7个习惯,我很确定
绝不仅仅是这些。
1、缺席。
也许你曾经听过伍迪·艾伦所说的这句话:
“百分之八十的成功来自于出席。”
更多的出席——这是在生活中你可以保证更多成功所做的最大也是最简单的事情之一,无论是在你的社交生活中,你的事业上还是你的健康方面。如果你想要改善你的健康状况,一个最重要也是最有效的事情就是在每次你该出席时出现在健身房里。
也许天气会不好,也许你会不想出门,也许你有一大堆其他必须要做的事情。但是,如果即使你在积极性不高时仍然继续出现在健身房里,那将比你呆在家里的沙发上放松要有效的多。
我想这个也可以推及到生活的其他领域。如果你每天都坚持写作或绘画,你就会快速的得到提高。如果你更多的出门你就可以遇到更多的新朋友。如果你参加更多的约会,你遇到心上人的机会就会大大提高。仅仅只是更多出席就会使你的生活大大不同。而缺席却会使你毫无收获。
2、拖拖拉拉。
为了简化,我将最喜欢的3种摆脱拖拉情况的方法列举如下:
-吞食青蛙。也就是说在一天的最开始就完成那些最艰难最重要的工作。早上良好的开始会让你一天都保持高昂的情绪和积极的动力。这通常会使你这一天都十分高效。
-你如何吃掉一头大象呢?不要打算一口吃成胖子,这会使你感到过多负担以至于产生拖延的念头。把一项工作分为若干可付诸于行动的小步骤,然后仅仅关注第一步直到把它完成,接下来再继续下一步。
-说服自己。我发现这种向导型调整十分有效。就在我花了20分钟躺在床上反复默念在这几天里我都十分高效之后,我就不再会陷入拖拉的情况或者浏览1至5个我喜爱的网站寻找更新信息的必要。
3、做一些无关紧要的事情。
除了拖拖拉拉以外,你最容易陷入的不良习惯之一就是忙于一些无关紧要的事情之中。
为了提高效率你也许需要某种时间管理方法。它可能会是一件极为简单的事情,比如在一天的开始使用80/20法则。80/20法则,也就是我们通常所熟悉的帕累托法则认为,80%的收获源自20%的努力。所以为求高效你应该将你精力的大部分集中在那些极少数重要的事情上。
当使用这个法则时你只需按优先顺序写下这一天你需要做的3件最重要的事情,然后从头做起。即使你只能完成其中的一件事,你仍然完成了今天最重要的事情。也许你也会偏爱其他诸如GTD等方法。但是无论你如何组织工作,最关键的还是寻找那些最重要的工作,这样你就不必花费几天,几个星期甚至几个月的时间去忙于那些并不是很重要的事情。如果这些事情无关紧要,那么即使你快速的完成它们也是没有多大用处的。
4、多虑。
因为多虑而很少采取行动。陷于无穷的分析之中只会使你虚度光阴。行动之前加以思考是没有错的。做一些调查研究,制定一个计划,探究可能存在的积极以及不利因素。
但是强制性的反复思考就会成为另外一种浪费时间的做法了。在尝试之前你没有必要去从每一个角度检查每一件事情。而且你也不可以等到一个最完美的时间再去做事,因为这样的时间从来不会出现。如果你继续这样思考就只会使自己陷的越来越深,从而使采取行动变得越来越难。相反,虽然思考在一定程度上对你有所帮助,但你现在需要做的就只是停止思考,然后去做那些你应该做的事情。
5、凡事过于消极。
当你凡事都从消极方面考虑时,你的积极性就会被大大打击。你会发现到处都是问题和错误,而这些问题是本不存在的。你抓住细节不放。如果你想要寻找一个不做某事的理由,这当然没有问题。而当你从一个消极角度看问题时,每次你都可能找出十个借口。
因此你几乎一事无成。你向任何愿意倾听的人诉苦(也许很多人并不想听),抱怨你的工作,生活和领导有多么的差劲。你的生活取决于你如何看待这个世界,这已经成为一个能够自我实现的预测。
对此的一个解决方法就是了解消极方面的限度,认识到你的消极思考并不是这个世界的真实写照。然后不妨尝试一些其他的角度。举例来说,你可以尝试着培养一下凡事从更为积极和乐观的角度思考的习惯,这会对你大有帮助。通过这种方式,你也许就会开始尝试这种积极性的挑战。这并不容易,然而如果你接受了这种挑战,连续7天都只从积极方面思考,你就会突然意识到你看问题的角度和想法是如此深刻地影响着你对世界的理解和你所得到的成果。
6、固执己见,与世隔绝。
人们很难去承认自己的想法不是最佳选择,因此你越来越执着于自己的想法,变得闭目塞听。这会让你很难取得进步,比如说效率就会很难提高。在这种情况下,即使认真思考改变人生的可能性都会变得很难。
显然,解决方法之一就是打开心胸。开阔视野,从他人和自己的错误中汲取教训,从书籍等资源中获取知识。与任何事一样,这事说起来容易做起来难。正如前面所说,对此我的建议就是认识到你的知识领域毕竟是有限的,而你做事的方式也会存在不足。那么不妨就尝试一下新事物吧。
而我的另一条建议就是,阅读一下埃克哈特·托利的《新天地》,特别是有关Ego的章节。正如托利所建议的,如果你不再像Ego那样思考,你就会更加容易接受新思想,抛弃那些已经无用的旧思想。另外我想要补充说明的就是:不要迷信书本,也不要盲目追求新的信息,否则你就会成为一个沉迷于自我帮助的人。在行动中运用那些新信息和你学到的事情,然后加以尝试。
7、持续信息过剩。
信息过剩并不是说你过多的阅读,我所指的是所有输入信息的过剩。如果你让所有的信息都涌进大脑,这当然会导致难于清晰思考,因为刺激源太多了。以下就是这种习惯可能会存在的弊端:
-你所接受的一些信息也许会是消极的。媒体和周围环境会因种种原因提供一种消极的信息。如果你没有根据需要对信息加以选择,也许你就会陷入消极之中,从而影响到你的所思,所感,所为。
-这会使你急于追赶当今发生的事情,然而每时每刻都有十几件事同时发生,想要追赶上它们几乎是不可能的事情。你的生活会因此充满压力。
-如果你持续被信息轰炸,并且还试图将所有信息分类,那么你将很难做出决定并采取行动。就我个人而言,如果我得到过多的信息,就会造成某种形式上的瘫痪,一事无成。或者你会被这种习惯所困,终日急于忙碌在一些非重要的事情上。
为了可以集中精力,清晰思考并付诸行动,你就需要在吸取信息时更有选择性。当你工作时尽可能的避免那些分散注意力的事物。关掉电话,断开网络,关上大门。你就会不可思议的发现,当你没有每隔五分钟就被打扰一次,没有机会因浏览RSS-feeds或喜爱的网站而拖延时,居然可以完成这么多的事情。
现在并不是说我建议你们停止阅读所有的博客或报纸。但是一定要清楚哪些是你真正想要阅读的,哪些只是用来打发时间的。同时你也可以查看其他开阔性信息的领域。
比如说,你没有必要陷入所有来自周围环境的消极情绪。如果周围的所有人都在拖延或者焦急的忙于各种非重要的事情时,你会很容易被这种情绪所影响。如果你有一扇心灵之门,关上它而去关注更为重要的事情,这会是个不错的主意。Habits of Highly Ineffective People
By Henrik Edberg
With a twist to the common list of habits that are useful to establish, here are 7 habits that you do best to avoid.Just like finding habits that can be useful for you it’s important to find habits that are holding you back.Most of these 7 habits can easily become such a normal, everyday part of life that you hardly notice it(or how it’s affecting you).I’ve dabbled with all of them quite a bit.Not surprisingly I didn’t get much of the important stuff done.I´d also like to add that these are just 7 broad habits you can establish to become highly ineffective in most parts of your life.I pretty sure there are several more.1.Not showing up.Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Woody Allen: “Eighty percent of success is showing up”
One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your health – is simply to show up more.If you want to improve your health then one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up at the gym every time you should be there.The weather might be bad, you might not feel like going and you find yourself having all these other things you just must do.If you still go, if you show up at the gym when motivation is low you will improve a whole lot faster than if you just stayed at home relaxing on the sofa.I think this applies to most areas of life.If you write or paint more, each day perhaps, you will improve quickly.If you get out more you can meet more new friends.If you go on more dates you chances of meeting someone special increases.Just showing up more can really make a big difference.Not showing up will not get you anywhere.2.Procrastinating half the day.To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:
-Swallow that frog.What´s this means is simply to do the hardest and most important task of the day first thing in the morning.A good start in the morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of the day.That often creates a pretty productive day.-How do you eat an elephant? Don´t try to take it all in one big bite.It becomes overwhelming which leads to procrastination.Split a task into small actionable steps.Then just focus on the first step and nothing else.Just do that one until it’s done.Then move on to the next step.-The Get around to It Paraliminal.I find this guided mediation to be very useful.After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on my bed and listening I’m far more productive for a few days.I don´t feel the urge to sink into that procrastinating state or the need to find out what’s new over at one or five of my favourite websites.3.When actually doing something, doing something that isn’t the most important thing right now.One of the easiest habits to get stuck in, besides procrastinating, is to keep yourself busy with unimportant tasks.To be effective you probably need some kind of time management-system.It might be something really simple, like using the 80/20-rule at the beginning of each day.The 80/20 rule, or the Pareto Principle as it´s also known, says that you´ll get 80 percent of your results from only 20 percent of your tasks and activities.So you need to focus most of your energy on those few important tasks to be effective.When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most important things you need to do that day.Then, from the top, start doing them.Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the most important thing you could do today.You may perhaps prefer some other system, such as GTD.But however you organise your work it’s still of highest priority to find the most important tasks so you don’t spend days, weeks or months doing busywork that isn’t that essential anyway.Just getting things done faster isn’t that useful if the things you get done are unimportant to you.4.Thinking too much.And thereby seldom taking action.Paralysis by analysis can waste years of your life.There is nothing wrong with thinking before you do something.Do some research, make a plan, explore potential upsides and problems.But compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to waste your time.You don’t have to examine everything from every angle before you try it.And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something.That time never comes.And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult.Instead you just need to stop thinking.Shut of your mind – it just helps you up to a point – and go do whatever you need to do.5.Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole in your own motivation.You find faults everywhere and problems where there are really none.You cling to details.If you want to find a reason to not do something then that’s no problem.From a negative viewpoint you can find ten reasons every time.And so very little gets done, you whine to anyone who wants to hear – and many who don’t – about how crappy your job, life and boss is.Which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy as you create the life that is appropriate considering how think and see your world.A solution is to realise the limits of a negative perspective.And that your perspective isn’t some kind of 100% true picture of the world.Then try other perspectives.For instance, trying to establish a habit of seeing things in a more positive and optimistic light can be quite useful.In that vein, you may want to try the Positivity Challenge.It´s not easy, but if you do the challenge and try to only think positive thoughts for 7 days it can give you an insight in how much your perspective and beliefs changes how you interpret your world.And what results you get.6.Clinging to your own thoughts and being closed to outside influences.It can be hard to admit that what you thought or believed was not the best alternative.So you cling to your thoughts harder and harder and keep your mind closed.This makes it hard to improve and for instance to become more effective.Even really considering the possibility that you can change your life can be difficult in this position.One solution, obviously, is to open up more.To open up and learn from the mistakes of others, from your own mistakes and from other sources like books.This is easy to say though.It can, as almost anything, be harder to do.One suggestion I have is to, like I said about the previous habit, realise the limits of what you know and the way you going about things.And then just try something new.Another tip is to read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and especially look at the chapters about the Ego.If you stop identifying so much with your thoughts and your Ego, as Tolle prescribes, it becomes a whole a lot easier to let new ideas and thoughts come into your life.And to let go of old thoughts that aren’t useful to you anymore.On the other hand I’d like to add and counter-balance with these tips: don’t get stuck in reading, in just taking in new information either or you might become a self-help junkie.Use the new information, put what you have learned in to action and try it out.7.Constantly on information overload.With information overload I don’t just mean that you read a lot.I pretty much mean an overload in all input.If you just let all information flow into your mind it will be hard to think clearly.It’s just too much stimulation.A few more potential downsides to this habit are:
-Some of the input you receive will be negative.The media and your surroundings often put a negative spin on things for various reasons.If you aren´t selective in what input you want in your life then you’ll be dragged into this negativity too.This affects how you think, feel and act.-It creates an urge to keep up with what’s happening but there are always ten more things happening so you can’t keep up.This makes life stressful.-It becomes hard to make decisions and take action if your mind is constantly bombarded with information or trying to sort through it all.Personally I find that if I get too much information it leads to a sort of paralysis.Not much get´s done.Or you get stuck in habit #3 and keep busy, busy, busy at high speed with low priority activities.To be able to focus, think more clearly and take action it´s useful to be more selective in what you let into your mind.When you work shut out as much distractions as possible.Shut off the phone, internet and shut the door.It is strange how much you can get done when you aren´t interrupted every fifth minute or have the opportunity to procrastinate by checking your RSS-feeds or favourite websites.Now I´m not suggesting that you should stop reading all blogs or newspapers.But think about what you really want to read and what you read just read to fill your time.And have a look at other areas of input where the doors are wide-open.For instance, you don´t have to let in all the negative emotions from your surroundings.If everyone else are procrastinating or are anxiously keeping themselves busy by doing low-priority tasks at warp speed it´s easy to be influenced by that mood.If you have a door, then it might be good idea to shut it and focus on doing more important things.
第二篇:七个习惯
读《高效能人士的七个习惯》有感
这段时间一直在看《高效能人士的七个习惯》。看过之后,感慨颇深,特和大家一起分享一 下。
“
谁也无法说服他人改变,我们每个人都守着一扇只能从内开起的改变之门,不论动之以情或说
之以理,我们都不能替别人开门
”。
我觉得这句话说得很有道理。
很多东西都只是一些外界条件,也就是我们常讲的客观因素。
本书就七个习惯进行一一地阐述,并举了一些具体的事例进行分析。
他们就像一位经验丰富的导师或是长者,为我们指点迷津,分析事情的来龙去脉。
他们只起到旁
敲侧击的作用,而真正起到作用的,还是我们自己,即主观因素。
只有我们自己从内心真正接受
了,从思想上改变了。我们才会开启内心的那一扇门。就像我看过这本书后,我觉得很多话能让
我产生共鸣,似乎有种似曾相识的感觉。那时,我就会停下来反省自己。
我想这也算得上是从内
心开启的一些改变和收获吧。
“
要改变现状,就得改变自己;
要改变自己,先得改变我们看待外界的观点。
”
作者在书中讲到:
他的儿子在学校,成绩惨不忍睹,交往不成熟,运动场上不灵活。他和妻子都想帮儿子。他们把
自己的行动借助
“
帮助、关心
”的名义,强加到儿子的身上,可收到的效果是有限的。究其原因,是因为他们在内心深处,的确觉得
“
儿子不如人
”
。有了这么一种意识,他们再怎么表现,也会显
得言不由衷。因为他们没有改变看待外界的观点。对于这一点,我想讲一下我的父亲。
他是一个
朴实的农民,但他很少说我们比别人差或者说我们不行,他会列出我们的优点,然后说: “
这些
事情你都做得很好,相信那些对于你来说是暂时的困难,一定能够解决,也一定会做得更好!”
我不敢说我的父亲有多么成功,可是,他让我们充满自信,并且用自己的实际行动去证明自己的能力。在这一点上,我想说他是成功的。
还记得两年前的冬天,看湖南卫视的冰灾赈灾义演活动,感动得我热泪盈眶。看到自己的家乡
此刻遭受冰灾侵袭后的现状,我的心真的好痛。
还有那些为了他人而牺牲自己的平民英雄们,更
是让大家几度泪湿眼眶。
看到这么多热心人士为我的家乡捐赠巨额款项时,我心里的那个想法特
别强烈:
“
要改变现状,就得改变自己,要想帮助自己的家乡,就得先让自己变得更强!
”
在七个习惯的阐述中,养成积极主动的习惯真的很重要,“
被动就要挨打
”——
这句话想必大家
都耳熟能详。结合目前的形式和社会现状来讲,养成这样的习惯,更为重要。现实是残酷的,很
多机会,你若不主动,就有可能失之交臂。在一个新的环境里,你若是不主动和他人打招呼,不
主动虚心地向前辈请教。很多时候,你都会吃个闭门羹,甚至会有一种被孤立的感觉。
保持高傲的态度,是永远也融合不进去的。它只能是你生活中、事业上的一个绊脚石,阻碍着你的发展。
积极主动的人是不会受天气影响自己的心情的。
积极主动的人,心中自有一番天地。
我很欣赏这
么一段话:
“
也许我们不能移动大山,但是我们可以运作自我;也许我们不能左右天气,但是我 们可以把握心情;也许我们不能选择容颜,但是我们可以展露笑容;也许我们不能号令他人,但
是我们可以指挥自己;
也许我们不能预知将来,但是我们可以利用现在;
也许我们不能样样如意,但可以事事尽心。
”
养成积极主动的习惯,会让我们收获很多,无论是对学习还是工作,亦或是
做人、做事。
《高效能人士的七个习惯》确实是一本值得一读的好书,在读完这本书前三个习惯后,我最大的收获是认识到要提高自己分析和解决问题的能力。
如何思考,如何行动,如何受用,在生活当
中要不断地自我完善。更为重要的是认识了自己的不足。对自己生活、学习、工作、关系都有很
大的提高。
一个高效能人士,积极主动是必须的。仅仅靠
“
动力
”
是远远不够的。在人的一生中,做任何事
情最主要的是认清方向,不要盲目的投机取巧。
在生活当中我们会遇到许多不顺心的事,为什么
总是一再的抱怨。
可是成功人士为什么从不怨天尤人了,因为他们能够以一种积极、乐观态度看
待所发生的不幸。以终为始说明在做任何事之前,都要先认清方向。有效地掌握重点,把最重要的事放在第一位。行动之前要思考,凡是要有计划,知道哪个最自己重要,哪个是次要,以最有
章法的节奏完成它。
可以把一天的工作用文档的方式计划出来,当一天工作完后,可以检查当天的工作是否做完整,是否做到很好,如有不足的地方,进行更进一步的修改。时间的安排,事务的处理,是很重要的。
俗话说思想决定行动,行动决定习惯,习惯决定品德,品德决定命运。习惯是养成的,命运是
掌握在自己手上的。
一个人无法改变自己的思想,就永远无法改变现实,也永远不可能取得进步。
在完全读完这本书后,我自己最大的收获是深刻地认识到要提高自己分析和解决问题的能力,必须从改变自己内心深处的价值观、对事物的认知方法以及对竞争环境的理解入手,也就是提高
自身的素质,同时辅助一些必要和实用的有效方法。
“
积极主动
”的态度,“
以终为始
”的愿景,“
要
事
114”的把握,“
双赢思维
”的互赖,“
知彼解己
”的沟通,“
统合综效
”的合作,“
不断更新
”的创造,会使每一个人走向世成功的彼岸。
《高效能人士的七个习惯》中的七个习惯是一个整体,它们相辅相成,既讲到了个人要全力以
赴确立目标,进行个人修炼,并由依赖转向独立,从而实现
“
个人成功
”,也讲到了要通过建立共
赢、换位沟通、集思广益等,促进团队沟通与合作。而不断更新更是涵盖了前六个习惯,督促我们从身心开始完善。
在今后的工作中,我将会通过不断的努力和探索,通过培养这七个习惯,我相信我可以循序渐
进地获得不断的进步,逐渐成长为一位真正高效能的工作人员,为公司为社会创造更大的价
值。
这本书带给我的感受远远不只这些,只是这些是让我体会最深刻的。它给我们的学习、生活、工
作都带来了无法估量的作用。它是一座通向成功的桥梁,是一本值得每个人都应该去看的书籍!
第三篇:效率低人群的七种习惯(牛津大学)中英双语
与通常所列举的应该培养的有益习惯不同,本文在此举出的是我们最好避免的7种习惯。
就像寻找对你有益的习惯一样,寻找妨碍你的习惯同样重要。这7种习惯中大多数都可能会轻易成为你日常生活的一部分,使你难以察觉它的存在(或者它如何影响到你)。我曾经略微尝试了这些习惯,结果毫无疑问,那些重要的事情没有几个可以完成。同时我也要添加说明的是,这只是在生活中你可能形成的影响效率的主要的7个习惯,我很确定绝不仅仅是这些。
1、缺席。
也许你曾经听过伍迪·艾伦所说的这句话:
“百分之八十的成功来自于出席。”
更多的出席——这是在生活中你可以保证更多成功所做的最大也是最简单的事情之一,无论是在你的社交生活中,你的事业上还是你的健康方面。如果你想要改善你的健康状况,一个最重要也是最有效的事情就是在每次你该出席时出现在健身房里。
也许天气会不好,也许你会不想出门,也许你有一大堆其他必须要做的事情。但是,如果即使你在积极性不高时仍然继续出现在健身房里,那将比你呆在家里的沙发上放松要有效的多。
我想这个也可以推及到生活的其他领域。如果你每天都坚持写作或绘画,你就会快速的得到提高。如果你更多的出门你就可以遇到更多的新朋友。如果你参加更多的约会,你遇到心上人的机会就会大大提高。仅仅只是更多出席就会使你的生活大大不同。而缺席却会使你毫无收获。
2、拖拖拉拉。
为了简化,我将最喜欢的3种摆脱拖拉情况的方法列举如下:
-吞食青蛙。也就是说在一天的最开始就完成那些最艰难最重要的工作。早上良好的开始会让你一天都保持高昂的情绪和积极的动力。这通常会使你这一天都十分高效。
-你如何吃掉一头大象呢?不要打算一口吃成胖子,这会使你感到过多负担以至于产生拖延的念头。把一项工作分为若干可付诸于行动的小步骤,然后仅仅关注第一步直到把它完成,接下来再继续下一步。
-说服自己。我发现这种向导型调整十分有效。就在我花了20分钟躺在床上反复默念在这几天里我都十分高效之后,我就不再会陷入拖拉的情况或者浏览1至5个我喜爱的网站寻找更新信息的必要。
3、做一些无关紧要的事情。
除了拖拖拉拉以外,你最容易陷入的不良习惯之一就是忙于一些无关紧要的事情之中。
为了提高效率你也许需要某种时间管理方法。它可能会是一件极为简单的事情,比如在一天的开始使用80/20法则。80/20法则,也就是我们通常所熟悉的帕累托法则认为,80%的收获源自20%的努力。所以为求高效你应该将你精力的大部分集中在那些极少数重要的事情上。
当使用这个法则时你只需按优先顺序写下这一天你需要做的3件最重要的事情,然后从头做起。即使你只能完成其中的一件事,你仍然完成了今天最重要的事情。也许你也会偏爱其他诸如GTD等方法。但是无论你如何组织工作,最关键的还是寻找那些最重要的工作,这样你就不必花费几天,几个星期甚至几个月的时间去忙于那些并不是很重要的事情。如果这些事情无关紧要,那么即使你快速的完成它们也是没有多大用处的。
4、多虑。
因为多虑而很少采取行动。陷于无穷的分析之中只会使你虚度光阴。行动之前加以思考是没有错的。做一些调查研究,制定一个计划,探究可能存在的积极以及不利因素。
但是强制性的反复思考就会成为另外一种浪费时间的做法了。在尝试之前你没有必要去从每一个角度检查每一件事情。而且你也不可以等到一个最完美的时间再去做事,因为这样的时间从来不会出现。如果你继续这样思考就只会使自己陷的越来越深,从而使采取行动变得越来越难。相反,虽然思考在一定程度上对你有所帮助,但你现在需要做的就只是停止思考,然后去做那些你应该做的事情。
5、凡事过于消极。
当你凡事都从消极方面考虑时,你的积极性就会被大大打击。你会发现到处都是问题和错误,而这些问题是本不存在的。你抓住细节不放。如果你想要寻找一个不做某事的理由,这当然没有问题。而当你从一个消极角度看问题时,每次你都可能找出十个借口。
因此你几乎一事无成。你向任何愿意倾听的人诉苦(也许很多人并不想听),抱怨你的工作,生活和领导有多么的差劲。你的生活取决于你如何看待这个世界,这已经成为一个能够自我实现的预测。
对此的一个解决方法就是了解消极方面的限度,认识到你的消极思考并不是这个世界的真实写照。然后不妨尝试一些其他的角度。举例来说,你可以尝试着培养一下凡事从更为积极和乐观的角度思考的习惯,这会对你大有帮助。通过这种方式,你也许就会开始尝试这种积极性的挑战。这并不容易,然而如果你接受了这种挑战,连续7天都只从积极方面思考,你就会突然意识到你看问题的角度和想法是如此深刻地影响着你对世界的理解和你所得到的成果。
6、固执己见,与世隔绝。
人们很难去承认自己的想法不是最佳选择,因此你越来越执着于自己的想法,变得闭目塞听。这会让你很难取得进步,比如说效率就会很难提高。在这种情况下,即使认真思考改变人生的可能性都会变得很难。
显然,解决方法之一就是打开心胸。开阔视野,从他人和自己的错误中汲取教训,从书籍等资源中获取知识。与任何事一样,这事说起来容易做起来难。正如前面所说,对此我的建议就是认识到你的知识领域毕竟是有限的,而你做事的方式也会存在不足。那么不妨就尝试一下新事物吧。
而我的另一条建议就是,阅读一下埃克哈特·托利的《新天地》,特别是有关Ego的章节。正如托利所建议的,如果你不再像Ego那样思考,你就会更加容易接受新思想,抛弃那些已经无用的旧思想。另外我想要补充说明的就是:不要迷信书本,也不要盲目追求新的信息,否则你就会成为一个沉迷于自我帮助的人。在行动中运用那些新信息和你学到的事情,然后加以尝试。
7、持续信息过剩。
信息过剩并不是说你过多的阅读,我所指的是所有输入信息的过剩。如果你让所有的信息都涌进大脑,这当然会导致难于清晰思考,因为刺激源太多了。以下就是这种习惯可能会存在的弊端:
-你所接受的一些信息也许会是消极的。媒体和周围环境会因种种原因提供一种消极的信息。如果你没有根据需要对信息加以选择,也许你就会陷入消极之中,从而影响到你的所思,所感,所为。
-这会使你急于追赶当今发生的事情,然而每时每刻都有十几件事同时发生,想要追赶上它们几乎是不可能的事情。你的生活会因此充满压力。
-如果你持续被信息轰炸,并且还试图将所有信息分类,那么你将很难做出决定并采取行动。就我个人而言,如果我得到过多的信息,就会造成某种形式上的瘫痪,一事无成。或者你会被这种习惯所困,终日急于忙碌在一些非重要的事情上。
为了可以集中精力,清晰思考并付诸行动,你就需要在吸取信息时更有选择性。当你工作时尽可能的避免那些分散注意力的事物。关掉电话,断开网络,关上大门。你就会不可思议的发现,当你没有每隔五分钟就被打扰一次,没有机会因浏览RSS-feeds或喜爱的网站而拖延时,居然可以完成这么多的事情。
现在并不是说我建议你们停止阅读所有的博客或报纸。但是一定要清楚哪些是你真正想要阅读的,哪些只是用来打发时间的。同时你也可以查看其他开阔性信息的领域。
比如说,你没有必要陷入所有来自周围环境的消极情绪。如果周围的所有人都在拖延或者焦急的忙于各种非重要的事情时,你会很容易被这种情绪所影响。如果你有一扇心灵之门,关上它而去关注更为重要的事情,这会是个不错的主意。Habits of Highly Ineffective People
By Henrik Edberg
With a twist to the common list of habits that are useful to establish, here are 7 habits that you do best to avoid.Just like finding habits that can be useful for you it’s important to find habits that are holding you back.Most of these 7 habits can easily become such a normal, everyday part of life that you hardly notice it(or how it’s affecting you).I’ve dabbled with all of them quite a bit.Not surprisingly I didn’t get much of the important stuff done.I´d also like to add that these are just 7 broad habits you can establish to become highly ineffective in most parts of your life.I pretty sure there are several more.1.Not showing up.Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Woody Allen: “Eighty percent of success is showing up”
One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your health – is simply to show up more.If you want to improve your health then one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up at the gym every time you should be there.The weather might be bad, you might not feel like going and you find yourself having all these other things you just must do.If you still go, if you show up at the gym when motivation is low you will improve a whole lot faster than if you just stayed at home relaxing on the sofa.I think this applies to most areas of life.If you write or paint more, each day perhaps, you will improve quickly.If you get out more you can meet more new friends.If you go on more dates you chances of meeting someone special increases.Just showing up more can really make a big difference.Not showing up will not get you anywhere.2.Procrastinating half the day.To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:
-Swallow that frog.What´s this means is simply to do the hardest and most important task of the day first thing in the morning.A good start in the morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of the day.That often creates a pretty productive day.-How do you eat an elephant? Don´t try to take it all in one big bite.It becomes overwhelming which leads to procrastination.Split a task into small actionable steps.Then just focus on the first step and nothing else.Just do that one until it’s done.Then move on to the next step.-The Get around to It Paraliminal.I find this guided mediation to be very useful.After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on my bed and listening I’m far more productive for a few days.I don´t feel the urge to sink into that procrastinating state or the need to find out what’s new over at one or five of my favourite websites.3.When actually doing something, doing something that isn’t the most important thing right now.One of the easiest habits to get stuck in, besides procrastinating, is to keep yourself busy with unimportant tasks.To be effective you probably need some kind of time management-system.It might be something really simple, like using the 80/20-rule at the beginning of each day.The 80/20 rule, or the Pareto Principle as it´s also known, says that you´ll get 80 percent of your results from only 20 percent of your tasks and activities.So you need to focus most of your energy on those few important tasks to be effective.When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most important things you need to do that day.Then, from the top, start doing them.Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the most important thing you could do today.You may perhaps prefer some other system, such as GTD.But however you organise your work it’s still of highest priority to find the most important tasks so you don’t spend days, weeks or months doing busywork that isn’t that essential anyway.Just getting things done faster isn’t that useful if the things you get done are unimportant to you.4.Thinking too much.And thereby seldom taking action.Paralysis by analysis can waste years of your life.There is nothing wrong with thinking before you do something.Do some research, make a plan, explore potential upsides and problems.But compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to waste your time.You don’t have to examine everything from every angle before you try it.And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something.That time never comes.And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult.Instead you just need to stop thinking.Shut of your mind – it just helps you up to a point – and go do whatever you need to do.5.Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole in your own motivation.You find faults everywhere and problems where there are really none.You cling to details.If you want to find a reason to not do something then that’s no problem.From a negative viewpoint you can find ten reasons every time.And so very little gets done, you whine to anyone who wants to hear – and many who don’t – about how crappy your job, life and boss is.Which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy as you create the life that is appropriate considering how think and see your world.A solution is to realise the limits of a negative perspective.And that your perspective isn’t some kind of 100% true picture of the world.Then try other perspectives.For instance, trying to establish a habit of seeing things in a more positive and optimistic light can be quite useful.In that vein, you may want to try the Positivity Challenge.It´s not easy, but if you do the challenge and try to only think positive thoughts for 7 days it can give you an insight in how much your perspective and beliefs changes how you interpret your world.And what results you get.6.Clinging to your own thoughts and being closed to outside influences.It can be hard to admit that what you thought or believed was not the best alternative.So you cling to your thoughts harder and harder and keep your mind closed.This makes it hard to improve and for instance to become more effective.Even really considering the possibility that you can change your life can be difficult in this position.One solution, obviously, is to open up more.To open up and learn from the mistakes of others, from your own mistakes and from other sources like books.This is easy to say though.It can, as almost anything, be harder to do.One suggestion I have is to, like I said about the previous habit, realise the limits of what you know and the way you going about things.And then just try something new.Another tip is to read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and especially look at the chapters about the Ego.If you stop identifying so much with your thoughts and your Ego, as Tolle prescribes, it becomes a whole a lot easier to let new ideas and thoughts come into your life.And to let go of old thoughts that aren’t useful to you anymore.On the other hand I’d like to add and counter-balance with these tips: don’t get stuck in reading, in just taking in new information either or you might become a self-help junkie.Use the new information, put what you have learned in to action and try it out.7.Constantly on information overload.With information overload I don’t just mean that you read a lot.I pretty much mean an overload in all input.If you just let all information flow into your mind it will be hard to think clearly.It’s just too much stimulation.A few more potential downsides to this habit are:
-Some of the input you receive will be negative.The media and your surroundings often put a negative spin on things for various reasons.If you aren´t selective in what input you want in your life then you’ll be dragged into this negativity too.This affects how you think, feel and act.-It creates an urge to keep up with what’s happening but there are always ten more things happening so you can’t keep up.This makes life stressful.-It becomes hard to make decisions and take action if your mind is constantly bombarded with information or trying to sort through it all.Personally I find that if I get too much information it leads to a sort of paralysis.Not much get´s done.Or you get stuck in habit #3 and keep busy, busy, busy at high speed with low priority activities.To be able to focus, think more clearly and take action it´s useful to be more selective in what you let into your mind.When you work shut out as much distractions as possible.Shut off the phone, internet and shut the door.It is strange how much you can get done when you aren´t interrupted every fifth minute or have the opportunity to procrastinate by checking your RSS-feeds or favourite websites.Now I´m not suggesting that you should stop reading all blogs or newspapers.But think about what you really want to read and what you read just read to fill your time.And have a look at other areas of input where the doors are wide-open.For instance, you don´t have to let in all the negative emotions from your surroundings.If everyone else are procrastinating or are anxiously keeping themselves busy by doing low-priority tasks at warp speed it´s easy to be influenced by that mood.If you have a door, then it might be good idea to shut it and focus on doing more important things.
第四篇:七个习惯读后感 (推荐)
《高效能人士的七个习惯》读后感
最近,读了一本书,名为《高效能人士的七个习惯》,七个习惯读后感。读完此书,感觉有很多收获,现将体会谈出来与大家一起分享。
从书中所谈到的“七个习惯”来看,人的品德和观念是取得高效能的基础。七个习惯分别是:
习惯一:积极主动------个人愿景的原则
积极主动这个词如今经常出现在管理方面的著作中,它的涵义不仅仅是采取行动,还代表人必须为自己负责。个人行为取决于自身,而非外部环境:理智可以或者战胜感情;人有能力也有责任创造有利的外在环境。
习惯二:以终为始-----自我领导的原则
“以终为始”的习惯可以适用于各个不同的生活层面,而最基本的目的还是人生的最终期许,它是以所有事物都经过两次创造的原则为基础的。所有的事物都有心智的即第一次创造,和实际的即第二次创造,读后感《七个习惯读后感》。我们做任何事都是先在心中构想,然后付诸实
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31习惯三:要事第一------自我管理的原则
有效管理是掌握重点式的管理,它把最重要的事放在第一位。有领导决定什么是重点后,再靠自制力来掌握重点,时刻把他们放在第一位,以免被感觉、情绪或冲动所左右。要集中精力于当急的要务,就得排除次要事物上的牵绊,此时要有说“不”的勇气。
习惯四:双赢思维------人际领导的原则
利人利己者把生活看作是一个合作的舞台,而不是一个角斗场。一般人看事多用二分法:非强即弱,非胜即败。其实世界之大,人人都有足够的立足空间,他人之得不必就视为自己之失。
习惯五:知彼解己------同理心交流的原则
首先寻求去了解对方,然后争取让对方了解自己。这一原则是进行有效人际交流的关键。
习惯六:统合综效------创造性合作的原则
在互赖关系中,综合效益是对付阻挠成长与改变的最有力的途径。助力通常是积极、合理、自觉、符合经济效益的力量;相反地,阻力多半消极、负面、不合逻辑、情绪化、不自觉。不设法消除阻力,只一味增加推力,就仿佛施力于弹簧上,终有一天引起反弹。如果配合双赢的动机、同理心的沟通技巧与统合综效的整合功夫,不仅可以破解阻力,甚至可以化阻力为动力。
习惯七:不断更新------平衡的自我更新原则
人生最值得投资的就是磨练自己,因为生活与服务人群都得靠自己,这是最珍贵的工具。工作本身并不能带来经济上的安全感,具备良好的思考、学习、创造与适应能力,才能立于不败之地。拥有财富,并不代表经济独立,拥有创造财富的能力才真正可靠。
七个习惯的前三个习惯可以使人从依赖达到自立,而进一步养成了后四个习惯的人则是最高境界的人。
第五篇:七个习惯读后感文档
正如一个人的杰出并不需要一个完美的人生,一本书的优秀并不因为它所表达的一切都是真理,而是因为他的某些部分表达了可能被忽视的真理。书中讲的道理通俗易懂,字里行间都带着闯劲和拼搏精神,大力宣扬个人的命运受自己控制。在读完这本书后,我自己最大的收获是深刻地认识到要提高自己分析和解决问题的能力,必须从改变自己内心深处的价值观、对事物的认知方法以及对竞争环境的理解入手,也就是提高自身的素质,同时辅助一些必要和实用的有效方法。
这本书中的七个习惯是一个整体,它们相辅相成,既讲到了个人要全力以赴确立目标,进行个人修炼,并由依赖转向独立,从而实现“个人成功”,也讲到了要通过建立共赢、换位沟通、集思广益等,促进团队沟通与合作。而不断更新更是涵盖了前六个习惯,督促我们从身心开始完善。其中让我启发最大的是“要事第一”这一种习惯。“积极主动”的态度,“以终为始”的愿景,“要事第一”的把握,“双赢思维”的互赖,“知彼解己”的沟通,“统合综效”的合作,“不断更新”的创造,会使每一个人走向成功的彼岸。这本书为渴望成功的人给出了方法,对于渴望成功的人而言,“渴望”的程度和决心至关重要,要按照书中所写去做还是很难的。做事的恒心和毅力,决定了成功的可能性。性格决定命运,如果你要改变自己的命运,首先要改变自己的性格。本书没太多提及性格,但频繁的用了“习惯”二字。作者认为习惯是知识、技能和意愿的交汇。知道自己要做什么,也清楚应该怎么做,更有这个意愿去做,三者的交汇构成个人行事做人的习惯。通过改变个人的习惯,实现个人性格的改变,最终能够改变自己的命运。
读书的根本目的是为了学习前人和他人的经验,是为了把握更多有用的知识和技能。只有把从书中学来的东西用到实践中,才能真正达到读书的目的。在今后的工作中,我将会通过不断的努力和探索,通过培养这七个习惯,我相信我可以循序渐进地获得不断的进步,逐渐成长为一位真正高效能的优秀人才。